FLOURISHING RELATIONSHIPS

BYZARQA REHMANM.PHIL PSYCHOLOGY1ST SEMESTER

Positive psychology:

Positive psychology is grounded in a belief that people want to lead meaningful and fulfilling lives, to cultivate what is best within them and to enhance their experiences of love , work and play.

Positive psychologists focus on flourished relationships…

Positive psychologists specializing in close relationships because

According to Positive psychologists a person who has more flourished relationships have more positivity

JOHN H.HARVEY

Harvey was a social psychologist. He explored what makes existing relationships flourish and what skills can be taught directly to partners to enhance their interpersonal connections.

Building a Mindful Relationship Connection

Well-minded relationships are healthy and long lasting. This belief led social psychologist John Harvey and his colleagues to develop a Basic components model of minding relationships.

This model shows how closeness or the satisfaction and relationship behaviors that contribute to one another's goals in life, may be enhanced.

Harvey's Relationship Enhancing Guidance

Basic components to enhance interpersonal

Relationships. Knowing and being known Making relationship-Enhancing

attributions for behaviors Accepting and Respecting Maintaining reciprocity and continuity

in minding

Professor John Guttmann

He is the doctor of love He is an internationally known

researcher He’s popularized his findings in a

string of best selling book“The seven principles for making

marriage work” Guttmann is able to predict the

ultimate fate of the pair with over 94% accuracy

CREATING A CULTURE OF APPRECIATION John Guttmann has spent a lifetime

“THIN-SLICING” relationship behavior.

He measures bodily sensations of partners

Reads the faces of husbands and wives as they interact

He watches people talk about difficult issues

He dissects every aspect of exchange

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Guttmann has become so much good in his craft that he can use his analysis of brief interactions to predict relationship success (divorce v/s continued marriage) with 94% accuracy.

He achieved this feat of prediction by studying thousands of married couples across many years of their relationships

Standard research protocol involves: Husband and wife entering a “love lab” Engaging in 15 min conversation(closely observed by researcher) Monitored by blood pressure and other

devices Observations of couples derived with

the assistance of mathematicians who helped him discover what is referred to as the “Magic ratio” for marriages

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5 positive reactions and 1 negative interaction are needed to maintain healthy relationship.

5:1 healthy relationship 1:1 divorce is confirmed

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He has done decades of researches and his “SOUND MARITAL HOUSE” theory, Guttmann and colleagues developed a multidimensional approach to couples counseling that moves partners from conflict to comfortable exchanges.

Goal of therapy:

The goals of therapy include the enhancement of social skills, awareness of interpersonal difficult issues, acceptance of responsibility and self soothing.

Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work(book) Positive reception of partner and

partners behavior should promotes Culture of appreciation helps to

establish positive environment Expressing gratitude (saying thanks

for small behaviors that often go unnoticed)

Cont… Makes a partner feel valued for his

or her daily effort (e.g. washing dishes, driving car)

Sharing appreciations for small favors(making a coworker feel welcome in the home)

Sacrifices (remembering a least favorite in-laws birthday)

Honors a partners contributions to the relationship and family.