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The Bounce in Resilience

Martin Giles | Kerene Strochnetter | Wendy Weber

www.mindfulatwork.co.nz

R E S I L I E N C EThe process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats, or even significant sources of stress – such as family and relationship problems, serious health problems, or workplace and financial stressors.

[American Psychological Association brochure, “The Road to Resilience”]”]

People Without Resilience

Loss of connection/community Decreased health Reduced self confidence/self esteem Decreased responsiveness to other

people Behaviorally Emotionally

Damaged personal relationships

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Signs of Resilience?

Good health Feelings of connection Less fearful Overall wellbeing Higher self-esteem Ability to be vulnerability Being mindful

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“Although the risks and contradictions of

life go on being as socially produced as

ever, the duty and necessity of coping with them has been

delegated to our individual selves.

Zygmunt Bauman (2007)

15 Elements of Resilience

I HAVE:1. People around me I trust + who love me, no matter what.

[ TRUSTING/LOVING]2. People who set limits for me so I know when to stop before there

is danger or trouble. [LIMIT SETTING]3. People who show me how to do things right by the way they do

things. [POSITIVE ROLE MODELING]4. People who want me to learn to do things on my own.

[PERSONAL INITIATIVE]5. People who help me when I am sick, in danger, or need to learn.

[CARING, INVOLVED FRIENDS]

15 Elements of Resilience

I AM:6. A person people can like and love.

[LIKEABLE/LOVABLE]7. Glad to do nice things for others + show my concern.

[EMPATHETHIC]8. Respectful of myself + others.

[RESPECTFUL] 9. Willing to be responsible for what I do.

[RESPONSIBLE]10. Be sure things will be all right.

[CONFIDENT]

15 Elements of Resilience

I CAN:11. Talk to others about things that frighten me or bother me.

[CONSULT OTHERS]12. Find ways to solve problems that I face.

[SOLVE PROBLEMS]13. Control myself when I feel like doing something not right

or dangerous. [CONTROL MYSELF POSITIVELY]

14. Figure out when it is a good time to talk to someone or take action. [MAKE GOOD DECISIONS]

15. Find someone to help me when I need it. [SEEK HELP]

10 WAYS TO BUILD RESILIENCE

1. Make connections2. Avoid seeing crises as insurmountable

problems3. Accept that change is a part of living4. Move toward your goals5. Take decisive actions

10 WAYS TO BUILD RESILIENCE

6. Look for opportunities for self discovery7. Nurture a positive view of yourself8. Keep things in perspective9. Maintain a hopeful outlook10. Take care of yourself

[American Psychological Association]

Bear in mind…

Your mind and habits will create either barriers or bridges to a better future.

Resiliency can’t be taught, but it can be learned through practice. It comes from working to develop your unique combinations of inborn abilities.

The struggle to bounce back and recover from setbacks will lead to developing strengths and abilities that you didn’t know were possible.

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Or more simply…

Connect…

With the people around you. With family, friends, colleagues and neighbours. At home, work, school or in your local community. Think of these as the cornerstones of your life and invest time in developing them. Building these connections will support and enrich you every day.

Be active…

Go for a walk or run. Step outside. Cycle. Play a game. Garden. Dance. Exercising makes you feel good. Most importantly, discover a physical activity you enjoy and that suits your level of mobility and fitness.

Take notice…

Be curious. Catch sight of the beautiful. Remark on the unusual. Notice the changing seasons. Savour the moment,

whether you are walking to work, eating lunch or talking to friends. Be aware of the world around you and what you are feeling. Reflecting on your experiences will help you appreciate what matters to you.

Give…

Do something nice for a friend, or a stranger. Thank someone. Smile. Volunteer your time. Join a community group. Look out, as well as in. Seeing yourself, and your happiness, linked to the wider community can be incredibly rewarding and creates connections with the people around you.

Keep learning…

Try something new. Rediscover an old interest. Sign up for that course. Take on a different responsibility at work. Fix a bike. Learn to play an instrument or how to cook your favourite food. Set a challenge you will enjoy achieving. Learning new things will make you more confident as well as being fun.

GO FORTH…

AND

COPE !!!