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What are emotions?What are emotions?

Emotions=Feelings Emotions=Feelings that are experiencedthat are experienced

Emotions are Emotions are experienced and experienced and expressed differently expressed differently by individualsby individuals

Discussion:Discussion: How would you define How would you define

emotions? Feelings?emotions? Feelings? Can you think of a Can you think of a

time that you time that you experienced a similar experienced a similar event differently than event differently than another (a movie with another (a movie with a friend, witnessing a a friend, witnessing a tragic or funny event)?tragic or funny event)?

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Characteristics of EmotionsCharacteristics of Emotions

Common characteristicsCommon characteristics:: Physiological or Internal Physiological or Internal

changeschanges Behavioral expressionsBehavioral expressions Cognitive interpretationsCognitive interpretations Motivational tendenciesMotivational tendencies

MoodMood:: Effect how we respond Effect how we respond

emotionallyemotionally

Discussion:Discussion: What common What common

characteristic do you notice characteristic do you notice first for yourself (happy first for yourself (happy feeling, sweaty palms, feeling, sweaty palms, thought, etc.)?thought, etc.)?

Can you think of a time you Can you think of a time you responded differently to a responded differently to a person or event than you person or event than you might normally due to a might normally due to a “mood” you were in? “mood” you were in? Provide an example. Provide an example.


Types of EmotionsTypes of Emotions

Primary EmotionsPrimary Emotions JoyJoy AcceptanceAcceptance Fear Fear surprisesurprise SadnessSadness DisgustDisgust AngerAnger AnticipationAnticipation

Mixed EmotionsMixed Emotions Combination of primary Combination of primary

emotionsemotions

Discussion:Discussion: Note Table 4.1. What Note Table 4.1. What

emotions have you felt emotions have you felt during class? Today? This during class? Today? This week? week?

How did these emotions How did these emotions impact your interactions impact your interactions with others? Your work? with others? Your work? Studying?Studying?

What was the cause of What was the cause of some of your stronger some of your stronger emotions that you’ve emotions that you’ve experienced? experienced?


Living with Problem EmotionsLiving with Problem Emotions

FearFearAnxiety Anxiety AngerAngerGuiltGuiltGrief & Grief &

BereavementBereavementLoveLove

Discussion:Discussion: Read section “How to Face Read section “How to Face

Your Fears and Anxieties” Your Fears and Anxieties” in your text. Which of in your text. Which of these strategies have you these strategies have you used? Be willing to try?used? Be willing to try?

What are your reactions to What are your reactions to the four psychological the four psychological reactions to anger? reactions to anger?

Aside from those provided Aside from those provided in the text, what in the text, what recommendations do you recommendations do you have for living with problem have for living with problem emotions? What works for emotions? What works for you?you?


EmotionsEmotions

Development of Development of emotionsemotions HeredityHeredity Learned behaviorLearned behavior

Emotional intelligenceEmotional intelligence Emotional abilitiesEmotional abilities Four essential abilitiesFour essential abilities Emotional and rational Emotional and rational

balancebalance

Discussion:Discussion: What are your What are your

reactions to the text reactions to the text discussion regarding discussion regarding men and women and men and women and emotions?emotions?

How would you rate How would you rate your EI? What are your EI? What are your strengths related your strengths related to EI? Needs?to EI? Needs?


Emotional CostEmotional Cost

Cost of denying Cost of denying emotionsemotions RepressionRepression SuppressionSuppression

Getting out of Getting out of emotional debtemotional debt Condition of imbalanceCondition of imbalance Feelings are trapped Feelings are trapped

instead of expressedinstead of expressed

Discussion:Discussion: Can you think of a time that Can you think of a time that

you repressed or you repressed or suppressed your suppressed your emotions? How did this emotions? How did this impact your mental or impact your mental or physical health?physical health?

How do you set your “limit” How do you set your “limit” to your emotional debt?to your emotional debt?


Guidelines for Dealing with Your Guidelines for Dealing with Your EmotionsEmotions

Decide when & how Decide when & how to express your to express your emotionsemotions Listen to your bodyListen to your body Identify your feelingsIdentify your feelings Personalize your Personalize your

feelingsfeelings Own your feelingsOwn your feelings Decide what you will Decide what you will

do with your feelingsdo with your feelings

Discussion:Discussion: Think of something Think of something

that is currently that is currently “weighing” on you. “weighing” on you. Think through the Think through the guidelines guidelines recommended in the recommended in the text for dealing with text for dealing with emotions. Which emotions. Which section do you think section do you think will be the most will be the most challenging for you?challenging for you?


Culture and EmotionCulture and Emotion

Universal emotionsUniversal emotions HappinessHappiness SadnessSadness SurpriseSurprise AngerAnger DisgustDisgust FearFear

Different cultures Different cultures have different display have different display rulesrules

Discussion:Discussion: What is the “culture” of What is the “culture” of

your family related to your family related to how emotions are how emotions are shared (ex. Is your shared (ex. Is your family “touchy” with family “touchy” with each other, likes to each other, likes to hug, hold each other, hug, hold each other, kiss on the cheek, kiss on the cheek, etc.)?etc.)?


Expressing Your FeelingsExpressing Your Feelings

Benefits:Benefits: You will develop positive You will develop positive

feelings about yourselffeelings about yourself Your relationship will grow Your relationship will grow

strongerstronger Pressure is relievedPressure is relieved

Discussion:Discussion: Think of a time that you Think of a time that you

shared feelings with shared feelings with someone that you had someone that you had been “bottling up”. How been “bottling up”. How did it feel to share these did it feel to share these feelings? feelings?

What are the pros/cons of What are the pros/cons of expressing feelings?expressing feelings?

How do you decide which How do you decide which feelings to share? feelings to share?

Should all feelings be Should all feelings be shared? Why or why not?shared? Why or why not?


ForgivenessForgiveness

Most of us have Most of us have experienced some experienced some hurts or a painful hurts or a painful experienceexperience

Sometimes it’s Sometimes it’s difficult to forgivedifficult to forgive Forgiveness has Forgiveness has

nothing to do with nothing to do with themthem

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Discussion:Discussion: Is there someone in Is there someone in

your life that you have your life that you have not forgiven? not forgiven?

In what ways does this In what ways does this impact you physically impact you physically and emotionally?and emotionally?

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