Upload
cancerhawk
View
10
Download
1
Embed Size (px)
Citation preview
Advice on How to Tell the Kids You Have
Cancer
How do you really
tell your children that
one of the most
important people in
their lives has
cancer?
Give them the lowdown
This situation has a name and it's called cancer. Use the word "cancer" when
describing your illness. The amount of detail you give and the specific words
you use will depend on the age of your children. If you are talking to children
of different ages at the same time, speak in terms that the youngest one will
understand. You can always have additional conversations with the older
children if necessary.
Be honest
You may be tempted to downplay the seriousness of this
situation, but this could damage the trust you worked so
hard to build over the years. Throughout the entire
process, be honest, yet optimistic, which can actually bring
kids tremendous comfort.
Make no promises or guarantees about the
outcome
We all want to promise our children that we will never die. But
this is not realistic, nor is this a promise we can keep.
Cancer isn't contagious
You might be shocked to learn some of the myths your kids
had heard about cancer. Did Daddy catch it from someone?
Did he do something to cause the cancer? Since Daddy had
cancer, did that mean they were going to get it too? Set the
facts straight.
Good news travels fast - Bad news travels faster
It's important to let the parents of your children's friends and school
teachers know what's going on. You should also assume that any email
you send out, post you write on a personal blog or conversation you have
will be forwarded or repeated to the world. Let's face it... people are
concerned about you, so they talk about it. Just as with any story, all the
facts may not be repeated in a manner you approve. So, be careful what
you put out there. If there is news to share -- either positive or negative --
tell it to your children first.
Keep in mind that you don't have to tell your children
everything at once. If it appears that your child is not
coping well, get help. Many cancer centers and local
support groups have therapists on staff who can advise
you. Additionally, your pediatrician may be able to
recommend a child psychologist or family therapist who
has experience in helping children cope with cancer.
Remember, a diagnosis of cancer affects everyone in
the family. Your children may ask questions right
away or they may need time to digest what you've
told them. Let your children know you are there for
them. Reassure them of your love.
And move forward one step at a time.
For resources, financial assistance, knowledge and inspiration,
please visit
cancerhawk.com