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Bình An, please give me yourBình An, please give me your

address. I want to send youaddress. I want to send you

some books that I've just boughtsome books that I've just bought

for you today. THE HUNGERfor you today. THE HUNGER

GAMESGAMES

Aww... Ive read the hunger Aww... Ive read the hunger

games 2 years ago lolgames 2 years ago lol

really?really?

But thank you so muchBut thank you so much

I'm a nerd, ive read everythingI'm a nerd, ive read everything

ok, what else you did not readok, what else you did not read

Haha, you don't have to buy meHaha, you don't have to buy me

books aunt Quan, I have enoughbooks aunt Quan, I have enough

books to read for class already.books to read for class already.

Plato and Aristotle consume mostPlato and Aristotle consume most

of my timeof my time

nownow ok, I keep that for Kellyok, I keep that for Kelly

will get something else for youwill get something else for youHaha, you don't have toHaha, you don't have to

Although, if you insist (and I Although, if you insist (and I

may/may not be doing this formay/may not be doing this for

personal satisfaction) you can getpersonal satisfaction) you can get

me CS Lewis books. They areme CS Lewis books. They are

fabulousfabulous

theological books and you shouldtheological books and you should

read them as wellread them as well

I asked Kelly what is "CS LewisI asked Kelly what is "CS Lewis

books", she said she doesn'tbooks", she said she doesn't

know what they areknow what they are

They are very deep philosophicalThey are very deep philosophical

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works about God andworks about God and

Christianity. Very hard to readChristianity. Very hard to read

but also beautifully composedbut also beautifully composed

Like I said, I'm a nerd. I readLike I said, I'm a nerd. I read

history and philosophy forhistory and philosophy for

fun!!fun!!

But don't worry, I'm a scienceBut don't worry, I'm a science

majormajor

Don't you know that I'mDon't you know that I'm

Buddhist?Buddhist?

I read and watched a lotI read and watched a lot

about Buddhist nowabout Buddhist nowI know! But CS lewis wroteI know! But CS lewis wrote

about more than justabout more than just

Christianity, his books are soChristianity, his books are so

great to readgreat to read You may have heard of You may have heard of

the Chronicles of Narniathe Chronicles of Narnia

to be honest, I know nothingto be honest, I know nothing

about thatabout that

Or you read books by JRR tolkien,Or you read books by JRR tolkien,

who wrote the Lord of the Rings.who wrote the Lord of the Rings.

If you like philosophy, like me, I'dIf you like philosophy, like me, I'd

recommend the classi calrecommend the classi cal

language such as Faustus andlanguage such as Faustus and

Plato.Plato.

Haha, do you like politics?Haha, do you like politics?

reading Vietnamese is easierreading Vietnamese is easier

and quicker to me. So I choseand quicker to me. So I chose

to read Vietnameseto read Vietnamese

Haha, ok. Nothing's wrong withHaha, ok. Nothing's wrong with

that. I just like reading inthat. I just like reading in

generalgeneral

Also, even if you are a Buddhist, Also, even if you are a Buddhist,

there's wrong with readingthere's wrong with reading

philosophical works from otherphilosophical works from other


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religions. I have read the Quranreligions. I have read the Quran

(albeit for class). I appreciated(albeit for class). I appreciated

it, but nevertheless I disagreeit, but nevertheless I disagree

with it.with it.

*there's nothing wrong*there's nothing wrong

I read, watched and listened ofI read, watched and listened of

their lesions, but I don't follow alltheir lesions, but I don't follow all

of themof themTheir?Their?

Yeah, there's nothing wrong Yeah, there's nothing wrong

with reading just for reading. Iwith reading just for reading. I

do that quite a bit. (I'm just ado that quite a bit. (I'm just a

nerd, ok!? Don't judge me :P)nerd, ok!? Don't judge me :P) okok

as you can see, I love readingas you can see, I love reading ..

on a different note, however,on a different note, however,

HOW HAVE YOU BEEN!!!!???HOW HAVE YOU BEEN!!!!???

that's goodthat's good

so far so goodso far so good

that's good to hear!that's good to hear!

How's everyone doingHow's everyone doing

Kelly is doing ok, but Howie is notKelly is doing ok, but Howie is not

oh no! What happened?oh no! What happened?

Kelly was struggled with PhysicKelly was struggled with Physic

last semesterlast semester

her mark was down a bither mark was down a bit

Howie is very lazy, he is inHowie is very lazy, he is in

5th grade but he is like in 4th5th grade but he is like in 4th

I'm sorry. But he's only in 5thI'm sorry. But he's only in 5th

grade, he has time. Kids do whatgrade, he has time. Kids do what


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they do best- not doing whatthey do best- not doing what

they are supposed to dothey are supposed to do

Couple weeks ago, he asked meCouple weeks ago, he asked me

what is the time table and whywhat is the t ime table and why

he needs to knowhe needs to know

then I asked him what is 2x2,then I asked him what is 2x2,

2x3 ....2x3 ....

he counted by hishe counted by his

fingersfingerslol, boys will be boyslol, boys will be boys

I told him "OMG, Howie II told him "OMG, Howie I

think I have to put you inthink I have to put you in

tutoring"tutoring"

He said "No mom, I don't wantHe said "No mom, I don't want

to, ok let me clean the houseto, ok let me clean the house

then"then"

Now, if I were you, I'll let himNow, if I were you, I'll let him

clean the house, then he'll beclean the house, then he'll be

glad to be in tutoringglad to be in tutoring

I said "No, you have to goI said "No, you have to go

tutoring"tutoring"

he said "No, so I do thehe said "No, so I do the

foot massage then"foot massage then"hahaha, I love Howie!!!!hahaha, I love Howie!!!!

I think you're right. Make himI think you're right. Make him

clean the house then he'll knowclean the house then he'll know

He's in 5th grade, auntie. It'll takeHe's in 5th grade, auntie. It'll take

a while for him to mature anda while for him to mature and

finally realize that he needs to dofinally realize that he needs to do

things. I know he'll get there/things. I know he'll get there/

I don't need him to do the footI don't need him to do the foot

massage but I don't know howmassage but I don't know how

he gets that ideahe gets that idea

The school label him asThe school label him askids are creative just like thatkids are creative just like that


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Autistic. I don't think he is Autistic. I don't think he isThey did?!!!They did?!!!

yes,yes,

but that isbut that is

wrongwrong

That's disconcerting, usually if kidThat's disconcerting, usually if kiddon't get labbled as Autistic oncedon't get labbled as Autistic once

they are born/ able to talk, Ithey are born/ able to talk, I

doubt that's the casedoubt that's the case have youhave you

consultedconsulted

doctors/genticistsdoctors/genticists

??

They got some signs andThey got some signs and

symptoms like "not having eyessymptoms like "not having eyes

contact whencontact when

talking"talking"

but that was when he was inbut that was when he was in

1st and 2nd grade1st and 2nd grade

I did not take him to doctors forI did not take him to doctors for

that, because he talks a lot atthat, because he talks a lot at

homehome

He is talkativeHe is talkative

but not in school when hebut not in school when he

was youngerwas youngerWell, in my personal opinion, youWell, in my personal opinion, you

should have him checked out byshould have him checked out by

an actual doctor since the schoolan actual doctor since the school

should have no businessshould have no business

whatsover in deciding which kid iswhatsover in deciding which kid isautistic. Autism is after all aautistic. Autism is after all a


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medical conditions, and these aremedical conditions, and these are

often misdiagnosed. Havingoften misdiagnosed. Having

Howie labled as Austistic by theHowie labled as Austistic by the

school maybe to his disadvantageschool maybe to his disadvantage

in the future.in the future.

Thus, it is better to consult aThus, it is better to consult a

doctor. If thedoctor. If the

doctor clears him, then we are alldoctor clears him, then we are all

set and the school s hould removeset and the school s hould remove

that lable. With that being said,that lable. With that being said,

I'm only recommending it becauseI'm only recommending it because

I know that Canadians have someI know that Canadians have somesort of universal healthcare, so Isort of universal healthcare, so I

know y'all won't be wasti ng anyknow y'all won't be wasti ng any

money (y'all shouldn't at least,money (y'all shouldn't at least,

that's the point of universalthat's the point of universal

healthcare... well... y'al l do havehealthcare... well... y'al l do have

to pay taxes for it_ to pay taxes for it_

))

I know for sure he is slowI know for sure he is slow

learning or disability of learning.learning or disability of learning.

They put that in there too. SinceThey put that in there too. Since

then, he gets a lots of helpsthen, he gets a lots of helpsyeah, that's good that he'syeah, that's good that he's

getting helpgetting help

They put him in a specialThey put him in a special

group (small group) and hisgroup (small group) and his

teacher is watching him growsteacher is watching him grows

He said Howie is gettingHe said Howie is getting

much better nowmuch better nowthat's goodthat's good

So I think, it's most likely heSo I think, it's most likely he

is disability of learningis disability of learning

That being said, learning disabilityThat being said, learning disability

does not equal autism. I don'tdoes not equal autism. I don't

think they should be labeling himthink they should be labeling him

thatthat

but he learns quickly aboutbut he learns quickly about

gamesgames

yeah, I knowyeah, I know


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He told me the other day that heHe told me the other day that he

wants to create the Youtubewants to create the Youtube

page and makes movies. He saidpage and makes movies. He said

people make money by makingpeople make money by making

movie on Youtubemovie on Youtube

hahaha, we got an entrepreneurhahaha, we got an entrepreneur

on our handon our handI guess autistic kids don't knowI guess autistic kids don't know

to say that,to say that,

huh?!huh?!hahaha, no, but he's veryhahaha, no, but he's very

creative from what you've told mecreative from what you've told me

He is, very cute boy tooHe is, very cute boy too


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Subject Re: Chatting to Bình An last night- He is so grown up and ... good boy. :)

From Dau Dinh An ([email protected])

To [email protected];

ate Monday, March 3, 2014 12:33 PM

Cám ơn Quân đã cho xem.

Ba nó đã ... ứa nước mắt khi đọc những dòng chữ đó.

Ba mẹ nó từ lâu đã biết rằng Bình An là đứa trẻ ngoan, và cho đến bây giờ nó vẫn ngoan (ở mức chấp nhậnđược với ba mẹ nó). Dù rằng từ nhỏ Bình An đã quen được ba mẹ "sắp xếp" cuộc sống (phải học cái này, phảilàm cái kia, ...), nhưng rốt cuộc Bình An vẫn là đứa trẻ có cá tính. Như vậy là tốt chứ! Hiểu nó một chút sẽ thấy

Bình An cũng ... Ok như nhiều thanh thiếu niên cùng lứa tuổi, chứ không đến nỗi "đặc biệt" (hàm nghĩa cần phảicó cách đối xử đặc biệt) lắm, phải không?

Hè năm ngoái khi ở cùng Bình An những ngày trước khi đi đại học, ba nó hiểu Bình An đã thực sự trưởng thànhrồi (dĩ nhiên cũng kèm theo đó là những thiếu sót của kẻ ... mới lớn, ai cũng vậy mà!). Con thay đổi mà ba mẹkhông chịu thay đổi ư? Đâu có được!

Ba mẹ của Bình An cũng đang dần thay đổi mình cho hợp hơn với một nền tảng gia đình ... đa văn hóa và đa tôn

giáo (cha mẹ thiên về văn hóa phương Đông, còn con trai thiên về văn hóa phương Tây, chưa kể con dâu saunày có khi là người gốc "ngoại" hoàn toàn). Khi mình biết thay đổi chính mình, có niềm tin vào con, cuộc sống tựnhiên cho thấy cũng ... ổn, chứ không có gì phải buồn lắm (ngoại trừ việc phải lo nhiều tiền cho con trong giaiđoạn này).

Ba mẹ của Bình An chỉ mong con lớn lên thành người hữu ích cho xã hội, được mọi người thương yêu, nuôisống được bản thân và gia đình. Đó là điều quan trọng nhất. Thế, có mong nó chăm sóc ba mẹ về già không?Có chứ! Nhưng, được bao nhiều thì hay bấy nhiêu (còn tùy thuộc vào phúc phần của mình), mong muốn nàykhông quan trọng bằng mong muốn ở trên. Thực sự là như vậy.


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