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Spandane – The Last Lecture Section I – My Life Story
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33 / My Spandane Articles
The word ‘Spandane’ means ‘Vibrations of Mind.’ At times it is difficult to express this
hidden feeling in words. However I have made an attempt in the book titled ‘Spandane’ to
express my Life philosophy which matured over years of my experience and my perception
of this world. I have placed before you some thoughts which arose in my mind about the Life,
People and Nature etc. in the said book. I am sure that whosoever tries to follow the same can
make his Life happy.
My habit of expressing the vibrations in Articles, Photography, Slide shows enabled me to
enjoy my Occupational and Professional career.
I am giving below the gist of my Spandane Articles for your ready reference. Readers can
review this summary for selecting Articles for reading which have been uploaded on
www.spandane.com.
I have added few comments to share my experience to apprise you that these Articles are the
outcome of my Life experience. I am not an Author by conventional definition.
Documentation of my Life experience has given birth to these Articles.
01 / Chase:
Our Life is nothing but a long ‘Chase’ from birth to death. (Education, service, marital life,
kids, wealth, pleasures, maintaining health, friends, and family responsibilities). Many times
we ignore the extent to which each of this should be chased and loose the entire tone of our
Life. Many problems are invited by our attitude itself. Hence it is necessary to know what to
chase and how to chase. Please remember that your success on all fronts should be
proportionate.
My comments: I had a dream of becoming a doctor. But having realized my family
background, financial condition, I redefined the Goal. The proportionate goal was set in Life
and tried my level best to maintain balance between family, career, friends, hobbies and
health. This is the secret of my happiness and relaxed mind.
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02 / Relationship:
Man is a social animal. We stay in the society. Please remember that society starts from you or
in other words, you are the centre point of the society. Hence we build & maintain
relationship with others. However the outcome of relationship also depends on the response
from the other end. Disturbance in the relationship upsets you. Relationship should not be
based on selfish grounds. It should not be developed by concealing the expectations from the
other party. Since the other party does not know your expectations, may not reciprocate
thereby upsetting you. Just think on your real motive in developing relationship. I do agree
that a person feels secured in certain relationships.
My comments: I always maintained transparency in my relationship with every body. I made
my expectations clear. I never made any assumption in any relationship. I never made one
side investment in relationship considering the future. My relationship style is ‘pro-active’
and based on ‘Shreya’ principle. People do misunderstand me initially because they can not
adopt my style although they approve it. However as days & years pass, these people adore
me.
03 / Food, Clothing, Shelter:
We all work for Food, Clothing and Shelter. No doubt that we also work for self esteem.
However you will observe that each one does not work with his heart. ‘Bhagwat Geeta’ teach
us three basic concepts namely Karma, Vikarma & Akarma. Karma is what we do. The same
karma becomes Vikarma when our mind joins the body to carry out the job. In other words,
body and mind should work together to accomplish a wonderful job. When you form this
habit of working with mind and body synchronization, you will not feel the efforts put in
which is called Akarma. Not only that but you will enjoy the work. You can also enjoy the
work when you like / love the job and you also love the person for whom the job is done.
My comments: Having completed the higher education, I selected the job/work considering
my temperament, core abilities etc. Hence I could really enjoy the work. I never got tired of
my job because the ‘work’ was giving utmost job satisfaction on par with financial reward.
This enabled to me to concentrate on whatever I did in Life. I did the work considering the
interest of the organization ahead of management which appointed me.
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04 / Frog, Chick & Bamboo Tree:
We must realize that ‘Change’ is part of Life and also inevitable. Change should be
anticipated and we should mould ourselves for the change and there after change should be
accepted whole heartedly. Then again get ready to ‘Change’.
My comments: I have always accepted the every change thrust in my Life whether it was of
my health, childhood problems, career tensions, my father’s ill health, relationship tensions
etc. Then thought over it to find out as to what can be done, what maximum can happen and
what is the probability of happening? Subsequently I tried to forecast the change in Life and
took rearguard action to face the same. The Article also gives some insight to my childhood.
05 / Computer Education:
We should remain as ‘Student’ all through the Life because one can learn from practically any
one provided your mind is ‘open’. Yes, I mean it. If you think seriously, you will realize that
you can learn from the Nature, Trees, Frog, Tortoise, and Computer etc. The list is only
illustrative.
My comments: I like the role of a student. All through my Life, I tried to learn something out
of every occasion. Professionally I had the opportunity to learn out of my interaction with
various categories of people. I purchased my first PC in 1997 when Pentium I was introduced.
As I was studying the key board, this topic struck my mind giving way to this Article. I am
basically an introvert person since childhood. I used to spend hours together in a cosy place
thinking some issue or the other. Over the years, the habit literally percolated in my blood.
I would always try to find out what can be learned from the existing situation, matter,
object, experience etc. This habit has given birth to few similar Articles.
06 / Hansha:
My memories of village and our ox.
07 / Holi:
‘Colours’ play very important role in our Life. Our Life would be boring without colours.
We use different colours as per our mood. Any celebration is not complete without colours.
If that is the case, why we indulge in rubbing black colours on the body of our friends and at
times strangers on Holi day? Is it to express our hidden jealousy?
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My comments: I never played Holi. I have also discouraged my kids from playing it but never
insisted. However after few years, they understood the real ugly nature of the social game and
discontinued.
08 / Diwali:
I am sure that you must have heard the word ‘Adveit’ which denotes that there is no
difference between you and other person. Do we see the reflection of this word in our
behaviour? The answer is negative. We get disturbed when the desired service is delayed or
not made available. Do we think of the other class who works hard to provide the said
service? Just take the example of ‘Tea’. It has four ingredients namely water, sugar, tea
powder and milk. Can you imagine the chain of activities in procuring each of these items?
At our end, we feel that it is easy because we just purchase. Just think of efforts taken from
grass root level. If you are successful in doing this, then I am sure that you will never grudge
or at least think twice before showing your displeasure.
My comments: Co-operation of all segments is the only key to success. I learned this quality
from my father. He was expert in developing relationship with any class on an equality
complex. I followed this in my Life and hence try to understand & appreciate people & their
contribution in a different perspective.
09 / Bad Habits:
I personally feel that there is no harm in having any addiction or bad habit up to a controlled
limit. I feel that addiction or bad habit is like riding a wild horse. So long as you can control
the horse, there is no harm.
My comments: I have shared my personal experience with above philosophy.
10 / Beggar:
I have described different beggars adopting different methodology for begging. I would say
that all of us are in fact beggars on both fronts. Are we beggers? Is there a separate category of
beggers? Confused? You need to read Article to resolve.
Refer my comments under Article no.05 given above.
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11 / Camel:
We set our educational goal, make all out efforts to achieve the same. It is also necessary that
we must do the job or carry out the profession / occupation which would demand our
educational knowledge gained. You must have observed that many persons compromise on
this concept of utilization of educational expertise achieved and take any job for earning
money. Under such circumstances, do you think it is possible for them to give justice to the
job? We also observe that intelligent girls complete higher education such as Architecture,
Engineering etc. but once they hook NRI, they would leave their job/profession and would go
abroad as Kitchen-in-Charge. What a waste of energy in completing education and
government money? Don’t you think its time to think on this?
Refer my comments under Article no.03 given above. 12 / Tortoise:
We should remain as ‘Student’ all through the Life because one can learn from practically any
one provided your mind is open. Yes I mean it. If you think seriously, you will realize that you
can learn from the Nature, Trees, Frog, Tortoise, and Computer etc. The list is only
illustrative.
Refer my comments given under Article no.05 above.
13 / Mazi Phasavnuka:
My experience of getting cheated has been shared.
14 / Advertisement:
My observations on advertising field.
15 / Anand:
How to look at failure was nicely taught by Anand (my grand son)
Refer my comments under Article no.05 given above.
16 / Shiva Muth:
We stay in a society and try to follow the rules, regulations, conventions of the society. In fact
every person is at the centre point of his ‘Society’. We generally think of the society’s reaction
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when ever we wish to deviate from its rules & conventions. If we are weak minded then we do
not indulge in deviation. But it’s time to have rethinking on many outdated customs, blind
faith, beliefs which are followed blindly by all classes irrespective of education, wealth, age
etc. We must try and unearth new meaning of the customs and if convinced and not causing
any disturbance to others, then we must become Trend setter. Have confidence in your mind
that one day the society will adore you. My experience is great in this matter.
My comments: I like to break outdated customs. Society should not have objection. My wife
has also supported this thought.
17 / Friends:
Our Life is incomplete without good friends. Our relationship with a friend should be more
intimate. Our friend should be a good critic and should put us on a right path when we depart
from our life path. But does this happen? It should but rarely happens because basically we
don’t develop so intimate relationship with him & we like our friend only when he concurs
with our opinion even if wrong. The moment he gives frank advice for our benefit, we are
hardly in a mood to accept such advice. When ever any one offers helping hand we should
always remember this but when ever some body insults us or behaves against our wishes, we
should forget this unpleasant episode as early as possible.
My comments: I was fortunate to get good friends. I had very few friends. Two of them have
already expired. Now I am left with only one friend. I enjoyed very close relations with all of
them. We all gave frank advice when ever called. Many times I had given pro-active advice
but the same was not followed in few cases and my friend paid the penalty. I was helpless. .
Kindly refer a separate Article on My Friends in Section – I.
18 / Question: Questions arising out of Press News.
Refer my comments under Article No.05 given above.
19 / Blind Faith: My observations of faith & blind faith.
Refer my comments under Article No.05 given above.
20 / Habits: Whether two persons would get along well will depend to a large extent on their
‘Habits’. Our parents, teachers make all out efforts in our childhood to inculcate good habits.
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Their success depends on our attitude to learn. When we become father, we make similar
efforts to educate good habits to our kids and then we realize that why our parents were so
fussy about our acquiring that habit. In other words, observe your habits and make necessary
improvement.
Refer my comments under Article No.05 given above. 21 / Jar:
How to Live Life?
Refer my comments under Article No.05 given above. 22 / Love: Have you ever thought as to what is Love and on whom? The definition of Love
may vary from person to person but please remember that if you have love for the family,
mankind then success and wealth will follow automatically.
23 / Candle:
In difficult times, ‘Hope’ gives us energy to fight the problem. You will agree that in modern
era, words like ‘Peace’, ‘Faith’, and ‘Love’ have lost their glamour as every one is now
accustomed to live on ‘Hope’ that current situation will improve. Please remember that if
your ‘Hope’ is alive, then you can swim through the rough water.
My comments: I always relied on Hopes and did every thing possible to clear out my
problems.
24 / Desire:
We set lofty goals in Life but it is unlikely that we will achieve every thing as planned. One
must remember that two things are essential to make your dream a reality namely ability
and willingness to exert. When things don’t happen the way we want, you must do the
retrospection of the Failure. What was lacking? Our Ability or Willingness? In my opinion,
experience is what you get when you don’t achieve the target. It is also necessary to adopt
the philosophy that ‘You may not get what you love and hence you must love what you get’.
I guarantee that Life becomes heaven if you really master this philosophy.
My comments: I learned this hard core reality in childhood from a reply given by my father to
a simple question raised.
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25 / Ekroop:
Life is nothing but a Laboratory. Whatever we learn (take macro meaning and not micro
meaning of what you learn in educational institutions) should be put to use for the benefit of
the society /mankind. Just observe your inner happiness when you are able to take few
steps in that direction.
26 / Inner voice-1:
At times we are not confident while taking decision in spite of Logical, Practical, Technical
analysis. We must seek the advice in such situation from the expert who can have unbiased
approach to decision making. However we must hear our ‘inner voice’ and take the final
decision accordingly. If your gut feeling does not permit then drop the decision.
My comments: I always took decision after hearing my inner voice. I took a very difficult
decision of marrying a widow and adopting her two kids based on my inner voice. My family
members were confident about me and my courage. The decision turned out to be successful.
When I allowed my inner voice to get overruled by love & affection, I had to suffer.
Also Refer Article My Deadly Accident.
27 / Inner voice-2:
At times we are not confident while taking decision in spite of Logical, Practical, Technical
analysis. We must seek the advice in such situation from the expert who can have unbiased
approach to decision making. However we must hear our ‘inner voice’ and take the final
decision accordingly. If your gut feeling does not permit then drop the decision.
28 / One Step:
We wish to achieve so many Goals in Life. We also decide the priorities and Time frame.
We make the list of all subsidiary jobs and their interdependence. However our mind may be
still be shaky because of difficult Goal. I would advice that don’t get panicky. Start the journey
towards your Goal. We take only one ‘Step’ at a time while walking. So remember the same
rule and start the activity in right earnest and success will be yours.
My comments: I have already mentioned that I compartmentalized my Life when I had to
accept the hard core reality of Life problems and then marched towards the immediate Goal
without disturbing thoughts of the future. Friends, just try, It’s simpler than it appears to be.
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29 / Appointment:
In modern era, we spend 10-12 hours outside house in connection with our job, profession. We
get practically 2-3 hours to spend with family, wife and kids and we must gainfully utilize this
time without bringing office tension in our mind. We should leave our designation, power
etc. outside the house and should enter the house in the capacity of ‘Son, father, husband,
brother etc.’ Just watch the difference. If we fail to do so, then we start taking family
members for granted and ruin the family relationship.
My comments: I always advocated Equality Complex and followed the same in real Life.
I learned this philosophy from my father. This attitude helps you to interact more freely with
masses. Friends, believe me that you stand to gain in the bargain in terms of overall
knowledge gained.
30 / Speed:
We all wish to become a ‘Big Shot’ in Life. But have you decided the ‘Speed’? Let me share
the secret that happiness is in the journey and not necessarily at the destination.
My comments: Friends, I tried to enjoy every situation in Life. Once you enjoy the activity,
then you don’t feel the burden of it. Monetary compensation automatically follows. I enjoyed
my studies and hence never felt any tension for giving any examination. Occupational /
Professional work was selected considering my temperament and hence there was no
problem.
31 / LOL:
At times we seek advice from expert because we are not competent to take decision. But what
is the guarantee that your consultant would give correct advice? I would suggest that one can
seek the advice if absolutely necessary but final decision should be taken considering the
varied opinions and our inner voice. Hence you can solely enjoy the pleasure in your success.
This approach is essential because there is a section of unsatisfied persons giving wrong
advice deliberately. You must remember the Lesson of Life i.e. ‘Seek advice but take action
as directed by your mind.’
Refer my comments under Article No.26 given above.
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32 / Search:
Birth is not in our hands but how to Live is certainly in our hands. We all need happiness,
pleasure in Life but should define the ingredients of happiness and where we will get the
same? Otherwise entire life we may searching the same at a wrong place.
33 / Secret Energy:
We generally carry out ‘SWOT’ analysis of ourselves. However each one of us is bestowed
with ‘Secret Energy’ and it is the responsibility of the family members, teachers to make the
person aware of this secret energy. In difficult times, this secret energy comes to our rescue.
My comments: Unfortunately I came across people who tried to discourage me. They raised
questions on my ability. However I took this as a negative inspiration and gave back the
answer by my deeds. However I followed this approach in an extreme situation as a last
resort. I dealt with people after understanding their SWOT. I offered pro-active advice based
on Shreya Principle.
34 / Consultant:
We should also learn ‘decision making’. We should face the problems in life and should not
run away. We should take expert opinion only when absolutely necessary. We are more likely
to find the solution as the entire input is available with us. Our God fearing attitude has its
origin in inability to take firm decision. I hope you will excuse me for making such bold
statement.
My comments: I followed a well laid master plan for tackling any problem or difficult
situation. Read my Tips – Problem solving given in Section III.
35 / Life Span:
Our Life is divided in four compartments namely childhood (education), Adult (service,
family), Vanprasthashram) (Retired life spend for social service) and Sanyas (social service to
mankind). Earlier persons used to leave the house after retirement from job for rendering
social service by handing over responsibilities to next generation. However now we observe
that a person remains engrossed in day to day affairs even after retirement age resulting in
conflict with younger generation. I do agree that now we may not leave house but still we can
reduce our attachments to material world and try to render social service as per our expertise.
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But how many of us plan our retired life in this fashion? I am sure that you must be
wondering about my retirement plans. I had planned my retirement at the age of 24 (right on
1st day of my career 14-06-1975 Saturday). I have greatly reduced my professional practice and
enjoying my Life by offering medical consultation, studying finer aspects of Astrology
including Medical Astrology, Photography, Reading, updating my website, counselling etc. on
an honorary basis.
36 / King & his Queens:
Bhagwat Geeta has taught one important lesson that ‘Body’ is perishable but soul has a
perpetual existence and hence soul would leave the body and rebirth would take place. All
our belongings such as wealth, relatives, and friends would not accompany us after our death.
However we spend more energy for accumulating wealth, friends, nursing relations but
neglect call of the soul. Death is the only certainty in Life. Without death, Life would be more
complicated. Unless a person gets blessings of 4 Gods namely Fire (Agni which represents
work) Chandra (Moon which represents kind, good qualities of mind) Surya (Sun which
represents sharpening & use of knowledge) and Avakash (Space which represents detached
attitude) peaceful exit from this world /life is not possible. We should remember that every
day is the last day and should spend the day in the best possible manner. You can appreciate
this sentence if you can image getting up in the morning as ‘birth’ and sleeping at night as
‘death’. Once you accept this ideology, I am sure that you will get your best Life.
37 / Coffee:
You must have observed that Happiness and Problems follow each other. Change is
inevitable part of Life. What goes up eventually comes down. Every Act of pleasure (Luxury)
brings certain element of difficulty. How we react to difficulty? No body wants sorrows,
problems and difficulties. Some persons of soft nature become tensed even after tying over the
bad days. Some brave persons may become soft and pessimist after difficulty is sorted out. We
should accept problem as blessing without asking question as to why I am suffering. When
you get reward in Life, do you ask the question as to how I got his high reward
disproportionate to my Abilities? Please remember that Optimist finds opportunity in every
difficulty and Pessimist finds difficulty in every opportunity. We should accept the
difficulty without blaming any one and then try everything possible at our level and leave the
rest to GOD who knows what is best for us.
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My comments: I definitely got perturbed with my childhood but I accepted it as challenge.
No doubt, it affected my mind and mindset towards the society initially but soon I tied over
that feeling professionally.
38 / Thank God:
All of us face difficulties in day to day life. (I need not give list and increase your agony) Our
patience to overcome these trifle problems is wearing thin. In fact these small problems need
not spoil our mood. Shall I make small suggestion? You view the difficulty from positive
angle. Let me give example. (You find that trains are running late. You get irritated. You just
add the word ‘Thank God’ and reconstruct the same complaint. Thank God that trains are late.
If derailment or accident would have taken place then what you would do. ) Just try this trick
for guaranteed results. Read my Spandane Article ‘Thank God’ for more such examples.
39 / Death:
Death incidents witnessed by me.
40 / Worry:
In Marathi words ‘Chita’ and Chinta’ has a difference of only one dot but in terms of meaning
both the words convey different meaning. ‘Chita’ burns the body after death and ‘Chinta’
burns the person during Lifetime. Hence one must stop worrying and start Living. God
knows what is best for us. Here again I would like suggest a way out to overcome ‘Chinta’ i.e.
worry. Just think what maximum would happen? What you can do to avoid or combat with
the Chinta? Have you done that? What is the probability or chance that you would suffer
maximum consequences? What is your Life’s Law of Average? You will realize that you never
suffer to maximum extent if you have lead a honest and sincere life, cultivated habit of
lending helping hand to needy people etc.
My comments: I always study pros & cons of every problem form various angles. Having
realized that my Life’s Law of Average is fairly good, I have stopped worrying.
41 / Change:
We must realize that ‘Change’ is part of Life and also inevitable. Change should be
anticipated and we should mould ourselves for the change and there after change should be
accepted whole heartedly. Then again get ready to ‘Change’.
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42 / PERT-CPM:
You will be surprised if I say that your wife is Management Expert. You would ridicule me
by saying that she has not studied management. If I say that every Management graduate
can’t make a good Manger, then again you have temptation of writing me off. Please bear with
me. Well let me touch the subject proper. You must have read about the term ‘PERT & CPM’.
Any job (in office or residence) involves series of subsidiary jobs. Some of these jobs are
independent while some are interdependent. Once you can think and list all such sub jobs and
decide their dependence or interdependence, then you are assured of successful completion of
the same. Now you can react on my statement of calling your wife as Management Expert.
My comments: I learned this topic while studying for Final CA. Having understood the topic,
I applied the technique practically in every job/situation.
43 / Gudhi:
We should remember the ‘Contribution’ made by our parents, teachers, relatives, and society
in shaping our career and turning us in an individual of active habits. We owe thanks to these
people. This debt can never be repaid. The only way to repay this debt partly is by doing
something for the society, carrying our job whole heartedly, sincerely with full
synchronization of mind and body. Have you seen ‘Gudhi’? On a bamboo stick, ‘Tambya’ is
kept upside down. We should transfer our knowledge and expertise to next generation as per
the teaching of ‘Gudhi’. We can do this if we consider ourselves as ‘visitor’ in this world.
My comments: You may refer Article in Section I – My Social Service.
44 / GOD:
My concept of GOD has been explained.
My comments: You may refer Article in Section I – My GOD. 45 / Safety:
‘Security ‘has become buzz word of the day. In the changed scenario of bomb blast, terror
attacks, natural calamity, accidents, there is no guarantee that a person who leaves the house
in the morning would return safely in the evening. One must remember that our life is
decided by the Almighty super power and hence there is no point worrying about safety. No
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doubt, we should take the necessary care and precautions and leave the rest to GOD. Your
mind should sense the safety and it will automatically be seen on the face.
46 / Opportunity:
We should do justice to whatever opportunity we get. Opportunity does not knock your door
on and off. One needs to be optimist but should also have contingency plan in case things
don’t happen the way you anticipated.
47 / Changed mood of the society:
Value system in the society is changing very fast. What was correct and good yesterday
might have become old fashioned and rejected by younger generation. Every body is right in
his way but your right should not be at the cost of others. The dispute of two generations is
mainly because of this new mentality. Our behaviour should be such that minimum
inconvenience is caused to others.
48 / Kojagiri:
My experience of celebrating ‘kojagiri’ on sea beach near my second home with Neighbours.
49 / MOL-DIL:
My observations on relationship of Mother-in-law & daughter-in-law have been shared.
50 / Morning Walk:
My observations of people on jogging track have been shared.
51 / Communication skill:
Communication plays pivotal role in creating, maintaining and breaking relationship with the
world at large. We should not say what we mean unless called for but we must mean what
we say. This simple principle has the power to improve relationship.
My comments: I have adhered and sharpened this theory in my Life.
52 / Success Management:
Do you know the Success formula? Well, let me share the same.
Success = Minimum Ability / intelligence x hard work x Luck. The reply to what is success
will vary from person to person but what is important is to have overall proportionate
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SSuucccceessss oonn aallll sspphheerreess ooff LLiiffee.. BBaassiicc iinntteelllliiggeennccee ccaann bbee ffoouunndd oouutt aass wweellll aass iitt ccaann bbee mmeeaassuurreedd
//estimated. Luck element is known within few years of birth. Ability to do hard work lies
with everyone. What is required is desire. One should carry out SWOT analysis and then
decide the goal in life. One should set goals in different fronts such as education, career,
family, health, friends etc.
My comments: I have shared my formula of achieving the ‘Success’ in my Life. I give
minimum weightage to Luck factor and concentrate on other two. I constantly thrive to
enhance my ability with new technology & knowledge and I am always ready to slog. Thanks
to my typical relationship of few planets in my horoscope. ☺
53 / Time Management:
IItt iiss nneeeeddlleessss ttoo ssaayy tthhaatt ssuucccceessss ccaann nnoott bbee aacchhiieevveedd wwiitthh ddiissrreeggaarrdd ttoo TTiimmee MMaannaaggeemmeenntt..
TTiimmee iiss MMoonneeyy.. SSaavvee bbootthh ffoorr aacchhiieevviinngg ssuucccceessss iinn lliiffee.. TTiimmee ccaann’’tt bbee ssttoorreedd.. TTiimmee uusseedd
jjuuddiicciioouussllyy ccaann hheellpp yyoouu ttoo mmeeeett ggooaallss sseett iinn lliiffee.. TTiimmee sshhoouulldd bbee ssppeenntt proportionately on
various activities. It is unfortunate that younger generation is not very serious about Time
Management. At every stage one must realize what is the call of the day? What are your
priorities in life? What are your duties and responsibilities? What are your social obligations?
How you are spending TIME at present?
My comments: I have tried to cover the complex topic in a lucid manner for the benefit of
readers. These are Time tested Tips from my Life.
54 / Clock:
We expect that Clock must show correct time. ‘Correct timing’ also plays important role in
Life. We must remember 3 things while taking any action namely correct time, correct
reason/cause and correct proportion. Your action becomes effective only when all the above
three ingredients are present. Usually we take action based on 1 or 2 ingredients.
55 / Death experience:
My death experiences. I could have died on all these occasions but still survived and hence
sharing that experience.
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56 / Reflections:
Today, I am on the verge of retirement and trying to make Balance Sheet of what I gained
and what I lost in my life. When I decided to make this accounting, first thought that crept in
mind was of ‘Principles /Guiding stars’ which assisted me in my Life journey.
57 / Happy Mans Shirt:
Sharing my discovery of Happy Man’s Shirt. ☺
58 / Failure Management:
Everyone is afraid of Failure in life. How one can taste success all the time? Success and
failure follow each other in most of the cases. Confidence is generally lost with failure.
Experience is what you get when you don’t achieve your goal. Failure is the first step
towards success. I am not saying this just to pacify you but if you read autobiographies of
great personalities, you will agree with me. Have you witnessed how a baby takes her first
step? She falls down again and again in the initial stage but keeps trying. Why not follow this
when we are confronted with failure?
59 / Anger Management:
When ever things don’t happen the way we want gives birth to Anger. It is needless to say
that Anger is first most important enemy of a man. You are aware that anger is responsible for
causing diseases such as BP, Diabetes, Heart trouble etc. Person looses the control on his
mind and can’t decide what is good and bad.
My comments: Once upon a time, I was Angry young man. Now My wife calls me Angry old
man. These Tips are very effective.
60 / I am OK you are OK:
We all have born under same circumstances with no control on our parents, place of birth,
financial condition. We were neither pessimistic nor optimistic. We were born with neither
good qualities nor bad qualities. Through exposure to our environment, our parents, teachers,
friends and society in general, we developed mental pictures of ourselves. Circumstances
exert greater influence on our daily conscious activities & us. Kindly analyze your
Behaviour while dealing with others. In which slot you find yourself generally.
I am OK - You are OK / I am OK- You are Not OK
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I am not OK, You are OK / I am not OK, You are Not OK
You should note down your behaviour and try to work in I am OK / You are OK zone.
I am not O
61 / Parent-Adult-Child:
We all inherit 3 Ego status such as Parent (attitude, opinion) Child (feelings, emotions) and
adult (thoughts, learning). All these Egos are essential and play vital role in balancing our
behaviour. We move in and out of these egos in response to what is going on around us.
Child ego wants something; Adult ego makes the decision and Parent Okays the decision of
adult.
I am not O
62 / Service & service providers:
Are we proud service providers? Think twice before you answer. All through Life we are
service receivers. Whether this has a bearing while rendering service?
63 / Faith:
We must have basic faith in our kids considering their abilities. I am sharing my experience.
64 / Camel:
We set our educational goal, make all out efforts to achieve the same. It is also necessary that
we must do the job or carry out the profession-occupation which would demand our
educational knowledge gained. You must have observed that many persons compromise on
this concept of utilization of educational expertise achieved and take any job for earning
money. Under such circumstances, do you think it is possible for them to give justice to the
job? We also observe that intelligent girls complete higher education such as Architecture,
Engineering etc. but once they hook NRI, they would leave their job/profession and would go
abroad as Kitchen-in-Charge. What a waste of energy in completing education and
government money? Don’t you think its time to think on this?
65 / Fashion:
I have tried to look at the word ‘Fashion’ from different perspective.
66 / Objective Answers:
Problem faced by parents in communication with young ones has been shared.
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67 / Observation:
Visual definitions of subjective concepts such as risk, devotion, happiness, frustration etc.
68 / Conflict:
Conflict is part of our LIFE and is inevitable. We may not be fortunate to avoid all conflicts
but we can certainly try to manage them well in time. Understanding reasons of conflict &
acceptance of conflict etc. are most essential for its management. The points of agreements and
disagreements should be jotted down and solution should be thought to reduce the
differences by both the aggrieved parties without involving arbitrator.
69 / ABJ-TTP/P Technique:
You will agree that Theoretically every thing is possible. But have you considered Technical
possibility and thereafter Practical possibility? When all three possibilities are present then
and then only the Goal is achieved positively. However when you fail to achieve the desired
results, what is first reaction? Is it blaming somebody? Is justify the results? Or for a change
you accept the hard fact? Blaming somebody for the failure or justifying the failure may not
help you. In case you want to win over that unpleasant situation, you need to accept the
reality. Just see the difference by doing this. Many doors will open for the next try. Don’t ever
ask the question to God as to why I am forced to face this situation? Have you raised question
on getting disproportionate success not commensurate with your abilities?
70 / My Father:
My website has been dedicated to the fond memories of my Father.
71 / Suffocation:
Ours is a Male dominated world. Have you at any point of time realized / given serious
thought / understood the suffocation of female population. ‘Women Day’ is celebrated on
8 th March. When will Males realize the hidden contribution of ladies in all spheres of life?
It is said that there is backing of a lady behind the success of a man.
72 / My Social Service:
How I rendered social service without joining politics?
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73 / Love & Duty:
At times you are confronted with ‘Love and Duty.’ I am the opinion that when you really
Love somebody then only you carry out proper duties in respect of that person. We should
carry out our duty considering what is right for that person not what is liked by him. This
applies not only for family relationship but also at place of work. You should carry out the job
according to its natural justice and not according to the wrongful wishes of your Bosses. Have
you read the book ‘How to manage the Boss?’
74 / Cow-GOD & Man:
Story of a selfish Man. Also recorded a video in support of the Article.
75 / Diwalichi Story:
My comments on ‘Diwalichi story’ heard on TV.
76 / Cow & Begging:
I have tried to redefine the term begging from the observing ‘cow begging for food’.
77 / The Art of Living:
The Art of Living’ is call of the day. I don’t remember having heard this concept of ‘The Art
of Living’ from my parents. However now in spite of obtaining higher education, it is a pity
that we have to learn this Art. I have placed before the readers various real time problem
situations, problems, attitudes, stress situations etc. If one thinks seriously on every point,
notes down the thought process, then one can decide his own ‘Art or Style of Living’.
78 / Cow-Freedom & Man:
One can not enjoy freedom without the formal set of Rules & regulations.
79 / Beauty:
The Beauty is not what you see in mirror. The word ‘beauty’ can be looked from different
perspective.
80 / Sparrow’s Parable:
Moral story on social service and public tendency.
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81 / Change yourself, not the world:
Many times we have no control as to how the other person should react, behave etc. If you
want to change the society, then you should change first.
82 / Anomalies of Human Behaviour:
Human being is considered as most intellectual ‘animal’ in the universe. He can use his brain,
can think from various angles, knows the risk factors, can analyze cost-benefits of his actions
etc. If it is so, his behaviour is supposed to be consistent, rational etc. But we observe in day to
day life that it is not so.
83 / Behaviour Therapy for wood be Brides:
‘Relationship’ is born simultaneously with our birth. Relationship is a complex phenomenon.
I am aware that developing any relationship is a long drawn process. Although this Therapy
has been prescribed to would be ‘Brides’ but any daughter-in-law can start following this
therapy depending upon the circumstances to redevelop, mould, reconcile relationship with
In-laws. In fact many of the above Tips can be successfully used to improve relationships with
people.
84 / Behaviour Therapy for wood be Bridegrooms:
‘Relationship’ is born simultaneously with our birth. Relationship is a complex phenomenon.
I am aware that developing any relationship is a long drawn process. Although this Therapy
has been prescribed to would be ‘Bridegroom’ but ‘Any Bridegroom’ can start following this
therapy depending upon the intention to redevelop, mould, reconcile relationship with wife.
In fact many of the above Tips can be successfully used to improve relationships with people.
85 / Slave:
Whenever we hear the word ‘slave’, a dumb servant comes before our eyes. In history this
word taught us as to how slaves were punished, kept starving etc. by their masters.
We always take the literal meaning of this word. It is a pity that we don’t take macro
meaning of the word. All of us must accept one basic fact that we all are slaves, by whatever
sugar-coated name it is called.
86 / Pilot on Drive:
Who is pilot? Every one is a ‘Pilot’ in his own field. You can carry self respect for becoming a
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‘Pilot’ (or completing higher education etc.) but you should also respect others. Every one
should respect the individuality of another person. You have no inherent right to insult the
other person. Respecting others is like saluting ‘God’ because it is said that God is hidden in
every person.
87 / Exploitation:
If you take the macro meaning of the term ‘Exploitation’, you would observe that we survive
or for that matter succeed purely on exploitation. I have narrated few instances of day to day
exploitation. Lets join together to end Exploitation.
88 / Donation:
I have shared my views on Donation.
89 / Track:
Whether track has anything to do with a man? The answer was obviously yes. Surprised?
Whether you realize or not but we all follow the hidden track from the word go. i.e. since our
birth to death. However, the word ‘Track’ is seldom used. Well friends, I am sure that if one
tries to run his life’s race on some of the hidden tracks mentioned in the Article, his life will be
not only successful but one can even witness heaven on earth in his own life.
90 / Ramesh:
All of us face difficulties in day to day life. (I need not give a list and increase your agony)
Our patience to overcome these trifle problems is wearing thin. In fact these small problems
need not spoil our mood. Shall I make a small suggestion? You can view this difficulty from
positive angle.
Friends, I am confident that this article would change your outlook towards your life. When
ever you get confronted with petty problems, think of this story. If that happens, then I
would feel that my efforts are rewarded.
91 / Umbrella:
If one has to ‘carry unpleasant relationships’ in family/office and at the same time ‘carry
expectations’ from superiors, parents, teachers, spouse, kids and other family members, then
what is the problem of ‘carrying an umbrella’?
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My comments: View point of my Father in carrying umbrella has been given new dimension.
92 / Five Hs in our Life:
There are 5 Hs which play a vital role in our life namely House, Home, Hostel, Hotel and
Hospital.
93 / Question paper:
Different type of Question paper for every Indian citizen to answer.
94 / Corruption:
My views on corruption and my experience in this regard have been shared.
95 / Nataranga:
Review of Marathi Movie ‘Nataranga’ from management perspective.
96 / Spandane SMS:
Ready compilation of Mobile SMS for various occassions.
97 / Tips on saving Electricity consumption:
This compilation of Tips has been prepared to create awareness about necessity of reducing
Electricity consumption Let us Act positively by implementing the various Tips for saving
electricity consumption. Electricity Saved is Electricity Generated.
98 / Save Water:
This compilation of Tips has been prepared to create awareness about necessity of reducing
water consumption in view of unpredictable monsoon over last few years.
99 / Crisis Management:
This Article has been compiled to prepare all of us for meeting the challenge of CRISIS and
diluting its effect.
100 / Global recession & Common man:
Global Recession has become a Topic of discussion since September 2008. I have outlined Few
Tips under various categories which would enable every one to not only Save Money but it
will also help to improve the quality of LIFE. One will reap many indirect benefits such as
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improving planning skills, understanding importance of co-operation, improvement in
personal relationship, good health, mental peace and Happiness from Inside out etc.
101 / My Life Philosophy:
I followed certain principles in my life which enabled me to achieve balanced success in
Life. I am sure that whosoever tries to follow the same can also make his Life happy.
102 / Tips for improving relationship:
We can develop better relationship with others if we understand their entry in our life.
A person may come into your life for a ‘reason, for a season or for a life.’ If this focus is clear,
we can decide our relationship pattern.
103 / Cricket & Life:
Do you feel that there could be a relation between cricket and Life? First look at the word
‘cricket’ and try to learn some thing from the word itself. You need same qualities whether it is
Cricket or Life.
104 / Man & the Tree:
Friends, do you feel that there is a relationship between a man & the tree. I feel that a very
close relationship is prevalent between a man and the tree. This subject flashed in my mind
when recently I was specially shooting the big trees and their trunks.
105 / Money –Possessions –Happiness:
Many a time’s happiness is equated with wealth and or material possessions. Friends, what
you think? Is there any relationship between these three ingredients?
106 / Demand & Supply –New Perspective:
If we look at the various problems, one can realize that the root cause is ‘imbalance between
demand & supply.’ Though the said reason is obvious, it is rarely accepted for the purpose of
problem solving. At best it is accepted in the forum of dignified people who have no control
on execution of the solution.
107 / Skill:
The ‘Managerial skill’ is the buzz word of the day. White collared people usually have a
wrong notion that only they possess the skill due to higher education. Only they are destined
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to do the skilled job in the office. Seldom it is realized that practically every job requires skill
and every skill is not taught in the educational institution. Some skills are in the family and
are transferred from one generation to another.
108 / Three sides of Life Triangle:
In Young age, you have time and energy but no money to enjoy!!! In Middle age, you have
energy and money but no time to enjoy!!! In old age, you have time and money but no energy
to enjoy!!!! I have made an honest attempt to address this burning issue.
109 / Three stages of Marriage:
There are three stages of Marriage namely MAD for each other / MADE for each other /
MAD because of each other.
110 / Behaviour Therapy for Senior Citizen:
If your relationship gets clicked spontaneously, then nothing likes it. But there is no guarantee
that it would so happen. Hence you must try to establishment relationship by adhering to
various Tips listed in the Article. Why not make an attempt to develop relationship
professionally instead of relying on your mood /ringing of bells in your mind?
111 / Jail-Jailor-Prisoner:
I have looked at these words from different perspective. To look at the terms on macro level,
our birth itself gives rise to the triangle of jail, jailor and prisoner.
112 / Result:
I have looked at the word from different perspective. In fact we await results every minute,
every hour, every month in fact every movement from birth till death. Confused? Read the
Article.
113 / Monsoon Breeze – my experience:
I have shared experience of heavy breeze during monsoon supported by 4 videos recorded in
a short span of 30 minutes. I have captured the mood swings of the nature.
My comments: I always like to share my knowledge, experience for the benefit of others. It’s a
pro-active behaviour on my part.
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114 / Fallen Tree:
Is there any relationship between a Tree and a Man? Can we learn from Trees?
115 / Crow:
I have narrated New Moral Story based on Video clipping of CROW.
Refer my comments given under Article no.05 above.