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AbusiveRelationshipsChangeUs,butTheyDon’tHavetoDestroyUs

Inthisbreakthroughguide,Dr.Ramonainterweavesherpersonalstorywithaproven,step-by-stepprocesstohealingfromthetraumaofdomesticabuse

ItishardtoimaginesomeonewithaDoctorateinPsychology,aflourishingcounselingpractice,experienceinbothTVandradio,tohavehiddeninadifferentstatewithherchildren,wornsun-glassesonarainydaytoherchild'sfieldtripandoftenusedturtleneckstohidechokemarks.Mostpeoplewouldnotbelievethiscouldbethesameperson.Dr.Ramonaisthatperson.TheshockingrealityisthatoneinfourwomenintheU.S.willexperiencedomesticviolenceinherlifetime.Dr.Ramona’shorriblebuttriumphantpersonalstory,gentleguidance,alongwithhertwentyyearsofexperienceasaLicensedMarriageandFamilyTherapist,bringshopetovictimsandtheirlovedonesthatthecycleofabusecanbestopped,andthetraumahealed.

Abusebreaksthespiritandalwaysleaveswreckageinitswake.Butthisdoesnothavetobetheendofthestory.Dr.Ramonaprovidesaclearpaththatreaderscanfollowtomovefromvictimtosurvivortoovercomer.

Withunderstandingandempathy,Dr.Ramonaencouragesreadersto:

• Callitwhatitis• Understandthemindsetofanabuser• Recognizethecyclicalpatternofabuse• Workthroughthetoughquestions• Understandwhatforgivenessisandisnot• Identifysafeandhealthylove• Findahealthysupportsystem,andmore

Healingwellandlivingfreearewithinreach.Yourbestdaysareaheadwhenyouintentionallypursuehealingwell.




Dr.RamonaProbascoholdsaDoctorateinPsychologyandhasconductedextensiveresearchintheareaofdomesticviolence.SheisaMarriageandFamilyTherapist,aCertifiedDomesticViolenceCounselor,andaNationallyCertifiedCounselor.Shehasbeeninprivatepracticeforovertwentyyears.Dr.Ramonaisanexpertandsought-afterspeakerondomesticviolenceandhowtoauthenticallyhealwellfromthetraumaitcauses.Asapersonalovercomerofdomesticviolence,sheoffersguidanceandinsighttoothersbasedonbothherclinicalexpertiseandherownexperienceofmovingfromvictimtosurvivortoovercomer.Sheisthemotherofthreeincredibleadultchildrenandtwowonderfuladultchildrenthroughremarriage,andshenowthoroughlyenjoysbeingthewifeofahusbandwhoabsolutelyadoresher!

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PraiseforHealingWellandLivingFreefromanAbusiveRelationship

“Thisissueofdomesticviolencehasbeensomethingthathasbeenglossedover,setaside,andquitehonestlyignoredforyears.Iaskmyselfwhy...isitbecauseinourmale-dominatedworlditisnotanissuethatinlargepartdirectlyaffectsusasmen?Itisonlynowintheareaofsocialmedia,andwiththehelpoftheenormousplatformthatistheNationalFootballLeagueandtheunfortunateincidencesthathavebeenandarebeingplayedoutbeforeusnationally,thatdomesticviolenceisaconversationandaconcernthatisnoweasilyatop5hotbuttonissuethatneedstobeaddressedinoursociety.

“AsamanandaformerNFLplayerIamsaddenedbytheconductofmypeersandmyyounger,currentcontemporaries;andasahusbandofover20yearsandafatherof3daughtersIcannotacceptwherethingscurrentlystand.ThisiswhyIlendmynameandsupportbehindDr.Ramona.Tomesheisapictureofcourage,willingtobevulnerableandtransparentthroughherownpainfulpastinanefforttoliftothersoutoftheircurrentdark

HealingWellandLivingFreefromanAbusiveRelationship:fromVictimtoSurvivortoOvercomer

byDr.RamonaM.ProbascoISBN:9870800729653|288pages,paperback|$16.99|19June2018




reality.Ifirmlybelievethetools,training,resources,andexperiencesheprovidesinthisspaceisapartofthesolutionoursocietyneedstomovetheneedleinamorepositivedirection.”(Fromtheforeword).

RayMcElroy,formerNFLPlayerandChicagoBearsChaplain,author,speaker

“HealingWellandLivingFreefromanAbusiveRelationshipisapracticalandspiritualguidetothrivingafterviolenceandisfullofrecoveryapplicationsforhealingwell.Dr.Ramonaisaseasonedtherapistandsurvivorwhoblendsherexpertisewithherheartforajourneyworthpursuing.”

SandraL.Brown,MA,TheInstituteforRelationalHarmReduction&PublicPathologyEducation;authorofHowtoSpotaDangerousManBeforeYouGetInvolvedandWomenWhoLovePsychopaths

“Thisbook[is]relevant,uplifting,andcertainlyone-of-a-kind.TheprofoundnatureofHealingWellandLivingFreeoffersreadersanopportunitytopersonallyconnectwithDr.Ramona’sstoryofherowntransformation,aswellasprovidingconcretestepssurroundinghowitisthatweareabletostepintofreedom.Amust-readforthosewhohavebeenvictimized,aswellasthoseofuswholovesomeonewhohas…whichultimatelymeanseveryone.”

JessicaYaffa,domesticviolenceovercomer,founderofNoSilenceNoViolence,author,speaker,advocate

"HealingWellandLivingFreeisapracticalgiftofsharingandencouragementforthosewhoareseekingapathofhopeandhealing.Dr.Ramonaprovidesthatpathbydetailingthethreepersonalstages--Victim,Survivor,andOvercomer--inthejourneyoutofdomesticabusetoreallylivingandlovingfree....Dr.Ramonais...acertifiedDomesticViolenceCounselorwithaDoctorateinPsychology,astrongpersonoffaith,and...adomesticviolenceabuseOvercomerherself,...andherwritingexudesthewisdom,confidence,authority,andsensitivityfromherqualifications."

JamesH.MukoyamaJr.,MajorGeneral,USArmy-Retired;PresidentandCEOofMilitaryOutreachUSA




“AsaretiredNFLplayerwiththeSanDiegoChargersandPastorofRockChurchSanDiego...,Iamfullyawarethatdomesticviolencetakesplacebothoffthefieldandawayfromthepew.Dr.Ramona'sstoryconfirmsthatthiscanhappentoanyone,andprovesthatHealingWellandLivingFreeispossibleforthosewhopursueit.Herpersonalstoryofovercomingtheaftermathofdomesticviolencewillinspireyouandprovideyouwiththestepstotakeinyourownhealingwelljourney.“

MilesMcPherson,Pastor,RockChurch,SanDiego,authorandretiredNFLPlayer

“Thisbookprovidesauthentichopeandlastinghealingforindividualsandfamilieswhohavebeentraumatizedfromtheeffectsofanabusiverelationship.Dr.Ramona’spersonalstoryofhealingwellfromanabusiverelationshipiscompellingandprovidesbiblicalwisdom,practicalinstruction,andhope-focusedcounselforthosewhohaveremainedsilentintheirsuffering.Dr.Ramonasaturatesthecontentwithhergentleandempatheticapproachtoovercomingthecollateraldamageemotionally,relationally,andspirituallytotheselife-shatteringissues.”

Dr.TimClinton,PresidentoftheAmericanAssociationofChristianCounselors

“HealingWellandLivingFreefromanAbusiveRelationshipistimelyandontarget.Dr.Ramonahascomeupwithsolutionsthatoffersimpleandclearguidelinesthatareeasytounderstand.Sheisasurvivorwhohasovercome20yearsofdomesticviolencewithfirsthandknowledgeofhowdangerousandfrighteningthelifeoftheabusedspouseis.Iamdelightedthatatlastdomesticviolenceandabuseinrelationshipscanbesystematicallyandsquarelyaddressedinsimplewaysthatareeasytofollowandunderstand.”

HerExcellencyDr.InongeMbikusita-Lewanika,ZambianAmbassadortotheUnitedStates&EuropeanUnion




"HealingWellandLivingFreefromanAbusiveRelationshipisanimportantandbravebookforanyonewhohasexperiencedthesecretshameofdomesticabuse.Dr.Ramonaisnotonlyanexpertinhelpingavictimhealbuthasalsobeenavictimherself,whichmakesherwordsallthemorecompellingandcredible.Safetyisnottheendgoalbuthealingthedamageandeventuallythrivingis.Dr.Ramona'sbookshowsthewayandgivesthetoolstogetthere."

LeslieVernick,speaker,relationshipcoach,authorofsevenbooksincludingthebestsellingTheEmotionallyDestructiveRelationshipandTheEmotionallyDestructiveMarriage

SuggestedQuestionsforDr.Ramona

1. Howmightweidentifythosewhowouldbenefitfromyourbook?2. Willonlyvictimsofabusebenefitfromyourbook?Whoelse?3. Youdetailthestepsthatmostsurvivorstakeincomingtotermswiththeintimate

partnerabusethey’veendured–willyoubrieflytalkthroughthose?4. Howdoesyourownstoryguidethemessageofyourbook?5. Howdidyourfaithgetyouthroughyourtimeofabuse?6. Tellusaboutyourdissertation.Isabuseprevalentinthechurch?7. Whydoyouusethewords“victim,survivor,andovercomer”totalkaboutthose

who’vecomeouttheothersideofabuse?8. Whatadvicewouldyougivetosomeonewhorecognizesthey’reinanabusive

relationship?9. Whatsupportcanlovedonesgivetoabusevictims?10. Howcanweallworktoestablishaworldthatdoesn’tcondoneorallowabuse?

Whatroledoesfaithplayinthis?11. Althoughfocusedonaheavytopic,thereisanoverwhelmingsenseofhopeinthe

book.Isitreallypossibleforvictimsofabusetoovercometheirissuesandstriveforbetterdaysahead?

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Abusive Relationships Change Us, but They Don’t Have to ...€¦ · Domestic Violence Counselor, and a Nationally Certified Counselor. She has been in private practice for over