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This presentation explains the impact of assumptions on relationships at work and at home. Its aim is to guide you through a reflection about your own assumptions. It also suggest three ways to reduce their impact on your relationships. This content intents to foster discussions and develop awareness. Share it if you like it.
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Anne-Cécile Graber @annececilegrbr "Thoughts on Organizational Management" - www.organizationalmanagment.blogspot.com
Do not make assumptions, ask questions!
Your assumptions may silence the voices of others.
Anne-Cécile Graber @annececilegrbr "Thoughts on Organizational Management" - www.organizationalmanagment.blogspot.com
Introduction
• Are all assumptions dangerous?
• The dangers of Assumptions.
• Why do we assume things?
• How can we stop our assumptions for overcoming us?
• Reducing our assumptions will…
Anne-Cécile Graber @annececilegrbr "Thoughts on Organizational Management" - www.organizationalmanagment.blogspot.com
Anne-Cécile Graber @annececilegrbr "Thoughts on Organizational Management" - www.organizationalmanagment.blogspot.com
Are all assumptions dangerous?
• Not if we assume people to follow a set of rules defined by society*
– Driving rules
– Tango steps
– …
• Yes if we make assumptions based on people’s
– gender
– color
– sexual orientation
– political opinion
– …
They may lead you to several negative behavior
*Unfortunately some rules are discriminative and should be improved.
Anne-Cécile Graber @annececilegrbr "Thoughts on Organizational Management" - www.organizationalmanagment.blogspot.com
Anne-Cécile Graber @annececilegrbr "Thoughts on Organizational Management" - www.organizationalmanagment.blogspot.com
The dangers of Assumptions
Close minded reactions
Categorizing & labeling people
Refuting individuality
Discrimination
Lack or absence of creativity
Lack or absence of empathy
Lack or absence of connection
with others
Lack or absence of curiosity
Lack or absence of
understanding
Lack or absence of anticipation
What else would you add ?(write
a comment)
Anne-Cécile Graber @annececilegrbr "Thoughts on Organizational Management" - www.organizationalmanagment.blogspot.com
Assumptions mislead you
• No one experiences the world with your perspective
– Some people are color blind
– What is high for you is maybe low to someone else.
– Mathematic is maybe your thing but it is not everyone's cup of tea.
• No one live in this world exactly like you
– Some people eat with different tools. It does not make them more or less educated. It is just another way of eating.
We are all a unique combination of genes, experiences and more.
Anne-Cécile Graber @annececilegrbr "Thoughts on Organizational Management" - www.organizationalmanagment.blogspot.com
Anne-Cécile Graber @annececilegrbr "Thoughts on Organizational Management" - www.organizationalmanagment.blogspot.com
“Assumptions are shortcuts in the mind” - Margherita from theCrystallotus.Com
The victim feels:
• Shut down
• Ignored
• Misunderstood
• Ignorant
• Upset
• Obliged to follow a path chosen for them
• …
The consequences for the relationship
• Dispute
• Separation
• Escalation of violence
• Dangerous behavior
• Exclusion
• …
Anne-Cécile Graber @annececilegrbr "Thoughts on Organizational Management" - www.organizationalmanagment.blogspot.com
Why do we assume things?
• Because it is easier to use shortcuts
• Because we are afraid not to know
• Because we feel unsecure about the world around us
• Because we fear the unknown
• Because we were told “This is true and this is wrong”
• Because we are afraid of the choices we may have to take if we do not assume
Anne-Cécile Graber @annececilegrbr "Thoughts on Organizational Management" - www.organizationalmanagment.blogspot.com
How can we stop our assumptions for overcoming us?
OUR AIM SHOULD BE TO REDUCE OUR ASSUMPTIONS TO TRULY CONNECT WITH THE PERSON IN FRONT OF US.
Anne-Cécile Graber @annececilegrbr "Thoughts on Organizational Management" - www.organizationalmanagment.blogspot.com
3 WAYS TO REDUCE OUR ASSUMPTIONS
1. Being Aware of our assumptions
2. Asking to clarify
3. Group Exercise
Anne-Cécile Graber @annececilegrbr "Thoughts on Organizational Management" - www.organizationalmanagment.blogspot.com
1. AWARENESS OF OUR ASSUMPTIONS
• Our assumptions make us believe that everyone share our perspective
• We should remember our uniqueness and its consequences; a myriad of perspectives.
• Assumptions is a “I am right and you are wrong” game.
Anne-Cécile Graber @annececilegrbr "Thoughts on Organizational Management" - www.organizationalmanagment.blogspot.com
Anne-Cécile Graber @annececilegrbr "Thoughts on Organizational Management" - www.organizationalmanagment.blogspot.com
2. ASKING QUESTIONS TO CLARIFY
No more assumptions
I need to understand
you, can you tell me more?
Could you explain me
your point of view?
Why did / would you do
that?
Ask questions that help you understand the person.
Anne-Cécile Graber @annececilegrbr "Thoughts on Organizational Management" - www.organizationalmanagment.blogspot.com
Anne-Cécile Graber @annececilegrbr "Thoughts on Organizational Management" - www.organizationalmanagment.blogspot.com
3. USE GROUP EXERCISES
• Another way is to use the “The blind men and the elephant” - Conflict & Communication Workshop Exercise
http://organizationalmanagment.blogspot.de/2014/05/the-blind-men-and-elephant-conflict.html
Anne-Cécile Graber @annececilegrbr "Thoughts on Organizational Management" - www.organizationalmanagment.blogspot.com
REDUCING OUR ASSUMPTIONS WILL:
• Acknowledge the person existence and uniqueness
• Clarify our understanding of the person and situation
• Stop shaming people for ignoring what they “should know”
• Give back their voice to people
• Increase our decision power
• Give place and develop our emotional intelligence
• Better handle our emotions
Anne-Cécile Graber @annececilegrbr "Thoughts on Organizational Management" - www.organizationalmanagment.blogspot.com
WHEN IT COMES TO SOMEONE NEVER ASSUME ANYTHING.
However, we cannot live without assumptions, just learn to listen.