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#girlgoals
- Workbook -
Name: ___________________
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Welcome! We’re excited that you’re reading this and participating in this course. Where you’re at in life right now can be a difficult transition – growing into a young woman and starting the journey to adulthood. This course is run over 5 sessions and each session we’ll discover together some aspects about ourselves and how we can be the best we can be. The 5 sessions are:
1. Valuing ourselves 2. Wellness starts within 3. Building more resilence 4. Healthy Relationships 5. Success starts now
In each session we’ll view some videos, discuss some things learn some stuff, and do some group activities and we will use this workbook to answer some questions. You do not have to show or share your answers to anyone, but if you want to rest assure what is discussed in the group, stays within the group. During this course there are no wrong answers. You will get out of it what you put in. Some course #groundrules for you to understand:
Your facilitator is experienced and confidential This is a SAFE environment If you disclose something that indicates you or someone else may
be in danger, the Facilitator has a duty of care to take action. We really hope that by the end of the course you will feel inspired to be happy, living your values and looking to the future with positivity. It’s lovely to have you on board for the journey. Warm regards, Katrina Beutel Founder Redlands Centre for Women
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Week 1 – Valuing ourselves This week is about establishing our foundations. Just like a house needs
solid foundations to withstand the test of time, so do you. Foundations are
built around having a belief in ourselves, an understanding of who we are
and what guides us. Ultimately, values help shape our decisions and actions.
1. What are our beliefs about ourselves? Write down what you think
about yourself. Hint: this isn’t about your hair/skin etc – it’s about
your abilities, behaviour, attitude etc
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2. Let’s identify the negatives and the positives.
Negatives____________________Positives_____________________
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3. Let’s turn the negatives into positives (positive statements) e.g. I
am not good at maths. I am able to get a maths tutor if I want to
learn more about maths OR I am really good at English and hope to
use that in my career one day. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
4. When are you most happy? (Where are you? What are you doing?
Who are you with?) Discuss in the group.
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5. What gives you the greatest feelings of achievement and success?
(Were you proud? Who shared in your pride?) Discuss in the group.
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6. When are you most fulfilled and satisfied? (What need has been
fulfilled? How or why has this experience given you satisfaction?
What else contributed to this?)
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7. Who are some friends, teachers, leaders, parents, siblings you look
up to – and why?
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8. Group Activity
“Try not to become a person of success but a person of value.”
Values are the foundation that allows you to achieve your full potential.
Values ultimately define who we are. Our values impact every decision we
make or don’t make.
Values are usually fairly stable, yet they don't have strict limits or
boundaries. Also, as you move through life, your values may change. For
example, when you start your career after school, success – measured by
money and status – might be a top priority. But after you have a family,
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work-life balance may be what you value more.
As your definition of success changes, so do your personal values. This is
why keeping in touch with your values is a lifelong exercise. You should
continuously revisit this, especially if you start to feel unbalanced and you
can't quite figure out why.
As you go through the exercise below, bear in mind that values that were
important in the past may not be relevant now.
Over the page is a long list of possible values you may choose to adopt.
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Accountability
Accuracy
Achievement
Adventurousness
Altruism
Ambition
Assertiveness
Balance
Being the best
Belonging
Boldness
Calmness
Carefulness
Challenge
Cheerfulness
Clear-mindedness
Commitment
Community
Compassion
Competitiveness
Consistency
Contentment
Continuous Improvement
Contribution
Control
Cooperation
Correctness
Courtesy
Creativity
Curiosity
Decisiveness
Democratic
Dependability
Determination
Devoutness
Diligence
Discipline
Discretion
Diversity
Dynamism
Economy
Effectiveness
Efficiency
Elegance
Empathy
Enjoyment
Enthusiasm
Equality
Excellence
Excitement
Expertise
Exploration
Expressiveness
Fairness
Faith
Family oriented
Fidelity
Fitness
Fluency
Focus
Freedom
Fun
Generosity
Goodness
Grace
Growth
Happiness
Hard Work
Health
Helping Society
Holiness
Honesty
Honor
Humility
Independence
Ingenuity
Inner Harmony
Inquisitiveness
Insightfulness
Intelligence
Intellectual Status
Intuition
Joy
Justice
Leadership
Legacy
Love
Loyalty
Making a difference
Mastery
Merit
Obedience
Openness
Order
Originality
Patriotism
Perfection
Piety
Positivity
Practicality
Preparedness
Professionalism
Prudence
Quality-orientation
Reliability
Resourcefulness
Restraint
Results-oriented
Rigor
Security
Self-actualization
Self-control
Selflessness
Self-reliance
Sensitivity
Serenity
Service
Shrewdness
Simplicity
Soundness
Speed
Spontaneity
Stability
Strategic
Strength
Structure
Success
Support
Teamwork
Temperance
Thankfulness
Thoroughness
Thoughtfulness
Timeliness
Tolerance
Traditionalism
Trustworthiness
Truth-seeking
Understanding
Uniqueness
Unity
Usefulness
Vision
Vitality
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1. Write down what you believe your values may be? (say between 5
and 10 words)
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2. Prioritise them to top 5-6.
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Now let’s create our own Values CHART – using card/words/decorations.
This is for you to take home and keep.
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Week 2 – Wellness Starts Within
This week we are going to focus on you and your body-image. We’re going
to understand our own body awareness and practise self-acceptance.
We’re going to talk about health and wellness. We’re going to talk about
nutrition, exercise, skincare, mindfulness and how to focus on yourself
with self-care.
1. What are the 5 things you like most about yourself (in terms of
your body image)? ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
2. What are the 5 things you least like about yourself (in terms of
your body image)? ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
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3. Group Discussion - How can we look to either change those things
OR change our attitude around those things? ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
4. Self Care - What do we do to take care of ourselves? Name 5 things
that you like to do for your body and mind. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
5. Self Care - What is our view on alcohol and drugs in our bodies?
Let’s discuss this as a group. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
6. Who are our role models for our body – and why? ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
7. What are our health and wellness top 5 priorities? ____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
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Let’s create our own personal (spiritual wellness) mandala.
A mandala is a sacred space, often a circle, which reveals inner truth about you and the world around you.
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Homework
Healthy Habits.
Let’s see how you can impact yourself and your family by producing one
healthy meal, a healthy day or a healthy week (could be breakfast, lunch or
dinner). Ideas include:
Breakfast
– Avocado smash on toast
– Healthy smoothie
– Porridge with a fruit yoghurt
– Omelet
Lunch
- Healthy wrap
- Salad
- Fruit platter
Dinner
- Fish and salad
- Chicken and veggies
- Rice, beans dish
Come up with a menu and tell us what you prepared. Can you commit to
cooking one meal per week for your family?
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Week 3 – Increasing Resilience
Life can be stressful and you need to develop skills to cope with peer
pressure, study, family relationships, bullying and more. This week, we’re
going to focus on how to build more resilience. You already have some –
everybody does! It may be time to develop more!
We’re also going to work on how to learn to cope with rejection,
disappointment and stress.
1. Let’s start with remembering a tough time. You might have had a major
disappointment, a physical injury, a stressful family time. Describe the
situation and describe how it made you feel. Acknowledge your feelings.
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2. How did you get through that situation? What skills did you adopt?
What did you learn? How would you do things differently if it was to
happen again? Looking back on it now, how can you see things positively
from the experience? ____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
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3. Look back at your life history. Can you see some major changes that you
have had? Change is part of life. List 2-3 major changes you’ve had and
that you have got through. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
4. Looking at your life now, what things get you down or cause you anxiety? ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
5. Coping strategies - Write down 5 ways you reduce stress or de-stress?
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6. Write down 5 ways you can ‘reach out’ to others? ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
Resilient people often do a number of things. Here are some ways resilient
people act that may provide ideas for you to develop your own resilience:
- Learn to see opportunity in all things
- Accept change as part of living
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- Keep things in perspective
- Be realistic
- Maintain a healthy lifestyle through physical activity, eating well
and doing stuff they enjoy
- Nurture a positive self view
- Maintain supportive relationships and spend time with others
- Learn communication skills
- Create strategies to self soothe
- Take action and work towards goals when needed
- Talk to someone and get help if/when needed
- Develop an attitude of tolerance, acceptance and flexibility
7. I have, I am, I can
I HAVE _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
I AM _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
I CAN _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
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8. Who is your #squad? The people you rely on to talk things through
with, who can help you with your worries/stresses? GROUP DISCUSSION
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9. Can you think of how you can help others? GROUP DISCUSSION
#Grandparents/Elderly
#Pets
#Community
#Neighbours ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
10. Write down 5 things you are grateful for?
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Group Activity
Create a weekly timetable.
Block out time for:
- Friends
- Self Care (body)
- De-stress
- Fitness
- School
- Study
- Extra-curricular activities
- Part-time work
- Healthy eating
- Helping others
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- Spending time with pets/animals
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Homework
This week we are asking you to think about how you can make a difference
to others around you. We’d like you to pick a project and focus on how you
can contribute and how you can ‘give back’. Essentially, you will need to
volunteer your time to help out (what is it that you could do/how could you
help)?
It could be around helping at:
- School
- Sports Club/Group
- Pets/animals
- People with a disability
- Neighbourhood
- Church
- Other community
To help you get started, think about what things you are passionate about
or what things ‘irk’ you that you would like to change/help with?
What are you going to do to MAKE A DIFFERENCE?
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Week 4 – Healthy Relationships
This week we focus on how our values align with our decisions and
behaviours. We’re going to look at healthy relationships and the
importance of these and also how to minimise risk.
1. Let’s recap on values. How do values impact our decisions around our
behaviour and our choice in friends? Group Discussion. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
2. Let’s talk friendships – girls and boys? What do we look for in a friend?
Write down 5 of your top traits. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
3. Group Discussion – has a friend ever influenced you to do something you
didn’t really want to do. What was it? Why did it make you not feel so
good?
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4. Let’s talk relationships.
Do we have a partner? Would we like a partner? What are we looking for in
a relationship? Write down qualities and traits. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
Now let’s analyse what we want in a FRIEND vs a PARTNER. How are they
different? Why are they different? GROUP DISCUSSION ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
Let’s talk about acceptable behaviours in a partner? What is acceptable? ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
What isn’t? ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
Are boys and girls equal? What would you like to see change? What do you
believe in? GROUP DISCUSSION ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
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5. Going out with friends/partners.
Do we have rules for our safety and personal security? Group Discussion ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
6. Social Media -
Group Discussion – Let’s talk about social media and the impact it has on
your time, feelings and overall self-confidence.
How much time a day do you spend on social media? What else could you be
doing?
Do you feel you are missing out when you are not on social media/cannot
access it? Why?
How do your posts reflect you?
Do you put up posts that you want other people to pay attention to?
Do your posts align with your values?
How do our values align with our social media posts?
Lastly, let’s talk about privacy – do you understand your privacy settings
and why this is important?
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Group Activity
Today we’re going to create a vision board. We’re going to put
words/pictures of the qualities/traits we want to have in our relationships
and social activities:
#mysquad Vision Board – 4 quadrants…
1. Friends
2. Partners
3. My social media expression
4. Hobbies/interests
Take a large piece of card and create 4 quadrants or circles. Cut
words/images or create words/images you want to express your ideal
relationships, expressions of yourself or things you want to pursue.
Remember to align these with your values!
Homework (optional)
A mock trust conversation with mum and dad if you feel comfortable.
Imagine this scenario. A boy at school is having a party. All of your friends
have been invited. So have you. You really want to go. You know there will
probably be alcohol there – maybe drugs (you don’t know). Somebody you
really like is going. Let’s talk about the following:
- Will you be allowed to go?
- How will you get there – to and from?
- What time can you stay out till?
- What will you wear?
- What will you say to your parents about the alcohol and drugs?
- What about the boys?
- What are you prepared to compromise on?
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Week 5 – Being Confident
Confidence is a by product of four phases that you can work on:
Centre – understanding where you are today
Investment – what you have to do to build confidence in yourself
Practice – you have to practice!
Reflection – you have to reflect on what you have learned
1. Centre – let’s see how you feel. What 5 words describe you? What
makes you unique? What are your best qualities? ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
2. What makes you insecure? What causes you to be insecure?
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3. What situations make you confident? What contributes to your
confidence?
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4. Investments – what investments can you make in yourself to be more
confident?
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5. Practice – what situations can you practice your confidence or being
more confident?
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6. Reflection – what lessons can I learn from my mistakes/achievements? ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
7. Write down 5 mantras you want to say to yourself. Eg.
I am determined and motivated and nothing stops me.
I feel great and I am ready for anything.
I love life and life loves me back.
Today I am on top of the world and anything is possible.
I go for my goals and I reach them. Nothing stands in my way.
I am not afraid of anything or anyone. I feel confident and assertive.
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8. Your beliefs
What you believe you can do can severely hamper your progress at work and
in your personal life or it can help you to reach amazing goals. How many
times a day do you use limiting statements or hear them used around the
school or at home?
At school you might hear:
• ‘That’s the way it’s always been done.’
• ‘You won’t get anywhere by rocking the boat.’
• ‘When I was your age, blah, blah, blah.’
• ‘Women will never get ahead.’
• ‘You need a degree to get ahead in this world today.’
• ‘It’s not what you know in this organisation, it’s who you know.’
At home you might hear:
• ‘You’re just like your old man – untidy!’
• ‘Why can’t you be more like your older sister?’
• ‘You’ll go nowhere with that attitude.’
• ‘The middle child always struggles.’
• ‘The youngest is always spoilt.’
Rather than remind yourself of the “missings,” you must begin to
proactively look for ways to, as they say, “accentuate the positive and
eliminate the negative” in your thinking as well as in your speech. For
example, start using phrases like:
• I am good at . . .
• When I try hard I can . . .
• I am capable of . . .
• Thank you for the compliment!
• I deserve it.
In learning to fill in the blanks for these statements (and repeating them
to yourself several times a day) you are re-designing the internal feedback
system.
Your negative self talk
List every single limiting belief you have relating to all the aspects of your
life, your career, your relationships, your finances and your family. Then
write down your brand new, magnificent and amazing beliefs.
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Negative Belief New Belief ____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ 9. Goal wheel
Think of the wheel in terms of:
•Family – your immediate family
•Social – your friends/activities/interests
•Intellectual - your study/your development
•Physical – your wellness/fitness
•Financial - your money
•Future - after school
•Spiritual – your faith/religion
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What do you hope to accomplish next week, month, next 3 months,
next year? What sort of life do you want to lead? What do you want
to be doing? What do you want to have? Where do you want to be?
Write down your goals for the future – no more than 5 each:
Family goals ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
Social goals ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
Intellectual goals ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
Physical goals ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
Financial goals ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
Future goals ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
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Spiritual goals ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
Group Activity
Let’s create a fun, positive quotes board.
We have selected a whole heap of quotes for you to choose from and it’s
your job to decide which ones you like the most/need the most (challenge
yourself here). Pick them out, arrange them and create your board.
We will then arrange to get your quotes board printed for you – and you
can collect it shortly.
Homework
This week we are going to leave you with a challenge to create a safe and
serene space at home – your bedroom. It may already be perfect for you,
but for some of you it may not.
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What are some things you can do in your bedroom to:
- Allow you to de-stress and relax
- Be more organised for each day/week
- Have a better study environment
- Practice gratitude
- Be comfortable for a good night’s sleep
- Give you a good reading position/light
- Feel happy and content
Ideas include:
- Candle/Oil burner
- Wall planner
- Tidy desk – organised files
- Tidy drawers/cupboard
- A bean bag
- A good reading light
- A new bed pillow (Pillows should be no more than 2 years old)
- Make your bed / Wash your sheets
- A good reading book
- A diary/journal
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