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Profiling
In the area of clinical therapy or psychology, profiling is an
important element in handling patients
case. Profiling is perceiving each case as unique and it is
according to Client Centred Theory by Carls
Roger. Profiling can be applied in area of dating. While we
doing profiling one a person that we wish
to date, we are actually looking at the wholesome picture of
that person(ranging from inner
world(belief system, personality, thinking style,) to outer
world(the way the person behave(words,
body language and etc).
The main objective of profiling is to:
a) Gain thorough complete understanding of the person that we
are going to dateb) Utilising what we know from the person to
ensure success in datingc) Most importantly, GET PREPARED to
DATE
Why profiling is relevant in dating?
Age factor: As we grow through life, we have different material
need and different thinking at
different age. Thus through identifying a person age, we can
roughly know what is her/his style of
thinking. We can use this to talk to them in their way of
thinking.
Career: Legal field (mostly realistic thinking( leg stand firm
on ground), from this you can make an
assumption that you will need to secure at least certain
material things(luxury perhaps?) before
approaching person(eg. Lawyer) that you date. Rule of dating?
Notice the topic that they talk and
language that they use. Most time, it will be a realistic issue.
Teacher are the opposite. Notice theway they talk, their body
language, facial expression(more jolly). As you can see, people are
trained
in different career thus perceive things in the way that they
are trained to be. Notice their body
language, thinking, words, tonality, inflection.
Parent background: Parents play an important role in child
development and thus lead to the full
development of an adult. Take a look at the targets parents
career,marriage, religion. Marriage of
target parents that end up in divorce normally have a great
impact to the children as they will end
up in divorce too. From the parents back ground, we can see our
TARGETS upbringing. This is
IMPORTANT as YOU DONT WANT END UP in a MESS in relationship.
Religion: Religion plays an important role in knowing the
target. Different religion different believes,
thus lead to different lifestyle. Eg, atheist may lead a
different lifestyle compare to an ardent
Catholic and believe in different things that lead to clash of
believe which eventually ruin the
relationship. If the TARGET is a religious person, you MIGHT
want to consider to back off from dating
him as you are not the type that can bear with religious person
or you can UTILISE this to date her
and get into a relationship with her.
Race : Different race have different culture thus have different
thinking, different lifestyle, different
behaviour. You might want to read through the race culture and
do something which the TARGETs
doing such as eating Chinese food if the person is a pure
Chinese that prefer Chinese food, eating
with chopstick perhaps. Be noted that, people thinking nowadays
are globalise and influence by the
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Western and Asian(eg.Korea,Japan) through media. It is
preferably mirrored the person thinking
through watching drama if the person that you would like to date
love korean drama.
Number of siblings: Number of siblings will provide you how
responsible the person is in his family.
As a norm, the eldest will be the most heavy burden of
responsibility thus more mature and
independent thinking as they will have to lead by example.
Music preferred: From music we can know thoroughly the person
personality. Classical ( clean and
sophisticated), rock(messy lifestyle, notice the word they use
FUCK), pop (look at the way they
dress).
Sport: Running ( prefer lone task, prefer passive life),
badminton,football (enjoy social outing)
