2. Factors in Securing Professional Employment
- 10. Specific Degrees Held
3. Communication Principles
- Communication can be intentional or unintentional.
- It is impossible NOT to communicate.
- Communication is irreversible.
- Communication is unrepeatable.
4. Communication Misconceptions
- Meanings are not in words.
- More communication is not always better.
- Communication will not solve all problems.
- Communication is not a natural ability.
5. Characteristics of Competent Communicators
- A wide range of behaviors
- Ability to choose the most appropriate behavior
- Skill at performing behaviors
6. Self-Monitoring 7. Perception
- I am not what I think I am.I am not what you think I am.I am what I think you think I am.Bleiberg and Leubling
- Women are _________________.
- Men are ____________________.
- Hispanics are ________________.
- Teenagers are _______________.
- Dancers are _________________.
- Politicians are ________________.
- People with AIDS are __________.
9. Cultural Differences
- Beliefs about talk and silence
10. Accuracy or Inaccuracy?
- We judge ourselves more charitably than others.
- We cling to first impressions.
- We assume others are similar to us.
- We are influenced by the obvious.
11. Perception Checking to Prevent Misunderstandings
- Suggest possible interpretations of the behavior.
- Request clarification about how to interpret the behavior.
- You said you really liked the job I did,
- But something in your voice made me think you may not be happy with it.
- How do you really feel about my work?
12. 13. Language is
- Phonological Rules (sound)
- Syntactic Rules (arrangement)
- Pragmatic Rules (interpretation by context)
14. Messages take on different meanings.
- You look really pretty today.
- What does it mean if your friend says it?
- What does it mean if your boss says it?
15. Impact of Language
16. Abuse of Language
- Family Catches Fire Just in Time.
- 20 Year Friendship Ends at Altar.
- We never do anything fun anymore.
- You need to have a better attitude.
- These (those) people need our help.
17. Taking Responsibility forIt
- Im worried when youre late.
- It bothers me when youre late.
18. Taking Responsibility forBut
- Youre really a great person.
- Youve done good work for us
- This paper has some good ideas..
- BUTI think we should stop seeing each other.
- BUTwere going to have to let you go.
- BUTIm giving it aDbecause its late.
19. I vs. You
- You need to have more discipline in your classroom.
- When you arent here by 7:30, I have to leave my duty station to cover yours.
- When you dont have a tardy policy, I have a hard time dealing with your referrals.
20. Three Parts to the I Statement
- Describe the behavior:When you dont turn in your grades on time...
- Describe your feelings about it:I cant meet the deadline for data processing
- Describe the consequences for you: and our student report cards will be late to parents.
21. We vs. You
- You need to be more organized.
- You shouldnt be wasting time on that activity.
- You dont have control of your classroom.
- We need to work on a format for your daily lesson plans.
- I would like to see us focus more on the SS Standards.
- We need to figure out how to manage your difficult students.
22. Three Bad Habits
23. Gender and Communication 24. Gender and Language
- Content:Women discuss relationships; men discuss events.
- Reasons:Women use conversation to nurture; men use conversation to accomplish the job at hand.
- Style:Women use questions and justifiers; men use directives and interruptions.
25. Nonverbal Communication
- No matter what we do, we give off information about ourselves.
- Nonverbal communication makes up 60-90% of our messages.
26. Unintentional behaviors differ from deliberate ones. 27. Nonverbal communication is culture-bound. 28. Nonverbal communication serves many functions.
29. Types of Nonverbal Communication
30. Nonverbal communication is ambiguous. 31. Deception
- Young people are better at uncovering lies than older people are.
- Women are more accurate than men at detecting lying; however, women are more likely to fall for the deception of intimate partners than are men.
- We are more likely to be deceived by those we know well.
32. When our nonverbal communication contradicts our verbal communication, the nonverbal messages are more powerful. What you do speaks so loud that the world cant hear what you say. 33. Dangerous Mistakes
- Criminals select victims on the basis of the vulnerability shown in their posture.
- A tense posture indicates lack of power.
- Children, poor listeners, and people with low intellects do not understand sarcasm.
- We are more likely to obey people dressed in a high-status manner.
- Students are more responsive to teachers who reduce the distance between themselves and their classes.
- We grant people with higher status more personal territory.
- Low-status people must never make more important people wait.
35. We spend more time listening than participating in any other form of communication. 36. Elements of Listening
37. Everybodys talkin at me - I dont hear a word theyre sayin - Only the echoes of my mind. 38. Types of Nonlistening
39. Whos listening?
- 20% are thinking about sex.
- 20% are reminiscing about something.
- 20% are paying attention, but only 12% are listening actively.
- The rest are worrying, daydreaming, thinking about lunch or religion.
40. Devils Dictionary- by Ambrose Bierce
- Bore- a person who talks when you wish him to listen
- Conversation- a fair for the display of the minor mental commodities, each exhibitor being t