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Spouse’s GroupRelationships & Accountability
Meg Swain
Co-Leader Spouse’s Group, Central Florida
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You are not alone!
• Mentor
• Sponsor
• Accountability Partner
• Encourager
Following the biblical example of Paul, Timothy and Barnabas, we need each of these relationships in our lives
to fill a different purpose along our journey
Learn about the different relationships we need on our journey…
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Why do I need accountability? Seek accountability & growth in our character as children of God. Being accountable… pursuing change through authentic
relationships. Accountable on a daily basis for healthy choices to make &
unhealthy choices to avoid (Top Lines & Bottom Lines)
“Confess your sins to each other and prayfor each other so that you may be healed.” James 5:16 NIV
“Two are better than one, because theyhave a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down,
one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.” Ecclesiastes 4:9
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MentorHelps you get started…
Welcomes you to L.I.F.E. Group Explains the L.I.F.E. process
Will typically call once a week to check in while you go through the Grieving material
Has been through the L.I.F.E. Recovery Guide for Spouses workbook at least once
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SponsorHelps guide your journey…
Ask someone to be your sponsor who has been through the L.I.F.E. Guide at least once & is actively pursuing her own growth
Seek input from your Sponsor for avenues of growth (books, meetings, counseling, calls, etc) .
Agree on a growth plan & ask your Sponsor for accountability. Decide together how often to check-in (several times/week). You own calling your Sponsor to check-in.
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Accountability PartnerHelp each other stay on track…
Each person develops her own goals to achieve growth Ask at least 2 safe people to hold you accountable Each person shares those needs with her accountability partner
and writes specific questions to be asked each week Relationship is a commitment to hold each other accountable Call at least once a week to ask each other your written questions. Process together your victories and challenges Pray for one another
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EncouragerHelps you along the way…
Will listen to you share & encourage you along the journey We need each other. To grow, we learn how to develop intimate
relationships Call each other during the week to build intimate relationships An easy way to begin a phone call is to simply ask, “How have
you been this week?” Pray together/for each other *Share encouraging Scripture, devotions, songs, etc.
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How do I get started? During L.I.F.E. Group Meeting, take 5 minutes for accountability Write your name, phone number and the best time to reach you
on a piece of paper Write 2-4 specific questions you’d like someone to ask you for
accountability Distribute the papers & you’ll participate on 2 phone calls/wk After a few weeks, you’ll know who to ask to be your
accountability partner
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Accountability Question Examples
Taking Care of Myself You asked to be accountable to exercise at least 3 times this week.
How has that been going? How have you taken time just for you? How have you affirmed yourself?
Relating to my spouse How have you affirmed your spouse? How have you been honest with your feelings and communicated
with “I feel. . . about. . . because” statements? Have you taken responsibility for your husband? How? How have you established and communicated boundaries? Have you been compulsive or obsessive about anything? In what
ways?
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Accountability Question Examples
Relating to God How have you taken your heartaches to God this week? You asked for accountability to spend at least 15 minutes each day
in quiet time with God. What has God shown you this week?
Relating to my children/others How have you enforced rules with your children without yelling? Tell me about any one-on-one time you’ve had with your children? How have you established and communicated boundaries? Have you lied or exaggerated about any- thing? If so, regarding
what?
