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I –MESSAGES HELP US
TALK OUT PROBLEMS
TALKING IT OUT Talking problems out helps solve a
disagreement or problem between yourself and another person.
Talking it out is hard – but can help the situation get better.
You need to stay calm and be patient.
BLAMING DOESN’T WORK Starting out with the word “you” creates
blame. The other person will often not listen to you if they feel blamed for something.
BOTH SIDES Each person needs to explain their side
while the other person listens, then SWITCH.
I - MESSAGES I Messages are a powerful when you
have good eye contact and use the other person’s name to get their attention.
4 STEPS There are 4 easy steps students can let
others know how they are feeling and what behavior is bothering them.
These steps use good manners to solve the problem.
It gives everyone a chance to tell what they want to happen.
4 STEPS
HOW TO TALK IT OUT: Wrong Way to talk it out: "You
interrupted me! You never let me talk!“
Correct Way to talk it out: "I feel frustrated when you interrupt me because I want to share what I'm thinking. Can you please stop?"
LISTENING Talking it out will only work if both
people are willing to listen to each other.
PRACTICE I MESSAGES USING THESE PROBLEMS: someone is throwing eraser pieces at
you there's a pencil found on the floor and 2
people go to pick it up at once someone keeps chasing you at recess
and yelling out your name a classmates is whispering to you when
the teacher is giving instructions someone keeps kicking your desk when
you're trying to work someone cuts in front of you in line
PRACTICE I MESSAGES: the person in front of you is fooling
around at the pencil sharpener and won't let you have a turn
a student is following you around at recess copying what you do
a friend won't let you play with them at recess
a friend takes your scissors and won't give it back
a classmate cuts in front of you in line.
FOR “I MESSAGES” TO WORK: Go to a quiet spot Use good manners Use the other person’s name Have eye contact Take turns talking and listening, each
telling how they feel and what they want to have happen
Respect how the other person feels Good Job!!