1. CHAPTER 3 (HANGING OUT, MESSING AROUND AND GEEKING OUT)
NICHOLAS BODLOVICK Intimacy
2. YOUTH DATING CULTURE - Teens are the developers of
contemporary youth dating, they tend to use new media for their way
of expressing their romance. - Given that teens have been the
developers and shapers of contemporary youth dating culture, it
makes sense that they would quickly put new media to use in the
service of their romantic pursuits 118.
3. USING SOCIAL MEDIA FOR DATING - As we all know, a good
majority of teenage relationships tend not to last long because of
all the stages they go through in life. When a relationship goes
wrong, most of the time teens do not have the courage to break up
in person, so they rely on media. Social media technologies have
provided a more extensive private sphere in which youth can
communicate primarily with age-clustered friends, acquaintances,
and sometimes strangers; These more private channels of
communication have allowed an elaboration of teens intimacy
practices, especially informing, maintaining, and ending romantic
relationships 120.
4. MEETING AND FLIRTING (DIGITAL COMMUNICATION) -Teenagers have
a hard time having a face-to-face conversation especially when it
comes to meeting somebody of attraction and flirting with them.
With new media it provides teen to have access on collecting more
information on the person they like which gives them confidence to
talk & flirt. -- New media have provided a variety of venues
for teens to meet and or further potential romantic interest.
Instant messaging, text messages, and social network messaging
functions all allow teens to proceed in a way that might feel less
vulnerable than a face-to-face communication (123)
5. COMMON FORUMS OF MEDIA USE Instead of talking on the phones,
teens tend to text each other more to communicate. Texting plays a
significant role in todays world of communication Facebook today is
one of the most popular sources teens will use to communicate with
one another and gather information about one another as well.
6. PURPOSE OF USING DIGITAL MEDIA Teenagers use Digital media
for multiple purposes. - Mobile Phones provide youth a way to
maintain private channels of communication, maintain continual
contact, and also serve as a leash through which teens in a
relationship keep tabs on one another (120)
7. DATING AND EXPECTATIONS Teens in relationships have high
expectations of contact with and availability of their significant
others as well as expectations that the relationship will be
publicly acknowledge through digital media (128)
8. BREAKING UP - As most of us know, breaking up in High School
seemed like it was the biggest thing in life and couldnt make sense
to why the relationship was over. Now with digital media its harder
to indulge in the break up because you are still able to see that
former significant other through digital media. New communication
practices often require that teens take a variety of steps to sweep
up the digital remnants of a given relationship and to deal with
access to and the continuing digital presence of their former
significant others (132)
9. PRIVACY - In any relationship especially teenage relations,
do not have much privacy of their own. The only time teenagers have
privacy is when they are not with one another, other than that
teens tend to monitor on each others privacy just incase they feel
something is wrong or just have trust issues.
10. THE ABILITY TO MONITOR ONE ANOTHER AND BE MONITORED,
EMOTIONAL AND PHYSICAL VULNERABILITY, AND TENSIONS AROUND PRIVACY
THREAD THROUGH THE VARIETY OF INTIMACY PRACTICE IN WHICH TEENS
ENGAGE. DIGITAL COMMUNICATIONS ALLOW TEENS A SPHERE OF PRIVACY,
WHEN THEY DONT HAVE THEIR OWN SPACES, TO COMMUNICATE WITH THEIR
SIGNIFICANT OTHERS THROUGH A CIRCUMVENTION OF GEOGRAPHIC AND
INSTITUTIONAL CONSTRAINTS (138) The aspects of digital media that
let teens be constantly in touch also allow them to monitor one
another more intently (139)
11. CONCLUSION With the lack of privacy due to social media
teens are always going to invade their significant others privacy
and monitor their every step. This usually causes a shortage in the
relationship because teens tend to not trust each other. Teens also
do have other interest in people so theyre always searching. Teens
can meet people, flirt, date, and break up beyond the earshot and
eyesight of their parents and other adults while also doing these
things in front of all their online friends (145)
12. WORK CITED Numerous Authors. Hanging Out, Messing Around,
and Geeking out. Cambridge, MA. 2010 Images were provided through
Google, which can be provided through request.