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1. Create a family identity2. Work together. A happy family depends on teamwork. Every member of the

family should feel that he or she has a stake in wanting to have a happy familylife. Create guidelines in your family for how you can work together as a team

3. Nurture your children's positive features. The first step to guiding your childrento become resilient is to foster positive values. The most important values are

love, wisdom, self discipline, inner peace and happiness.

a. Explain to your family that the property of love means that you arepositive to yourself, to your family, and to the whole world. Encourage

each of your children to live for the happiness of all beings and, at the

same time, develop their own happiness.

b. Show children that wisdom is to live healthily, to think positively, to readspiritual books, and to relax often enough. As a parent, recognize that it is

difficult to educate some children to wisdom when they like to eat sweets,

watch TV, and do only what they want to. As children grow, they are in a

constant struggle between short- and long-term thinking, and as a parent,

it is your role to guide them in learning how to tune into their deeper

selves, to delay instant gratification, and to realize the virtues of self-

discipline

4. Turn your children into winners. Ally yourself with the wisdom within yourchildren and strengthen their predominantly positive characteristics. The best

approach is to emphasize the positive actions and traits and to ignore their

negative behavior, if this is possible

a. Lead by example: be strong, clear, and show them the value of freedom tomake choices and to think for themselves. Children learn primarily by

watching positive role models, with education supplementing what they

have already learned from those they trust and love the most.

5. Create the environment for inner peace. Inner peace is very important for everyfamily. Protect your children from sensory overload, which means in particular,

protecting them from too much television.

a. One hour of quality TV per day is the maximum amount suitable forchildren. While it would be even better to abolish the TV, few families

have the courage to go to this extent. Instead, teach your children to be

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watch TV critically. For a young child you might just ask simple questions

during the program like, "is John's character being naughty or nice." For

older children you can dig deeper, like, "why did the writer have John's

character do that?" or, my favorite, make a game of it, "whoever can tell

me how this plot will end gets a prize." The goal is to get children to

realize that an author wrote the show they are watching and perhaps they

can write a story too.

b. Encourage and guide your children to implement their own sense of self-discipline. A long-term positive and fulfilling life is only possible when

we grow into adults with a sound sense of self-discipline, and the sooner

you are able to provide the means for this in their lives, the better.

6. Anchor all thoughts in the positive. Encourage all family members to learn topay attention to their thoughts. Do this by having regular honest discussions,positive activities, and positive rituals, such as eating together, telling stories,

reading spiritual books, singing songs, saying prayers, and practicing

meditation, etc.

a. In your family, avoid succumbing to using consumption as a means ofactivity and reward; rather, look for inspiration in seeking inner happiness

through non-material pursuits and through living one another, and

spending time together.

b.

Help each family member work through their spiritual concerns andneeds; give each family member clear points of reference to work from in

order to avoid confusion. This will include explaining your own beliefs,

and being honest about the shortcomings of many modern day promises

of happiness.

7. Work with a spiritual role model. In addition to consistently focusing on yourchild's positive actions and efforts as a means to building their inner resilience

and confidence, it is vital to provide your child with a specific spiritual role

model. Ultimately, having a spiritual role model provides your child with a

sense of support and purpose to draw on when seeking to lead a positive life.

Most people need the inspiration of a positive role model to walk the long path

of inner happiness.

a. The model is the consolidation of all positive qualities in one person. Itshows us that it is possible to realize inner happiness and to lead a happy

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life. There are many different models for the path of inner happiness.

those role models who inspire our children personally.

b. Be sure that to include positive stories. The story books are full of goodstories, and often it is the stories that help a child relate to a particular

spiritual model. Tell these stories by heart, or read them aloud. Or devise

stories yourself. Find stories in which the model wins over all the bad

guys in the world, helps the weak and realizes enlightenment (a life in

finding God and asking God to guide you to His and your happiness), etc.

How to Have a Good Family Life

1. Understand your family well. If you don't then there can be manymisunderstandings and fights. Be with them whenever you can and get to know

them better. A lot of families now don't get to know each other too well becausethey're too busy. Plan some family time, like, a movie, or a family game, or even as

little as eating dinner together.

2. Respect your family. Your children, your wife/husband are now yours butremember at the end of the day they are also humans. They also have an opinion or

suggestion. Sometimes it can be bad or good. Never be angry with someone's

opinion, they have their opinions, and no one's perfect.

a. Help your parents with whatever they need.b. Listen to your parents and follow their rulesc. Try not to argue with your familyd. Be politee. If you get punished, accept it and don't make a fussf. If you have friends come over, make sure they behave politely.g. Be the responsible one around the househ. Last but not the least, think of all the things you love about this unique family

of yours

3. Give time. No one wants to be ignored just for some meeting or work. Give time toeach and every one of them so you can understand every individual properly and

this can prevent any misunderstandings in the future.

4. Treat everyone as equal. Whether its your maid or step child, they also deserve loveand affection from you as you deserve from your wife/husband or from your own

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child. Treat everyone like you would want to be treated, and getting along with

your family should be easy.

5. Never scream or shout at anyone. This can create hatred for you in their hearts. Bysimply making them understand can do a lot. Why waste energy when you can do it

calmly

6. Never discriminate.7. Learn to compromise. When you or someone else in your family wants the total

opposite of each other, find a way to work it out to give you all what you want

8. Help each other. When you see your sibling or parent needs help, help them. Doinglittle things such as holding the door for them, or helping someone with homework.

9. Organizing surprise birthday parties and celebrating any individual's achievementscan really help.

10.Avoid using offensive and abusive word against each other.11.Sometimes teenagers can feel sad or lonely. First ask them about it and if they don't

want to share then its OK. Its just hormones. If you think that something is really

bad, ask their close friends and help him/her.

12.Never ever break any promise. This can hurt them or make them feel that you are aliar and every time will break promises.

13.Learn to forgive.14.Don't scold too much. Scolding can be good for them but never over do.15.

Make them realize in an easy way. If someone in your family has done somethingwrong or have betrayed your trust, make them realize their mistake in an easy way.

How to Start a New Family Tradition (Mt trong nhng mc tiu quy hoch l xydng truyn thng v vn ha ring gia nh)

1. Begin by making a list of the things that are important to your family. This listcan include people, places or events. For example, several family members may

already participate in the local town's parade. Grandma may be a fantastic cook,

or Uncle John may be an ice fishing fanatic. Once you have your list move on to

step two.2. Review your list and look at ways that you can start small. If three of the

grandkids happen to play in the marching band, consider making it a tradition to

attend the parade together. If your choice is more of a "thing," than an event, it's

up to you to make it one. For things that are not scheduled by third party (like

the town parade), make a date that is set from year to year. For example,

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everyone can gather at Grandma's house on the first Saturday of every December

to make her famous gingerbread cookies and pecan pies. Knowing when the next

gathering is, 365 days in advance, leaves little excuse for missing the next big

day.

3. Build upon your traditions to make them magical. Traditions are by definitionmeaningful customs passed down through a culture or family. To make yours go

from an obligatory get-together to a fulfilling gathering, enhance them by adding

a pre-event meal or a post-event charitable service. In other words, once a small

affair starts to snowball, consider turning it into an all-day or even all-weekend

thing. This will ensure that there is something for everyone - from the foodies to

the shoppers to the philanthropists in the family.

4. Remember them from year to year by designating a record keeper. The familyrecord keeper could create a log or picture book. He or she could be in charge oftaking photos or delegating the duty. To make the years even more memorable,

consider chronicling attendees' emotions and experiences of the day.