Good manners around the world

GOOD MANNERS AROUND THE WORLD

Nazaru C., University Lecturer

WHAT ARE MANNERS? Manners are the ways people speak

and behave that a particular society consider appropriate.

In our society, having manners is considered to be the same thing as having good manners, though there are also bad manners, but those are only mentioned when someone violates what is considered good manners.

WHY ARE MANNERS IMPORTANT? Manners are a form of showing love for

your neighbors. Polite people are well liked and respected by others. They are given more opportunities. Impolite people are disliked and are open for teasing by others. They also will have less self-confidence.

Good manners are just good human relations. Being polite is right, it makes people feel cared about and important.

MANNERS AROUND THE WORLD

Manners around the world starts with respect for

differences.

Not all cultures are the same. Generally speaking, you can be yourself as long as you remain friendly and courteous. Always keep in mind that you are the guest in someone else's country.

WHO HAVE THE BEST MANNERS? It is probably unfair to attribute good or

bad manners to an entire country of people as if we can in some way assume that all inhabitants of a country are the same when it comes to qualities and traits. To say that Australians, for example, are ill-mannered would be as offensive as it would be naïve to say that all British are well-mannered.

In every country of the world, you will find a combination of both.

WHAT ARE WE GOING TO DO TODAY?

Remember table manners and dining etiquette;

Discover out how not to behave badly abroad;

Try to improve our modern manners; Look at some differences between

different cultures Find out how to insure promptness;

TABLE MANNERS There are big differences between

cultures when it comes to eating. Whether they eat with their hands,

always with the right hand, no matter where, whether they eat with chopsticks, whether they eat with just a spoon. Utensils, the foods that they eat, the foods that are taboo.

WHICH TABLE MANNERS MATTER MOST

Under TO DO write two ways of behaving you think everyone should follow. Under NOT TO DO, write two things no one should ever do.

TO DO __________ __________

NOT TO DO __________ __________

Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you have that awareness, you have good manners, no matter which fork you use.

Wash your hands before sitting down. Leave toys, books, and pets behind. When you sit down, place the napkin in your lap. Sit up straight and don't slouch. Ask politely for dishes to be passed. Never reach across the table. Wait until everyone is seated and served before starting to eat. Keep your elbows off table. Never chew with your mouth open. Never talk with a mouth full of food. Use utensils quietly without banging them on the table or plate.

You should place your knife softly on the edge of the plate when not in use.

Slice butter from the butter dish and place it on your butter plate or other plate. The butter knife should stay with the butter dish.

Never wave or throw utensils. Keep your knife out of your mouth. Never play with your food. Never grab food from other people's plates. Ask politely for seconds if you want them. Ask to be excused from the table. Clear your plate from the table and take it into the kitchen.

Remember, good manners are important and make meals more enjoyable. You will be proud if you learn these rules at home. Then when you go out to eat, they will be a habit.

BABIES HAVE AN EXCUSE, WE DON’T

IDEAS FOR MANNERS QUESTIONNAIRES Pair work. Would you ever do these

things in your country? Tick (۷) Yes, Maybe, or No. Then discuss with a partner

Join another pair. Compare your answers. Which answers are same ? different?

In your country would you ever…? Yes Maybe No

visit someone’s home without an invitationuse a handkerchief to dry or clean your handscall your boss by his/her first nameask for a “doggy bag” to take food home from a restaurant arrive late for a partyuse a cell phone in a restauranteat in the street

WHAT WOULD YOU DO IN YOUR COUNTRY?

1. You’re in a clothing store shopping for jeans. The price on the tag is a bit high. What would you do?

a. ask for a discount if you pay cashb. pay the amount on the price tagc. ask if the price on the tag is correctd. bargain for a lower pricee. none of the above 2. Some tourists ask if they can take a photo

of you. How would you feel?a. flatteredb. annoyedc. embarrassedd. amusede. none of the above.

3. You’re at the bus stop/on a platform. The bus/train arrives, but it’s full. What would you do?

a. wait patiently until it’s your turn to get onb. let the people behind you push you inc. push to make sure you get ond. wait for the next one, hoping it will be less fulle. none of the above

4. You’re walking in a city park with you boyfriend/girlfriend. What would you do?

a. hold handsb. walk arm in armc. walk close but not touchingd. walk far aparte. none of the above 5. You and three friends take a taxi home

after midnight. How much would you give the driver as a tip?

a. nothingb. small changec. 10% of the fared. 15% of the faree. none of the above 6. You’re in a restaurant with two friends.

The bill arrives. Who would normally pay?a. the person who invited the othersb. each person would pay only his/her sharec. the person with the most moneyd. the bill would be divided equallye. none of the above

B. JOIN ANOTHER PAIR. Compare your answers. Then discuss these questions

What would most people in your country do in these situations?

Have you ever been in similarsituations? What happened?

Think of a foreign country you’ve been to or would like to visit. Would your answers be different if you were in that country?

A WORLD GUIDE TO GOOD MANNERS How to behave abroad? How not to behave badly abroad?

Look through the worksheets from New Headway Intermediate Students’

Book

TRUE /FALSE.

Work in groups of three. One of you should look at Sheet 1, one at Sheet 2 and one at Sheet 3. Give one another a quiz about customs and behaviour.

Are these statements about customs and behaviour true or false. Take turns reading them to your classmates. Have them guess.

1. In Korea , you should remove your shoes before entering a home 2. In Brazil people rarely exchange business cards 3. In Australia it’s the custom to wait in lines 4. In Italy you should begin eating before your cousin does

Student 1/task 1

1. In Japan it is common to write on business cards 2. In Argentina you should avoid talking about soccer 3. In Saudi Arabia you must only eat with your right hand 4. In Scotland eating on the streets is generally ok

1. In the US it is common to see men holding hands 2. In Taiwan always present gifts with both hands 3. In Peru good eye contact is important 4. In Egypt it is polite to eat everything on your plate

Student 2/task 2

Student 3/task 3

HOW WOULD YOU COPE AROUND THE WORLD ? Are the following statements true or false?

You should not give tips in India. In Japan you can’t vote until you are 19 In Holland friends are supposed to kiss

each other four times when saying hello and goodbye

You can drive as fast as you want in Germany

In the UK you must never turn your back on a picture of the queen

You should never give a clock as a gift in China

In Greece you should never call on somebody at about three in the afternoon

MODERN MANNERS Mobile phones

Have you ever…. lost your mobile? sent a text to the wrong person? forgotten to turn off your mobile

(with embarrassing consequences) ?

USING MOBILE PHONES IN PUBLIC

Look at the picture and answer the questions

What are the people doing? Does it annoy when people do this?

Does it happen a lot in your country?

What other things do people do with their mobiles that annoy you?

MODERN MANNERS (ENGLISH FILE, Intermediate student’s book)

Turn to the worksheets 3A

CULTURE SHOCK Look at the postcard. What does it say about the

English?

CULTURE SHOCK

Read Listen Speak

DON’T FORGET THE TIP

Don’t forget To Insure Promptness

Don’t forget the TIP

TIPPING• In many countries around the world, tipping

is anaccepted custom, something that you are

expectedto do. In some countries, such as Japan, tipping

isnot done.• Tipping comes from the phrase “to insurepromptness”, which is the supposed purpose oftipping.• Is tipping a good practice?

DISCUSS THE ANSWERS TO THESE QUESTIONS

In a restaurant how much of a tip do you usually leave?

Does tipping really ”insure promptness” as it was intended to do?

Have you ever deliberately not left a tip? Describe the circumstances

Why do we tip waiters but not flight attendants (who also serve food and drinks)

What professions do we usually tip?

Read a case involving a tip at a restaurant Maurice McParland, 31, was a waiter at a restaurant in London. One evening an incident involving a customer and the tip he left for McParland cost the latter his job. When the customer had finished dinner, McParland presented him with the bill for ₤ 42.75. the customer gave the waiter the amount of the bill plus a tip of ₤ 2.25. When the waiter saw that the tip was so little he handed the tipback to the customer and remarked, “I think you need this more than me.” The customer complained to the management, and for this action McParland was fired. McParland felt that he was fired unfairly. He said that the tip was “a bit of insult”. He claimed damages against the restaurant management of $ 1,800. The case went to an industrial tribunal, a special panel in Great Britain that hears employment grievances.

Answer the question and discuss your decisions and reasons.

If you were on the panel, would you make the restaurant pay?

Give two/three reasons for your decision.

Now see the decision of the tribunalThe industrial tribunal also found that

Mr.McParland was unfairly fired. However, the tribunal

ruled thatMr. McParland himself was partly

responsible for hisdismissal and reduced the amount of thecompensation by one third, to $1,350.

CALL MY CULTURAL BLUFF Work in groups, look at your worksheet; Brainstorm two incorrect answers for

each question. Invent reasons to support your statements;

Pair two different teams. 1. Read in turns the customs with three

possible answers. 2. The opposite team decides which is

correct and bet 1, 2, or 3 points 3. Keep points with correct answers

DO NOT FORGET

Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you have that awareness, you have good manners, no matter which fork you use.

"Englishman In New York“I don't drink coffee I take tea my dearI like my toast done on one sideAnd you can hear it in my accent when I talkI'm an Englishman in New York

See me walking down Fifth AvenueA walking cane here at my sideI take it everywhere I walkI'm an Englishman in New York

I'm an alien I'm a legal alienI'm an Englishman in New YorkI'm an alien I'm a legal alienI'm an Englishman in New York

If, "Manners maketh man" as someone saidThen he's the hero of the dayIt takes a man to suffer ignorance and smileBe yourself no matter what they say


Modesty, propriety can lead to notorietyYou could end up as the only oneGentleness, sobriety are rare in this societyAt night a candle's brighter than the sun

Takes more than combat gear to make a manTakes more than a license for a gunConfront your enemies, avoid them when you canA gentleman will walk but never run

If, "Manners maketh man" as someone saidThen he's the hero of the dayIt takes a man to suffer ignorance and smileBe yourself no matter what they say


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