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“Equallyoked”

So, How Do You Know?

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…what “Endogamy” means…

Endogamy means, “in-marriage” – and is when an individual – according to his/or her own social customs… (comment: this maybe more like community (psychosocial) health, such as, a ‘social

mores’ or even an actual practiced religious ‘law’)…. ….marries an another individual within his

or her own cultural “Social group”*. *Note; a “Social group” … a tribe, a sect or cult,

or a even a de facto ‘Civil Identity’,..

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…the “Homogenous” CoupleMutually Favorites:

Music Art Food Recreation

Laugh at Same Jokes Share in Favorite

Restaurants Seeks similar

Entertainment and Movie Genres

Seeks same Vacation Spot Destinations

Marriage, Family, and Child Psychology

They ‘like’ the same….

…more of a colloquial term…

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…Understanding theTerms• “Equally-yoked”

Social ScienceSocial Science – i.e., Clinical Social Psychology – i.e., Clinical Social Psychology Defined: A Dyadic (Spouses) with the Same ‘Civil Defined: A Dyadic (Spouses) with the Same ‘Civil

Identity’ Identity’ • “Equally Yoked”

ReligiousReligious – i.e, Holy Bible /Christian /Doctrinal – i.e, Holy Bible /Christian /Doctrinal Defined: A Couple with the Same ‘Civil Identity’ with Defined: A Couple with the Same ‘Civil Identity’ with

a focus on Same Religion and a focus on Same Religion and the Same ‘Spirit’ especiallythe Same ‘Spirit’ especially. . • “Equallyoked”

SecularSecular – i.e, Social Ethics /Justice /Social Mores – i.e, Social Ethics /Justice /Social MoresDefined: A Homogamous ‘Pair’ with the Same ‘Civil Defined: A Homogamous ‘Pair’ with the Same ‘Civil

Identity’ Identity’

Note: Pronounced the same and colloquially used interchangeably - practically meaning the same to all.

-Lexicon: -Definition of Terms

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““Civil Identity”Civil Identity”

‘Civil identity’ is a Social Psychology term – describing an individual’s collective of features concerning his or her present: ethnicity, political party membership, race, color, religious membership, disability/handicap, age/generation, (proper) sexual orientation, and marital status.2

Also, see “Self-identity”Also, see “Self-identity”

-Social Psychology/Self and Identity

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Biopsychosociocultural Model

Biologic

“Civil Identity”

Psychologic Social Culture

Sex

Disability

Color

Race

Disability EthnicityMartial Status

Belief/CreedSex

Race

Color

FOOTNOTEFOOTNOTE:: To a lesser or greater degree of mental disability always coexists with any physical disability and so it is therefore that with a mental disability a physical disability or a

biochemical imbalance is coexistent-affecting/or effecting an individual’s ‘civil identity.’

Social

Religion

Martial Status

+sexual pleasure preferences

PoliticalPartyPoliticalParty

-Social Psychology/Self and Identity

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“Civil Identity1”- Ethnicity: - Politics: - Religion: - Race: - Color: - Age: - Sex: Female- Sexual (pleasure preference) Orientation:- Marital status:

“Civil Identity” is actually a unique mosaic of one’s present: Ethnicity, Political Party, Race, Color, Religion, Disability, Sex, Sexual (Pleasure Preference) Orientation, Marital Status, Family Status, …..

- Ethnicity: - Politics: - Religion: - Race: - Color: - Age: - Sex: Male- Sexual (pleasure preference) Orientation:- Marital status:

““Civil IdentityCivil Identity22”

-Introduction to Sociology: Soc101

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…understanding basic “Social Mores”

…a basic rule within a specific cultural group Obedience to this cultural group’s rule – results

in formal and casual social acceptance… ..the foundation of all community laws within a

culture began with a specific social mores.. In order for there to be a continuance of culture

such social mores are formally and casually observed…

Social mores are r/t mental and social wellbeing..

Socialization, childrearing, marriage, and mate selection are founded up good social mores.

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…. Social Mores: +|-

“Equallyoked” Good self-esteem Spiritual maturity

a high level morality Social resilience Stable family values Quality of relationship Financial security

“Unequally yoked” False self-image Drug abuse implicated Immaturity/immorality Lying/deception Fun over facts Destruction of family lineage

-Social Psychology: SocPsy202

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…morality and Social Mores

The definition of morality and ‘Social Mores” has changed and evolved into a more multifaceted meaning –

Good mental health values expressed openly… Social manifestation of intrinsic positive moral codes…

e.g., positive existential and/or spiritual ideologies, Extrinsically…positive social customs and norms:

Proper social conduct and manners, Polite meaningful social etiquette, and… Positive social standards of behaviors

Acceptable health habits that comprise a ‘healthy lifestyle’ and are binding for optimal wellness and longevity yet differ according to individual group.

-Social Psychology: SocPsy303

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..having a Look at Morality

A Check List:Sensibility about Moral valuesIdentify certain Habits and lifestyleHistory of abiding in proper Social Mores

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…so, what Now?

Beware of: Any potential ‘Equally Yoked’ (Equallyoked) Help Meet WHO does…

…NOT want to meet, and....Become acquainted with....Your family of origin, or.. ..Your relatives,....and…

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…is a Sloppy DresserUnless your ‘Equally Yoked’ Help Meet is on

a deployed night mission or on a police SWAT team, BEWARE of those dressing in ‘very very dark’ solid colors such as… …all black:

..coat....shoes&socks....pants....shirt&t-shirt....hat! A NinjaA Ninja

A ‘Cat’ BurglarA ‘Cat’ Burglar

Motorcycle MilitantMotorcycle Militant

A Witch in CostumeA Witch in Costume

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…doesn’t Get Along with Parents

..Never Calls home..Never Writes to relatives..Never VISITS family

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..acquainted with Shady Characters

…peers were prison cell mates..has gangster/or organized crime-

associates..hangs out with Street people or those

who are involved in illegal acts

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…tells Off-Color Stories

..blurts out with a sense of Ill-humor..tells unusually perverted tales..is full of Offbeat Jokes

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...brags/has a Shifty- lifework

..has a history of Unemployment..has been “Fired” from a good job…has Quit a job or walked off..has no shows to work

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..gives a lot of Hard-Luck Stories

..about being a crime victim..about lack of love or affection...about having NO money

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…makes Excuses/or Apologies alot

…Sorry, doesn’t have the Time ..other People are making me do it..short or low on Money (no money)

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…definitely is a “Blamer”

..finding faults in other people..Plays the ‘blame’ game alot..has a loud 5th columnist attitude and is an

anti-government activist

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…tendency to tell Little Lies

..criticizes others - to look (self) better ..Exagerates a little to gain something..tries to cover up something

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…is a Petty Cheat

..tries to get-an-edge or/and ‘take’ more than one’s fair share

..looks for little ways to quickly grab-and-go

..takes a wee bit more of an advantage over others some how in some way

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..trys to Arrange Being Alone alot

…to have “get away” together..arranges for specific “special dates”..tries for private “celebration” activities

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…is a “Quick” Promiser

..to get a favor..to ‘score relationship points’ ..in order to gain some (self) advantage

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…is … Overly Personal

..talks in front of others about you....tells your friends about You’re quirks…..this and that..about your private

business and/or about the personal you

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…is a Borrower

..it is “Little” things at first…Later, larger and more valuable things…Small amount of money and then,..

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…is a Credit card Charger

..uses credit cards excessively..applies for any and all credit cards..is a compulsive spender/over charger

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…is ill at ease in Company

..makes excuses to avoid people..arrives late/leaves early at social events ..would rather forgo most events

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…condones an Evil Act

..makes a bad Omen about a person… “got what ‘he’ or ‘she’ deserves”..if somebody leaves - “Good riddens”

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…speaks for the Both of You

..interrupts your conversations..tells others in front of you about your… ..tries to prevent you from talking to

others

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…ridicules Your Moral Code

…your personal beliefs…your manners - behavioral standards..your family’s social ethics

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…doesn’t participate in Religion

..has a history of no religion..goes out of the way to avoid..or very little participation at all

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…quick to tell of Old Ways

“ I used to be a…”..misdemeanors and Felonies/Crime..other Infractions of law…a faked out someone, was a phony…

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..an Unequally Yoked - Player

..‘uses’ people to their disadvantage..is a player of Unequallyoked

relationships..Exploits people who know people…

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…a few Formal Perspectives

“An equally-yoked relationship is born when both ‘civil identities’ of the couple are rather matched, not mismatched.”

“A couple is considered equally yoked when both individuals have a civil identity that is the same or at least fairly equal.”

“The equallyoked couple may have exactly the same or very similar civil identities.”

- Marriage and Family Therapy

- Social Psychology Research: Reference Couple Indices

- Sociology 101

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..fulfilling an Equallyoked Coupleship

A few fulfilling features an ‘equallyoked’ coupleship: honesty, vulnerability, mutual respect for healthy

boundaries, a full range of emotions, constructive ambition, sharing of personal philosophy of life, full expression of love, admiration, and respect, high level self-esteem, excellent communication, true bonding, fun times together, really healthy sexreally healthy sex, negotiation with supportiveness, activity variety, commitment, ‘seeing’ the best in one another for the best outcome, true love, etc….

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Limitations in intellectual understanding and grammar must been taken into account and decided upon when using this material for educational practical use.

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“Equallyoked”

Now You Know!

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