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Personality Growth and
Maturity
Being Ready for Marriage
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Being Ready for Marriage Psycho–Social Readiness
Personality Growth and Christian Maturity
The Need for Christian Maturity
Personality and Its Influence
Growing towards Christian Maturity:
Deterrents
Maintaining and Improving Christian Maturity
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Personality The characteristic pattern of thoughts, feelings
and behavior that make a person unique.
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Personal growth A process that produces change and progress.
And it starts from within you.
Personal development will happen when onemakes:
a firm decision to understand oneself,
improve one’s awareness,
work on one’s attitude,
believe in oneself and one’s potential,
developing skills, and goals.
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Maturity The stage of growing up that is reached when a
person sufficiently develops powers of the body and
mind to understand what he/she wants. Maturity is having the capacity to become a
productive and contributor to society, with the
process of becoming more, deliberate, and decisive;
More considerate and charitable in traitsencompassed by higher levels of emotional stability,
consciousness, and agreeableness
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The Need for Christian Maturity A man and woman in marriage are not simply
two human persons relating to and loving
each other. It is a Christian man and a Christian woman
loving each other as Christ loves them.
It requires one to improve one’s personality in
terms of maturity; To look to Christ and His grace in loving
relationship with Him.
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Predisposing Factor that Shape
Personality: Influences
Heredity = genetic inheritance makes person
distinct
Environment = conditioned by the people
Education = opportunity to acquire right
knowledge & influence
Sanctifying Grace = the gratuitous gift ofGod’s life to us, infused by the Holy Spirit.
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Characteristics of a Christian Mature
Person
Flexibility – quality of being adaptable to a newsituation
Responsible – reliable and independent of his actionsand decisions in life; competent, decisive, facesconsequences, also penitent
Fidelity – faithfulness, true to one’s promise or
commitment or obligation Prayerful and humble – always in communication
with God
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Characteristics of a Christian Mature
Person
Full of Christian hope: looks at the brighter side ofthe future; exerts effort for excellence but leaves the
rest to God's mercy. Morally upright: prudent, self-disciplined, just and
courageous
Loving: forgiving, compassionate, respectful, helpful
Self-sacrificing: patient, perseveres in doing good
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Maintaining Improving Christian
Maturity To be vigilant in maintaining one’s responsible-
mindedness and ability to act correctly. This willmaintain and also strengthen a mature Christian
personality. Human virtues acquired by education, deliberate acts
and by perseverance are purified and elevated bydivine grace.
Everyone should ask for grace and strength, frequentthe sacraments, docile to the Holy Spirit, and followhis calls to love what is good and reject evil (CCC1811).
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Lesson 2: The Total Man, The Total
Woman (pp.122-126) Sex and sex-related matters are discussed openly due
to print and media
Misinformation and misinterpretation led tocorruption of morals
Women’s revolution of the 60’s; women
emancipation 70’s; Scourge of AIDS
Sexuality: vital role in formation of personal identity
Sexuality: affecting many if not all
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Lesson 2: The Total Man, The Total
Woman (pp.122-126)
God’s Design for Human Sexuality
Bible: not detailed teaching especially in its
scientific aspect
Gives origin, purpose and final end of sexual
nature
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Lesson 2: The Total Man, The Total
Woman (pp.122-126)
God’s Design for Human Sexuality: Maleness &
Femaleness
Gen. 1:27 – Imago Dei
Gen. 1:28 – “Be fruitful…”
Gen. 5:1-2 – “Male and Female He created…”
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Lesson 2: The Total Man, The Total
Woman (pp.122-126)
The tremendous impact of our sexuality that
there arises a great need to find its proper place and meaning in our lives.
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Lesson 2: The Total Man, The Total
Woman (pp.122-125)
God’s Design for Human Sexuality: Original
Solitude
“It is not good for the man to be alone, I will
make him a helpmate,”
Gen. 2:18-20
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Lesson 2: The Total Man, The Total
Woman (pp.122-126)God’s Design for Human Sexuality: Original
Solitude
Observations by PJP II -Understanding that he is unique
Exclusive relationship with God
Does not completely fulfill himself: fundamentaldeficient
All generations proceed from this occasion
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Lesson 2: The Total Man, The Total
Woman (pp.122-126)God’s Design for Human Sexuality: Original
Solitude
The union of man and woman in marriage is away of imitating in the flesh the Creator’s
generosity and fecundity.
All generations proceed from this occasion.It is through sexuality that we can assist in
God’s power to love and to create.
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Lesson 2: The Total Man, The Total
Woman (pp.122-126)God’s Design for Human Sexuality: Creation of
Woman
Gen. 2:21-24
The woman is an aid to the humanity of man.
She completes it, fulfills it and creates in a special way.
Woman fulfills the creation of a human person.
Gen.2:24
The summit of the whole account of creation: Man andwoman are made for an intimate communion of
persons in reciprocity
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God’s Design for Human Sexuality:
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What is Sex? Not exclusively biological = generation
Immediate aim: genital activity
Real purpose is being missed: procreation and
education of children;
Act of having/engaging in sexual activity
Other ways of describing
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S…E…X Totality of one’s personality, that gives distinction;
That makes man as man, woman as woman;
Mode of relating to other human being;
Being with other sexual being: interrelate, communicate andcommune;
Capacity to form a stable relationship
Integration of somatic, emotional, intellectual and socialaspects (WHO)
Determinant of human personality
Sexual expression is communicative
Cannot be separated from love: maturity
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Sex Education: Is there a need? To attain maximum fulfillment in attainment of
infinite good through knowledge and love and moral
behavior Determination of one’s sexual role
SIECUS
Far beyond the facts on reproduction
Parents questioned the recent need for sex education
Sex education aims to develop men and women
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SIECUS Instruction to strengthen family life;
Increase self-understanding & respect;
Develop capacities for wholesome human
relationship;
Build sexual and social responsibility and
Enhance competency for responsiblecourtship, marriage and parenthood.
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Role of Parents First educators especially during childhood and
adolescence
To counteract unhealthy influences thatcontaminated sex education
Prevent imparting sex information dissociated frommoral principles.
PAREF: individualized formation with moralexplanation; chastity and sexuality understood in thecontext of love; provide information with care,clarity and propriety
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Male-Female Differences Awareness for better understanding and
acceptance of opposite sex
Male and female differ in their ways ofthinking, feeling and acting but not absolute
Maleness or femaleness is a matter of
predominance of attributes Differences reveal God’s plan for marriage
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Male-Female Differences: Identify
More intuitiveMore logical
More religiousLess religious
Learn sex through loveLearn love through sex
More idealisticMore realistic
Live longer Shorter life span
More patience, enduranceLess patience, endurance
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Sex Attraction Natural attraction that complements male and
female
Classification: General Sex Attraction: intriguing interest
towards opposite sex
Personal Sex Attraction: plays a role in God’s
plan of marriage
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Sexual Ethics Man is a sexual being but also a moral being
Sex is a divine gift
Sacred function
In marriage, it is given in unique expression
of union that is associated in God’s creativity.
Anything that contradicts this sacred reality ofsex involves an essential degradation
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Sexual Ethics:
When giving in to their animal instinct,
They become more like animals;
Less able to respect one another as persons;
One sees the other as an object
Respect becomes meaningless &
impossible
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Sexual Ethics:
What act is Permissible or Not? Human being is a moral agent.
Active participant in moral development
A responsible being
Knows how to relate
How he/she should become
Knows how to act
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Sexual Ethics:
What act is Permissible or Not? Declaration on Some Questions of Sexual
Ethics upholds Judeo Christian Morality
Sex is morally acceptable only in marriage To procreate
Raise children in a stable family
Sexual expressions outside marriage are immoral
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Sexual Ethics:
Sexual Expressions Outside Marriage Pre-Marital sex –
Sex before marriage
Living together
Having an affair
Declaration on Sexual Ethics:
Not lawful
Contrary to Christian Doctrine:
No indissoluble union demanded by the Lord
Sexual Intercourse outside marriage is formallycondemned (1Cor. 5:1; 6:9: Eph 5:5; 1Tim 1:10)
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Sexual Ethics:
Education in and for Chastity The authentic sex education is education for
chastity
6th Beatitudes: “The pure of heart shall seeGod”
CCC: Chastity = the successful integration of
sexuality within the person and the inner unityof man in his bodily and spiritual being.
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Integrity of Person: 6th Commandment The chaste maintains the integrity of life and love
placed in him.
Chastity is self-mastery; training in human freedom;governing his passion; choosing good
Comes under the cardinal virtue of temperance
Has laws of growth which progress through stages
Personal task; also cultural effort
Moral virtue: a gift from God, grace, fruit of spiritualeffort
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Integrality of the Gift of Self Chastity influenced by charity appears as a
school of the gift of the person
A practice to become a witness to hisneighbor of God’s fidelity and loving
kindness
Chastity blossoms in friendship with one’sneighbor and leads to spiritual communion.
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Various Forms of Chastity Who are called to live a chaste life?
All the Baptized. All Christ’s faithful are called tolive a chaste life.
Consecrated celibacy to give themselves to Godwith undivided heart
As prescribed by the moral law
Single
Married are called to conjugal chastity
Those who are engaged to marry. “Reserve”
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Offenses Against Chastity Lust: inordinate desire for sexual pleasure
Masturbation: deliberate stimulation
Fornication: carnal union of 2 unmarried
Pornography: removing real sexual acts
Prostitution: “sex for hire’
Rape: forcible violation of another person
Homosexuality: sexual attraction of same sex
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9th Commandment Forbids all malicious and evil thoughts that are
impure.
Warns against lust or carnal concupiscence. Demands Purification of the Heart: prayer, practice
of chastity, purity of intention and vision.
Purity of heart requires: modesty; patience, decency
and discretion Purity of heart enables us to see God; see things
according to God.
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Catholic: 10 Commandments I. I am the Lord your
God: you shall not havestrange gods before me.You shall not make foryourself a graven image.
II. You shall not take thename of the Lord yourGod in vain.
III. Remember to keepholy the Lord's Day.
IV. Honor your fatherand mother.
V. You shall not kill.
VI. You shall not commitadultery.
VII. You shall not steal
VIII. You shall not bearfalse witness againstyour neighbor.
IX. You shall not covetyour neighbor's wife.
X. You shall not covetyour neighbor's goods
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