Bullying verses

Bullying Verses?

Tough Boss v. Bullying

Harassment v. Bullying

Discrimination v. Bullying

Tough Boss

Challenges employees to think beyond their current

capabilities, to go beyond what they thought they could do.

(womenofhr.com/bully-boss-or-tough-boss.com)

Harassment

The act of systematic and/or continued unwanted and annoying

actions of one party or a group, including threats and demands.

The purposes may vary, including racial prejudice, personal malice, an attempt to force someone to quit a job or grant sexual favors, apply illegal pressure to collect a bill, or

merely gain sadistic pleasure from making someone fearful or anxious.

(legal-dictionary.com)

Discrimination

Unequal treatment of persons, for a reason which has nothing to do

with legal rights or ability.

Federal and state laws prohibit discrimination in employment, availability of housing, rates of pay, right to promotion, educational opportunity, civil rights, and use of facilities based on race, nationality, creed,

color, age, sex, or sexual orientation.

(legal-dictionary.com)

Group Activity




Bullying v.Tough Boss

HarassmentDiscrimination

1. Identify 3 Characteristics

2. Identify 3 Opposing Characteristics

3. Why

What's the Difference?

Clear an direct in their decisions

Examples

Inconsistent in their decisions

Tough Bossverse

Bullying

Discriminationverses

Harassment verses

Bullying

Bullying

Targets a person because of their race

Targets a person because of their abilities

Judges someone because of their race

Judges someone because of their characteristics

1. Identify 3 Characteristics

2. Identify 3 Opposing Characteristics

3. Why



Discrimination v.

Bullying

Group Activity

• Decisive• Appreciation of short, medium

and long term needs, goals and strategy

• Accepts responsibility• Shares credit• Acknowledges failings• Learns from experience and

applies knowledge gained from experience

• Goal is to improve business, communication, language and interpersonal skills

• Consistent


Tough Management Bullying

• Random, Impulsive• Rigidly short term• Abdicates responsibility• Plagiarizes, takes all the credit• Denies failings, always blames

others• Has a learning blindness, cannot

apply knowledge gained from experience

• Using knowledge gained to be devious, manipulative, and how to better evade accountability

• Inconsistent, always critical, singles people out, shows favoritism

• Fair, treats all equally• Respectful and considerate• Seeks and retains people more

knowledgeable and experienced than self

• Values others• Includes everyone• Leads by example• Truthful• Confident• Behaviorally mature• Has difficult conversations• Addresses poor performance

immediately


Tough Boss Bullying

• Disrespectful and inconsiderate• Unable to value, constantly

devalues others• Includes and excludes people

selectively• Dominates, sets a poor example• Economical, uses distortion and

fabrication


Harassment Bullying

• Has a strong physical component, i.e. contact and touch in all its forms, intrusion into personal space, possessions, damage to possessions including a person's work, etc.

• Tends to focus on the individual because of what they are (female, black, disabled, etc.)

• Harassment is usually linked to sex, race, prejudice, discrimination, etc.

• Harassment may consist of a single incident or a few incidents or many incidents

• The person who is being harassed knows almost raight away they are being harassed

• Harassment is often domination for superiority

• The harasser often lacks self-discipline• The harasser often has specific

inadequacies, i.e. sexual

• Almost exclusively psychological• Anyone will do, especially if they are

competent, popular and vulnerable• Sex, race and gender play little part;

it's usually discrimination on the basis of competence

• Rarely a single incident and tends to be an accumulation of many small incidents, each of which, when taken in isolation and out of context, seems trivial

• The person being bullied may not realize they are being bullied for weeks or months - until there's a moment of enlightenment

• Bullying is for control of threat (of exposure of the bully's own inadequacy)

• The bully is driven by envy (of abilities) and jealousy (of relationships)

• The bully is inadequate in all areas of interpersonal and behavioral skills


Harassment Bullying

• Few people recognize bullying• Workplace bullying tends to fixate on

trivial criticisms and false allegations of underperformance; offensive words rarely appear, although swear words may be used when there are no witnesses

• Phase 1 of bullying is control and subjugation; when this fails, phase 2 is elimination of the target

• Often the harassment is for peer approval, bravado, macho image etc.

• The harasser often perceives their target as easy, albeit sometimes a challenge

• The focus is on competence (envy) and popularity (jealousy)

• The bullying takes place mostly at work

• Everyone can recognize harassment, especially if there's an assault, indecent assault or sexual assault

• Harassment often reveals itself through use of recognized offensive vocabulary

• There's often an element of possession, i.e. stalking

• Tends to be secret behind closed doors with no witnesses

• The harassment almost always has a strong clear focus (i.e. sex, race, disability)

• Harassment takes place both in and out of work


Discrimination Bullying

• Judging somebody by their race, ethnicity, color, religion, age, gender, disability or sexual orientation

• Making a decision that has an adverse effect on a person due to race, color, religion, age, gender, disability or sexual orientation

• Taking negative actions toward someone because of their attributes, i.e. pregnancy, disability, etc.

• Treats a person poorly because of their characteristics

• Decide not to make a workplace accommodation due to your disability (i.e. wheelchair access to office)

• The judgment rests on power and control of an individual, typically not race, ethnicity, color, religion, age, gender, disability or sexual orientation

• Taking negative actions towards a person based on weakness

• Tends to target people who most likely will not take action towards them

• Taking negative actions towards a person because they are different then them

• Competence is a factor on targeting the victim

Education

Bullying verses