FIFTH WARD CHURCH OF CHRIST

1 Peter 2:9

GOD IS STILLIN

CONTROL

I will wait on the Lord!

LORDI DID ALL I COULD DO

THINE WILL BE DONE

LORD

I KNOW YOU

WILL DELIVER

ME

GOD WILL

PROVIDE

GOD IS STILL

BLESSING

ME

LORD

I TRUST

YOU

OVERCOME

To Overcome is to Succeed in dealing with a problem or difficulty.

FIFTH WARD CHURCH OF CHRIST

WELCOME

TO

THE

MOTHERS SUPPORT GROUP

FACILITATOR

I am a child of GOD - First

Dr. Kewana M. Davis, Ed.D, LPC-S, NCC, CART

Doctorate of Counseling Education *Private Practice- Kay Counseling Services, PLLC

Licensed Professional Counselor- Supervisor

National Certified Counselor

Certified Anger Management Therapist

Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing, EMDR Trained -(Trauma)

FACILITATOR

Additional Certifications

Trauma-Focused- Cognitive Behavior Therapy- Certificate

Psychological First Aid: Supporting Yourself and Others During COVID-19

American Red Cross 10/2020-10/2022

Music Therapy and Sound Healing- Certification

OVERCOMING LONELINESS

❖ Root Causes

❖ Loneliness –A Psychological Review of Stages of Development

❖ Health Awareness

❖ Health Factors

❖ Sense of Self

❖ Be Mindful

❖ Gratitude

❖ Living Life on Purpose

❖ Choose an Action- To Overcome Loneliness

OVERCOMING LONELINESS

Loneliness is accompanied by emotional suffering—

The pain of feeling separate and disconnected.

Being alone and experiencing loneliness are not the same thing.

People can be alone without feeling lonely and can feel lonely even when with other people.

ENVIRONMENTAL CAUSES OF LONELINESS

PandemicNew / Single

Mothers

Vulnerable and Socially

Isolated.

SITUATIONAL CAUSES OF LONELINESS

Loss of loved ones

Empty NesterDivorce/ Break

UpLoss of Job

Recent move to new

geographical area

Friend Dynamics

change

Lack of Support Systems

Loss of Routines

Internal Factors: Low Self Esteem

Relationship Strains

HEALTH AND

LONELINESS

AWARENESS

Loneliness has the same risk as smoking for heart disease (Harvard Health, 2016).

Loneliness is chief public health concern that is being made worse by COVID-19.

Emotional eating: craving food and other rewarding stimuli, may contribute to “social craving” when one is lonely.

Loneliness impacts both physical and mental health (Hawkley & Cacioppo, 2010).

HEALTH FACTORSLONELINESS

According to AARP (2019) Scientists found that loneliness and isolation can lead to a wide range of negative health consequences and makes us more vulnerable to:

Alzheimer’s disease

High Blood Pressure

Cardiovascular disease

Common Cold

Depression

Substance misuse

Stress

Suicide

Premature Death

GRIEF

Stages of Grief- (Kubler Ross)

Grief can be caused by situations, relationships, or even substance abuse.

Denial

Anger

Depression

Bargaining

Acceptance

Grief is not only loss of person-, job, routines, not being able to gather, missed opportunity etc.…

(Gregory, 2021)

(Gregory, 2021)

SLEEP DEPRIVATION

Chronic loneliness can trigger insomnia and other sleep disorders, especially in elderly individuals.

The quality of the sleep.

The Division of Sleep Medicine at Harvard Medical School affirms that insufficient and poor amounts or quality of sleep can have many adverse consequences:

Impairs learning abilities,

Decreased retention of information

Impairs judgment.

Sleep Quality Restores Us (Ohayon, 2005; Hawkley, Cacioppo, 2010).

INTERVENTIONS

BATH FOOT SOAK 20 MINUTES

CHAMOMILE TEA

REFERENCES:

LIAO, W. C., WANG, L., KUO, C. P., LO, C., CHIU, M. J., & TING, H. (2013). EFFECT OF A WARM

FOOTBATH BEFORE BEDTIME ON BODY TEMPERATURE AND SLEEP IN OLDER ADULTS

WITH GOOD AND POOR SLEEP: AN EXPERIMENTAL CROSSOVER

TRIAL. INTERNATIONAL JOURNAL OF NURSING STUDIES, 50(12), 1607-1616.

SENSE OF SELF

Importance of Sense of Self

Knowing Yourself is Essential- (Mind, Body and Soul)

Keep your Moral Compass- (Never give up on God)

People with a poor sense of self tend to have less committed relationships and are more likely to experience emotional isolation, loneliness, and depression.

COMMIT TO HEALING

Be Honest with yourself.

We must commit to a lifetime of Healing.

This self-awareness can play a role in the type of relationships you forge as well as the strength and durability of those social connections.

ERIK ERIKSON’S STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT

Erikson’s Psychosocial Stages Summary Chart - Bing images

Erikson believed having a fully formed sense of self was essential in earlier stages of development.

REVIEWSTAGES OF DEVELOPMENT

Intimacy vs Isolation – 6th Stage (19-40)

Major conflict at this stage of life centers on forming intimate, loving relationships with other people.

Struggling at this stage can result in feelings of loneliness and isolation.

Factors that may lead to risk of loneliness:

Childhood trauma, divorce, death of partner, fear of commitment, and past relationships.

Generativity vs Stagnation – 7th Stage

(40- 65) Middle Age

Adults in this stage strive to create or nurture things that will outlast them; often by parenting children or contributing to positive changes that benefit other people.

Contributing to society and doing things to benefit future generations are important needs at the generativity versus stagnation stage ofdevelopment.

Generativity- Making Your Mark

(Cherry, 2020)

REVIEW STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT

INTEGRITY VS DESPAIR (65+)

REFLECT OVER COURSE OF LIFE.

A FEELING OF BITTERNESS ABOUT OPPORTUNITIES

MISSED AND TIME WASTED

Anger and/ or DepressionPositive (Resolved) or

Negative ReflectionsSeasoned and Beautiful

(Cherry, 2020)

OVERCOMING LONELINESS AND FEAR

CHOOSE AN ACTIONOVERCOMING LONELINESS

Gratefulness ( Giving helps to ease the loneliness)

Set Goals to Engage – twice a week call someone

Build a Buddy system

Exercise- Walk, Yoga,

Find Your Song- Daily

Join a Positive Group ( Church Group, Engage, Welcome A Committee for the Church Group)

Learn a New Craft ( pottery, archery, glass blowing, sewing, art class, cake decorations, bird watching, swimming, bike club, tennis) Stop telling yourself No!

Enroll in a Class, Certification, College/University

Give yourself permission

BE

INTENTIONAL

Nutrition, exercise, and active cognitive interests also play significant preventative and modulating roles. Health is a balance of physical, emotional, and social well-being.

WE ARE BETTER

TOGETHER

INNER PEACE

ALONE TIME BENEFITS:

LONELINESS IS MANAGEABLE

SELF REGULATION

PEACE BE STILL

SELF REFLECTION

TO MANAGE IT:

IDENTIFY -WHERE YOU ARE?

SET BOUNDARIES

PUSHPUSH PAST NEGATIVE

THOUGHTS

TRAINTRAIN YOURSELF AWAY

FROM THE OLD

THOUGHT PROCESSES

REPLACEREPLACE Negative WITH

POSITIVE THOUGHTS

CREATECREATE OPPORTUNITIES-

MAKE PLANS…..

MOVE TOWARDS

FORGIVENESS

DISTANCE YOURSELF FROM

FEAR.

Have Child like RESILIENCY

BE MINDFUL

Awareness

Be Mindful of what we feed our spirit- in our alone time.

Is this adding value or taking away value?

Check In with yourself- Daily: How Do You Feel? What are your needs? What is the plan?

Essential

*Givers must check In with themselves.

GOAL: SPIRITUAL GROWTH – SERVANTS MUST GO ON

LIVE LIFE ON PURPOSE

Be WILLING and Purposeful

Be WILLING to create new spaces

CHALLENGE yourself to go forward.

BE WILLING TO LIVE, LOVE, AND SERVE ON PURPOSE.

Be willing to remove toxicity that causes distress.

Protect

Setting healthy boundaries to protect your mental health.

Draw nigh to God and he will Draw nigh to you- James 4:8

GRATEFULNESS

Isaiah 12:3Therefore, with joy you will draw

water From the wells of salvation.

ROMANS 8:35

KJV

SERVANTS MUST GO ON

SONG

RECOMMENDATION

Call Him Up – Frank Melton -

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v

=ATJEt-he9uI

REFERENCES

Cherry, K. (2020, June). Erik Erikson’s Stages of Psychosocial Development. Retrieved at:

https://www.verywellmind.com/erik-eriksons-stages-of-psychosocial-development-2795740

Melton, F. (2014, January 14). The Bell & Frank Melton III - Call Him Up. Retrieved at: https://youtu.be/ATJEt-he9uI

Gregory, C. (2021, March). The five stages of grief. Retrieved at: https://www.psycom.net/depression.central.grief.html

Harvard Business Review (2017). https://hbr.org/cover-story/2017/09/work-and-the-loneliness-epidemic.

Harvard Medical School. (2016, June). Loneliness and isolation raise risk for stroke and heart disease, study suggests.

Retrieved at: https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/loneliness-and-isolation-raise-risk-for-stroke-and-

heart-disease-study-suggests

REFERENCES

Hawkley, L. C., & Cacioppo, J. T. (2010). Loneliness matters: a theoretical and empirical review of consequences and mechanisms. Annals of behavioral medicine : a publication of the Society of Behavioral Medicine, 40(2), 218–227. https://doi.org/10.1007/s12160-010-9210-8

Humble is Da way. (2010, September 9). Committed- Near the cross. Retrieved at: https://youtu.be/bHSDitVgjkk

Humble is Da way. (2010, September 21). Committed- I’m glad I know you. Retrieved at: https://youtu.be/jFWPvuDoRjQ.

King James Bible. (2017). King James Bible Online. https://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org (original work published 1769).

Liao, W. C., Wang, L., Kuo, C. P., Lo, C., Chiu, M. J., & Ting, H. (2013). Effect of a warm footbath before bedtime on body temperature and sleep in older adults with good and poor sleep: an experimental crossover trial. International journal of nursing studies, 50(12), 1607-1616.

Melton, F. (2014, January 14). The Bell & Frank Melton III - Call Him Up. Retrieved at: https://youtu.be/ATJEt-he9uI

REFERENCES

MDLinx (January 2019). https://www.mdlinx.com/internal-medicine/article/3272.

Washington Post (2017). https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/on-leadership/wp/2017/10/04/this-former-

surgeon-general-says-theres-a-loneliness-epidemic-and-work-is-partly-to-blame/?utm_term=.0734c8da5e4a.