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Seven Lessons in Personal Marketing I Learned From
Pickup Artists
Alan Stevens
nerdhiveindustries.com
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The seduction community is an ad-hoc collection of men that try to trick women into having sexual intercourse with them.
Merlin Mann
Men are just ugly women you don’t
want to sleep with.
Mystery
All sales is nothing more than making
friends.Shane Pearlman
Who are thesePickup Artists?
mysterypua.net
Mystery
doubleyourdating.com
David DeAngelo(Eben Pagan)
myspace.com/neilstrauss
Neil Strauss
rsdnation.com
Tyler Durden
artofattraction.com
Lance Mason
1. It’s OK to talk to strangers2.Lean Back3. Prepare your mental frame4.Provide Value5.Talk to groups6.Get warmed up7.Have a plan
1. It’s OK to talk to strangers2.Lean Back3. Prepare your mental frame4.Provide Value5.Talk to groups6.Get warmed up7.Have a plan
Nature has not designed you for the world in which you now live.
Mystery
Beware of Your Lizard Brain
http://www.flickr.com/photos/aknock/4511438903/
Karl Rohnke’s CSP ModelComfort Zone
Stretch Zone
Panic Zone
Mystery
Confidence is not the goal.
Competence is.
We miss 100% of the shots we don’t take.
Wayne Gretsky
They can’t eat you.Bob Parsons
http://www.flickr.com/photos/darwinbell/536974319/
1. It’s OK to talk to strangers2.Lean Back3. Prepare your mental frame4.Provide Value5.Talk to groups6.Get warmed up7.Have a plan
http://www.flickr.com/photos/my-misc-pics/5157196374/
http://www.flickr.com/photos/icandyartstudio/800171450/
http://www.flickr.com/photos/sfllaw/639442917/
Your primary goal must be your own enjoyment.
Jeanne Martinet
1. It’s OK to talk to strangers2.Lean Back3. Prepare your mental frame4.Provide Value5.Talk to groups6.Get warmed up7.Have a plan
Frames13 year olds
Bette Davis
Kid Sister
Underwear
The Host
http://www.flickr.com/photos/trojanguy/3259035554/
OMG, an exercise!
flickr.com/photos/dougcoulter/3839242262
Are you chasing butterflies?
http://www.flickr.com/photos/lordcuauhtli/2180205334/
http://www.flickr.com/photos/90982314@N00/4693959409/
Your purpose in any mingling situation is to
have fun.Jeanne Martinet
1. It’s OK to talk to strangers2.Lean Back3. Prepare your mental frame4.Provide Value5.Talk to groups6.Get warmed up7.Have a plan
Give people insight into
themselves
Enter a set at the same or slightly higher energy as the
people in the group.
Neil Strauss
Reach people at an
emotional level
Seek rapport not approval
rap·port /raˈpôr/Noun:A close and harmonious relationship in which the people or groups concerned understand each other's feelings or ideas and communicate well.
1. It’s OK to talk to strangers2.Lean Back3. Prepare your mental frame4.Provide Value5.Talk to groups6.Get warmed up7.Have a plan
Talking is the only means you have of
conveying your personality
Speak slowly, with pauses
and enthusiasm
Consider Joining Toastmasters
www.toastmasters.org
1. It’s OK to talk to strangers2.Lean Back3. Prepare your mental frame4.Provide Value5.Talk to groups6.Get warmed up7.Have a plan
http://www.flickr.com/photos/avlxyz/2435646997/
Practice your mingling on the socially challenged.
Jeanne Martinet
Get into a talkative mood and practice talking to everyone.
Mystery
1. It’s OK to talk to strangers2.Lean Back3. Prepare your mental frame4.Provide Value5.Talk to groups6.Get warmed up7.Have a plan
I. Avatar
II. Story
Be yourself
but be your best self.Style
http://simple.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Peacock_Milwaukee_County_Zoo.jpg
http://www.flickr.com/photos/betsyweber/5355040879/in/set-72157625823025718
Story Topics• Did something fun with a girl• Did something you weren’t supposed to
and got away with it• Had something funny/scary/exciting
happen on a trip• Took charge of a situation• Stood up to someone for someone else• Organized something exciting• Had someone’s back• Got out of an awkward situation• Did something nice for someone• Did something spontaneous• Accomplished something you are proud of• Saw something funny/scary/exciting
Source: venusianarts.com
doubleyoursalesnow.com
WARNING
Source: Pragmatic Thinking and Learning
Dreyfus Model of Skills Acquisition
http://www.flickr.com/photos/hubmedia/2141860216/
Resources
Game On
www.gameondvd.com
http://www.flickr.com/photos/sred/433674856/
The “N” Word
Networking is doing favors for
other peopleMerlin Mann
Thanks For Listening!
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