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Slideshare from presentation given durring the 2009 National Catholic Youth Conference.
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Raising Digital KidsParenting in a Media Driven World
Pop Quiz
What is a “poke?”
What is a “poke?”
What is an “add?”
What is an “add?”
Translate “PLOS”
Translate “PLOS”
Teens Today Watch A. LESS or B. MORE television than their parents did
Teens Today Watch A. LESS or B. MORE television than their parents did
On average a teen aged 13-17 sends & receives A. 258; B. 893; C. 1,017; or D. 2,272 txt messages per month
On average a teen aged 13-17 sends & receives A. 258; B. 893; C. 1,017; or D. 2,272 txt messages per month
What are you seeing today when it comes to your teens and media?
What are you hoping to get out of this workshop?
Digital Technology is the
◦Television
◦WWII
◦Woodstock
of this generation
Why Are We Here?
Why Are We Here?
Technology is like fire
◦Learn to master it, it will serve you well
◦Ignore it, you’re going to get burned
Fire is invented
Did You Know 4.0 Videohttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ILQrUrEWe8
The Net Generation… Products of an “online world”
◦ 93% of teens use the internet on a regular basis
◦ 63% of all US Adults have a broadband internet connection in the home 58% have cable TV (in 2007)
◦ 64% of online teens are posting content to the internet Blogs (girls: 35% -- boys: 20%) Photos (girls: 54% -- boys: 40%) Videos (boys: 19% -- girls: 10%)
◦ 47% of online teens have posted a picture of themselves where someone else can see it
◦ www.pewinternet.org
The Net Generation…
16.7 hrs/week 13.6 hrs/week 12 hrs/week
7.7 hrs/week6 hrs/week
% of 12-17 Year-Olds w/ a Cell Phone◦2004: 45%◦2006: 63%◦2008: 71% 77% of all adults 88% of parents
Teens & Cell Phones
HTC “You” Commercialhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5lUkF1vVudA
30,000 hours online and playing video games by age 20
More likely to◦ txt than email◦ Research online than at a library
Conditioned to ◦ Multi-task◦ Expect INTERACTIVE experiences
The Net Generation…
The Net Generation…
PBS Frontline’s “Growing Up Online” Clipwww.pbs.org
How is growing up today easier than when you grew up?
How is growing up today harder?
How is growing up today the same?
Growing Up Online Isn’t All Bad
◦process information faster
◦ faster at switching between multiple tasks
◦more likely to be able to adapt in a digital future
◦75% more AP Exams between1999 and 2005
The Net Generation…
Ignore it
Fight it
Master it
How do we React?
The Three Tasks of Adolescence
◦ Identity – who am I?
◦ Autonomy - how am I different?
◦ Affinity - where do I fit?
Bigger Picture Issues
Youth Culture – we only see what they WANT us to see.
Bigger Picture Issues
We are not welcome in this subterranean world, and the best we can do is sit on the stairs that lead to it and be available to kids passing in and out of it.”
Dr. Chap Clark
Craig Ferguson Cliphttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xFQkMAPVoIo
“We place kids in schools together with hundreds, sometimes thousands, of other kids typically from similar economic and cultural backgrounds. We group them all within a year or so of one another in age. We equip them with similar gadgets, expose them to the same TV shows, lessons, and sports. We ask them all to take almost the exact same courses and do the exact same work and be graded relative to one another. We give them only a handful of ways in which they can meaningfully demonstrate their competencies. And then we’re surprised they have some difficulty establishing a sense of their own individuality.”
Escaping the Endless Adolescence
Escaping the Endless Adolescence As for the risk behavior we associate with
adolescence, Allen cautions that “We don’t give teens enough ways to take risks that are productive.” So they turn to drinking, drug use, delinquency, and the like – because those are the only things thrilling. “According to Allen, teens aren't naturally passive – their environment makes them passive. We’re writing them off at exactly the time we need to bring out their potential.
Newsweek November 5, 2009
Parents are NOT Without Power
“I don’t get it” is NOT an Excuse
Start forming “normal” as soon as possible!
Strategies for Parents
Teens in families that eat dinner together frequently (5+ times/week) are more likely to:◦ do better in school◦ attend religious services◦ talk to their parents about personal issues◦ Have positive relationships with their parents
and less likely to have experimented with drugs & alcohol
Columbia University October 2009
Strategies for Parents
Integrity
◦who you are online vs. who you are in reality
What is the story told by the pictures of you on Face book or Myspace?
56% of teens with profiles have posted at least some fake information to their profile
“I use a pseudonym, who is 24. Because I regard myself as an intellectual, it’s easier to be taken seriously if people don’t know
they’re talking to a 16 year old.”- Boy, Late High School
(Pew Internet, 2007)
Strategies for Parents
Safety◦ Obvious
Address Phone Number
◦ Not So Obvious Home Town: “Muscatine is soooo boring”
+ School Mascot: “Go Muskies”
+ Random Comment: “softball practice was tough today”
+ Random Comment: “# 36 RULES”
+ Softball Schedule on http://www.muscatine.k12.ia.us/sites/mhs.htm
= stalker who knows who you are, where you’re going to be, and when you’ll be there
Strategies for Parents
Where is the family computer located?
What are the family rules about email & social networking?
Consider making a “monitor only” agreement
Trust, Openness, Honesty – it goes both ways
Strategies for Parents
Cyber-bullying
◦ 36% of 12-17 year-olds report being victim
◦ 15% of teens able to define
◦ 24/7 availability
◦ Anonymity and Lack of Empathy
◦ www.stopcyberbullying.org
Trends to Be Aware of…
Sexting
◦ 39% of teens have sent sexually suggestive messages
◦ 20% have sent or posted nude or semi-nude pictures or video of themselves
◦ child-pornography charges against teens
Trends to Be Aware of…
Parent-to-Parent
“Test everything, hold on to what is good”
1 Thessalonians 5:21
A Final Thought…
HELP US HELP YOU! WE NEED YOUR FEEDBACK◦ Text D410 followed by a SPACE and then either:
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To 24625
Slideshare will be on http://2smallcoins.org by Tuesday