The Effective Relationship in schoolsIAN HAYWOD JR.

Teacher + Student + Parent.

Why?It is most important that a teacher ensure that there is a healthy, and strong relationship between the parents of the students in his/her class.

The home is the first teacher, and therefore, there needs to be a cohesiveness in methodology between parent and teacher. (Graham-Clay, 2005)

Also, for continuous growth and development of the student, the teacher needs to be able to somewhat depend on the parent to ensure that goals and ideals are being met and realized throughout the period of responsibility.

The effective relationship between parent, teacher, and then student benefits all parties involved.

For the StudentThe teacher student relationship is very important for children. Children spend approximately 5 to 7 hours a day with a teacher for almost 10 months.

Substantial evidence exists showing that parent involvement benefits students, including raising their academic achievement. There are other advantages for children when parents become involved — namely, increased motivation for learning, improved behaviour, more regular attendance, and a more positive attitude about homework and school in general. King and Goodwin, 2002)

The relationship between the teacher and student must be transparent to all parties involved in the lives of both parties – especially the parent.

The relationship between the teacher and student must be strong enough that the teacher may maintain authority over the student as the leader in the classroom, but amicable enough that the student feels comfortable to express emotions, and lack of understanding in the classroom as well as socially.

For the ParentThe manner in which schools communicate and interact with parents affects the extent and quality of parents' home involvement with their children's learning.

◦ E.g. Schools that communicate bad news about student performance more often than recognizing students' excellence will discourage parent involvement by making parents feel they cannot effectively help their children.

Parents also benefit from being involved in their children's education by getting ideas from school on how to help and support their children, and by learning more about the school's academic program and how it works.

Perhaps most important, parents benefit by becoming more confident about the value of their school involvement.

Parents develop a greater appreciation for the important role they play in their children's education.

For the TeacherParental involvement can free teachers to focus more on the task of teaching children.

Also, by having more contact with parents, teachers learn more about students' needs and home environment, which is information they can apply toward better meeting those needs.

Parents who are involved tend to have a more positive view of teachers, which results in improved teacher morale.

By understanding the relationships a teacher has with his/her students, it assists the development of the lesson plan, and the maintenance of healthy classroom management. (Augustine et.al., 2009)

Tools for effective communicationParent- teacher conferences

Parent-teacher organizations or school community councils e.g. PTA

Weekly or monthly folders of student work sent home for parent review and comment

Phone calls or text messages

E-mail or website (Graham-Clay, 2005)

Communication strategiesParent newsletters

Annual open houses

Phone calls

Annual school calendars

Annual grandparents or "special persons" days

Board of Education spokesperson or communications officer at PTA meetings

Homework hotlines

Annual field days/trips

Website for the school

Workshops for parents

Communications that are focused on fathers as well as mothers. (Harvard Business Review, 2008)

And teachers, don’t forget…Smile When You See Parents

Learn Their Names

Communicate Often and in Various Forms

Lead with the Good News

Your Language is Powerful

Ask Questions about the Child.

Listen to Parents

Smile at the Child

Let Parents Know How They Can Help

Be Very Specific

Be a Broker of Resources

Explain Your Instructional Decisions

Invite Parents to Participate in Making Some Decisions

Thank Parents

Share Every Success

Invite Parents to Celebrate and Break Bread Together

Teacher + Teacher

For the schoolA school is not merely a building, it is what happens in that building every day that matters

Teachers and Administration are the ones responsible for encouraging and controlling what happens in a school daily. (Augustine et.al., 2009)

Collaboration between teachers is essential for the forward and upward movement of any educational institution, and therefore, teachers need to have a good relationship between each other. (Fuller, Waite, Miller, Irribarra, 2013)

For the TeacherEffective teacher to teacher communication is vitally essential to ones success as a teacher.

Education is an extremely difficult concept for those outside the field to understand, and having peers that you can collaborate with and lean on during tough times is essential.

The inner workings of each school tend to be very dynamic and different, and this is often regulated by the teachers – if you don’t know your colleagues, you don’t know your school. (Fuller, Waite, Miller, Irribarra, 2013)

Teachers in your school may have had experiences that can help you in your discourse for example:◦ Problem children

◦ Problem subject matter

◦ Problem parents

◦ Special needs children

◦ Cover during illness

For the studentIt is important for student discipline that teachers are united on all fronts – even if its just for appearance sake.

It is also important for student respect that teachers show one another respect – whether in the classroom or in interaction with each other. (Augustine et.al., 2009)

For academic success, there needs to be collaboration between teaching content and style in order for maximum student learning. (Fuller & Izu, 1986)

Things to remember…•Encourage and show kindness and humility•Be happy •Refuse to engage in gossip or hearsay•Let the water roll off your back•Collaborate with your peers•Watch what you say to people•If you make a promise, you better be prepared to keep it•Learn about others’ outside interests•Be open-minded•Understand that some peoples’ feelings are hurt easier than others•Don’t worry about accolades

Things to avoid…Do not talk about or discuss your co-workers with your students.

Do not engage in conversation or discuss your co-workers with a parent.

Do not talk about or discuss your co-worker with other co-workers.

Do not isolate yourself on a regular basis.

Avoid being confrontational or combative.

Avoid starting, spreading, or discussing gossip and hearsay about parents, students, and/or co-workers.

Avoid being critical of your co-workers.

ReferencesFuller, B., Waite, A., Miller, P., Torres Irribarra, D., (2013) Explaining Teacher Turnover –School Cohesion and

Intrinsic Motivation in Los Angeles. University of California, Berkeley.

Fuller, B., Izu, J. (1986) Explaining School Cohesion: What Shapes the Organizational Beliefs of Teachers?

American Journal of Education. 94(4 ). 501-535

Graham-Clay, Susan. (2005) Communicating with parents: Strategies for Teachers. School Community Journal,

15(1). 117-129

King , S. H. & Goodwin, A.L. (2002). Culturally Responsive Parental Involvement: Concrete Understandings and

Basic Strategies. American Association of Colleges for Teacher Education: U.S.A

Why some teams succeed (and so many don’t). (February 2008) Harvard Business Review. Retrieved from:

https://hbr.org/2008/02/make-your-good-team-great-1/

Augustine, C., Gonzalez, G., Schuyler Ikemoto, G., Russell, J., Zellman G. L., Constant, L., Armstrong, J., Dembosky,

J. (2009) Improving School Leadership: the promise of cohesive leadership systems. Rand Corperation: USA