INSIDE THIS ISSUE

TALKING TO YOUR TEEN ABOUT DRUGS AND TIME

TO CLEAN OUT THE MEDI-CINE CABINET 2

RED FLAGS, WAY TO GO AND FT SILL, FIRST IN AVIA-TION???

3 FT SILL THE PLACE TO BE IN

NOVEMBER 4 ASSAULT ON OUR MEDI-

CINE CABINENTS 5 DEAR FRAN, I‘VE FALLEN

AND I CAN‘T GET UP 6

ROSEMARY STONE AND KIDS SAY THE DARNDEST THINGS 7

MANGO TANGO SALAD, MIDDLE AGED SPREAD AND

YOUR MANTRA 8 SMART, APOLOGY AC-

CEPTED, SUPERVISOR DE-VELOPMENT ONLINE AND MEDICAL HISTORY?? 9

STAYING SHARP AND FO-CUSED 10

WALLET FATIGUE AND SAFETY TREATS 11

A BITTER PILL AND OUR CHIEF INSPIRATION 12

SNEAK PEEK NOVEMBER 13

interest, we tend to trust them. Intent

is about motive, agenda, and behav-

ior. Your agenda is a product of your

motive. An agenda that inspires the

greatest trust is when leaders seek

mutual benefit for all the stake-

holders. Letting others know your

intent lets people know what to look

for so that they can recognize, under-

stand, and acknowledge your intent

when they experience it. Always work

to make every situation a win-win.

Core 3: Capabilities (Are you rele-

vant?) Do our talents, skills, knowl-

edge, capacities, and abilities enable us

to perform with excellence. He rec-

ommends that we never stop learning

and accelerate the rate of learning by

teaching others what you learn. This

should be done because we learn the

most about a subject when we teach

it. He also suggests that we should

identify and capitalize on our strengths,

engaging, developing, and leveraging

what‘s distinctly ours.

Core 4: Results (What’s your track

record?) Lastly to build trust we must

be willing to except responsibility for

the current status and results of our

organization. He also suggest to im-

prove our results we must focus on

outcomes and not activities. We get

what we expect. Leaders should expect

to get the results that we strive for

because we tend to get what is ex-

pected, both from ourselves and from

others. Expect more, and get more;

when we expect less, we tend to get

less. Lead is a verb.

" Trust is the bedrock of our honored

profession -- trust between each

other, trust between Soldiers and

leaders, trust between Soldiers and

their families and the Army, and trust

with the American people…." Gen.

Raymond T. Odierno Expectations for the

future for the Army

Gen Odierno‘s quote above recognizes

trust as the very basis on which the Army

stands, and should motivate us to revisit

the issue of trust that we touched on a few

issues back.

In a previous newsletter I mentioned that

Aristotle stated that trust of a speaker is

based on a listener's perception of the

speaker‗s good moral character, good

sense, and goodwill towards the lis-

tener. We also mentioned that the Army

leadership‗s Be, Know, Do model is simi-

lar to Aristotle‘s definition. The ―Be‖ en-

courages leaders to live the values of loy-

alty, duty, respect, self service, honor, in-

tegrity, and personal courage. The ―Know‖

relates to a leaders level of interpersonal,

conceptual, technical, and tactical

skills. And, finally, the ―Do‖ reminds lead-

ers that the word ―lead‖ is a verb and that

they must act, bringing together every-

thing they are, everything they believe,

and everything they know to provide

purpose, direction, and motivation to an

organization.

One of the most respected book on the

subject of trust has been Stephen J.R.

Covey‘s ―Speed of Trust‖ published in

2006.

Again, Covey‘s concept of trust differs a

bit. In it he suggests that the number one

job of any leader is to inspire trust and

that trust motivates and inspires oth-

ers. He goes on to say that trust is a

function of character and competence and

that people WANT to trust and yearn to

be trusted.

He also theorizes that trust is about credi-

bility and that credibility boils down into

four core issues: your integrity, your in-

tent, your capabilities, and your re-

sults. Results are an important considera-

tion in Covey‘s definition.

Core 1: Integrity (Are you congru-

ent?) - Personal integrity requires that we

be honest and tell the truth as we see

it. It also mean walking your talk. It

means having the courage to do what is

moral and ethical with courage and humil-

ity. To develop integrity he suggests that

we should make and keep commitments,

be open, and know what you believe in

and stand for it.

Core 2: Intent (What’s your

agenda?) - The motive that inspires the

greatest trust is genuine caring. When we

believe people truly are acting in our best

A View from the Top: The Core of Trust

A Month of Good Causes

A D H R , A S A P , E A P

W E L L - B E I N G T E A M

P R O D U C T

WORKFORCE PRIDE

Fort Sill Community Newsletter O C T O B E R 2 0 1 1 V O L U M E 2 , I S S U E 2

From the DHR

October is the month for prevention, education, and awareness for many social, health,

and familial concerns. Red Ribbon Week is set aside to highlight drug awareness and

promote prevention within our community‘s youth population. Domestic Violence

Awareness is symbolized by a purple ribbon or with a red flag. Within this month‘s

issue we will address the awareness aspect of both Red Ribbon Week and Domestic

Violence month. Also, October is a month that we campaign for Breast Cancer Aware-

ness. The pink ribbon symbolizes our support for continuous cancer research. We

must remember that these ribbons only act as a reminder for our challenges. It is our

responsibility to speak up, listen out, and continuously support all campaigns.

P A G E 2

Pledge to be Drug Free The Red Ribbon Celebration Pledge is “No Use of

Illegal Drugs, No Illegal Use of Legal Drugs.” Red Ribbon Week began after the kidnapping, torture and brutal murder of Drug Enforcement

Administration (DEA) Agent Enrique "Kiki" Cama-rena in 1985. Agent Camarena had been working undercover in Guadalajara, Mexico for over four years. His efforts led to a tip that resulted in the

discovery of a multimillion dollar narcotics manufac-turing operation in Chihuahua, Mexico. The success-ful eradication of this and other drug production

operations angered leaders of several drug cartels who sought revenge. As a result, they murdered key informants and then, on February 7, 1985, they kid-

napped Agent Camarena and his pilot Captain Al-fredo Zavala-Avelar (taken separately on the same day). After DEA Agent Camarena and Captain Zavala-Avelar were kidnapped,

the DEA launched a massive investigation. The agents found local law en-

forcement uncooperative at best. DEA Administrator Jack Lawn and US Attorney General Edwin Meese sought greater support from Mexican

officials including the Mexican Attorney General but to no avail. Orders from US Customs Commissioner William von Raab effectively closed the US/Mexico border for days putting pressure on the Mexican government to assist.

Soon, representatives of the Mexican Federal Judicial Police (MFJP) pre-sented a tip to DEA Agents claiming that Agent Camarena had been mistak-enly kidnapped by a man and his three sons. The MFJP informed the agents

that a raid of the man's ranch in Angostura would take place the following morning and invited them to come. However, the MFJP raided the ranch before DEA agents arrived. During the raid, they shot and killed five indi-

viduals. Not long after, a passerby discovered the bodies of both Agent Camarena and Captain Zavala-Avelar by the side of the road not far from the ranch.

The DEA's investigation revealed that Agent Camarena had been tortured extensively before he was murdered. Audiotapes of the torture showed that medical doctors actually kept Agent Camarena alive in order to con-

tinue the interrogation. Evidence collected revealed that both Agent Cama-

rena and Captain Zavala-Avelar were initially buried in one location and then moved to the ranch where they were found. The dramatic events that followed Agent Camarena's disappearance were

chronicled in national media here at home. They exposed the dark world of drug trafficking including how far drug traffickers would go to maintain power and control.

In Agent Camarena's home town, Calexico, CA, the public outpouring of support turned in to an organized community response in which citizens wore red ribbons. They became a voice for prevention in order to reduce

the demand for illegal drugs and illegal use of legal drugs in America. The following year the California State PTA adopted the Red Ribbon Week campaign. Then, in 1988, Red Ribbon Week was recognized nationally

with President Ronald and First Lady Nancy Reagan serving as the first Honorary Chairs. Today, the Red Ribbon Week brings millions of people to-gether to raise awareness regarding the need for alcohol, to-

bacco and other drug and violence prevention, early interven-

tion, and treatment services. It is the largest, most visible pre-vention awareness campaign observed annually in the United

States.

Parents have more influence over their child than friends, music,

TV, the Internet and celebrities. Kids who learn a lot about the risks of drugs and alcohol from their parents are up to 50% less likely to use than those who do not.

Help your teen stay safe and make healthy choices by: Talking and listening regularly Being directly involved in your child‘s every-day world

Making it clear that you do not want him or her drinking or using drugs Setting limits

Talk to the Children!

How to Explain to Your Teen

Why You Don’t Want Him

Drinking or Using Drugs

Don‘t want your teen drinking or

using drugs? Tell him how you

feel and what you expect from

him. Be warm but firm. For ex-

ample, you might say:

"I'm not trying to ruin your fun. I love

you and I want you to stay

healthy. The best way to do that

is to stay completely away from

drugs and alcohol. I need you to

promise that you will."

"I realize there's a lot of temptation

out there. I also know you're a

really smart, strong person.

That's why I expect you to stay

clean — no matter what your

friends are doing. Agreed?"

"There's a lot of new science about

teens, drugs and alcohol. It

scares me to know how easily

you could damage your brain

www.drugfree.org/teenbrain or

get addicted. I want your word

that you'll steer clear of all that,

and keep me in the loop on the

kids you hang out with, too."

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Amy Winehouse:

Gone too Soon

A British coroner revealed that the official cause of

Amy Winehouse‘s death

was alcohol poisoning.

Winehouse‘s blood-

alcohol limit was report-

edly five times over the

legal limit for driving when she passed away; she had

resumed drinking three days before her death after

attempting to stop.

Winehouse is famous for her hit single Rehab. Click

the following link to watch the video.

REHAB

Before

After

P A G E 3 V O L U M E 2 , I S S U E 2 Statistics, History, and DVPM

Flying History

1st Aero Squadron, U.S. Army

Fort Sill is full of history about Indians, cavalry, and Army Field Artillery. But if you want to visit the birthplace of American

military Combat aviation, you don‘t have to go far. United States military combat aviation began on the parade field of

the Old Post Quadrangle. It was on the parade field that the 1st Aero Squadron uncrated

and assembled their six Curtiss JN-3 aircraft in the summer of 1915. The airplanes, known as Jennies, were assembled and

then pushed down hill past the corral to the Polo Field. The first flight occurred on 10 August 1915 off the Polo Field.

The squadron began working with the field artillery to recon

field positions. They started testing aerial photography by

making their first photo mosaic on 6 November using a Brock

camera. On 19 November the squadron left Fort Sill with 6

planes on the first cross-country flight which covered 439

miles to San Antonio, TX. The squadron was kept in San

Antonio due to the tension along the Mexican border. After

Pancho Villas‘ attack on Columbus, New Mexico, in March

1916, the 1st Aero Squadron went into Mexico with General

Pershing to capture Villa. The squadron never returned to

Fort Sill. But you can go to the Old Post Quadrangle and see

where it all began.

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by Lisa Jansen-Rees, MSW, ACSW

Family Advocacy Program Manager

October is Domestic Violence Prevention Month

in the Army and the Family Advocacy Program needs your help in celebrating all the healthy relationships in our community and supporting those who might need

a little extra help along their journey. Telling the difference between the healthy and unhealthy relationships is intuitive for most, but has actually been studied. Here‘s what researchers say about both the best of the best and those relationships that become toxic.

Healthy relationships are characterized by several characteristics. Chances are good you are doing several if not most of these things. If you aren‘t, and you want your relationship to grow even stronger,

start focusing your time and attention on increasing the frequency of the ones you do well and growing your skills in the ones you‘ve not yet mastered. These characteristics include:

Good Communication Skills Mutual Support Negotiation Skills

Equality and Fairness Shared Responsibility Trust Honesty

Shared Values and Goals Mutual Respect Interdependent Decision Making

Interactive Quality Time

One caveat: Don‘t be a perfectionist with yourself or with your part-ner. All relationships struggle and these characteristics often require a lot of tweaking before they become seemingly effortless. Extra

points will be handed out for all of us that work at making our rela-tionships stronger each and every day.

October: Domestic Violence Prevention Month But how do you know if your relationship is headed down a road that only a

therapist, clergyman or divorce lawyer will be able to navigate you back from? There are also some unhealthy relationship characteristics and we call them relationship red flags. They don‘t necessarily mean the relationship is over,

but they are warning signs that need to be heeded and addressed. Fort Sill is participating in the Red Flag campaign, a national domestic violence awareness campaign that advises us to question relationships with partners who:

Abuse alcohol or other drugs.

Have a history of trouble with the law, get into fights, or break and de-

stroy property.

Abuse siblings, other family members, children or pets.

Put down people, including your family and friends, or call them names.

Are always angry at someone or something.

Try to isolate you and control whom you see or where you go.

Cheat on you or have lots of partners.

Are physically rough with you (push, shove, pull, yank, squeeze, restrain).

Take your money or take advantage of you in other ways.

Accuse you of flirting or ―coming on‖ to others or accuse you of cheat-

ing on them.

Ignore you, give you the silent treatment, or hang up on you.

Blame all arguments and problems on you.

Tell you how to dress or act.

Threaten to kill themselves if you break up with them, or tell you that

they cannot live without you.

Tell you to shut up or tell you you‘re dumb, stupid, fat, or call you some

other name (directly or indirectly). For more information about classes designed to support couples in achieving the healthy relationship indicators contact the Family Advocacy Program at 442

-4916. If you are currently in a relationship that contains relationship red flags

contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE.

P A G E 4 V O L U M E 2 , I S S U E 2 ASAP CALENDAR OF EVENTS

Fall Holiday Events 28 Oct 11 (1800-2200)- HAUNTED TRAIL at Martha Songbird

Park 28 & 29 Oct 11 (1800-2200) and 30 Oct 11 (1700-1900)- HAUNTED HOUSE AND CARNIVAL at Bldg 2765

Miner Rd 29 Oct 11 (1800)- COSTUME PARTY at

The Impact Zone 31 Oct 2011 (1800-2000)- HALLELUJAH

HARVEST at Frontier Chapel

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CWBO

MEETING

ADAPT (GRTC 0800-1600) BPL Meeting (1430) at WBC

Unit Prevention Leader TRAINING (Well-Being Center, ASAP 0800-1600)

UPL Recert (0830)

ONE Brief

Click to join ASAP on

Facebook

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our ASAP Website

For more community events, activities,

and trainings, check out the MWR and

ACS websites: (click on logos)

CG Challenge -

Run for the Fallen

Veteran’s Day

International Survi-

vors of Suicide Day

LAWTON AND FT. SILL

COMMUNITY TRICK OR TREAT HOURS:

31 Oct 2011

1800-2000

Well-Being Center,

ASAP 3415 Miner Rd

Tues 1800-2000

Weds 1900

P A G E 5 V O L U M E 2 , I S S U E 2

Life focus SUICIDE PREVENTION

PROGRAM COORDINA-

TOR (SPPM)

ROBERT DODRILL

Did you Know? Launched by the Defense Centers of

Excellence for Psychological Health and

Traumatic Brain Injury, the Real Warri-

ors Campaign site serves as a resource

for the military community. At

www.realwarriors.net or 866-966-1020,

Warriors, veterans and their families

can talk with psychological health con-

sultants and read tips on deployment

and coming home.

Ethan felt like there was no point going on with life. Things had been

tough since his mom died. His dad was working two jobs and seemed

frazzled and angry most of the time. Whenever he and Ethan talked, it

usually ended in yelling. Ethan had just found out he'd failed a math

test, and he was afraid of how mad and disappointed his dad would be.

In the past, he always talked things over with his girlfriend — the only

person who seemed to understand. But they'd broken up the week before, and now Ethan felt he had nowhere to turn. Ethan knew where

his dad kept his guns. But as he was unlocking the cabinet, he heard his

kid sister arriving home from school. He didn't want Grace to be the

person to find him, so he put the gun back and went to watch TV with

her instead. Later, when he realized how close he'd come to ending his

life, Ethan was terrified. He summoned the courage to talk to his dad.

After a long conversation, he realized how much his dad cared. All he

could think of was how he'd almost thrown it all away.

Teens with alcohol and drug problems are also more at risk

for suicidal thinking and behavior. Alcohol and some drugs have de-

pressive effects on the brain. Misuse of these substances can bring on

serious depression. That's especially true for some teens who already

have a tendency to depression because of their biology, family history,

or other life stressors. The problem can be made worse because many

people who are depressed turn to alcohol or drugs as an escape. But

they may not realize that the depressive effects alcohol and drugs have

on the brain can actually intensify depression in the long run. In addi-

tion to their depressive effects, alcohol and drugs alter a person's judg-

ment. They interfere with the ability to assess risk, make good choices,

and think of solutions to problems. Many suicide attempts occur when

someone is under the influence of alcohol or drugs. This doesn't mean

that everyone who is depressed or who has an alcohol or drug prob-

lem will try to kill themselves, of course. But these conditions — espe-

cially both together — increase a person's risk for suicide.

WHAT WOULD YOU DO? What should I do if someone I know is considering suicide? If you know someone who is

considering suicide, do not leave him or her alone. Try to get your loved one to seek immediate help from his or her doctor or the nearest hospital emergency room, or call 911. Remove any ac-cess he or she may have to firearms or other potential tools for suicide, including medications.

If you are in crisis: Call the toll-free National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255), available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The service is available to anyone. All calls are confi-dential.

Misuse of Medication: Self

Therapy or Self Destruction?

Life Choices: Teen Drug Abuse The warning signs of drug abuse or alcohol abuse may be easier to spot than you think. Teen drug abuse

may be accompanied by teen depression and possible teenage suicide. Keep reading for more information on how teen drug abuse correlates with teen suicide.

Teenage suicide is a real danger to teens. In fact, teen suicide is the third leading cause of death for teenag-ers in the United States. This makes it a serious problem. However, some people do not realize the role

that drug abuse can play in teen suicide. It is important to understand that teen drug abuse can contribute to suicides and suicide attempts.

Teen drug abuse and teen suicide One of the risk factors associated with teen suicide is drug abuse. Drug abuse is one of those things that

can really affect the chemical balance in the brain, intensifying feelings of depression and sadness. Added to that, however, are the withdrawal symptoms that come with teen drug abuse. Dependency on drugs, both

legal and illegal, can lead to feelings of helplessness and hopelessness. The drug becomes increasingly neces-sary, both physically and mentally, and this can lead to unpleasant feelings associated with being out of

control. Other problems arise when one is not on the drugs. Physical sickness, and feelings of lowness (or ―crashing‖ or ―coming down‖) are usually very unpleasant and can contribute to feelings of depression and

suicidal thoughts. Symptoms of teen drug abuse

In order to forestall teen suicide stemming from teen drug abuse, it is important to recognize the symp-toms of teen drug abuse. Some of these indications include:

News friends (often of questionable character) Increased secretiveness

Pulling back from family and friends Paying less attention to appearance and hygiene

Dropping school grades Lack of interest in extracurricular activities

Recognizing teen drug abuse can help you save teenage lives from suicide.

Depression and teen drug abuse Sometimes teen drug abuse is not the main cause of teen depression

leading to teenage suicide. There are occasions that stresses and life events cause depression and contribute to teen drug abuse. Sometimes

teens feel so depressed, and so overwhelmed with life, that they turn to drugs to help them feel better. This is known as self-medicating, and it

can lead to teen drug abuse. This drug abuse can, in turn, lead to increas-ingly severe depression, which, if not treated, can result in teen suicide.

Here are some factors that can trigger teen depression: Stressful situations at home, work or school

Exposure to violence (mental, physical, sexual or emotional) Loss of a loved one

Divorce of parents Change in economic or social situation

Changing schools Moving to another town

Treating teen drug abuse and depression to prevent teen sui-cide

Proper treatment of teen drug abuse is necessary in order counteract the effects that can lead to depres-sion and even teen suicide. There are a variety of treatment options, including in and out patient treat-

ments. For the most severe cases of teen drug addiction rehab, in patient treatment programs can help with a combination of therapy and sometimes medication. Such programs should also include help for teen depression and suicide prevention measures. It is important to remember that helping a teen with drug

abuse problems involves support and love from family and friends. Teen Drug Abuse Main Source Material: ―Teen Suicide,‖ Resource Center. National Youth Violence Pre-

vention. [Online.]

P A G E 6 V O L U M E 2 , I S S U E 2

By Dea Schmidt,

ASAP Training Technician Have you ever heard someone say, ―Ah, I

left my brain at home this morning‖ and knew they were just kidding? But what if they weren‘t kidding? What could any of us do without our brain? The obvious

answer is ―nothing‖. Without our brain, each of us would be nowhere. We need our brain to think, to taste, to see, to smell, to feel, to move, to have emotions

and to make decisions. So, it should be equally obvious that to achieve the very best things we can in life, we want to make sure our brain is as healthy as it can possibly be.

Dr. Daniel G. Amen has scanned thousands of brains and can tell whether a brain is healthy and smooth or whether it looks like Swiss cheese from damage done to it. In his book ―Unchain Your Brain‖, Dr.

Amen talks about the many things which cause damage to our brain. One of the startling results of Dr. Amen‘s research shows that if a person is overweight, their brain decreases in size. He also states that

being addicted to computer usage and email can lower a person‘s IQ. If a person has allergies, this can also harm the function of the brain. Other unusual items which can harm the brain are things that we think of as normal everyday sustenance: sugar, salt and caffeine. Caffeine

lowers the oxygen supply to the brain. Dr. Amen also points out that a combination of sugar, salt and fat has a ―heroin-like‖ effect on the brain (which may explain someone‘s craving for their local burger place).

Of course, the things we think of that could possibly hurt the brain actually do: cigarettes, alcohol, illegal drugs, legal drugs, some prescrip-tion drugs, stress, diet soda, and lack of sleep. But we often don‘t

consider the activities we do which could cause injury such as playing football, soccer, falling off a bicycle/skateboard or even martial arts.

Anytime our ―bell gets rung‖, that means that the brain has been dam-

aged. So are we lost causes? If the brain is damaged, is it damaged forever? Dr. Amen says that much of the damage can be reversed through exer-

cise, healthy eating and sufficient sleep for a basic start. Dr. Amen says that the scan of his brain at age 55 is healthier than the scan of his brain at 35 because he has done the things that he tells others to do. Other ways to build up one‘s brain: meditate or pray daily; increase

one‘s vitamin D levels in the body; spend fifteen minutes a day learning something new; cease all damaging activities (to include eating junk food); belong to a group; take up dancing; practice gratitude; learn how

to challenge your own negative thinking patterns and eliminate them; and practice your spirituality. If you find that you need assistance in quitting any substance, please

contact the Well-Being center.

What Brain do You Want?

Drug Awareness

Dear Fran,

I have been feeling really low lately. I spend days in bed, unable to face life at all. Sleeping was a blessed relief: being unconscious was the only way to

escape from how awful I was feeling. I thought about suicide, too, and would get relief from planning how I'd do it: I'd tidy the house, then take some tablets, go to sleep and never wake up. I never actually tried it, though. There was always a part of me that would

never leave my toddler. My first real bout of depression began when my husband left me for another woman when my daughter was just two weeks old. I was 29 and my dreams lay in tatters: I realized it wasn't going to be the

happy family scenario I'd imagined. I was devastated, but somehow managed to carry on as normal, holding down a demanding job and hiding what I was feeling from my colleagues, friends and family.

I tried to get out more and enjoy myself, but 18 months after my husband left me, my father died unex-

pectedly of a pulmonary embolism following an operation to have a gallstone removed. It was the final straw. I was close to my dad and when he died I really lost it. Life seemed hopeless. Only my daughter

kept me going. If it hadn't been for her, I wouldn't have bothered to get out of bed at all. Do you know what can be wrong with me???

Signed, Down for the count Dear down for the count,

I am so glad you finally want to talk about your situation. I hope you are ready not only for advice, but action. You want to stay healthy and available for your daughter, but it is not easy when depression has such a strong hold on your life. First of all, I want you to come see me immediately! I will hook you up

with the best services we have available. I have access to the EAP because she is in the next office. We can complete a thorough assessment of the risk facing your life and arrange to get you connected to the services you need. I do want to compliment you on your ability to persevere in the face of multiple

challenges. You must have great resilience! Several of the situations you have mentioned automatically put you at risk for high stress based on a life stress inventory. Divorce, death of a loved one and single parenting are three of the highest risk factors a woman can face. Depression is a diagnosable illness, and

does not usually improve without help. But, we do not know for sure that it is depression causing your doldrums. You also need to have a full medical exam. But, if you cannot get right into a medical doctor, do not wait. Come see me first, and we will begin to address immediate needs. Also, many women

begin to drink as a way to deal with their stressors. If you are drinking, please be ready to include that in your intake information. Now, realize you do not have to keep silent and go through these stressors alone. Not getting help has great potential to harm your child, also, because she does not have the capacity to understand her

mother's need to sleep and escape her problems. Children raised by depressed mothers who are not available to them as they should be, often grow up with mental health problems. I know you do not

want that for your child, or yourself. Give me a

call at 442-6069 and let's get started getting you back to the person you want to be. You could also walk in. We have a team of competent and

confidential professionals ready to you.

Fran

DEAR FRAN

ASAP Testimonial This month marks the two year sobriety point for me. I hit

rock bottom during my six week stay at Red River. While I

was there, my first grandchild was born. Upon discharge, I

finally got to see this child which made me realize the consequences of my behav-

ior and where I wanted to be. My stay at Red River strengthened the importance

of family and the bond between my husband and I has never been stronger. To-

day I am more focused and have a clear thought pattern. I am still continuing with

my career in the military and my family has grown closer because of my past

struggle. I am now a mentor to those who may be

experiencing the challenges that I have overcome. Thanks to Ms. Can-

dace, and Ms. Fran from ASAP in helping me to open my eyes to see the

person that I was to become without the dependence on substances.

W02

Ft. Sill, OK

Fran Alltizer, LCSW, ASAP Counselor

If you have any questions or con-

cerns that you would like Fran to

address, please contact Fran

through our ASAP Facebook page:

DID YOU KNOW?

Medication Nation

32 million Americans take three or more

medications daily.

Nearly 75% of Americans report not always

taking their medications as prescribed.

Almost 30% of Americans stop taking their

medicine before it runs out.

Only about half of patients with high blood

pressure take their prescribed doses of drugs

Source: PhRMA; National Council on Patient Information and Education; WSJ reporting

P A G E 7 V O L U M E 2 , I S S U E 2 Mind Expansion

October’s Brainteaser

5 friends went trick-or-treating together for Hallow-een, but they soon got tired and went home at some point along the way. The next morning, the friends

met up to exchange candy, so each could have their favorites. Can you figure out who wore what cos-tume, in what order they left the group, and what each friend's favorite candy is?

FRIENDS: Andy, Jane, Max, Pam, Sam COSTUMES: witch, vampire, devil, cat, skeleton

CANDY: Reese's, M&M's, Snickers, Starburst, Milky Way

1) The 5 friends are Max, the witch, the girl who likes Starburst, the boy who dressed as a devil, and the person who left the group 3rd.

2) Andy (who does not like Milky Way) left some-time after Max and immediately before Sam. 3) Pam likes Starburst and she left after Sam.

4) The friends left the group in this order: the one who likes Reese's, the witch, Andy, the one who likes Milky Way, and Pam. 5) The skeleton likes M&M's.

6) The vampire was not last. Answer in next month‘s issue

September‘s Brainteaser:

You have 12 black socks and 12 white socks mixed up in a drawer. You're up very early and it's too dark to tell them apart. What's the smallest number of

socks you need to take out (blindly) to be sure of having a matching pair? Solution:

3 socks. If the first sock is black, the second one could be black, in which case you have a matching pair. If the second sock is white, the third sock will be either black and match the first sock, or white and

match the second sock.

August Brainteaser EMPLOYEE SPOTLIGHT

SSG Joshua Ferrier,

HQ A 3/6

What is your favorite word?

Thank you, it reminds me that people still appreciate

our assistance.

What is your least favorite word?

Why- when used alone, the question is so vague.

What turns you on?

I'm inspired by people who show they care day in and

day out. I'm impressed with consistent kindness.

What turns you off?

I'm saddened and frustrated with people who believe no

one cares.

What sound or noise

do you love? Rain falling What sound or noise

do you hate?

Hearing music from a car, 2

cars in front of me….Please

don't share.

What profession

other than your own

would you like to attempt?

I would love to have my own small restaurant, selling

tacos and burritos.

What profession would you not like to

do?

Working with wild animals frightens me.

What is your ideal vacation?

A trip with minimal electronic devices, lots of sun, and

is toddler friendly.

EAP Mental Health Minute

Ft. Sill Talks Back

Rosemary Stone,

MHR

Information, Re-

ferral and Out-

reach Program

Coordinator

Soldier Family

Assistance Center

Ask for Help When You Need It

What did you learn during red ribbon

week?

Many people are better helpers than receivers of help. Asking

for help—when you are feeling overloaded at work or facing a

professional or personal crisis is difficult for many of us. Re-

member that asking for help is a sign of resourcefulness and

strength, not weakness. It also lightens your burdens and

helps you feel better. If you are going through a difficult time

or need help, turn to someone you trust and say, “May I ask

for your help?” Most people want to help. They just need to

know what to do. If you could use support and aren’t sure

how to find it, contact your EAP at 580-442-4202/6306.

Drugs are not for me!!

- Elgin ECC

Just say “NO!”

- Geronimo Public

Schools

Be all you can be! Be drug free!!!

- Elgin Schools

P A G E 8 V O L U M E 2 , I S S U E 2

Wellness Window

Click:

MEDITATION

to relax and enjoy

this month‘s fea-

tured ―Peaceful

Plaza Guided Im-

agery segment as

provided through

healthjourneys.com

Mantra Meditation When people read the word mantra, many things may come to mind. Whatever your experience is, there is real power in the repetition of a mantra as a form of meditation. The power of mantra repetition can quiet the mind, provide a refuge in trying times, and unlock great virtues within. It may even help you develop fearlessness.

What is Mantra Meditation? Mantra is a word or phrase that you repeat to yourself again and again for a specific effect. We could replace the word mantra with ‗positive affirmation‘ and it would have the same meaning. Although positive affirmations can be powerful, mantra repetition for spiritual purposes often

entails repetition of God‘s name. Many people use this as a form of waking meditation, since it‘s easy to repeat a mantra to yourself either verbally or mentally throughout your day, and despite what‘s going on around you.

Examples of Mantra Meditation

Any phrase may be used for mantra meditation. Usually, a mantra is used for some specific effect, to either create a positive quality, or free your-self from a negative one. For example: * I am present now

* I love myself * I am free from anger * I am free from sadness

* Love is my experience These are just a few. If you wish to utilize a name of God for Mantra meditation, you may choose one from whatever religious tradition best fits your beliefs.

The Secrets to Mantra Meditation

There are a few secrets to Mantra meditation. The first is repetition. Your mantra won‘t work if you don‘t repeat it. This may seem obvious, but so many people repeat a mantra 20 times, don‘t notice a difference, and quit. This does no good. In order to experience the power of mantra, you have to repeat it at least 100 times to yourself, and believe it each time you say it. This leads to the second secret of mantra repetition, and

that is belief…Belief is the most important aspect of mantra meditation. You have to really believe what you‘re saying, or have the feeling of belief

in what you‘re saying for it to really work. Now is a new moment, so continue repeating your mantra with the feeling, intention and belief that it

is real for you now. Click on MEDITATION to get started.

Looking for a fresh new way to spice up your

salad? Try this quick and easy recipe next

time! Remember to stay healthy and happy!!

Mango Tango Salad

Ingredients

3 ripe mangos, pitted and cubed

Juice of 1 lime

1 teaspoon minced red onion

2 tablespoons chopped fresh cilantro leaves

Half of 1 jalapeno pepper, seeded and minced

Directions

Combine all ingredients in a mixing bowl. Let stand

10 minutes. Toss just before serving.

Additional Suggestion:

Serve over a bed of greens (your choice) or add

avocados.

Cooking Excellence

with JB

Complete Well-Being

Work to Avoid the Middle-Age Spread

The best way to avoid middle-age spread is to get aerobic exercise. Find a way to

walk, run, swim, garden, hike, bicycle, or participate in another type of aerobic activity

at least four times a week for at least 30 minutes. The goal is to try to exercise at 75

to 85 percent of your Maximum Heart Rate, your Maximum Heart Rate in beats per

minute is calculated by subtracting your age in years from the number 220. For exam-

ple, the Maximum Heart Rate for a 42-year-old with no health concerns would want

to exercise at a hear rate of about 140 to 160. Check first with your health care

provider before beginning any exercise program.

Pack Healthy Lunches Help your child learn to love food that is good for you and to make healthy food

choices. Encourage your child to help plan lunches, and ask her what she wants to

eat. Offer a variety of healthy foods to choose from, like fresh fruit, vegetables, and low-fat meats and cheeses. Here is a healthy lunch to pack for yourself and your child:

Turkey on whole-grain bread with mustard

Carrot and celery sticks

Grapes

Low-fat milk

HOLIDAYS ARE COMING, REMEMBER YOUR HEALTH &

SAFETY!!

CDC Holiday Health and Safety Tips

For more information regarding the IMCOM & DOD Wellness

Program please click the following links: IMCOM WELLNESS

DOD WELLNESS

Reference: mayallbehappy.org

PEACEFUL PLAZA: Power of Repetition

P A G E 9 V O L U M E 2 , I S S U E 2 Etiquette and Manager‘s Notes,

While conducting a community stress management seminar, something unusual happened which spoke volumes

about the current state of workplace communication. During the training, we would begin by discussing the physiological, behavioral, and cognitive effects of stress on the body and the signs and symptoms of over-stress

(eustress). We then would discuss ways to mitigate stress by taking action to deal with stressors, maintaining

and building physical reserves, and maintaining and building emotional reserves. Lastly, we would break into

small groups and assign the groups to come up with a plan to make their workplace less stressful. The group with

the best plan would earn them coveted ASAP freebies.

This training was unusual in that there were both, first-line leaders

and employees in attendance. Moreover, because this training was

open to the entire community, the managers present did not super-vise the employees present. So, when we broke out into groups this

time I asked them to break into groups of managers and employees.

Then, I asked the group of managers to list ways employees can make

their jobs less stressful. And, I asked employees to come up with a list of ways managers can make their jobs easier. I surprised when

both groups had at the top of their lists; ―Tell me what you want

from me‖. It seemed ironic that the major source stress for both

groups was the same…lack of real communication. What this may mean for some managers is that they have not conveyed with clarity

what they expect from employees. This was impacting effectiveness

and efficiency because it appears to contribute to overall tension in an

organization. As we begin another rating period it would be good

to remind ourselves of what outcomes we seek from the efforts of those that work for us. The SMART objectives are a good tool.

Knowing and taking the time to define expectations, and focusing on

right results can be one of the best things a manager can do for their

employees and for their bottom lines.

By Jay Khalifeh

Manager’s Memo:

On Conveying Expectations

Workplace Etiquette 101: Apologize If you say something you later wish you

hadn‘t, follow up with a personal response

and an apology. Maybe you lashed out in

anger at a co-worker, overreacted at a

meeting, or criticized someone too harshly.

An apology is in order. It‘s best to offer it in

private, and in person. ―I apologize for what

I said yesterday.‖

What results do I seek from an

employee?

How will I know the employee

did good work?

Does the objective align clearly

to what matters most to my

organization

Is the outcome you seek within

the employee‘s control?

When do I want the results

delivered?

THE NEW ON-LINE SUPERVISOR DEVELOPMENT COURSE (SDC) IS NOW AVAILABLE. THIS COURSE IS REQUIRED FOR ALL SUPERVISORS (MILITARY AND ARMY CIVILIAN) OF ARMY CIVILIANS. THE COURSE IS AVAILABLE FOR

NEW ENROLLMENTS ON 1 OCT 2011. NEW SUPERVISORS MUST TAKE THS COURSE WITHIN ONE YEAR OF APPOINTMENT TO A SUPERVISOR POSITION. CURRENT SUPERVISORS MUST TAKE THE COURSE AS REFRESHER TRAINING

EVERY THREE YEARS. ALL SUPERVISORS MUST BE UP TO DATE IN THIS TRAIN-

ING NLT 30 JUNE 2012. ENROLL IN THE SDC THROUGH THE CIVILIAN HUMAN RESOURCE TRAINING

APPLICATION SYSTEM (CHRTAS) AT THE FOLLOWING URL: https://www.atrrs.army.mil/channels/chrtas

ENSURE THAT YOUR STUDENT PROFILE IS UPDATED, INCLUDING CURRENT SUPERVISOR NAME AND EMAIL INFORMATION. IF YOU DO NOT HAVE A PRO-FILE OR IF IT HAS BEEN MORE THAN 120 DAYS SINCE YOUR LAST LOGON,

CHRTAS WILL REQUIRE YOU TO CREATE/UPDATE IT BEFORE YOU MAY APPLY FOR TRAINING. IT IS IMPORTANT TO NOTE YOU HAVE FOUR MONTHS TO COMPLETE THE

COURSE. ONCE FOUR MONTHS HAS PASSED, THE COURSE WILL NO LONGER BE ACCESSIBLE TO YOU AND YOU WILL HAVE TO REREGISTER AND BEGIN AGAIN.

Supervisor Development is Now

Online!

EAP FUNNY CORNER

Um, Hi, I‘m here to suck your blood. But first I need you to

fill out a short medical history, if you don‘t mind.

P A G E 1 0 V O L U M E 2 , I S S U E 2

Mission Card, Education Center Updates

Interested in a part-time job?? Upper Iowa University and

Central Texas College are actively recruiting military,

spouses, DA Civilians, veterans, and contract employees for

teaching positions.

Excellent working conditions, equitable pay, and an opportu-

nity to share knowledge with highly motivated, dedicated

students. Central Texas College is looking for part-time in-

structors for Team Sill Leadership Academy. Please submit

your resume, application for employment, letter of interest,

and copies of all official transcripts to Central Texas College

Attn: Lisa South, PO Box 33430, Ft. Sill, OK 73503 (or fax to

580-353-7554 or email to director.sill@ctcd.edu)

MISSION

To provide Soldiers, Civilians, Retirees and their Families with a secure installation,

consistent and efficient services, and quality facilities and infrastructure .

VISION

With current fiscal reality, to maintain our quality services and infrastructure across

the installation. To maximize available resources and to foster positive relationships

with those living and working on Fort Sill as well as with our surrounding communi-

ties.

INTENT

To develop an environment that becomes a model for integrating organizations into

common footprints, thereby becoming true stakeholders of the installation. To

empower Organizations by instilling pride in ownership and providing a voice. To

transform the Garrison while capturing efficiencies and promoting fiscal responsibil-

ity. To maintain an environment that enhances safety, well-being, and readiness; a

place of limitless opportunities to develop both personally and professionally.

US ARMY GARRISON

FORT SILL

ADJUNCT FACULTY Needed:

Upper Iowa University (UIU)--Fort Sill Center is seek-

ing to add faculty to teach in its Science, Business and Political

Science Departments. Master‘s degree is required. Evening

classes taught in 8-week terms tailored to needs of non-

traditional adult learners. Send resumes to: Center Director,

Upper Iowa University, Harry S Truman Education Center,

3281 Koehler Loop, Fort Sill, OK 73503 (or fax to 580-595-

9480 or email to hamiltons@uiu.edu). For more information

call 580-595-9338. TEAM SILL LEADERSHIP ACADEMY

October – December Schedule

Harry S Truman Education Center

Building 3281, Classroom 9

Oct 31-Nov 4 0800-1200 .............Introduction to Computing ......................Class ID# 7144 1230-1630 .............Microsoft Excel ........................................Class ID# 7145

Nov 14-17 0800-1200 .............Conducting Briefings ................................Class ID# 7146 1230-1630 .............Preparing Efficiency Reports ....................Class ID# 7147

Nov 28-Dec 2 0800-1200 .............Introduction to Microsoft Word...............Class ID# 7148 1230-1630 .............Introduction to Microsoft Access .............Class ID# 7149

December 5-8 0800-1200 .............Managerial Planning ................................Class ID# 7150 1230-1630 .............Counseling Practicum Techniques ............Class ID# 7151

Enroll through www.GoArmyEd.com, On-Duty Enrollment Request

GRADUATE PROGRAMS University of Oklahoma: Dec 2-4 & 9-11 Introduction to Graduate Study Planning Issues in Organization

Seminar in Resource and Environmental Geo. Class hours are Friday 5:30 P.M.-9:00 P.M.; Saturday 9:00 A.M.-5:00 P.M; and Sunday 12:00 P.M.-4:00 P.M.

Wayland Baptist University: Registration Period: Oct 17-Nov 4; Term Dates: Nov 7, 2011-Feb 11, 2012

Counseling Theories Practicum in Counseling Internship in Counseling

ADV Internship in Counseling Studies in 19th Century America-The Civil War Research Methods (ITV)

For specific dates and times, see Mr. Condry at the Truman Ed Center, Mon-

Thur 9:00-4:00 or call: 580-248-1171.

Webster University: Graduate Student Orientation: Wednesday, Nov 2, 5:00 P.M.-6:00 P.M.

Classroom 2, Truman Education Center, B3281

Phone: 580-353-5766 or email: sill@webster.edu or www.webster.edu/ftsill for

additional information.

In addition to the education services on Fort Sill and in the surround-

ing communities, Oklahoma has several excellent institutions that offer a variety of specialized programs. Spotlight this month is on Caddo-Kiowa Technology Center:

Caddo-Kiowa Technology Center is located in Fort Cobb, Oklahoma-a short driving distance north of Fort Sill. It is a regionally accred-

ited institution affiliated with Southwestern Oklahoma State Univer-

sity. Eligible Soldiers may receive tuition assistance. Programs are also VA approved. Some adult-targeted programs include: Diesel Service Technology

Digital Imaging and Printing Technology Early Care and Education

Financial Management Administration

Health Careers

Heating, Ventilation and Air Conditioning Licensed Practical Nursing (Self-paced)

Medical Office Administration Occupational Therapy Assistant Physical Therapist Assistant

Truck Driver Training (CDL) Online Courses:

Operating Systems Invest-Ed Project Computerized Accounting Spreadsheet Applications MS Excel 2003 High School Soils and Fertility Applying Pesticides Correctly 1A Ag Plant- Commercial Pesticide Applicator Certification Introduction to Soils and Fertility Introduction to Crop Care Technologies Agriculture Business Management-Finance Medical Terminology CPT ICD-9 Coding Early Education: Pathway to CDA Early Education: Director‘s Pathway to Program Administration Child Development College courses for AAS degree For enrollment or additional information, see an Army Counselor. Call for an appointment at 442-3201/5393. You may also go to the website at http://

www.caddokiowa.com/ or phone the school at 405-643-5511.

P A G E 1 1 V O L U M E 2 , I S S U E 2 Financial Fitness and Holiday Planning

Is Your Wallet Stressed Out?

Reduce Holiday Financial Stress Reducing holiday financial stress

Suzi McGarvey, former Extension Associate, University of Missouri Extension Reviewed by Brenda Procter, M.S., State Specialist & Instructor, Personal Financial Planning, University of Missouri Extension With the holidays approaching soon, many people begin to feel the financial stress

of the season. You can lessen the anxiety you may feel during this time of the year by planning purchases in advance. Consider the following tips for a more enjoyable holiday season:

Make a list of the people you will need to buy for and how much you plan to spend on each person.

Determine how much in total you plan to spend, and if this figure

seems too high, make adjustments in your planned purchases.

Try to avoid the temptation of paying for all of your purchases with a credit card when you do not have the money to pay it in total. Avoid

thinking that you'll just "pay it off later." If you cannot afford a particular item, look for something similar but less expensive or search for an alternative present. Set a limit and try to stick to it.

Be wary with department store promotions. Offers of "buy now and pay later" sometimes have hidden clauses that allow interest to accrue until your first payment. Read through all paperwork before signing it, and do not be afraid to ask the store clerk questions regarding the

promotion. Remember, if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.

Be creative with your gifts. Try making homemade items or giving per-sonalized gifts that offer your services for things such as an evening of

free babysitting.

A donation to a local charity may make more of a lasting impression than a store-bought gift. Use money that you would spend on friends

and family to make one larger donation to one specific charity or give smaller donations to each family member's favorite charity. Call local food pantries, shelters and charities to find out what they need during the busy holiday season. (For some tips on giving to charities, see:

http://missourifamilies.org/quick/copingqa/copingqa10.htm)

If you're hosting a family dinner, ask others to bring a dish.

Pay attention to return policies for items you purchased.

Keep your receipts. If you need to return something later, having your receipt will speed up the process and you will have a better chance of

getting your money back.

Shop alone. A tired spouse or child may encourage you to impulsively buy some items so they could get home sooner.

Avoid high-pressure sales tactics. Know what you're looking for before you enter a store or tell the sales clerk that you are looking and will let them know if you need help with something.

Search through clearance racks for sale items. Shop at discount stores for gifts for children, neighbors and co-workers.

Don't wait for the last minute to do your shopping. You may be more

tempted to purchase higher priced items if you are in a hurry or don't have time to comparison shop. If you spread your shopping out over several weeks or months, you won't have to come up with so much money at once.

After the holiday season, start saving for the next one. Put aside a little each month or look for sale items through the year that could be saved for the holiday season.

A few safety tips from the U.S. Consumer Product Safety

Commission can protect children who plan to go trick-or

-treating this Halloween.

Treats: Warn children not to eat any treats before an

adult has carefully examined them for evidence of tamper-

ing.

Flame Resistant Costumes: When purchasing a cos-

tume, masks, beards, and wigs, look for the label Flame

Resistant. Although this label does not mean these items won't catch fire, it

does indicate the items will resist burning and

should extinguish quickly once removed from the

ignition source. To minimize the risk of contact

with candles or other sources of ignition, avoid

costumes made with flimsy materials and outfits

with big, baggy sleeves or billowing skirts.

Costume Designs: Purchase or make costumes

that are light and bright enough to be clearly visible

to motorists.

For greater visibility during dusk and darkness,

decorate or trim costumes with reflective tape

that will glow in the beam of a car's headlights.

Bags or sacks should also be light colored or deco-

rated with reflective tape. Reflective tape is usually

available in hardware, bicycle, and sporting goods

stores.

To easily see and be seen, children should also carry flashlights.

Costumes should be short enough to prevent children from tripping and

falling.

Children should wear well-fitting, sturdy shoes . Mother' s high heels are

not a good idea for safe walking.

Hats and scarves should be tied securely to prevent them from slipping

over children's eyes.

Apply a natural mask of cosmetics rather than have a child wear a loose-

fitting mask that might restrict breathing or obscure vision. If a mask is used,

however, make sure it fits securely and has eyeholes large enough to allow full

vision.

Swords, knives, and similar costume accessories should be of soft and

flexible material.

Pedestrian Safety: Young children should always be accompanied by an

adult or an older, responsible child. All children should WALK, not run from

house to house and use the sidewalk if available, rather

than walk in the street. Children should be cautioned

against running out from between parked cars, or across

lawns and yards where ornaments, furniture, or clothes-

lines present dangers.

Choosing Safe Houses: Children should go only to

homes where the residents are known and have outside

lights on as a sign of welcome.

Children should not enter homes or apartments unless they are accom-

panied by an adult.

People expecting trick-or-treaters should remove anything that could be an

obstacle from lawns, steps and porches. Candlelit jack-o'-lanterns should be

kept away from landings and doorsteps where costumes could brush against

the flame. Indoor jack-o'-lanterns should be kept away from curtains, decora-

tions, and other furnishings that could be ignited.

There are No

Tricks in Safety

One-Third of Younger Retirees Engaged In Post-Career Employment

"Continued employment in something other than the career job...rises to a maximum of 32 percent of the men and 37 percent of the women...aged 59 to 69, but still remains significant (more than 20 percent of the sample) even

among those aged 67 to 77," according to a 2011 analysis of Health and Retire-

ment Survey data. Reference: www.tiaa-crefinstitute.org

LAWTON AND FT. SILL

COMMUNITY TRICK OR TREAT HOURS:

31 Oct 2011

1800-2000

P A G E 1 2 V O L U M E 2 , I S S U E 2 Inspire and Encourage

EAP INSPIRATION STATION

The Bitter Pill

An original poem By Dave Rauls

Now that time has come and gone, the taste is bitter still.

A sad part of healing is the taste of a bitter pill.

Grief comes not regularly like the flu, but it is a sickness still,

Once it comes upon you it fights against your will.

I have never felt more hurt and pain, alas that feeling comes around again. Every resemblance or memory found makes the suffering and feeling of loss

come round.

Although his spirit is free and un-bound, my loss is a part of life that must be, The world goes on and others fail to see, how a loss to suicide can hurt you &

me.

It is my time to feel this sickness still, another round of grief and another bitter

pill.

The taste as bitter as it may be, will not last but is only temporary.

Almost two years into my grief I have found there are more good days than bad. The loss of a child, spouse or Battle Buddy by any means hurts. As I have been living through these challenging times things go well

for a while. Then all of a sudden I find a me-mento with my sons name on it or a ribbon he won at school. The feelings of loss start to well

up inside. As difficult as it is, being able to focus on the good times I shared with my son far out weigh the date of his tragic death. Almost always

there is a feeling that I have been forced to live outside of the norm due to a loss to suicide. This is not so, we all have our appointed time to pass

on. Those of us whom are survivors really are the only ones who understand. If you are having a tough time with your grief reach out to someone. It is a survivors ability to share in their pain that can

make our community a better place.

Sometimes We Must Swallow

Dave Rauls and son,

Nicholas

The “Character” Couch: SELF-DISCIPLINE Correction or regulation of oneself for

the sake of improvement.

Synonyms: CONTINENCE, RESTRAINT,

SELF-COMMAND, SELF-CONTAINMENT, SELF

-CONTROL, SELF-DISCIPLINE, SELF-

GOVERNMENT, SELF-MASTERY, SELF-

POSSESSION, SELF-

RESTRAINT, WILL-

POWER

Obama Speaks at MLK Memorial

Dedication

President Barack Obama

spoke at the Martin Luther

King Jr. memorial dedication

on Sunday. He said King's

work is not yet finished. (Oct.

16) (/The Associated Press)

WASHINGTON — In December 2010, President Obama signed a law that will allow gays for the

first time to serve openly in America‘s military. And he urged those kicked out under ―don‘t ask, don‘t tell‖ to re-enlist.

Framing the issue as a matter of civil rights long denied, Obama said that ―we are a nation that

welcomes the service of every patriot ... a nation that believes that all men and women are created equal.‖ Signing the ―don‘t ask, don‘t tell‖ repeal in a ceremony that was alternately emotional and rousing, Obama said ―this law I‘m about to sign will strengthen our national security and uphold the ideals

that our fighting men and women risk their lives to defend.‖ The new law ends a policy that forced gays to hide their

sexual orientation or face dismissal. More than 13,500 people were discharged under ―don‘t ask, don‘t tell‖ since 1993.

Repeal means that for the first time in America's mili-tary history, service members will be allowed to publicly

reveal their sexual orientation without fear of reprisal.

Reference: Associated Press

Obama Signs DADT Repeal Into Law

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BREAK TIME!!!

There will be NO ASAP Community Train-

ing during the months of November and

December 2011. January 2012 will be the

next opportunity for all to receive their

Substance Abuse Prevention and Life Skills

Training in accordance with AR 600-85.

There is an annual 2 hour requirement for

Civilians and 4 hour requirement for Sol-

diers. We are going back to the ―drawing

board‖ to create new and exciting training

experiences based on your requests.

THRIVING THROUGH THE HOLIDAYS

November reminds us of all the blessing that have

been taken for granted throughout the year. De-

spite the challenging economy and changes that are

sure to come in the new year, an attitude of grati-

tude can be one of the skills most beneficial to us.

Next month‘s issue will provide an opportunity for

reflection, thanksgiving, and personal well-being

development. Also, we will provide tips for dealing

with holiday visitors and ways to keep the happi-

ness alive even when personalities collide!!

HAVE SOMETHING TO SAY???

WE WANT YOU TO SHARE YOUR

WORST AND BEST HOLIDAY EX-

PERIENCE

Please contact us if you HAVE A STORY TO

SHARE!! Your story will be greatly appreciated

for next month‘s issue. Anonymity requests will

be respected.

ANYTHING ELSE YOU WOULD LIKE

TO SHARE??

Contact me at 580-442-4205/6306 or at

rashonda.labrador@us.army.mil.

I look forward to hearing from you!!

3415 Miner Road

Ft. Sill, OK 73503

Phone: 580-442-4205

Fax: 580-442-5704

E-mail: rashonda.labrador@us.army.mil

Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/pages/

Lawton-OK/Fort-Sill-Army-Substance-

Abuse- Program/115638415119642 Website: http://sill-www.army.mil/USAG/

DHR/ASAP/

YOUR EAP IS READY TO SERVE

EAP Services to Employees and Supervisors:

Assessment, problem identification, and short-term

counseling/intervention.

Referral for treatment and rehabilitation to appropriate community counseling/treatment

resources.

Follow-up services to aid an employee in achieving an effective readjustment to his or her

job after treatment.

Training and education for supervisors and employees about alcohol and drugs.

EAP Services to the Installation Organization:

Training and consultation for supervisors and managers on how and when to make proper

use of EAP services for improving employee performance and conduct.

Well-Being Center, ASAP

Sneak Peek: What to Expect Next Month

COME VISIT US AT:

RaShonda M. Labrador, MS,

EAPC

(580)442-4205/6306

rashonda.labrador@us.army.

WELCOME TO FT. SILL!!!!

NEW ASAP EMPLOYEES