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Ten Steps to Bulding
Emotional Core Strength
Written & Presented By
Sharon M. Barnes, MSSW, LCSW
Therapist for Sensitive and Gifted
©2016 Sharon M. Barnes, LCSW PLLC - www.TherapistForSensitiveAndGifted.com
Sharon M. Barnes
Therapist For Sensitive and Gifted
MSSW – Masters of Science in Social Work, SDSU
LCSW – Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Colorado USA
Local Counseling/Psychotherapy
Online Distance Consultation
Presentations, PlayShops & Retreats
Professional Development
Jungian-oriented depth work to:
Release your Creativity
Heal your Past
Transform your Pain
Become Fully Alive
Find & Fulfill your True Purpose ©2016 Sharon M. Barnes, LCSW PLLC - www.TherapistForSensitiveAndGifted.com
Social and emotional needs are crucial to
the well-being of gifted students and
adults.
Social and emotional needs
o Low Self-esteem or confidence
o Anxiety
o Depression
Ten Steps to Building Emotional
Core Strength
(How to Become
Social-Emotional ACES)
Targeting
Asynchrony
soCial Skills
Emotional Resilience
Self-Esteem
RESULT: Restore ability to
Create & Innovate
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www.TherapistForSensitiveAndGifted.com
Foundation Stone 1: What’s the BIG PICTURE?
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GT Kids (of all ages) CAN be ACES at . . .
Asynchrony
soCial Skills
Emotional Resilience
Self-esteem ©2016 Sharon M. Barnes, LCSW PLLC - www.TherapistForSensitiveAndGifted.com
What’s an
ACE? Exhibit A:
o Elite baseball pitcher
o Team’s best starter
o First in the rotation
o Plays the BIG games
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GT Kids (of all ages) CAN be ACES at . . .
Asynchrony
soCial Skills
Emotional Resilience
Self-esteem ©2016 Sharon M. Barnes, LCSW PLLC - www.TherapistForSensitiveAndGifted.com
What’s a Social-Emotional ACE?
Social –Emotional ACES =
“5 G’s”
1. Gain perspective (big picture)
2. Gain understanding and
acceptance of self & others
3. Gain skills to balance and
express emotions
4. Gain skills to meet own social-
emotional needs effectively
5. Gain skills to establish and
maintain social relationships
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Top 3 Issues
o Children
o Teens
o Adults
1. Super-sensitivity
2.Anxiety
3.Depression
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A Great Tragedy
o School Shootings ← GT Students
o Suicides of Gifted & Talented People
o Under –Achievement
o Alienation
o Dumbing down
o Copping out
o Dropping out
o Wasted intelligence
o Wasted talent
o Wasted lives
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Something’s
wrong with me
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I’m an Alien
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Creative
Acutely Aware
Super- Sensitive
Intense, often Introverted and/or
Gifted
You? someone you know?
= CASIGY™ ©2016 Sharon M. Barnes, LCSW, PLLC. www.TherapistForSensitiveAndGifted.com
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CASIGYs More perceptive CNS
More reactive CNS
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CASIGYs’ Mascot *Different*
o ridiculed
o excluded
o shunned
o shamed
o ostracized
o banished into exile
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because of . . .
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LATER … he returned from exile
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Also
because of . . .
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What’s YO
UR
S?
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First 50 who come
to my table get a
RED NOSE!
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•2 •3
•1 •4
Return
Red
Nose:
MisFit
Outcast Exile
CASIGY Cycle of Discouragement
The Hero
&
Heroine’s
Journey
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•2 •3
•1 •4
Creative
Contri-
bution
Creative
Coping
Creative
Healing
Creative
Transfor-
mation
CASIGY Cycle of Encouragement
The
Hero’s &
Heroine’s
Journey
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Foundation Stone 2: Who am I & Where am I in this picture?
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Preparation for
the Journey
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Multi-Purpose Tool:
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Emotions are like Ocean Waves o natural phenomenon
o energy
o don’t ask permission
o respond to the weather, moon & earth’s movement
o Our 1st reaction is to
o When we fight them,
o Learn to READ them
o Learn to RIDE them
F IGHT THEM
WE LOSE
We can s t ay SAFE
We can have FUN
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©2016 Sharon M. Barnes, LCSW, PLLC. www.TherapistForSensitiveAndGifted.com
©2016 Sharon M. Barnes, LCSW PLLC - www.TherapistForSensitiveAndGifted.com
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GREEN Flag = Small waves = ALL CLEAR
ORANGE Flag = Medium waves = CAUTION
RED Flag = Big waves = DANGER
BLACK Flag = Tsunami = GET OFF THE BEACH
PURPLE Flag = Something’s in the water =
BEWARE
What Color Flag is flying on Your Inner Beach?
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CASIGY™ Tool #1
First
Best
Last
Use anywhere
Use anytime
BREATHE
www.TherapistForSensitiveAndGifted.com/
Resources/CASIGY Tool Box/ Relaxation
Breathing Exercises
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“I’ve decided to outsource my emotional needs”
5. What do I need? How can I meet this need? ©2016 Sharon M. Barnes, LCSW PLLC - www.TherapistForSensitiveAndGifted.com
How do I interpret this event or situation?
o What’s my first take on what it means?
o Things are not always as they seem – does it
REALLY mean this?
o What else might it mean?
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CASIGYs Often Believe:
“I’m Different,
therefore
something’s wrong
with me; I’m
Defective, Inferior,
and Inadequate”
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Dabrowski’s Theory of Positive Disintegration o Emotions influence personality development
o Intelligence is not a sufficient condition for human
development
o Experience of negative emotions is essential for advanced
psychological development.
o Therefore the goal of therapy is not to eliminate negative
emotions
o When individuals are on the path of development, negative
emotions are essential companions
o Negative emotions may break apart lower levels of
development and thus prepare us for higher levels of
development
o Therefore having negative emotions may be a
harbinger of further development
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Jung’s Depth Psychology: Most people can stay undeveloped psychically with
no particularly negative consequences for themselves
They are unconscious and are perfectly happy being
unconscious.
They give lots of other people trouble and pain, but
they are not pained because of their unconsciousness.
Many (especially CASIGYs) DO have a great NEED to
develop to a deeper, higher, broader level.
They develop symptoms (neuroses) that haunt them
unless and until they become more and more
conscious and more developed psychologically.
Like those who MUST explore new physical territory
(California or BUST), they MUST individuate.
Tragically, they most often misinterpret the meaning
of their symptoms, AKA neuroses.
They need to understand that their symptoms are
signs of an INVITATION WITH AN IMPERATIVE TO
GROW & DEVELOP FURTHER.
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CASIGYs ─ You’re NOT
Defective;
You’re Different … by Design!
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When our Waves are Out of Proportion
o More perceptive CNS
o More reactive CNS
o HALT
o Misunderstanding
o Misinterpretation
o Pull from the past (depression)
o Push to the future (anxiety)
o Complexes distort reality
7. Does the SIZE of this wave MATCH
the significance of the situation?
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We all need fences
8. What are my limits?
How can I honor them?
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Accept the Waves o Stop resisting & fighting the waves
o Watch the waves
o Ride the waves
9. What can I DO about this
OR how can I accept this?
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CASIGYS CAN be ACES at . . . Asynchrony
soCial Skills
Emotional Resilience
Self-esteem
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10. Personal
Positive
Predictability
Whatever comes your way in life, you can predict that
you can (eventually) find a positive, creative,
constructive way to cope with it.
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Thanks for participating!
o Your feedback, please!
o Remember, the First
50 who come to my
table get a RED NOSE!
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Sources Elaine Aron, PhD. The Highly Sensitive Person.
Elaine Aron, PhD. The Highly Sensitive Child
Campbell, Joseph. Hero with a Thousand Faces
Jung, C.G., MD. Two Essays on Analytical Psychology.
Sal Mendaglio, PhD. Dabrowski's Theory of Positive Disintegration
James T. Webb, PhD. Searching for Meaning. Idealism, Bright
Minds, Disillusionment, and Hope
James T. Webb, PhD and Edward R. Amend, PhD. Misdiagnosis
and Dual Diagnoses of Gifted Children and Adults: ADHD,
Bipolar, OCD, Asperger's, Depression
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