- 1. West Ridge Church Marriage Ministry
- Communication Keys for Couples
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- Husbands, in the same waybe considerateas you
- live with your wives, and treat them with respect as
- the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the
- gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your
- Youhusbands in the same way, live with your
- wives in anunderstanding way (NASB)
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- After laying a foundation of character
- in our lives, the next essential key of
- effective communication is to develop
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- So God created man in his own image, in the
- image of God he created him; male and female
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- I have filled him [Bezalel] with skill, ability and
- knowledge in all kinds of crafts to make artistic designs
- for work in gold, silver and bronze, to cut and set stones,
to
- work in wood, and to engage in all kinds of
- craftsmanship...I have appointed Oholiab to help him.
- Also I have given skill to all the craftsmen to make
- everything I have commanded you .
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- Arts, Music, Drama paint, draw, sing, act, play
- Sports baseball, football, hunting, etc
- Verbal skillsword puzzles, reading, stories
- Mechanical abilitybuild things, mechanical
- Concepts/Ideas teacher, thinker, writer
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- They are from the world and therefore speak
- from the viewpoint of the world.
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- Whatever world (family) we are from has a
- HUGE impact on how we interpret life and
- In fact, it defines our concept ofnormal .
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- Food Healthy vs. Southern
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- Religion Spiritualvs. Not so much
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- Finances Spenders vs. Savers
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- Politics Republic vs.Democrat
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- Expressive Huggersvs. Reserved
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- Child-Rear Spankers vs. Non-spankers
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- HolidaysSanta Clausvs. None
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- How we were raised becomes our normal .
- When we discover our spouse does things
- differentlyWell, theyre justwrong !
- We all need to learn that in most situations,
- theyre not wrong, justdifferent .
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- 4.Primary Role and Emotional Need
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- 4.Primary Role and Emotional Need
- The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be
- alone. I will make a helper suitable for him."
- Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.For
- the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the
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- Husbands love your wives, just as Christ loved the
- church and gave himself up for her. In this same
- way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own
- However, each one of you alsomust love his wifeas he
- loves himself, and thewife must respect her husband .
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- Husband Loving Servant-Leader Respect
- Wife Respectful Helper-Comp Love
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- While all languages should be expressed, we
- generally haveone or twothat we hear best.
- Our tendency is toexpresslove the way that
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- To be fully received, our expressions of love
- need to be communicated in a way that our
- We need todiscoverour spouses language
- andlearnto speak that to them regularly.
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- 1 Corinthians 12:7, 11, 18-20
- Now to each one themanifestation of the Spiritis given for
- All these are the work of one and the same Spirit, and he
- gives them [gifts] to each one,just as he determines .
- ...in factGod has arranged the partsin the body, every one
- of them,just as he wanted them to be .If they were all one
- part, where would the body be?As it is,there are many
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- Spiritual gifts aregivenTO eachbelieverBY
- theSpirit FOR thecommon good .
- TheHoly Spiritdetermines which gift(s) we
- God gives usdifferentgifts because the
- Church and the world need themall!
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- Encouraging/Exhorting Discernment
- Leading Speaking in Tongues
- Showing Mercy Interpreting Tongues
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- The spiritual gifts we possess influence
- how weperceiveandrespondto our
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- Byunderstandingour own personality type and
- that of our spouse wegain a huge advantageto
- improving our communication.We will have a
- better insight as to whatmotivatesour spouse,
- how they are likely tointerpret a particular issue ,
- and how theymight respondto a specific situation.
- Gaining an understanding of these differences
- enables us to decrease the conflictin our life!
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- We areborn with our basic personalityand will exhibit many of
these strengths and weaknesses over our entire lifetime.BUT we must
not fall prey to the belief that our natural-born tendencies can
keep us frommaturingover time .
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- LaHaye DISC Smalley/Trent
- Phlegmatic S Golden Retriever
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- Description Strengths Weaknesses
- Lion Determined Demanding
- High D Decisive Dictatorial
- Choleric Direct Blunt Assertive Argumentative
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- Description Strengths Weaknesses
- Otter Charismatic Impulsive
- High I Confident Overconfident
- Sanguine Gregarious Superficial
- Stimulating Self-Centered
- Talkative Poor Listener Enthusiastic Emotional
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- Description Strengths Weaknesses
- Golden Easy-Going Non-Confront
- Retriever Accommodating Indecisive
- High S Patient Indifferent
- Phlegmatic Calm Apathetic Loyal Passive
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- Description Strengths Weaknesses
- High C Thorough Nit-Picky
- Melancholy Systematic Legalistic Quality Perfectionist Cautious
Indecisive
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- God gives us our core personality to help us
- accomplish Hispurposesfor our life .
- By Gods Spirit, we can grow beyond our
- naturalweaknessesand do things that are not
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- for it is God who works in you to will and to act
according
- I can do everything through him who gives me strength.
- For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit
of
- power, of love and of self-discipline.
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- You can use your background as an excuse
- for present behavior only until you receive
- Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and
- Savior.After that you have a new power
- within you that is able to change your
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- Five Major Keys of Effective Communication