What should I do?

Backstabbed: I found out that my best

friend lied to me! My friend and I were supposed to go to a baseball match last Saturday, but he called me and said that he couldn't make it because of a splitting headache. Then, today I was told that an-other friend of mine saw him at the base-ball match. I'm so upset and disappointed with him that I don't want to talk to him anymore ; but ,at the same time I don't want lose him, either. I don't know what to do.

What makes good ad-vice?

• Work in groups of four.

• Brain storm the elements of good advice for three minutes.

Elements of good advice

Elements of good advice

Be specific

Reasoning for suggestion

Be constructive not accusative

Doable

Let’s give some advice.

Frustrated: I don’t think I’m not smart enough. I didn’t do well in middle school and I thought it was because I didn’t work hard enough. I decided to work harder and hav-ing four-hours of sleep everyday after I became a high school student. Since I’m a night person, I stayed up almost all night, studyings especially for this midterm exam. I thought I could be successful this time. Disappointingly, I got poor grades again. I don’t know what more to do to get better grades. Any tips?

What we included in the ad-vice.

check how you study

(suggestion)

think about how attentive you are during the class

take notes on what you’ve learned and what you won-der about using color pens

and sticky notes

to fix bad habits(reason for your suggestion)

lack of sleep can prevent you from being attentive

Make your own summary of what you've learned and to ask the teacher about what

you don't understand

What should I do? [Think-pair-share]

1. Work in pairs.

2. Think of your own problem.

3. Tell your problem to your partner.

4. Give tips to your partner.

5. Share your problem and tips with

the whole group.

Time limit for each step

Think about your own problem

Prep. time for giving advice Giving advice

2 min 1 min 1min

Be a counselor [Chain counseling]

1. Work in groups of six.

2. Number group members from one to six.

3. Odd numbers are clients and even numbers are

counselors.

4. Odd numbers and even numbers sit in a row

facing each other.

5. For one minute, ask for advice and give advice.

6. After finishing, clients move seats clockwise.

What is the best advice?

Are the suggestions specific? Do the suggestions have proper

reasoning? Are they doable? Is your counselor sympathetic?