BULLIES, BYSTANDERS & TARGETS…..
AMS Counseling Department
•Define bullying•Learn coping skills/strategies to create resilience•Learn the difference between “Snitching” & Helping•Learn AMS protocol regarding bullying behavior
Humble ISD: The Texas Education Code defines bullying as engaging in written or verbal
expression, expression through electronic means, or physical conduct
(1) Has the effect or will have the effect of physically harming a student, damaging a student's property, or placing a student in reasonable fear of harm to the student's person or of damage to the student's property; or
(1) Is sufficiently severe, persistent and pervasive enough that the action or threat creates an
intimidating, threatening or abusive educational environment for a student. [Act of June 17, 2011, 82th Leg., R.S., H.B. 1942, § 7 (to be codified at Texas Education Code § 37.0832)] Conduct is considered bullying if it: (1) exploits an imbalance of power between the student perpetrator and the student victim
through written or verbal expression or physical conduct; and interferes with a student's education or substantially disrupts the operation of a school.
[Act of June 17, 2011, 82th Leg., R.S., H.B. 1942, § 7 (to be codified at Texas Education Code § 37.0832)]
The Humble Independent School District prohibits bullying as defined by state law. The District also prohibits retaliation against anyone who makes a bullying complaint.
What does that mean? Bullying is---- One or more individuals inflicting
physicalphysical, verbalverbal or emotionalemotional abuse on another. It is more than just teasing…it always hurts hurts or intendsintends to harmharm.
Types of bullying
Physical---intimidation or physical contact
Verbal—through use of words, gossiping, rumors
Emotional—exclusion, eye-rolling, alienation, non-verbal expression
Cyber—through electronic devices including trolling on internet sites and video games
Who is a bystander:
Bystander --- anyone who is present but not really taking part in a situation or event; a spectator or witness
Bystanders can become rescuers when they take steps to help someone who is being bullied
Can you identify the roles?
Who is the victim/target?
Who is the bully?
Who is the bystander?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VK-b1CtIATw
What do bullies want? Reaction of fear or anger Make you feel madmad, sadsad or badbad
Why? Make themselves feel better Cover up their own problems/insecurities Attempt to create sense of power, control
Or status
What can you do?
1. Personal PowerPersonal Power Don’t let someone make you feel mad, sad or
bad…use your personal power Calm Confident In Control
“That’s enough” “I don’t know what you are talking about” “So” “That’s your opinion” “Whatever”
What can you do?
Weekly check-in, parent contact, discipline
Bi-weekly counselor meetings
Referred to A.P. Office for discipline
Conference with Parent, A.P., Counselor
Conference with counselor
Humble ISD / AMS Protocol:
Bullies Prefer Isolated Targets…
2. Create a Support NetworkCreate a Support Network Friends, Family, Teachers, Coaches, etc. Get involved in school/outside of school Volunteer
How can this help? What about bystanders?
What can you do as a bystander?
Remove victim/bully (not force or fighting)
Encourage victim/target
Say something
Tell someone/Get help
Snitching? or Helping? What is the difference?
What Would You Do???Scenario 1:
A student shows you a gun in his backpack.
What would you do?
What Would You Do? Scenario 2:
You overhear Felicia joking that the teacher is a big frog face.
What would you do?
What Would You Do?
Scenario 3:
You see a student listening to her iPod and then texting during a reading assignment in class.
What would you do?
What Would You Do?
Scenario 4:
You hear that Big Dave is going to beat up Justin after school. Big
Dave is 5’10”/180 lbs. and Justin is 4’ 10”/ 85 lbs.
What would you do?
What Would You Do?
Scenario 5:
Two girls trip and push Susan everyday in the hall. You hear
Susan say that she hates coming to school and hates her life.
What would you do?
Snitching vs. Helping Telling is not always snitching…..Ask yourself
these questions to decide…. Will it help someone if I report? Will it prevent harm from
happening? Will it prevent damage? Will it resolve a problem? Could I save a life?
Explore your options…..
3. Tell someone—get help There is no one simple fix for every situation…so
you will need to try different things…which might include getting help.
Go to a Teacher / Coach
Go to a Counselor
Go to a Principal
Go to Parent/Youth Leader
Coping Skills/Strategies1. Personal Power 2. Create a Support Network3. Tell Someone/Get Help4. AMS wants to help you
Build Resiliency(ability to recover or adjust to
bad situations)
Personal PowerSupport NetworkGet HelpAvoid problem areasPositive Self-Talk
We are all in this together...
Find common ground and build each other up
AMS Expectation….
Be Kind To Each Other
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