Developing Relationships that Sing

Developing Relationships that Sing

Developing Relationships that Sing

Developing Relationships that SingSong of Sol. 5:2-8 (She)2 I slept but my heart was awake. Listen! My beloved is knocking:“Open to me, my sister, my darling, my dove, my flawless one.My head is drenched with dew, my hair with the dampness of the night.”3 I have taken off my robe— must I put it on again?I have washed my feet— must I soil them again?

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Developing Relationships that SingSong of Sol. 5:2-8 (She)4 My beloved thrust his hand through the latch-opening; my heart began to pound for him.5 I arose to open for my beloved, and my hands dripped with myrrh,my fingers with flowing myrrh, on the handles of the bolt.6 I opened for my beloved, but my beloved had left; he was gone. My heart sank at his departure.I looked for him but did not find him. I called him but he did not answer.

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Developing Relationships that SingSong of Sol. 5:2-8 (She)7 The watchmen found me as they made their rounds in the city.They beat me, they bruised me; they took away my cloak, those watchmen of the walls!8 Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you— if you find my beloved,what will you tell him? Tell him I am faint with love.

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Early Conflict…

Video: TS Sermonette 3

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Developing Relationships that Sing1. Commit to the Relationship

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Developing Relationships that Sing

Song of Sol. 5:3 (She)3 …must I put my robe on again?

…must I soil my feet again?

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Song of Sol. 5:6 (He)6 …my beloved had left;

he was gone.

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Song of Sol. 5:3 (She)3 …must I put my robe on again?

…must I soil my feet again?

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Song of Sol. 5:6 (He)6 …my beloved had left;

he was gone.

Song of Sol. 5:9 (Friends)9 How is your beloved better than others,

that you so charge us?

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Song of Sol. 5:3 (She)3 …must I put my robe on again?

…must I soil my feet again?

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Care more about the relationship than about being right.

Song of Sol. 5:6 (He)6 …my beloved had left;

he was gone.

Song of Sol. 5:9 (Friends)9 How is your beloved better than others,

that you so charge us?

Developing Relationships that Sing1. Commit to the Relationship

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Ephesians 5:25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

Care more about the relationship than about being right.

Developing Relationships that Sing1. Commit to the Relationship

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Ephesians 5:33Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Ephesians 5:25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

Care more about the relationship than about being right.

Developing Relationships that Sing1. Commit to the Relationship

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What would change in the way you handled conflict if you truly cared more about the health of your

relationship than about being right?

Ephesians 5:25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

Song: Love is Not a Fight

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Song of Sol. 5:8 (She)8 Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you— if you find my beloved, Tell him I am faint with love.

1. Commit to the Relationship2. Apologize First

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Developing Relationships that Sing

Song of Sol. 5:8 (She)8 Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you— if you find my beloved, Tell him I am faint with love.

1. Commit to the Relationship2. Apologize First

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Own our part…

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Ephesians 3:16-19I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being…

1. Commit to the Relationship2. Apologize First

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Own our part…the Gospel empowers us!

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Song of Sol. 5:10 (She)My beloved is radiant and ruddy, outstanding among ten thousand.

1. Commit to the Relationship2. Apologize First3. Be Nice to Each Other

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Big problems stem from small discussions that blow up simply because we are not nice.

1. Commit to the Relationship2. Apologize First3. Be Nice to Each Other

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Song of Sol. 5:10 (She)My beloved is radiant and ruddy, outstanding among ten thousand.

Developing Relationships that Sing

Big problems stem from small discussions that blow up simply because we are not nice.

1. Commit to the Relationship2. Apologize First3. Be Nice to Each Other

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Fruit of the Spirit Filter love, joy, peace, patience,

kindness, goodness, faithfulness,gentleness and self-control. Galatians 5:22-23