Parent Coffee, November 28, 2014
Kelso in Action - Resolving Conflict at RIS
Program Goals: ● To help young people learn a lifelong
conflict resolution tool. ● To help young people develop and sustain
the belief that they are brave enough, strong enough and smart enough to resolve their own minor problems.
We begin with 2 main ideas:
1. Small problems vs Big problems - small problems are SAFE. Big problems are UNSAFE.
2. Verbal and Nonverbal solutions. DIFFUSE EMOTION first!!
The Kelso Wheel and Video
Non Verbal Solutions
1. Wait and Cool off: Calming down - take deep breaths, count back, think calming thoughts, positive self talk.
2. Walk Away3. Go to another game4. Ignore it - purposeful body language
Verbal Solutions - Teaching the language of problem solving
1. Talk it over 2. Make a deal3. Share and take turns4. Tell them to Stop5. Apologize
Talk it over ….
__________ I feel ________ when ___________. I need __________.
“I Care” language.
Make a Deal and Share
Kids know what to do! Empower your children to solve small problems!!1. Rock, Paper, Scissors 2. Setting a timer3. Allowing for creative solutions - kids can
try!
Tell them to STOP…
Important lesson! 1. Body language, tone of voice 2. Expectation that the student is listening -
CHECK!3. I CARE messages!!!4. Wait for a response…..
Apologize - WORDS AND ACTIONS
_____________, I am sorry that I _______. If I feel like this again, I plan to _____________. Is there anything I can do for you now?
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