RelationshipsThe various phase of

relationship

Advance Social Psychology

Joshua J. BatallaMP – IP -1

Introduction

Love is of all passions the strongest, for it attack simultaneously the head, the heart and the senses – Lao Tzu

Part 1

“Unang HALIK”Ika'y biglang

natauhanUmalis kaagad ng

wala man lang paalam

Pag nawala doon lang mamimiss

Hanggang kelan ito matitiis

GROWTH OF RELATIONSHIPS

Self DisclosureTrustInterdependence

GROWTH OF RELATIONSHIPS

SELF DISCLOSURE

the act of revealing a personal

information about oneself

to another person

GROWTH OF RELATIONSHIPS

TRUST

Something

committed into the

care of another

GROWTH OF RELATIONSHIPS

Interdependence

Increase in time and energy

devoted to their relationship and decrease their involvement in

alternative relationships

PART II

“TAGPUAN”Mundo'y ating

iiwananMaaari lang sanaDito na lang tayoSa ating tagpuanMaaari lang sanaDito na lang tayoSa ating tagpuan

Love and LovingLiking versus LovingPassionate LoveThe romantic love IdealLove as a story

Love and Loving Liking versus

Loving

Is something more than intense liking; it is the attachment to

and caring about another person.

Love and Loving

Passionate Love

a state of intense

physiological arousal and

intense lignin for union with another.

Love and Loving

The romantic love Ideal True love can strike without

prior interaction (“love at first sight”).

For each of us, there is only one other person who will inspire true love

True love can overcome any obstacle (“love conquers all”)

Our beloved is (nearly) perfect.

We should follow our feelings- that is, we should base our choice of partners on love rather than on other, more rational considerations.

Love and Loving Love as a story

is a story (script) about what love should be like; it has characters,

plot. And theme. (STERNBERG)

Men are from Mars Women Are from Venus

Differences between GenderMen Women

Don’t offer unsolicited advice

Don’t offer solutions

Turn to their caves They turn to their well

Men want to be needed Women want to be cherished

Usually fights or flies Usually fakes and folds

Idealize Fairness Idealize undconditional love

Sensitive about being accepted

Sensitive about being understand

If woman didn’t ask for support men think he is giving enough

Motto is “love is never having to ask”

PART III

“Huling Sayaw”

Hawakan mo aking kamayBago tayo mag hiwalay

Lahat lahat ibibigay, lahat lahat

Paalam sating huling sayawMay dulo pala ang langit

Kaya't sabay tayong bibitawSa ating huling sayaw

Breaking Up

Unequal Outcomes and Instability

Differential Commitment and Dissolution

Responses to dissatisfaction

The Romantic Stage

The Power Struggle Stage

The Stability Stage

The Commitment Stage

The bliss/ Co-creation Stage

Conclusion

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