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What it looks like and what to do about it?
By. Sri Ovaningsih
Wed, 19th June 2013
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Did you know?
The word bully used to mean the total
opposite of what it means now.
Five hundred years ago, it meant friend, family
member or sweetheart.
The root of the word comes from the Dutchboel, meaning lover or brother.
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How does it make the kid feel?
Alone Hurt
Depressed
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Does it have to be a part of childs
growing up?
No
Each and every person has the right to feel
safe in her/his life and good about him/
herself.
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A. What is school bullying?
A situation in which one or more students ( the bullies)
single out a child ( the victim) and engage in behaviors,
intended to harm that child (Wright, 2003)
Bullying is when a stronger more powerful person hurts
or frightens a smaller or a weaker person deliberately
(on purpose) and repeatedly (Beane, 1999)
A conscious, willful and deliberate hostile activity
intended to harm, induce fear through the threat of
further aggression and create terror ( Coloroso, 2006)
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B. The types of bullying
1. Verbal Bullying : name calling, taunting, cruel
criticism, abusive phone calls, extortion of
money, etc
2. Physical Bullying: kicking, pushing, punching,slapping, hitting, etc.
3. Relational/Emotional Bullying : ignoring,
isolating, excluding, spread rumor, etc.
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C. Who is a Bully?
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All bullies have one thing in common:
Something or someone is making them feel insecure.
~Therefore they bully to make themselves feel better.
They could have something going on in their family.
They might not feel like they are getting enough
attention from parents or teachers.
They might have watched their parents or older siblingsget their way by being angry and pushy.
Maybe they are also bullied.
They might be spoiled by their parents.
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D. Who are the target of bullying?
1. The kid with special need
2. The kid who is poor or rich
3. The kid who is bright, talented or gifted
4. The kid who wear braces or glasses
5. The kid who has behaviors others find annoying
6. The kid who is fat or thin, short or tall
7. The youngest kid in the class
8. The kid may be a minority.
9. The kid may have a name that is not ordinary, etc.
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Possible reasons for being a
Target.
If the kid get anxious or upset easily.
If the kid usually is alone and doesn't have
many friends.
If the kid doesn't have a lot of confidence and
doesn't stand up for him/herself.
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E. What are the effects of
bullying?
1. Physical bullying: broken bones, broken
teeth, bruises, scratches, cuts etc.
2. Verbal : afraid, alienated, angry, ashamed,
depressed, hurt, sad, stupid, ugly, useless
3. Relational bullying: deny others company,friendship and social interaction, feel
incompetent and unattractive, stomachaches,
nightmares
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F. How to Deal with Bullying?
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What to do In the moment
Ignore them! Pretend you
didnt hear them
Dont even look
at them
Dont Cry Dont get angry Dont showthem that you
are upset
Talk about it to
someone else
Write it down so
you dont forget
to tell someone
Respond to the
Bully evenly
and firmly
Continued
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In the moment continued
Turn the
comment into
a joke.
Turn and
walk away.
Removeyourself from
the situation.
Gosomewhere
that an adult
is present.
Rememberyou are not
the one with
the problem.
The bully is.
Talk to
an
adult!
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Ways to avoid future bullying
Dont bring expensive things or money to
school.
Label your belongings with permanent marker
in case they get stolen.
Avoid unsupervised areas.
Sit near the bus driver on the bus or walk with
a teacher to class.
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More ways to avoid future
bullying
Act confident. Hold
your head up, stand up
strait, and make eye
contact.
Dont walk alone, travel
with at least one other
person.
Avoid places where
bullying happens.
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G. Why do others let it happen?
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What is a bystander?
A witness
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Reasons .
The bully is someone others look up to and want
to hang out with.
They want to side with the bully because to dothat makes them feel strong.
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Reasons
Theyre entertained by the bullying.
They dont think speaking up will help.
Theyre afraid that if they say something, thebully will turn on them.
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Question for bystander...
Would you support the bullied person?
What would make you decide not to help?
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Did you know?
Bullying will stop in under 10 seconds when
peers (other children) intervene nearly 60% of
the time.
85% of bullying takes place with bystanders
present.
In playground observations, peers intervened
and stopped bullying in more instances than
adults did.
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E. If a bullying happens, what do we have
to do as a teacher?
1. Listen to the report from the victim, the witnesses or
parents
2. Pursue the victim to tell the truth
3.Talk to the perpetrator
4. Talk to the witnesses/ bystander
5. Confront the victim, witnesses and the perpetrator
about what happen.
6. Communicate with the victims parents by phone orface to face
7. Communicate with the perpetrator's parents.
8. Give consequence ( behavior contract) based on the
schools rules
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Setting up a bully-free classroom
(Source : http://www.bullyfree.com/resources/teachers.php)
Hang anti-bullying posters
Talk to your students about bullying (set the tone on the first day ofclass)
Make anti-bullying part of one of your lessons Give the students a list of anti-bullying rules that you can also hangsomewhere in the classroom
Have the students sign an anti-bullying class pledge on a banner andhang that banner in the classroom
Train students on how to deal with bullying (ex: scenarios)
Do activities that promote class unity
Have an anonymous notes-to-the-teacher box
Do not allow students to pick their own groups (for group work)
Get students involved in an anti-bullying campaign
Keep your eyes and ears open at all times!
What else can be done?
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Source: http://www.bullyfree.com/resources/teachers.php
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Slogans to add to posters or poems.
Get help, do not look on, do something!
Say no to bullying!
Dont just stand there, do something!
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Strategies for Teachers
Do not allow students to choose their owngroups/teams
Have assigned seating (and change seating plan ifyou see a problem arise)
Be consistent!
Take every students complaint seriously Have meetings with students to discuss bullying
issues
Get parents involved!
Be approachable
Create an open and safe environment
Provide students ways to deal with bullying
Display the Kids Help Phone number in yourclassroom (1-800-668-6868)
Others?
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A lot of people are afraid to tell the truth, to say
no. That's where toughness comes into play.
Toughness is not being a bully. It's havingbackbone.
- Robert Kiyosaki
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Resources:
1. http://www.bullyfree.com/resources/teache
rs.php
2. http://www.bullyfree.com/resources/teachers.php
3. Les Parsons, Bullied Teacher Bullied
Student, Grasindo: Jakarta, 2009.4. Tim Yayasan SEJIWA, Bullying,
Gramedia: Jakarta, 2008.
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Contact Address:
Email : [email protected] Phone no : 0813 1080 7190
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Thank You.
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