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For Happier Holidays, Choose to be Positive
Ronald L. Rubenzer Ed.DAuthor: How the Best Handle Stress
Member: Moses Cone HospitalPatient Advisory Councilwww.drrubenzer.com
WELCOME
Today we’ll look at The Power of Love, Peace , Joy, &
Gratitude to help us Enjoy this Most Wonderful Time of the year.
How to rise above Turbulence: Captain Sully’s advice from his MIRACLE -PLANE LANDING- ON THE HUDSON
A New Year’s Resolution, guaranteed to improve your Quality of Life
A JOYFUL HEARTIS GOOD MEDICINE
Proverbs 17:22
Your life is what your thoughts make of it.
(Marcus Aurelius 180 AD)
YOUR HAPPINESS IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY
The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts.Marcus Aurelius
You are 100% Responsible for your reaction to CHANGE.
(Kiva ElliottMoses Cone Health System NC)
“THINK”“RESPONSIBLY”
Thinking Responsibly Fill your mind completely with
thoughts of peace and GRATITUDE
There is an ancient promise ofGoodness and Mercy Following you
all the days of your life (if you don’t FEAR)
PEACE ON EARTHis Man’s highest value (a quarter million
miles HIGH on Lunar Placard, 1969). Every time you look up at moon,
REMEMBER the “man in the moon” is proclaiming
WE COME IN PEACE FOR ALL
Thinking Responsibly =
Peaceful Acceptance
&
Planning
PEACEFUL ACCEPTANCE IS doing your best to achieve
“acceptance” of challenges, seeking a “happy medium” (not overreacting or denying a challenge)
(e.g. “uncle who always drinks too Much Holiday Cheer. Accept that fact, and be grateful he doesn’t live nearby )
WHINING“It’s a miserable day.”
ACCEPTANCE“It is raining.”
How to turn WHINING into Peaceful Acceptance
Whining“He didn’t have the decency to return my call.”-------------------------------
ACCEPTANCE“He did not call.”
How to turn WHINING into Peaceful Acceptance
Whining“She let me down.”ACCEPTANCE “I was there. She was not.” Tolle. (2003) pp. 120-121
How to turn WHINING intoPeaceful Acceptance
Planning Everyone has Holiday Craziness. Ahead of
time, plan an escape route on your Calendar (lunch with friends, new membership at a gym, a massage appointment).
Plan on people taking advantage of National Whiner’s Day (December 26). Humor the Whiners (they can look UP THEIR SPECIAL DAY) http://abcnews.go.com/Entertainment/WolfFiles/story?id=1224143&page=2#.ULPaV4Mo6M8
For uncle drinking too much Holiday Cheer, set up “time to go home”
Plan to stay healthy Stress management (ABC’s later) Get Professional Help (extra-
hands to string lights, cook meals, professional cleaners)
Get enough sleep, rest and be GRATEFUL
AN ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE Dr. Ruth Woo, a national expert on
aging, reports on the remarkable benefits of GRATITUDE.
Grateful people have more energy and optimism, are less bothered by life’s hassles, are MORE RESILIENT in the face of stress,
BENEFITS OF GRATITUDE Grateful people are healthier, suffer
less depression, are more compassionate, less argumentative
Are more likely to help others.
Dr. Woo’s GRATITUDE BUILDERS Writing letters of gratitude improves
well-being and happiness In the face of difficulties, think of
your strengths Express gratefulness to those who
have helped you (say thanks to counter staff)
Smile at people you meet
Dr. Woo’s GRATITUDE ACTS Focus on what you HAVE and you
will be satisfied and contented (paying attention to what you don’t have and you’ll NEVER BE HAPPY.
For more information please go to [email protected]
GRATITUDEA BIG
Thank youTo Ms. Connie Hicks (Aka
Ms. Nascar)For This Awesome Power Point Design
How to be POSITIVE! For brighter day, choose to be positive NEWS & RECORD OPINION Saturday, November 27, 2010
The breakfast of champions is “Rise and Shine.” The unspoken motto of losers is “Rise and Whine.”
. You may wake up with pains, but that doesn’t mean you have to be
one. Be less complaining about your circumstances,.
Before your feet hit the floor, be grateful for the fact that you could see, hear, feel and eventually rise.
Keep your negativity to yourself. When tempted to whine, just remember the Swiss proverb: “Speech is silver; silence is golden.”
How to be positive-NOW
ENJOYTHE
PLEASANT PRESENT
How to be POSITIVE
Stop global whining
Stopping Global Whining No Whining While you work (“I
made these great cookies for you even though I had a migraine”)
Stop Correcting everyone… “That’s not exactly right. What really happened was “blah-blah-blah” [false memories]
STOPPING GLOBAL WHINING ONE PERSON AT A TIME FOR YOUR FAVORITE WHINER, BUY THEM A YES MAN (TALKING
HEAD) When your whiner talks to him, he says“I couldn’t agree with you more
completely. How do you do it? I’m sure whatever you’re thinking is CORRECT.”
“YES MAN” TALKING HEAD Perfect Whiner’s Gift HE ALWAYS AGREES WITH YOU $29.95
http://www.mandrgames.com/YESMANDoll.htm
How to be POSITIVE-NOW Seasons change and so can you.
Fake it until you make it — your positive attitude, that is. Optimism is linked to better health, relationships
RISING ABOVE ANY TURBULENCE:
Captain Sullengberger’sMIRACLE ON THE HUDSON-He
chose to control his stress-response
“CAPTAIN COOL’S” Choice Captain Sully’s Miracle on the Hudson
(flight 1549 for Charlotte NORTH CAROLINA) proves we ALL have the Power to rise above Turbulence.
With both plane engines disabled, (by a flock of geese )and with 155 passengers aboard, he “determined that ditching in the Hudson
was the only option for everyone’s survival.”
HIS CHOICE-TO SAVE OTHERS “Sullenberger walked the
unflooded part of the passenger cabin twice to make sure everyone had evacuated before retrieving the plane’s maintenance logbook and being the Last to evacuate the aircraft.”
Captain Cool’s (Sully) attitude: “One way of looking at this might
be that for 42 years, I’ve been making small, regular deposits in this bank of experience, education and training. And on January 15 the balance was sufficient so that I could make a very large withdrawal.”
Captain Sully’s Stress Management Advice
DEVELOP the Right Attitude and
Better Prepare yourselffor the Unexpected
…Relaxation, not intentness, should now be the rule.William James, 1902
The ABC’s of stress reduction
ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE BREATHE –Slowly & Deeply Choose order over chaos (organize your
personal world [not anyone else’s]. Choose to be around positive people!
What to do on Monday
In an ideal world: Choose to Relax and Exercise at
home!
Tried & True Stress Management- FOR MILLIONS OF “HURRICANE-SANDY-STORM” VICTIMS
I’M OK Deep-Slow-Breathing Relax neck, jaw, forehead muscles, fists
REPEAT
“IF YOU CAN’T FIGHT OR FLEE, FLOW”
HAPPIER NEW YEAR A New Year’s Resolution, guaranteed to
improve your Quality of Your Life“Make me an Instrument of your Peace”
(This Resolution shared in writing with Millions at end of WWII http://www.franciscan-archive.org/franciscana/peace.html)
That’s All Folks!
Thanks for coming!
