6 Behaviours That Push People Away (and How to Reverse Them)SelfishnessTheres no doubt that the world could use more considerate and thoughtful people. A small gesture of selflessness can go a long way in keeping people you care about the most in your life. Humans by nature are intuitive creatures, and can sense if you are doing something with selfish intent. Just because people may not alwaysacton that intuition, doesnt make taking advantage of them OK.In order to live a happy life, you have to learn how to live and thrive with others, and that requires giving away part of yourself without seeking anything in return. Ironically, when you give of yourself without expecting, you are returned that back and more. So if you need a blessing, switch your focus and just go be a blessing.ConceitednessThe display of conceited behaviour is sure to push people away in any social situation. Nobody likes story after story of self-edification consistently communicated via an over-inflated ego. Talking about yourself is great, when its light and authentic. Its easy to tell the difference.Despite what mainstream media may portray, there isnt a single person in the whole world who is the center of everyones entire Universe.It is always a good idea to let other people into the spotlight and consider the implications of your decisions and actions towards them in order to foster a healthy relationship. Pop any self-inflated bubble that you may be living in and try to communicate and understand the needs and happiness of those around you.Self-RighteousnessSometimes people tend to think highly of themselves and their beliefs too highly, actually. This can lead to looking down on other people and their decisions without even knowing it. In certain cases, some peoples egos go so far, they may intentionally want others to feel degraded. But, this is a false way to live and gain respect.To transform this, one must understand that each individual sets a different standard of how they want to live their lives and thats okay. We all have unique value and no one is better than anyone else. Respect that and honor others as you honor yourself.PerfectionismHumans are not perfect. They are bound to make mistakes and thats exactly what makes humans special. They are capable of using failures as a learning experience. Expecting perfection from others is unfair when you yourself have no way of guaranteeing that everything you do is perfect.Allow for a little leeway and acknowledge that people will make mistakes. Aiming for perfection is unrealistic, but aiming for excellence in all things can provide a life of fulfilment.Chronic ComplainingHappy and successful people do not complain much. On the other side, it seems that chronic complainers always have something negative to say even when those around them are happy! The bottom line: we all have different circumstances that we are given in this lifetime, but in the end these circumstances are ours fair or unfair, wanted or unwanted. Instead, seek solutions to problems instead of complaining, which leads to nowhere.CynicismOne of the most burdensome behaviours that people can tend to display have is cynicism. There is no way of finding out the outcome of anything without giving it a chance first. Remember to give people the benefit of doubt without jumping into conclusions. Positive thinking can bring new ways of thinking and living to any cynic. It may even completely transform their life, because when you believe in more possibilities, they will be created.Add to the discussion: What behaviours push you away from others, or what behaviours have you displayed that have pushed others away from you?