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ASSERTIVENESS
A workshop for teachers
Lic. Mariana Porta
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WHY WOULD TEACHERS
NEED IT? The teaching profession requires
interaction at many levels.
Assertive behavior improves thequality and effectiveness of the
interaction.
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IN AND OUTSIDE THE
CLASSROOM CLASSROOM
CONTEXT
giving feedback keeping discipline
supporting your
choices setting expectations
INSTITUTIONALCONTEXT
teacher -- parent teacher -- student
teacher -- colleague
teacher -- supervisor teacher -- staff
member
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WHAT IS TRUE ABOUTASSERTIVENESS?
yes no
It is a personal quality.
It is a kind of behavior.
It is specific to a person
in a situation.It is a universalprinciple.
It is based on free will.
Mini Quiz
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DEFINTION 1
Assertiveness is a kind of behavior.
It is specific to a person in a situation.
It is based on free will.
It is socially effective.
It is culture-dependent.
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TASK 1
You are in a queue at the movie theater. Somebodycomes in and jumps the queue right in front of you.What do you choose to do?
Nothing. You just bear it. Vent comments out loud such as some people are
such/so . but you dont face the person.
Face the guy bluntly and furiously, after all who does hethink he is?
Approach the man and politely but firmly tell him that heshould take his turn at the end of the line.
Other
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ASSERTIVENESSDEFINITION 2
Assertiveness is defined asbehavior which enables people
to actin their own bestinterest by expressing theirthoughts, feelings, desires andopinions directly, honestlyand appropriately.
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ASSERTIVENESS
DEFINITION 3Assertiveness is standing
up for your rights whilerespecting the rights
of others.
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ADVANTAGES OF
BEHAVING ASSERTIVELY Respecting yourself and others
Developing healthy relationships
Giving others a chance to change theirbehavior
Feeling better about yourself
Preventing conflict
Defending basic human rights
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SOME BASIC HUMAN RIGHTS
1. The right to be treated with dignity and respect
2. The right to reject requests without feeling guilty
3. The right to experience and express feelings.
4. The right to stop and think before acting.
5. The right to change an opinion.
6. The right to ask for what you need.
7. The right to do less than you are able to do.
8. The right to be independent.9. The right to decide over your own body and
property.
10. The right not to behave assertively.
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RIGHTS
BASIC HUMAN RIGHTS
Rights all human beings have
RIGHTS GIVEN BY THE ROLE
Rights a person has as part of his/herrole attributions.
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BIDIRECTIONAL MODEL
ASSERTIVE AGGRESSIVE
PASSIVE PASSIVE
AGGRESSIVE
OVERT
EXPRESSION
COVERT
EXPRESSION
NO COERCION COERCION
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PASSIVE BEHAVIOR
Passiveness is having respect
for other's rights while havingno respect for your own.
Ex. denial, isolation
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AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR
Getting what you want with no
regard to the rights of others.
Ex. Verbal offense, threat,
hostile comments
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PASSIVE AGRESSIVE
It is having no respect for
anyone's rights.Ex. Sarcasm, malicious
comments, rumor,
manipulation, doublemessages.
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Task 2
Chart with alternative forms ofbehavior
Read
Classify examples.
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Why would someone not
be assertive? Cultural differences.
Positive reward to nonassertive
behavior.
Irrational Beliefs and IdeasRoadblocks or Myths
ABC Cognitive Model
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Spiders bite peopleSpiders can kill
Spiders are powerfulSpiders are quick
You never know when aspider can bite you.
This spider could comeafter me.
ABC MODELTHE B BEHIND BEHAVIOR (I)
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ABC Cognitive Model
A B C
stimulus mental process overt behavior
THE B BEHIND
BEHAVIOR (II)
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THE B BEHIND
BEHAVIOR (III)It may contain roadblocks to
assertive behavior:
I must avoid making questions orstatements that will make me look stupidor ignorant.
If I assert myself in any relationshipothers will get mad at me.
If I say I dont agree my supervisor willthink I am not being supportive
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Task 3.
Roadblocks to assertive behavior
Read these roadblocks to assertive
behavior and think of their assertivecounterpart.
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ASSERTIVE DISCIPLINE
IN THE CLASSROOM Dismiss the thought that there is any
acceptable reason for misbehavior .
Decide which rules you wish toimplement.
Determine negative consequences for
noncompliance. Determine positive consequences for
appropriate behavior.
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TEACHER TALK
"Tish, I like the way you raised yourhand before speaking.
Ana, please start putting your projectaway. It's been five minutes since Iasked you to clean up.
"I give up. If this group doesn't wantto listen, its your problem, not mine."
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Body language as related
to assertive behavior: 1. Eye contact and facial expression:
Maintain direct eye contact, appear
interested and alert, but not angry.
2. Posture: Stand or sit erect, possiblyleaning forward slightly.
3. Distance and contact: Stand or sitat a normal conversational distance fromthe other.
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Body language as related
to assertive behavior: 4. Gestures: Use relaxed,
conversational gestures.
5.Voice: Use a factual, not emotionaltone of voice. Sound determined andfull of conviction, but not overbearing.
6. Timing: Choose a time when bothparties are relaxed. A neutral site isbest.
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ETHICS: JUDGEMENT:
What is the right thing to do?
ASSERTIVNESS: BEHAVIOR
What is the assertive way of acting?
INTERPERSONAL SKILLS: CULTURE AND
COMMUNICATION
How will I communicate my ideas so that I am
understood?