Have You Set Your Marriage Goals in 2017?

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Have you set your Marriage goals in 2017?Where do you want to take your marriage to

in 2017? This cannot be possible without setting goals

for your marriage. Goals are steps that you are going to follow in

order to reach your marriage vision.


• What, specifically, would you like to see accomplished together in 2017?

• 1 Cor. 13:4-8• 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not

envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. • 5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not

easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.


• 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

• 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

• 8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. NIV


• Goals are simply a set of specific steps to achieve the vision. “Goals are dreams with a date.” One vision produces many goals. Goals are shorter-term measurements of whether we’re reaching our vision together in our marriage.


• Deliberately and intentionally invest in your marriage in 2017 just as much as you invest in other areas of your life. And that means setting tangible goals in 2017.

• What, specifically, would you like to accomplish together in 2017?


• Having a vision is good but it is not enough. There must be goals to put it into action. Goals are simply a set of specific steps to achieve the vision. Someone else has said, “Goals are dreams with a date.”

• Goals provide:i. Directionii. Motivationiii. Measurement


• "What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals .“ Henry David Thoreau.

• Setting goals early in your marriage and constantly reviewing them is very important.


• When your goals are clear, you know what you're trying to achieve. You can also measure results accurately, and you know which behaviors to reward to your spouse.

• This is important for both of you.


• It is important to set goals both as an individual and as a couple. In other words, you should have your own set of goals as well as goals as a couple in order to thrive in a relationship. A marriage without goals/a common vision is subject entirely to external influences, regardless of whether they are desirable or not.


• Setting goals for yourself defines your identity, gives you a sense of purpose, gives you a sense of self-worth and esteem, puts you in the driver's seat of your life and makes you a better person overall.


• Setting goals as a couple ensures that you always have something common to work towards. This common goal and vision may be the glue that binds you together in times of hardships.


The Benefits of setting Marriage Goals

• 1) Pursuing your vision• What is important to you as a couple? E.g. – security, happiness, peace of mind, team

work etc.• It is more important that you have similar

vision and values.


• 2) Have a weekly schedule that you are comfortable with.

• This facilitates reviewing/working out your short-term goals.

• 3) Keep the goal setting process as simple as possible.

• Being too elaborate makes it difficult to review and update your goals.


• 4) Write down the goals for 2017.• You may type your goals out in a word

document and keep a copy for both of you to refer to.

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• Every couple that marries has various reasons and motives for becoming

husband and wife. • These reasons must prevail while

looking at your marriage goals in 2017.


You need to have :• 1. Spiritual goals . • Your spiritual relationship with each other is

truly the core of your marriage and it enables all other areas of your relationship to work well.


• 2. Verbal goals• To experience true friendship and

companionship within your marriage you must be able to talk to each other. You must have the freedom to communicate your thoughts and ideas without the fear of ridicule or reprisals.


• a.) Attitudes: Do you have an arrogant or condemning attitude when you talk to your spouse? Does your attitude communicate bitterness or irritation?

• b.) Words: Are your words harsh and aggressive? Do you lie or use evasive words to avoid telling the truth?

• c.) Actions: When you communicate do you interrupt your mate or regularly finish his or her sentences?


• Do you try and dominate the conversation by your many words, or do you use the silent treatment to control your spouse? Are you good at blame-shifting when your spouse brings up one of your faults?

• This is major goal that needs to be set by every couple.


• 3. Emotional goals. • In addition to spiritual and verbal goals, you

must be able to connect emotionally with your loved each other. Can you share your deepest emotions with your spouse, or are you afraid to reveal how you feel to each other?


• 4. Recreational goals. • Having fun together is an essential element

of good relationship. You’ve probably heard the saying, “The family that prays together stays together.”

• “The family that plays together stays together.” Identify how you can improve your times of recreation together in 2017


• 5. Sexual goals • To ever hope to enjoy the true sexual

relationship God intends for your marriage, you must establish and maintain relationship in all of the above areas.

• If you have little relationship spiritually, don’t connect emotionally, or find it difficult to talk or have fun together, it will be very difficult to enjoy a satisfying sexual relationship with each other.


• Finally in 2017• When You Are Married, Act Married! • if you are gone all the time from your spouse,

someone else may be giving your spouse attention. Do not allow the “little foxes” spoil the vine. Being gone from your spouse may send a message that you prefer to spend more time with others than with them.


Enjoy your marriage relationship in 2017 and at the end of the year

carry out an evaluation of the goals you set for the year.

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