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The issue regarding living with family is better rather than living alone is not new to us. Living alone or

living with family has a lot to be discussed especially the advantages and disadvantages that we

should take into the consideration. Besides some similarities, there are some of argument between

boundaries of living alone and living with family. The are some point that I would like to discuss

regarding this issue which it related to Abraham Maslow Hierarchy of Needs. As we all know,

according to this theory, there are five stages involves which physiological need (food, water and sex),

security need ( a safe environment), social need ( relationship with others), self esteem need( a sense

of personal worth) and self-actualization need (becoming the desired self). Based on this theory, lower

level needs must be satisfied before higher level needs can be addresses or become of interest to the

individual.

First of all, lets take a look on first point which touch on physiological need. Physiological need are the

factor that related to the basic need in our life. If we look at the perspective in living with family our

basic need must be fulfill by our family especially the parents must ensure that the children even

daughter or son to get well enough basic need as clothes, shelter and food. The different is only when

we looking on differences of income in certain family whereby the higher level income family will give

branded and expensive clothes, shelter and food and comparing to the lower level income family will

giving much more lesser than that but still meet the objectives and duties as head of household or

‘breadwinner” to ensure all the family members enough to get the basic needs. However, when looking

of the perspectives living alone, some of the basic needs is very difficult and limited to get especially

the shelter and food. It is because for living alone, it too costly if you have your own house compare to

rent. The rent much more lesser cost comparing to pay to the bank every month but still the shelter is

not 100 percent belong to you. In order to minimize the budget, sometimes the cost to rent the house

as small apartment or condominum, or shop houses is at the risky location. At the negative effect, it

might very dangerous especially foe example young girl come back home work from LRT station and

get snatched by the smuggler. Living alone also have bad impact when living in Klang Valley area as

everybody know that high cost of living expenses and in the middle of the month a curry cup Maggi

might become accompanion member. In fact, instant noodle also not good for the health if we still

keep on consuming it every month. For the good sake, living with family is the best solution during our

difficulties time as this.

Secondly, in terms of the security needs which is referring to the safe environment.As we concern that,

we are not celebrities or politicians to be surrounded by the thousand of bodyguards but the safe

environment is defined as the environment around us is safe for us to walk, to do every day to day

activities. When living with family obviously our family ensures the necessary security that is really

important in life. For example, after a long and exhausted day of working, we come back from hope

and sleep like a corpse. Next day, we will recognize we lose all most everything in our apartment

because of forgetting locking the door. The life is so miserable with none of family members around

us. However, it perhaps never happends if we are living with our family. It is because our parents are

actually going to do it.In contrast, living alone might be expose to the robbery or murdery because

recently all those kind murderer might known that we are living alone and easy to access the house

especially as apartment that neighbourhood relationship are do not known each other.

Thirdly, when discussing on social which relationship with others.Living with family means you have

such strong commitment and every your movement is been watch out by your parents and every

single step must get the permission by the family especially the parent. People who are living alone

enjoy much freedom than those living with their family. Certain people they might enjoy when together

with the family members and might some are not. Therefore, when discussing on this, as being alone,

they might think they can do whatever they want do without thinking too much consideration and what

might other people said. As mention people, when looking on social in the neighbourhood in the

apartment area, they do not bother about who you are, who are in and out from your home because

the mentality on “ This is none of my business” into their mind. For example, living alone, they might

go overnight and enjoy pleasant time with their companions. However, in Islam itself, it seem tough of

we are living with family. The kind of respect and the relationship with the different gender should be

emphasize especially men and women should be ‘halal’ with marriage. In the knowing that, the parent

would not allowed if the children are too socialized without any permission relationship.Therefore,

living with family might be as reminder to us and we have the boundaries and limitation when befriend

with especially opposite gender.

In addition to that,the fourth point regarding the self-esteem which referring to a sense of personal

worth. Living at home might impact to the emotional aspect that we have to face. Living at home can

result less frustrating than living alone because we can share the problems that we have with our

parents, sibilings or any family members in order to look for some solutins to difficult situations that we

might face. The sense personal worth here is during the diffulties time we have the family stay beside

us . In contrast, if we are live away from home,most of the time we are going alone, so we have to find

someone who wants to listen our problems which are really difficult to get. Sometimes, the person that

we trust maybe tiptoe around the problem that we share with him or he. Our friends are