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*Oscar winning actor Matthew McConaughey surprised the class of 2015
with this amazing commencement speech at the University of ouston!*
Matthew McConaughey
"arlier last wee#$ Oscar winning Matthew McConaughey surprised the
graduating class of 2015 with an amazing commencement speech at the
University of ouston!
%lthough McConaughey intended to #eep it short$ the speech &lled with
interesting snippets from his own life and career left the audience
as#ing for more!
'earing white shirt and (lac# trousers$ the actor too# to the stool$
folded his sleeves and said) Congratulations$ class of 2015
+he ne,t few minutes$ he mesmerised the crowd with encouraging words of
wisdom!
-or all those who missed it$ we (ring you the +op 1. ta#e/aways from the
speech that inspired the young audience$ graduating class of 2015! ead on
*1!**ife is not easy*
ifes not easydont try and ma#e it that way!
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3ts not fair$ it never was$ it isnt now$ it wont ever (e!
4o not fall into the entitlement trap of feeling you are a victim$ you
are not!
et over it and get on with it! %nd yes$ most things are more rewarding
when you (rea# a sweat to get em!
*2!**6Un(elieva(le6 is the stupidest word in the dictionary*
3t shouldnt ever come out of our mouths!
+o say$ 6'hat an un(elieva(le play76 63t was an un(elieva(le (oo#$ &lm$
act of couragereally8
3t may (e spectacular$ phenomenal$ most e,cellent and outstanding (ut
un(elieva(le8 9O!
ive others and yourself more credit!
3t :ust happened$ you witnessed it$ you :ust did it$ (elieve it!
ow a(out the other side of un(elieva(le8
'hen we humans 6under perform6 or act out of character8 // 6man ;ies a
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suicide :et into the 'orld +rade Center$ millions die from diseases that
we have cures for!
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63 :ust want to (e happy!6 3 hear that all the time! ect$ @uid pro @uo standard that we cannot
sustain (ecause we immediately raise it every time we attain it!
Aou see$ happiness demands a certain outcome$ it is result reliant!
3f happiness is what youre after$ then you are going to (e let down
fre@uently and (e unhappy much of your time!
?oy$ though$ is something else!
3ts not a choice$ not a response to some result$ it is a constant!
?oy is 6the feeling we have from doing what we are fashioned to do$6 no
matter the outcome!
Bersonally$ as an actor$ 3 started en:oying my wor# and literally (eing
happier when 3 stopped trying to ma#e the daily la(our a means to a
certain end8!
-or e,ample$ 3 need this &lm to (e a (o, oce success$ 3 need my
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performance to (e ac#nowledged$ 3 need the respect of my peers!
%ll reasona(le aspirations (ut truth is$ as soon as the wor#$ the ma#ing
of the movie$ the doing of the deed (ecame the reward in itself // 3 got
more (o,/oce$ more accolades and respect than 3d ever had (efore!
=ee$ :oy is always in process$ under construction // its in the
constant approach$ alive and well //in the doing of what we are
fashioned to do and en:oying doing it!
*D!**4e&ne success for yourself*
3 went to a voodoo shop south of 9ew Orleans a few years (ac# // they
had vials of 6magic6 potions stac#ed in columns with headings a(ove each
de&ning what they would give you // fertility$ health$ family$ legal
help$ energy$ forgiveness$ money!
uess which column was empty8
Money!
ets admit it$ 6money6 is #ing today$ ma#es the world go round! Money
is successE the more we have$ the more 6successful6 we are$ right8
3d argue that our cultural values have even (een &nancialised //
humility is not in vogue any more$ its too passive! 3ts a get rich
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@uic# on the internet$ 15 minutes of fame world we live in!
'e see it every day!
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ife is not a popularity contest!
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3 gotta ta#e the tally!
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night$ putting me in more scenes which led to more lines all of which 3
happily said Aes to!
3 was having a (last!
Beople said 3 was good at it$ they were writing me a chec# for K.25 a day!
3 mean hell yeah$ give me more scenes$ 3 love what 3 am doing77
%nd (y the end of the shoot those three lines had turned into over three
wee#s wor# and 6it was 'oodersons L0 Chevelle we went to get %erosmith
tic#ets in!6
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e :ust 6li#es those high school girls cause he gets older and they stay
the same age!6
My point is$ 3 should not have (een in that scene$ i should have e,ited
screen left and never come (ac#!
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+hey gossip too much$ or theyre #ind of shady$ and they really arent
gonna (e there for you in a pinch8
Or how a(out that (ar we #eep going to that we always seem to have the
worst hangover from8
Or that computer screen that #eeps giving us an e,cuse not to get out of
the house and engage with the world and get some human interaction8
Or how a(out that food we #eep eating8
+astes so good going down (ut ma#es us feel li#e crap the ne,t wee# when
we feel lethargic and #eep putting on weight8
+hose people$ those places$ those things // stop giving them your time
and energy!
4ont go there$ put them down // and when you do @uit giving them your
time$ you inadvertently &nd yourself spending more time and in more
places that are more healthy for you$ that (ring you more :oy // why8
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=o get rid of the e,cess$ the wasted time$ decrease your options and
you will have accidentally$ almost innocently$ put in front of you$ what
is important to you (y process of elimination!
Fnowing who we are is hard!
ive yourself a (rea#!
"liminate who you are not &rst$ and youll &nd yourself where you need
to (e!
*!**4ont leave crum(s* // *and the (eauty of delayed grati&catio**n*
'hat are crum(s8 +he crum(s 3m tal#ing a(out are the choice= we ma#e
that ma#e us have to loo# over our shoulder in the future!
Aou didnt pay that guy (ac# the money you owed him and tonight you :ust
saw him sitting three rows (ehind youshit
Aou slept around on your spouse and you :ust found out that tomorrow$
she and the lady youre having an a>air with$ are going to (e at the
same B+% meetingshit again
Aou dran# too much last night and youre too hungover to drive your son
to his N a!m! =aturday morning (ase(all practice!
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+hese are crum(s7
+hey come in the form of regret$ guilt$ and remorse // you leave em
today$ they will cause you more stress tomorrow$ and they disallow you
from creating a customized future in which you do not have to loo# over
your shoulder!
=olets ;ip the script! 3nstead of creating outcomes that ta#e from
us$ lets create more outcomes that pay us (ac#$ &ll us up$ #eep your
&re lit$ turn you on$ for the most amount of time in your future!
+hese are the choices 3 spea# of and this is the (eauty of delayed
grati&cation!
+ee yourself up! 4o yourself a favor! Ma#e the choices$ the purchase
today that pays you (ac# tomorrow! esiduals! 3n my (usiness$ its
called 6mail(o, money!6 3 do my :o( well today$ 3 get chec#s in the
mail(o, &ve years from now // hec# of a deal!
=o$ whether its prepping the co>ee ma#er the night (efore so all you
gotta do is press the (utton in the morning$ or getting ready for the
:o( interview early so you dont have to cram the night (efore$ or
choosing not to hoo# up with that married woman (ecause you #now youll
feel horri(le a(out it tomorrow Gand her hus(and carries a gunH$ or
paying your de(ts on time so when you do see that guy three rows (ac#
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tonight // you dont have to hun#er down in your seat hoping he dont
see you!
et some !O!3 // eturn On 3nvestment // Aour investment! Aou! Aou
customise your future!
4O9+ "%" CUM
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appreciating the simple things we sometimes ta#e for granted!
'e give than#s for these things and that gratitude reciprocates$
creating more to (e than#ful for! 3ts simple$ and it wor#s!
3m not saying (e in denial of your failures! 9o$ we can learn from them
too$ (ut only if we loo# at them constructively!
%s a means to reveal what we are good at$ what we can get (etter at$
what we do succeed at!
3ve read a lot of my (ad reviews$ and the good 6(ad reviews$6 written
(y the more talented critics$ are constructive!
+hey reveal to me what did translate in my wor#$ what came across$ what
was seen$ or what wasnt! 3 dont o(sess on the unfavora(le aspect of
their review$ (ut 3 do see# what 3 can learn from it //
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:oy$ our honest pain$ our laughter$ our earned tearsets dissect that
and give than#s for those things and when we do that what happens8 'e
get (etter at themand have more to dissect!
*N!**Ma#e voluntary o(ligations*
Mom and dad teach us things as children!
+eachers$ mentors$ the government and laws all give us guidelines to
navigate life$ rules to a(ide (y in the name of accounta(ility!
3m not tal#ing a(out those o(ligations! 3m tal#ing a(out the ones we
ma#e with ourselves$ with our od$ with our own consciousness! 3m
tal#ing a(out the Aou versus Aou o(ligations! 'e have to have them!
%gain$ these are not societal laws and e,pectations that we ac#nowledge
and endow for anyone other than ourselves! +hese are faith (ased
o(ligations that we ma#e on our own!
9ot the lowered insurance rate for a good driving record$ you will not
(e &ned or put in :ail if you do not gratify the o(ligations 3 spea# of
// no one else governs these (ut you!
+heyre secrets with yourself$ private council$ personal protocols$ and
while no(ody throws you a party when you a(ide (y them$ no one will
arrest you when you (rea# them either! ",cept yourself! Or$ some cops
who got a 6distur(ing the peace6 call at 2).0 in the morning (ecause you
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were playing (ongos in your (irthday suit!
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=o$ 3ve got a friend over one -riday night and were having a good time
and 3m telling her a(out how happy 3 am with my set up!
+he house! +he maid! "specially$ the maid!
3m telling her$ 6she cleans the place after 3 go to wor#$ washes my
clothes$ the dishes$ puts fresh water (y my (ed$ leaves me coo#ed meals
sometimes$ and she even presses my :eans76
My friend$ she smiles at me$ happy for my genuine e,citement over this
6lu,ury service6 3m getting$ and she says$ 6'ellthats greatif you
li#e your :eans pressed!6
3 #ind of loo#ed at her$ #ind of stuttered without saying anything$ you
#now$ that dum( ass loo# you can get$ and it hit me
3 hate that line going down my :eans7
%nd it was then$ for the &rst time$ that 3 noticed3ve never thought
a(out not li#ing that starched line down the front of my :eans77
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something!
?ust (ecause you can8 9ah
3ts not a good enough reason to do something! "ven when it means having
more$ (e discerning$ choose it$ (ecause you want it$ do it (ecause you
want to!
3ve never had my :eans pressed since!
*10!**% roof is a man made thing*
?anuary .$ 1II.! 9- playo>s!
Aour ouston Oilers vs! alo
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May(e they started thin#ing a(out the ne,t opponent at halftime$ played
on their heels$ lost the mental edge the entire second half and voila$
they lost!
3n a mere two @uarters defensive coordinator ?im "ddy went from (eing
called 4C Of +he Aear and 6the man &rst in line to (e a C ne,t year6
to a man without a :o( in the 9-!
Aou ever cho#ed8
Aou #now what 3 mean$ fum(led at the goal line$ stuc# your foot in your
mouth once you got the microphone$ had a (rain freeze on the e,am you
were totally prepared for$ forgot the punch line to a :o#e in front of
four thousand graduating students at a University of ouston
Commencement speech8
Or may(e youve had that feeling of 6Oh my od$ life cant get any
(etter$ do 3 deserve this86
'hat happens when we get that feeling8
'e tense up$ we have this outer (ody e,perience where we are literally
seeing our self in the third person!
'e realise that the moment :ust got (igger than us! Aou ever felt that
way8 3 have!
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3ts (ecause we have created a &ctitious ceiling$ a roof$ to our
e,pectations of ourselves$ a limit // where we thin# its all too good
to (e true!
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'hen we do this$ the race is never over! +he :ourney has no port! +he
adventure never ends (ecause we are always on our way!
4o this$ and let them tap us on the shoulder and say$ 6hey$ you scored!6
et them tell you 6Aou won!6
et them come tell you$ 6you can go home now!6 et them say 63 love you
too!6 et them say 6than# you!6
+a#e the lid o> the man made roofs we put a(ove ourselves and always
play li#e an underdog!
*11!**+urn the page*
+he late and great University of +e,as foot(all coach 4aryl oyal was a
friend of mine and a good friend to many!
% lot of people loo#ed up to him!
One was a musician named 6arry!6 9ow at this time in his life arry was
in the prime of his country music career$ had V1 hits and his life was
rollin!
e had pic#ed up a ha(it snortin 6the white stu>6 somewhere along the
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line and at one particular party after a 6(athroom (rea#$6 arry went
con&dently up to his mentor 4aryl and he started telling Coach a story!
Coach listened as he always had and when arry &nished his story and
was a(out to wal# away$ Coach oyal put a gentle hand on his shoulder
and very discreetly said$ 6arry$ you got something on your nose there (ud!6
arry immediately hurried to the (athroom mirror where he saw some white
powder he hadnt cleaned o> his nose! e was ashamed! e was em(arrassed!
%s much (ecause he felt so disrespectful to Coach oyal$ and as much
(ecause hed o(viously gotten too comforta(le with the drug to even hide
as well as he should!
'ell$ the ne,t day arry went to coachs house$ rang the door(ell$ Coach
answered and he said$ 6Coach$ 3 need to tal# to you!6 4aryl said$ 6sure$
cmon in!6
arry confessed! e purged his sins to Coach!
e told him how em(arrassed he was$ and how hes 6lost his way6 in the
midst of all the fame and fortune and towards the end of an hour$ arry$
in tears$ as#ed Coach$ 6'hat do you thin# 3 should do86
9ow$ Coach$ (eing a man of few words$ :ust loo#ed at him and calmly
confessed himself!
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e said$ 6arry$ 3 have never had any trou(le turning the page in the
(oo# of my life!6
arry got so(er that day and he has (een for the last D0 years!
Aou ever get in a rut8 =tuc# on the merry/go/round of a (ad ha(it8 3 have!
Aou are going to ma#e mista#es // own them$ ma#e amends$ and move on!
uilt and regret #ills many a man (efore their time! +urn the page$ get
o> the ride!
Aou are the author of the (oo# of your life! +urn the page!
*12!**ive your o(stacles credit*
Aou #now these 9o -ear t/shirts8 3 dont get em!
ell$ 3 try to scare myself at least once a day! 3 get (utter;ies every
morning (efore 3 go to wor#!
3 was nervous (efore 3 got here to spea# tonight! 3 thin# fear is a good
thing!
'hy8
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=ay your o(stacle is fear of re:ection! Aou want to as# her out (ut you
fear she may say 6no!6
Aou want to as# for that promotion (ut youre scared your (oss will
thin# youre overstepping your (ounds!
'ell$ instead of denying these fears$ declare them$ say them out loud$
admit them$ give them the credit they deserve!
4ont get all macho and act li#e theyre no (ig deal$ and dont get
paralysed (y denying they e,ist and therefore a(andoning your need to
overcome them!
3 mean$ 3d su(scri(e to the (elief that were all destined to have to
do the thing we fear the most anyway!
=o$ you give your o(stacles credit and you will one! -ind the courage to
overcome them or see clearly that they are not really worth prevailing over!
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'ell$ when did 1. get the (ad rap and (ecome the mongrel of numerology8
+hirteens never done me wrong!
3n fact$ 1. has (een a pretty luc#y num(er for me$ lemme tell you how)
3ve always ta#en these 21 day trips (y myself to far o> places where 3
usually dont #now the language and no(ody #nows my name! +heyre
adventures and theyre a purge$ a cleanse for me!
i#e a 21/day fast from attention$ from all the things 3 have in my well
appointed life! +heyre a chec# out$ so 3 can chec# in with myself!
=ee how 3m doing$ (e forced to (e my own and only company$ to have a
loo# in my mirror! and you #now what can happen when we do that //
sometimes we dont li#e what we see!
3n 1II$ right after 3 got 6famous6 from a &lm called J% +ime to FillJ$
3 headed out on one of these 21/day wal#a(outs // this time to the
:ungles and mountains of Beru!
+he sudden fame 3d :ust gotten was somewhat un(alancing! My face was
everywhere$ everyone wanted a piece of me$ people 3d never met were
swearing they 6loved me6 // everywhere 3 went$ there 3 was$ on a
(ill(oard$ a magazine cover!
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3t was :ust weird! 'hat was this all a(out8
'hat was reality and what was (ullshit8 4id 3 deserve all this86 were
all @uestions 3 was as#ing myself!
6'ho was 386 was another!
9ow$ theres always an initiation period with these trips! %n amount of
time that it ta#es for the place to initiate the traveller!
+he time it ta#es to disconnect from the world we left$ and (ecome
completely present in the one we are travelling in
-or me$ that initiation period usually last a(out thirteen days! Aes!
+hirteen hellish days until 3m out of my own way! %fter that$ the trip
is smooth sailing!
'ell$ it was the night of the twelfth day of my 21/day trip!
3 was settling into camp$ 3d already hi#ed N0 miles to this point and
had a three/day tre# to Machu Bichu ahead of me!
3 was sic# of myself! 'restling with the loss of my anonymity$ guilt
ridden for sins of my past$ full of regret! 3 was lonely // disgusted
with the company 3 was #eeping my own // and doing a pretty good :o( of
mentally (eating the shit out of myself!
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rappling with the demons on this night$ 3 couldnt sleep!
%ll of these (adges and (anners and e,pectations and an,ieties 3 was
carrying with me! 3 needed to free myself from them
'ho was 38 3 as#ed myself! 9ot only on this trip (ut in this life!
=o 3 stripped down to nothing!
3 too# o> every moni#er that gave me pride and con&dence$ all the
window dressings$ the pac#aging around my product GheartH!
3 discarded my luc#y and faithful %merican cap$ stripped o> my
talismans from adventures past! 3 even discarded my late fathers gold
ring he gave to me that was made from a meltdown of he and my moms
class rings and gold from one of her teeth!
3 was na#ed! iterally and &guratively! %nd 3 got sic#!
=oa#ed in sweat$ 3 threw up until there was no (ile left in my (elly$
and &nally passed out from e,haustion!
% few hours later$ 3 awo#e on this thirteenth morning to a rising sun!
=urprisingly fresh and energised$ 3 dressed$ made some tea and went for
a morning wal#!
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9ot towards my destination Machu Bichu (ut rather to nowhere in particular!
My gut was still a (it pi@ued from last nights purge$ yet 3 curiously
felt pretty good) alive$ clean$ free$ light!
%long a muddy path on this wal#$ 3 turned a corner and there in the
middle of the road was a mirage of the most magni¢ pin#s and (lues
and red colours 3 had ever seen!
3t was electric$ glowing and vi(rant$ hovering :ust o> the surface$ as
if it was plugged in to some neon power plant!
3 stopped! 3 stared! +here was no way around it) +he :ungle ;oor in
front of me was actually thousands of (utter;ies! +here$ in my path! 3t
was spectacular!
3 stayed awhile$ and somewhere in my captivation$ 3 heard this little
voice inside my head say these words$ 6%ll 3 want is what 3 can see$ and
what 3 can see$ is in front of me!6
%t that moment$ for the &rst time on this trip$ 3 had stopped
anticipating what was around the corner$ stopped thin#ing a(out what was
coming up ne,t and what was up ahead! +ime slowed down! 3 was no longer
in a rush to get anywhere! My an,ieties were eased!
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% few hours later 3 returned to camp and pac#ed for my continued :ourney
onto Machu Bichu! 3 had a (ounce in my step$ new energy! +he local
=herpas 3 was travelling with even noticed$ calling out to me$ 6sois luz
Mateo$ sois luz7776 // meaning 6you are light6 in =panish!
Aou see$ 3 forgave myself that morning! 3 let go of the guilt$ the
weight on my shoulders lifted$ my penance paid$ and 3 got (ac# in good
graces with od!
3 shoo# hands with myself$ my (est friend$ the one were all stuc# with
anyway!
-rom that morning on$ the adventure was awesome!
3 was present$ out of my own way$ not anticipating ne,t$ em(racing only
what was in front of my eyes$ and giving everything the :ustice it deserved!
Aou see$ 3 crossed a truth that morning!
4id 3 &nd it8 3 dont #now$ 3 thin# it found me! 'hy8
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3 (elieve the truth is all around us$ all the time!
+he answer$ you #now$ its always right there!
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!having the patience to internalise it // and get it from our
intellectual head and into our (ones and soul and our instinct! 'e cant
rush this part$ it ta#es time!
%nd if we get that far! 'e received it$ we personalised it$ we
internalized it! 3f we ma#e it that far$ then comes the (iggie !
aving the courage to act on it! +o actually ta#e it into our daily
lives and practice it$ to ma#e it an active part of who we are and live it!
3f we can do that$ then we have what 3 (elieve is eaven on "arth!
+he place where what we want is also :ust what we need! 3 mean thats
the tic#et isnt it778 +hats where 3 want to live77
=o while were here$ lets ma#e it a place where we (rea# a sweat$ where
we (elieve$ where we en:oy the process of succeeding in the places and
ways we are fashioned to!
'here we dont have to loo# over our shoulder (ecause we are too (usy
doing what were good at! oluntarily #eeping our own council (ecause we
want to!
+ravelling towards immortal &nish lines! 'e write our (oo#! Overcome
our fears! 'e ma#e friends with ourselves!
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+hat is the place 3m tal#ing a(out!
+han# you$ good luc# and :ust #eep living!