“Strengthening Filipino Responses in the Homes, Schools and

Communities”A Trainers Manual on Positive Approach to Child Discipline

CHILD PROTECTION POLICY IN ALL PUBLIC AND PRIVATE SCHOOLS

“ The State shall defend the rights of children to assistance, including proper care and nutrition, and special protection from all

forms of neglect, abuse, cruelty, exploitation and other conditions prejudicial to their

development.”

WHY Positive Approach to Child Discipline?

WHAT is Corporal Punishment vs. Positive Discipline?

HOW Positive Approach to Child Discipline be the practice in Schools

Is any punishment in which physical, non physical force and other forms are/is used intended to cause some degree of pain or discomfort, however light.

Forms: Physical and non-physical forms of

punishment

Hitting, ‘smacking’, ‘slapping’, ‘spanking’ children, with the hand or with

an implement – a whip Stick belt, shoe, wooden spoon hanger

But it can also involve, for example, Kicking shaking or throwing children Scratching Pinching Biting pulling hair forcing children to stay in uncomfortable

positions, Burning forced ingestion

Includes: ◦ Belittles◦ Humiliates◦ Denigrates◦ Scolding ◦ Scapegoats◦ Threatens◦ Scares or◦ Ridicules the child.

Creates fear in the child. Engenders feelings of confusion, resentment

and anger. Lowers the child’s self esteem. Engenders a more external locus of control. Hinders a strong potential for escalation. Trains a child to use violence. Perpetuates the

cycle of violence within families Is associated with more behavioral problems. Adversely affects the child’s cognitive

functioning. Stunts internalization of moral values and

capacity for empathy.Dr. Violeta Bautista, a clinical psychologist

The discipline act is not commensurate to the offense committed

by the child;used frequently and without valid reason;not appropriate to the age, gender, physical

and mental state of the child.done due to impulsive anger with the

purpose of hurting the child; Child sustains physical or non-physical

injuries and is in pain especially the vulnerable parts of the body

If it humiliates the person of the child

does not mean punishment or conflict between parents and child.

it means helping a child learn from mistakes and develop self control. All children need the security that comes with knowing the rules and boundaries of behavior; without these guidelines they feel at a loss.

Requires… Flexibility from the parents, using different strategies to match child’s growth and development.

Dr. Anita Gurian, Child Study Center r. Anita

Building a mutually respectful relationship with students and among students

Consistent:◦ Clear communication◦ Reinforcement of expectations, agreements or

rules Child and Human Rights Based Intended to Safeguard the Rights of

Children STOPS, LOOKS, LISTENS

is a response that is directed at the individual.

It represents a desire of one person to hurt another; and it is an expression of hostility rather than corrective love.

Is directed at the objectionable behavior, and the child will accept its consequence without resentment.

Punishment

Child Rights Principles Pedagogical Principles

Setting long-term goals

Child Rights Principles Pedagogical Principles

Child Rights Principles Pedagogical PrinciplesProviding Warmth Providing Structure

Understanding Child Development

Providing Warmth Providing Structure

Recognizing Individual Differences

Problem Solving and Responding with Positive Discipline

Source: “Positive Discipline in Everyday Teaching” by Save the Children

Set Guidelines with clear expectationsEstablish clearly your expectationsExplain the reason for rules

Encourage the child’s independent thinking and negotiation skills

Teach the children about the effects of their action; providing information on how to make a good decision.

Provide unconditional support… will help the child succeed

Stop, look and Listen…

Be fair and flexible

Manage stress …. Control anger

Check the causes of that behavior

Take “time-in” for regular updating and dialogue

Administer discipline in private

Administer discipline firmly, thoroughly and with consistency.

Thank you very much!

I love you all!

_ estee’