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Bullying and Your Child: What You Need to Know
About the Newly-Enacted Anti-Bullying Bill of Rights
South Brunswick Parent AcademyOctober 19, 2011
7-8:30 pmCrossroads North Cafeteria
Welcome!
• Please complete the pre-session questions on the survey and set it aside.
Thank you!
http://southbrunswick.patch.com
Goals
LEARN…• How to recognize harassment,
intimidation and bullying• How South Brunswick Schools
address these H.I.B. issues• How to use strategies to empower
your child to handle all kinds of bullying including cyber bullying
Conflict
• Conflict is normal and part of growing up
• Constructive conflict helps kids grow up and become more tolerant develop coping skills
• Conflict is NOT bullying
Role Play
What is Bullying?
• Bullying happens…When there is an imbalance of power
WHEN IS IT HIB?
Raising Awareness about the HIB Policy
To strengthen standards for preventing, reporting,
investigating, and responding to incidents of bullying and reduce the risk of suicide
among students.
2002 NJ HIB Law enacted mandating a district/school policy
2007 Revised to include Cyber Bullying
2009 Revised to include annual distribution and posting to the web
2011 NEW NJ HIB Law enacted aka “Anti Bullying Bill of Rights” Broadest law in the United States
Principal Direct report
Anti Bullying Coordinator (ABC) District overseer Coordinator of Anti Bullying Specialists
Anti Bullying Specialist (ABS) Investigator Chair of School Safety/Climate Team
School Safety/Climate Team Oversees “climate” of school: trends,
trouble spots
All Board members, school employees, and volunteers and contracted service providers who have contact with pupils are required to report alleged violations of this Policy to the Principal or the Principal’s designee…
HIB means any gesture, any written, verbal or physical act, or any electronic communication, whether it be a single incident or a series of incidents, that:1. is reasonably perceived as being motivated
either by any actual or perceived characteristic, such as race, color, religion, ancestry, national origin, gender, sexual orientation, gender identity and expression, or a mental, physical or sensory disability, or
2. by any other distinguishing characteristic “Electronic communication” means a communication transmitted by means of an electronic device, including, but not limited to, a telephone, cellular phone, computer, or pager.
3. that takes place on school property, at any school-sponsored function, on a school bus, or off school grounds… that substantially disrupts or interferes with the orderly operation of the school or the rights of other students
4. A reasonable person should know, under the circumstances, that the act(s) will have the effect of physically or emotionally harming a pupil or damaging the pupil’s property, or placing a pupil in reasonable fear of physical or emotional harm to his/her person or damage to his/her property; or
5. Has the effect of insulting or demeaning any pupil or group of pupils; or
6. Creates a hostile educational environment for the pupil by interfering with a pupil’s education or by severely or pervasively causing physical or emotional harm to the pupil.
There is a Standardized Timeline for response and report. Unalterable
There are Standardized Forms Report Form Initial parent letter- Bully version & Target
version Investigation Report: Pupil Accused Investigation Report: Non Pupil Accused Interview Form (target, witness, accused)
Parent Education SB Parent Academy HIB Seminars (Fall)
Student Education First Two Weeks (Age-appropriate definition,
Off School Grounds, AUP & Cyber Bullying) Week of Respect (10/3) Violence & Vandalism Awareness Week
(10/17) Yearlong integration into all subjects
Bullying is not conflict; it’s abuse. Bullying thrives on silence. Upstanders are the key. Can’t judge a bully by how he/she
looks. HIB is about behavior. HIB is about motivation. Keep your eye on the “target.” HIB is about how the target feels and
reacts.
ANTI BULLYING COORDINATOR (ABC)JUDY MCCORMICK
Jackie Turner (BA) Alice Priano (BC/DE) Peggy Ehrhardt (CA) Amy Finkelstein (CO) Lori Woods (GB)
Amy Bertelsen-Robles (IF/ DA)
Lynne Sultan-Weinstein (MJ) Vicki Moses (XRDN) Scott Roth (XRDS) Anastasia Marcella (SBHS)
ANTI BULLYING SPECIALISTS (ABS)
Motivated by a
Characteristic+
Location(If off school grounds: must create a substantial disruption.) +
Intent/Effectto harm
HIB
What are the types of bullying?
• Physical• Verbal• Social/Relational• Cyber
Who are the players in bullying?
• The bully• The target/victim• The bystander• The upstander
The Bully
May…• Get a feeling of excitement from the
reaction of the targeted victim.• Thrive on feelings of dominance and
power.• Possess low levels of empathy and
compassion.• Have an inflated sense of self-worth.
The Target
May…• Have been teased by other students
and had an extreme reaction.• Be overly sensitive and show it.• Depend on adults for emotional
support more than most their age.• Rarely report incidents of bullying.• Not believe adults can help.
Keep in mind…
Sometimes the target is bullied
for no apparent reason.
The Bystander
DEFINITION:A person who is present but not
involved.• Makes up approximately 85% of a school
population ~ “the silent majority”.• Most ignored and underused resources in
the schools.• Becomes desensitized over time
(diminished empathy).
The Upstander
DEFINITION:A person who is present and makes
a decision to get involved.
• Upstanders can make a difference! They can break the cycle of bullying.
Let’s watch…
If You Think Your Child May Be a Bully…
• Keep an eye on your child’s media use.• Set limits and enforce consistent consequences.• Model and practice respect and empathy.• Utilize available counseling services for support.• Contact school administrators or a teacher.
-> Refer to the orange pamphlet for more suggestions.
If You Think Your Child May Be a Target of Bullying…
• Focus on your child.• Keep a log of the events with the help of your child. • Discourage retaliation.• Contact the school administration/counseling
services.• Discuss appropriate emotional reactions and self-
control.• Encourage your child to get involved in
extracurricular activities.• Reinforce strategies taught in school.• Contact a trusted adult.
How to Help Your Child Become an Upstander
• Encourage Empathy.• Talk to your child about what to
do if they see bullying.• Role play scenarios with your child
using these strategies.
Building Upstanders
• Normalize fears and worries.• Emphasize strength in numbers.• Communicate the expectation to
take action.• Teach skills and strategies to take a
stand.• Notice and acknowledge caring
behaviors.
Don’t reply to abusive messages. That may only encourage the bully.
1
Keep a record of events/messages or pictures. You will need them for the police or the ISP, or mobile phone company to trace the bully.
2
Think before you send pictures of someone via e-mail, or mobile phone. They can spread far beyond your circle of friends.
3If you receive a rude image or text about someone else, do not forward it. You could be assisting a bully or breaking the law.
4
You have a right not to be harassed and bullied online. Make sure you tell someone.
5
Treat your password like your toothbrush. Don’t let anyone else use it.
6
Encourage good digital citizenship …
What Parents Can Do
• Remind children to keep their passwords a secret from everyone except you
• Tell your children that it’s not their fault if they become victims of cyber bullying, but it is important for them to tell you if they become victimized
What Parents Can Do
• Help victims keep a record of electronic bullying incidents
• If the electronic bullying involves threats and harassment or frequent cyber-attacks, call the police to ensure your child’s safety
What Parents Can Do
• Remember that cyber bullying incidents sometimes end violently. Although it is not possible to prevent cyber bullying, when we become aware of it, it is important to stop it as soon as possible!
Code of Student Conduct:Core Values
Annual Handbook
Explicit Instruction:Home & School Partnership
Character Education: The Approach
The function of education is to teach one to think intensively and to think critically... Intelligence plus character – that is the goal of
true education. Martin Luther King Jr.
Harassment, Intimidation & Bullying:State Legislation & District Policy
Activity
• The facilitator will read the book to your group.
• Identify the players: Who is the bully? The target? The bystanders? The upstanders?
• Answer the question at the end of the book.
• Is the situation HIB or not?• We will share out with the large group.
Let’s welcome our students!
BULLY
A person who uses his/her power unfairly to hurt someone.
TARGET
A person who is picked-on by the bully
BYSTANDER
A person who sees or knows of someone being bullied and chooses not to help stop the bullying.
UPSTANDER
- A person who sees someone being bullied and makes a choice to say "stop" or reports the bullying to a trusted adult.
-The opposite of a bystander. A person who stands up. Not a person who stands by.
Activity
• The facilitator will read the book to your group.
• Identify the players: Who is the bully? The target? The bystanders? The upstanders?
• Answer the question at the end of the book.
• Is the situation HIB or not?• We will share out with the large group.
Please complete the final survey questions and return it!
Thanks!
Closing Remarks
http://blogs.sbschools.org/sbpa/
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Contact Information for Presenters
• Judy McCormick, HIB [email protected]
• Amy Bertelsen-Robles, Indian [email protected]
• Amy Finkelstein, [email protected]
• Ann Jahr, Staff Developer for [email protected]
• Leslie Lillian, Deans [email protected]
• Cindy Patrych-Brotman, [email protected]
• Alice Priano, Brooks Crossing Alice,[email protected]