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“Parenting with the Law of Attraction in Mind”

From Life Coach & Parenting Coach Sharon Ballantine



As they age, children have a natural tendency to pull away from their

parents in order to explore who they are

independently.



Many factors including birth order, genetics, and socialization contribute to when this will occur

and to what degree.



Some kids will model themselves after

another person while differentiating

themselves from their parents. They may choose a sibling, a

hero, or a close friend as their model.



Seeing kids change before their eyes can be disconcerting for some

parents, especially if the change goes against how a kid might have

previously been representing themselves.



When a previously clean-cut son grow his hair long and wears shoddy clothes, or a

little girl starts wearing thick makeup and “immodest” clothes, parents can

easily grow disconcerted.



Some kids will shift styles quickly or adopt a style with the specific intent

of shocking or alarming a parent. Changes can be temporary or lasting.



While some kids may choose to express individuality through altering their

physical appearance, others may do so by venturing into different kinds of

social and creative activities.



It is not uncommon for some kids to change up their peer groups or drop

their old friends and take up with new ones. They could potentially choose to

explore joining in with a crowd that you may not approve of.



You may find yourself asking,

“What can I do?”



It is important to recognize that you can

only control your children to a certain

point. Also, you want to empower your children

to grow into independent adults.



You may not always like the choices that your kids make, but recognize that growing up is a time for kids to try new things. By trying new styles, social activities, sports, classes, and

friendships, your kids will learn more about who they are and who they

hope to become.



Your challenge as a parent is to embrace and support your kids for who they are. This could mean giving up your dreams about who you thought they might grow

up to be.



You might be called to step back and hold space for them, while

they test out what it feels like to be growing into early adulthood.



Cultivate a strong practice of tuning into your Internal Guidance System (IGS) to determine when you need to step in and provide guidance and when it is best to

let your kids work things through on their own.



Above all else, children need and

crave love. They may roll their eyes when you ask for a hug in

front of their friends, but don’t let that fool

you.



Use your IGS to help you determine where the line is between unconditional

love and smothering your kids.



Encourage your kids to communicate with you openly. Give them the space

they need to express themselves deeply and you will have more opportunity to

know who they truly are.



You can help them tap into their own IGS and the whole

family can rest in the knowledge that the unique

qualities that emerge in your kids are authentically

theirs, whether they are short lived or remain long

term.



Go the extra mile to support and celebrate uniqueness in other people.

This will help you to create a culture of safety for your children and it will enable them to be more comfortable exploring all the nuances of their own emergent

individuality.



Inside you will learn:· What is your Internal Guidance System & how you can benefit from it.· Learn the value of trusting your IGS· Tips to help your children use their IGS

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