Pete Gowers/Mark Wilson ow to work in difficult Time The art of Control • Accept the things I cannot change • Have Courage to change the things I can • Have the Wisdom to know the difference Th
1. Pete Gowers/Mark Wilson How to work in difficult Times - The
art of Control Accept the things I cannot change Have Courage to
change the things I can Have the Wisdom to know the difference
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2. How to work in difficult times? 1. Frustrated/Annoyed at
things happening to you 2. Overwhelmed - Too much work to do 3.
Other people 4. Feeling pressure, stress, anxiety? Th
3. 1. Frustrated/Annoyed at things happening to you Th
4. 1. BUSINESS 2. TECH/SCIENCE 3. PSYCHOLOGY 4. PHILOSOPHY
Quote Quiz The best years of your life are the ones in which you
decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your
mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control
your own destiny. T
5. 3. PSYCHOLOGY The best years of your life are the ones in
which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them
on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you
control your own destiny. Albert Ellis T
6. Things that have an impact on you / your day Other people
Your boss The past Your immediate reactions What you do / Your
actions Ford strategies Your workload How you feel Th
7. Locus of Control Th Things you cannot influence Things you
can influence But not control Things you can control Other people
Your immediate reactions The past What happens when your well-being
depends on controlling something you can only Influence at best?
Fords Strategies Your boss Your Workload? What you do? How you
feel
8. 2. Overwhelmed - Too much work to do Th
9. 1. BUSINESS 2. TECH/SCIENCE 3. PSYCHOLOGY 4. PHILOSOPHY
Quote Quiz When you die, your inbox wont be empty T
10. 1. BUSINESS When you die, your inbox wont be empty T
11. Techniques that can help (with too much work) Task Lists
Manage your boss Deal with procrastination Simple Time management
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12. Task Lists If you have too much to do, then pretending
youll do it doesnt help anyone, especially you. If you dont know
how much you have to do or what your priorities are then you are
stuffed. A task list can be anything, outlook tasks, paper, excel,
word or even an email What it cant be is your inbox, thats
impossible to prioritise. Remember workload is infinite. In the end
all you can do is your hours, work hard and prioritise. Th
13. Managing upwards: Help your Boss to Help you You may want
your boss to fix workload for you, but only one person really knows
what you have to you. Then you need to have 1x1s to agree what
youre doing and what youre not doing. If you produce a task list
and discuss with your boss the priorities and agree what you cant
do. If you are in conflict with your boss, then thats trouble. if
you ever dont agree with your boss, there are 2 options. Th You If
things are high pressure then they can be shorter and more
frequent, even daily stand ups if needed. Then they can own the
things you cant do. Convince them of your way. Do it their
way.
14. Procrastination A Definition Are you busy, but maybe not on
the right stuff? Look at yesterday did you do the highest value
stuff? Do you struggle to start because youre overwhelmed? Putting
off something that it is in your interests to do, at a time when it
is in your best interests to do it. (Windy Dryden) We might also
add, for the sake of something that is less in our interests.
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15. 1. BUSINESS 2. TECH/SCIENCE 3. PSYCHOLOGY 4. PHILOSOPHY
Quote Quiz the beginning in every task is the chief thing T
16. the beginning in every task is the chief thing Plato 4.
PHILOSOPHY T
17. Work out why and then go for it Th Cause Action Guilt or
shame that you havent done the task already The task is something
you resent, maybe you do other things to prove your autonomy in the
world You can be overwhelmed by everything you have to do and put
off everything as a result You can be afraid of the task, that it
will be unpleasant, not being able to do it or not able to do it to
a standard youd like Accept where you are today and plan for the
future Maybe your activities are not in your interests and you may
choose to change them You could just need a list so you can focus
on just one thing for now Choose to accept the fear as natural and
do it anyway, accept you can tolerate unpleasantness
18. Simple Time management YOUR DAY Meeting 1 Meeting 2 Meeting
3 Meeting 4 Meeting 5 Meeting 6 Task 1 Task 2 Task 3 Th
19. 3. Other People Th
20. 1. BUSINESS 2. TECH/SCIENCE 3. PSYCHOLOGY 4. PHILOSOPHY
Quote Quiz Insanity, doing the same thing again and expecting a
different result. T
21. 2. TECH/SCIENCE Insanity, doing the same thing again and
expecting a different result. Albert Einstein T
22. Working with others Do you want people to like and value
you? Does what youre doing now get you all the recognition and
appreciation you want? Remember Einstein Insanity, doing the same
thing again and expecting a different result. Th
23. Remember - Locus of Control Th Things you cannot influence
Things you can influence But not control Things you can control
Other people Your boss What you do?
24. Compliments People like genuine compliments, think of the
impact it has on you. If you want more: Look for ways to genuinely
compliment others. Did you do that with co-workers/subordinates
today? How about with your boss? Th
25. Focus on whats been achieved Task lists are essential, but
they are list of thing you havent yet done. Do you celebrate
success? Recognise yourself as well as others or itll be a long
year until you look back. Have a whats better list or do 3
blessings, what went well and why. Th
26. Three Good Things
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZOGAp9dw8Ac&feature=related
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27. Managing Conflict Everyone clashes with other people
Priorities, ways of working, communication style, or just
disagreements Find the common ground People are different,
individual this is a good thing Truth : No one comes to work to
intentionally do a bad job Align on how you do work, guidelines and
establish working norms Th
28. 4. Feeling pressure, stress, anxiety? Th
29. 1. BUSINESS 2. TECH/SCIENCE 3. PSYCHOLOGY 4. PHILOSOPHY
Quote Quiz When everything seems to be going against you, remember
that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it. T
30. 1. BUSINESS When everything seems to be going against you,
remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it.
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31. Feeling rubbish? Are you ruminating? Did it go home with
you? What do you feel rubbish about? If you dont know try
brainstorming possible reasons In and out of work Then try scoring
them. Once you have an idea you can: Problem solve do something
different. Get Help, brainstorm sources, you have the answers for
you. Distraction Cognitively Reappraise Th
32. Scoring what may be happening Boss didnt like report My
partner was grumpy this morning I dont have an up to date task list
Someone cut me up on the road this morning I havent had a holiday
in a while I didnt sleep well last night I feel isolated in my job
right now 8 4 6 5 4 7 9 Th
33. Accepting the worst Do you think youll be fired? Will you
be physically hurt? Will you be bullied? Is the worst case is some
people with be disappointed and upset with you. Realise that you
can accept that scenario and the fear goes, then you can focus on
delivery and even doing so happily. Th
34. ABCD Video
35. 1. BUSINESS 2. TECH/SCIENCE 3. PSYCHOLOGY 4. PHILOSOPHY
Quote Quiz People think focus means saying yes to the thing you've
got to focus on. But that's not what it means at all. It means
saying no to the hundred other good ideas that there are T
36. 2. TECH/SCIENCE Steve Jobs People think focus means saying
yes to the thing you've got to focus on. But that's not what it
means at all. It means saying no to the hundred other good ideas
that there are T
37. Any Questions Th
38. References/More reading
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Locus_of_control How To Win Friends
And Influence People, Dale Carnegie. Vermilion; New edition edition
(6 April 2006) ISBN-13: 978-0091906818 Ten Steps to Positive Living
By Windy Dryden (Jun , 2003), SHELDON PRESS Three Blessings -
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RT2vKMyIQwc Humourous ABCD ref Windy
Dryden http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J_frDwckrys Overcoming
Procrastination, A. Ellis , W. Knaus, Penguin; Reissue edition (Oct
1983), ISBN-13: 978-0451159311 Learned Optimism: How to Change Your
Mind and Your Life, Martin E. P Seligman, Vintage Books USA;
Reprint edition (14 Mar 2006) , ISBN-13: 978-1400078394 Summary of
Don't Sweat the Small Stuff, and its all small stuff by Richard
Carlson, Ph.D. http://x.ford.com/sweat Feel The Fear And Do It
Anyway: How to Turn Your Fear and Indecision into Confidence and
Action, Susan Jeffers, Vermilion (4 Jan 2007) ISBN-13:
978-0091907075 Th