January, 2009. Am I normal? Who am I? Where am I going?

January, 2009

Am I normal?

Who am I?

Where am I going?

Gut reactions fully wired

Still under construction is the ability to

Discern Handle ambiguous information Plan Organise Control emotions Coordinate conflicting signals

We need to set limits

and boundaries,

especially when it

comes to safety.

A belief in one’s mortality

A desire to experiment

A need for peer approval

Relatively short term relationships

The journey between childhood and young adulthood is marked by 4 key challenges:

1.Forming a positive identity

2.Establishing a set of good friends

3.Breaking the emotional bonds that bind them to their adult carers

4.Setting meaningful vocational goals

Some things parents can

do to help their

daughter have a

successful education

1. Enriched Environment

2. Learned Optimism

Enriched environment

Interpersonal interaction Interdependent learning at

home Exercise Value of education

Feel good self esteem Optimistic thinking Learning from failure How the child thinks,

especially when she has failed

Problem Solving

How we think about the causes of failure.

Permanence

Pervasiveness

Personalisation

‘always’, ‘never’ Thinks globally General self blame

Sometimes, lately Thinks specific/accurate Realistic responsibility

Don’t solve every problem for the child

Don’t be overly critical of the child’s attempts to problem solve

Model a flexible problem solving strategy

Slow down

Perspective taking – put yourself in other’s shoes

Goal setting

Choosing a path or course of action. Compare pros and cons.

If it doesn’t work try another path