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A L W A Y S O N P O I N T

Broke and Fabulous:What A Woman’s Shoes

Says About her

Hip Hop: The Lights Are On

Breaking the Glass

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Fitness

DOT MAGAZINE

Managing Editor: Eric Thomas

Dot-Tributors:Format Editor: Nolan Houston Copy Editor: Steve ManorPhoto Editor: Kimberly Good

Networking Consultant: Emory James

Writer: Erika Miller Writer: Mario BotkinWriter: Dr. Essence RobinsonWriter: LJ Flood

Photographer: Houston Hardie PhotosPhotographer: Edgar Clemente of EJJE PhotosStylist : Jaime-Christie Calucag Make-Up Artist: Heather ZivinIntern: Roshni Mercadel

Special Contributors:Jonnie EnriquezJustina RobinsonCandace LeloMelodee Eva-Zacchara

Special Thanks to: Explosive Marketing Group, Coffee Bar 1130 Pepper Ave, Colton, Ca, 92324

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Dorthy Enriquez: Publisher and Editor in Chief

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Letter From The Publisher

It’s been two years of articles, interviews, events, meetings, team work, and fun. Here we are at the end of 2010 doing our final issue of the year. And how ‘fitting’ is it that we chose fitness as our theme because earlier this year, I realized that I had gained some weight and was the heaviest I have ever been! Don’t get me wrong…I’m not a big girl, I was just bigger than what I used to be and the months I spent in denial made the situation worse. I was so used to having a high metabolism and stuffing my face with almost anything that I never thought it would catch up to me (everyone said it would one day).Even after I accepted that I was not as thin as I used to be, I spent the next few months eating my feelings and adding more pounds, refusing to buy clothes that fit and feeling worse since my pants would not button and the zippers of my dresses would be screaming! To ease the pain I needed shakes, nachos, fries and cookies. Then one day, while on date I looked in a department store window, saw my reflection and wanted to jump off of the sidewalk.Finally, within the last month and a half I decided to throw the shake away and give up the nachos and get my butt to the gym. I enlisted the assistance of Kinetix Fitness because I knew I could not do it on my own. The owner, Remi, would bark at me all the time to hurry up, stop making up my face like I don’t like it, and to start committing to looking the way I want to. Hearing this over and over again made me sick. And that let me know that it was working. Now, although I am not exactly where I want to be, I’m less stressed, I sleep better, and I am feeling more confident because I’m actually doing something about it instead of just sulking and mulling. I am going to be a bridesmaid two times next year for two important women in my life and I want to look my best. I made a decision to get up and get on point. It’s the best thing I’ve done for ME in months. Men and women alike look in the mirror and sometimes are not so happy with what they see. But there are some things that can be changed, like your weight. If part of your New Year’s resolution is to get healthy again, Dot Magazine and Kinetix Fitness are here to help! Email us with your plan and/or your success story to [email protected] or [email protected] .

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Dot MagazineIssue 3 // Vol 2 // December 2010

20 Fighting Through The Pain

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Obama’s Journey

26 Wild Thingz

11 Poetry

8 For Colored Girls Movie Review

9 Hip Hop: The Lights Are On

24Circuit Training with

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17 BeautyFull Hair

32 Broke n Fabulous

36 Why Men Dont

38 Dot-Liciousness

37 Cat Fight: Why Women Don’t Like Each Other

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What Matters

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The Dot-Tributors always have a visual treat for you every week with through provoking forward thinking articles and artwork that features people that look just like YOU! Plus, you get to comment and speak out on the articles and topics you’ve asked us to ex-

plore.Check out articles from Volume 2/Issue 2: Reee-wind

The Women’s Conference by Dr. Essence RobinsonA ‘Will’ing Artist by Dorothy Enriquez

A Love Story by Erika Miller

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Cul ture

For Colored girls Movie Review

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Some may have seen the play or even

read the collection of poems, while a

majority of us were left in suspense

as to what this new Tyler Perry film was

about. For those unaware of the storyline,

we debated if this Tyler Perry film would

even be good, or if we were just going

to see it because it was a “Tyler Perry”

film. Despite the reservations, millions of

people everywhere awaited the release

of the new Tyler Perry film, “For Colored

Girls;” a screenplay adapted from Ntozake

Shange’s stage play “For Colored Girls

Who Have Considered Suicide When The

Rainbow Is Not Enuf.” Through poetic

prose, colorful metaphors and dramatic

theatrics, Janet Jackson, Loretta Divine,

Thandie Newton, Anika Noni Rose,

Kimberly Elise, Whoopi Goldberg, Kerry

Washington, and Tessa Thompson tell the

story of eight women who are not only bound

by their encounters with one another, but also

through the secrets they keep. Having been

described as “Precious on steroids,” this Tyler

Perry film is indeed deep. You will definitely

laugh, cry and find your mouth gaped open

at some of the events that the women go

through. Although some may feel what these

women encounter may be the furthest from

their own actuality, the reality is there are many

women of all races that are faced with abuse,

assault and life altering decisions regarding their

personal and professional lives.

Even if these women’s encounters do not hit

home for you, keep an open mind, cause you

never know if another woman you encounter

everyday is at the end of her rainbow or when

your rainbow is not enough

Jennifer Jeffries (CA)For Colored Girls...deep

Crystal Lynn Fincher (Piccayune, MS)Went and seen For Colored Girls. It’s a must see, you will either love it or hate it, but you WILL NOT leave feeling indifferent. And Kimberly Elise is amazing

Dollie Foxx (Albuquerque, NM)“ For Colored Girls” AWESOME A++++ EVERY ONE SHOULD GO SEE IT AND OPEN YOUR MIND...this is truly a great movie!!!

Roslyn SouthernHummingbird Valentine (Memphis, TN)Just saw “For Colored Girls” and it really moved me. I really wish every Colored girl I’ve ever known and/or loved would learn to Recognize & OWN our own Power...but eh, what do I know hunh=)

Jamie Lynne (PA) Although it was difficult to watch however it was the truth. I know many women found themselves, their sisters, friends, etc in the movie!!! The poetic monologues were beautiful

Alison Harris (Charlotte, NC)“People didn’t know whether to clap at the end or not. The movite was like Precious on steroids...” ~ my mother’s take on “For Colored Girls...”

Deena Weems Thornton (Philadelphia, PA)For Colored Girls...Bravo!

Written By: Dr. Esscence Robinson

For Colored Girls Movie Review

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Hip Hop :The Lights

Are On

In a few short years a change has quietly arrived on the scene we call Hip-Hop. We saw it in Rock and Roll, and shades of it have always existed in country, R&B, and Pop. You could call it darkness, you could call it emo. Let’s call it blues-hop.

Drake, Kid Cudi and Kanye West are at the forefront of a movement in Hip-Hop that is defined by pure and brutal emotion. They aren’t telling stories about the streets or the ghetto. They don’t just tell stories about all the money they have, the hoes they banged, or the cars they drive. They rap about the balance of having it all and remembering how good it was to have to chase it all. The complacency of success, the mistakes they made on the way to the top, and the regrets they can see from the top.

I haven’t seen much talk about why Hip-Hop is moving in this direction but the music is being received by millions of ears and they keep asking for more. However, it seems appropriate that this emotional re-naissance of sorts would come, and be welcomed, right on the heels of the recession. Just as America is coming to grips and understanding that what brought us to this low point was our drive to reach the top, the top artists in Hip-Hop are discovering the same in their personal lives.

When can you remember describing this many artists’ top songs as being melancholy, dark, and brooding? Sure, Eminem has been described that way but he is not making the same music as a Drake or a Kid Cudi. His personal struggles are both more accessible and less familiar than those of the new rising stars. Whereas Eminem poured his heart out in his music, he did so letting the listener in to his most extreme musings, the trend now is best seen and understood in light of the recent excesses of the older generation of rappers; the baby-boomers of rap, like Jay-z, P. Diddy or even Will Smith. There aren’t very many chart topping songs by those artists that are truly personal. But West is beating up the charts with My Beautiful Dark Twisted Fantasy, Drake with Thank Me Later, and Kid Cudi with Man on the Moon 2.I’m glad it’s happening. Just as it reaches its mid-30s, Hip-Hop is growing up.

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Sometimes I dream with you By: Mr. Business sometimeswhen i’m walkingand there’s a breezei think i can smell youthe gentle scent of yor perfumeI can feel you sometimesat night your skinbrushing against mineand it feels as soft as silkbut wh en i turnyou are not thereI begin dreaming of you and the time we sharedi remembered tracing my fingersacross the valley of your bodyand kissing the trails they left behindmaking your skin tingleand your lips smile and quiverfeeling your breath quickenas i begin ticklingthe soft walls of your heartmy tongue tasted the inner sweet within youand caused you to oooohi can hear you singingyour voice carried by the windinto my dreamsbut when i awake there is silence

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Obama’s Journey:Still A long Way To Go

People judge people for lots of reasons. Some reasons we believe are improper—race, ethnicity, gender, their general appearance, etc. But some reasons we believe are proper, like when we judge people by their ideas, by the way they treat other people, etc. As early as 2008 we all watched the wrong kind of judgment when some supporters of then can-

didate Barack Obama attended rallies wearing anti-Hillary Clinton t-shirts bearing the slogan, “Bros before hoes.” But in the 2010 elections, women candidates finally achieved real equality with men—at least in the Democratic Party. Republican women candidates like Linda McMahon and Carly Fiorina failed in their campaigns. Their op-ponents did not defeat them because they were women. They defeated them because they were rich. In Connecticut, Linda McMahon ran against Richard Blumenthal. Over the course of his campaign, Blu-menthal spoke repeatedly of his experiences as a Marine in Vietnam. But while in the Marine Reserves, Blumenthal never served in Vietnam. Blumenthal described it all as an “unintentional and rare misstate-ment” of his time in the Marine Corps Reserves. In the same campaign, Blumenthal said that he had “never” taken money from special interests. But in his own report to the Federal Election Commission, he admitted to taking $220,000 from special interests. His campaign later corrected this saying that he was talking about previous campaigns only. Blumenthal was obviously the kind of candidate that was more than willing to lie to get elected. McMahon, the wife of World Wrestling Entertainment (WWE) CEO Vince McMahon, was conservative on economic policy. But on social policy she supported the right to abortion as well as the rights of homo-sexuals. And unlike her opponent, she provided a clear economic plan for getting the economy moving again. Instead of presenting a clear plan of his own; instead of fighting McMahon on the merits of her plans for America’s future; Blumenthal flew in the father of the now deceased WWE wrestler Chris Benoit, set him up with a hotel room, and took him out on the campaign trail where Mr. Benoit claimed repeat-edly that McMahon only wanted to get elected to protect the money she and her husband made off of his son’s death. His campaign came down to one message: the haves vs. the have-nots.On the other coast, Carly Fiorina, was everything that a feminist would love and appreciate. By 1998, at the age of 44, she was named “most powerful woman in business” by Fortune Magazine. She maintained that very same level of respect from that day forward. She also was markedly different from McMahon. Where McMahon was economically conservative and socially liberal, Fiorina was economically liberal and socially conservative. Fiorina’s opponent was also a woman—Barbara Boxer. Boxer was a feminist role model in her own right. She was elected to the Congress in 1982 where she stayed until elected to the Senate in 1992. So by the 2010 campaign, Boxer had a 28 year record to run on. Yet instead of running on that record, Boxer’s cam-paign attacked Fiorina’s wealth and success in the business world. The very thing that Fiorina had to feel the most proud of—her success in business—was the very thing that she was being attacked for. She was a successful woman in the American business world. How dare she! Boxer’s campaign came down to one message: the haves vs. the have nots. If 2010 is any indication of what the future has to hold, women won’t be judged for being women—not like some Obama supporters did in 2010. Women will be judged for daring to be successful. In that kind of world, one of the many questions that we must ask ourselves is this: how do we continue to inspire growing American girls to demand equality, to strive, and to succeed when success is apparently so evil?

Written By: Mario Botkin

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As a working mother of two and full time student, I am not ashamed to admit that getting enough sleep is something that I daydream about.

Unlike my children, right around 2pm, my colleagues and I are wishing that we could incorporate nap time into our American tradition, similar to the way the English make time for tea. But the simple truth is that is not the American way. As the industrial leaders of the 20th century and the big players of the technological age Americans do not get ahead by sleeping. Effectively, 30 million Americans suffer from sleep loss, according to the Sleep in America polls. It’s no wonder the average consumer often times leans on sleep aids to enable their snoozing experience.

As you can surmise, sleep loss is nothing to sleep on. Whether we would like to face it or not, we need sleep and the effects of sleep deprivation are degenerative in exhaustive measures. Too little sleep can decrease emotional management, increase depression, rapid weight loss, rapid weight gain, premature aging, slow down work performance, and is a top cause of car accidents in America rivaling DUIs. Accvvording to data from the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration one in six deadly crashes are caused by a drowsy driver. Worse yet, regularly neglecting your sleep can cause early death of natural causes as well.

Now, you can take this article to your boss or professor or whomever and demand paid nap time in your work hours but I doubt you will get anything beyond a good laugh. Another option is to figure out how to redevelop healthy sleeping habits into your life.

The literature on healthy sleeping is voluminous in print and on the web. According to Dr. Jeanie

Help I Cant Sleep!!

Lerche of WebMD, if you don’t have genetic physical malaise affecting your sleep, then maintaining sleep habits is based on the choices you make daily. In other words, sleep comes easy for those who live healthy and happy lives. Here are some suggestions on how to make that happen in your life.

EatingThe first healthy habit starts with eating. Does eating healthy mean eating oatmeal, spinach, and bananas all day with water to wash it all down? Definitely not. However, excessive alcohol, recreational drugs, high fatty foods, starches, and other processed foods can seriously affect your sleep cycle. On the other hand, food can be your friend. If you can’t fall asleep and feel like a snack, then try drinking a warm cup of milk and other tryptophan rich foods such as eggs, dairy products, vegetable oil products, meat products, and generally any source of high protein. Tryptophan is the chemical in these foods that forces the digestive system to work extra hard to break down these items into useable nutrients.

ExercisingAnother important part of healthy sleep habits is getting exercise daily. The body is made to move more than swinging from side to side in your swivel chair or walking to the break room for coffee. Physical exertion requires the body to rest well, effectively recovering and allowing you to wake up feeling rejuvenated. Additionally, it is well known that regular exercise relieves stress and a good stress reliever could be just the thing you need to fall into the sleep you’ve been longing for.

Stop WorryingPsychological stress is a common problem for the weary. Long after the lights have turned off, a stressful mind will run well into the next morning, resulting in a sluggish body and drowsiness throughout the day.

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Maintaining Healthy RelationshipsAside from exercise, healthy relationships can naturally relieve stress and increase healthy sleep patterns. If something is on your mind and you can’t stop thinking about it, call someone who cares about you. Even if you don’t find the solution, you can at least put the problem in perspective so that it doesn’t seem larger than life. Also, talking it out or writing problems down on paper can make a problem seem more manageable, particularly if you can identify possible solutions.

Take Care of YouFinally, treat yourself like you are your number one fan. Giving yourself attention, entertainment, time to yourself, etc, can also decrease stress and increase your ability to sleep soundly. Like a healthy relationship with others, a healthy relationship with yourself reinforces your own confidence and feeling of security. Just the thing you need to help you get those priceless Z’s.

Those with genetic predispositions to insomnia or hypersomnia (over drowsiness) can use these techniques too; they just need to make a little more time to allow them to work efficiently. Furthermore, consulting with your doctor regarding your sleep issues would be a good idea to figure out the best plan for you.

Experts also suggest setting up down time before going to sleep. For example, cut off work, or anything else that requires you to be alert, maybe 30 minutes before going to sleep and then apply any of the methods listed above. This should prepare your body to sleep well. This is not unlike what I have to do for my children, and if this method can calm bouncing boys into serene lambs so that they drift off to sleep within minutes of laying their heads to pillows, then why can’t it work for you?

You may be saying, sure I understand, but I just don’t have enough time during the day to do everything I want to do, healthy sleeping has to wait. I would encourage you to consider sleep a lifetime investment, like eating. Living requires eating, and the same is true for sleep. If we can learn anything from Michael Jackson’s untimely demise, it is this; no matter how talented, important, or busy we are sleep is a necessity of life. Rather than pay the piper in full before you’re ready, get your rest every day. Mama’s orders.


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As I walked into the house, the aroma of homemade macaroni and cheese and fried chicken filled the air. I felt like I was at home. I peered into the kitchen to be greeted warmly by Jennifer’s mom and she smiled and told me to have a seat in her sarcastic way, she thanked me for finally showing up. Across the table sat a young woman with sister locks, perfect brows, and a killer smile that was quite welcoming. She’s definitely her mother’s daughter. It made me even more excited to hear all of the things she had to share with Dot Magazine about her journey. I was going to find out how her skills talked her to the top and how salon life just wasn’t enough. Jennifer Singleton set her own goals and when her step father stepped peeked in a bit, he asked her, “What will you conquer next once you’ve conquered the world?” She beamed, “I’ll conquer the sun, that way everything can revolve around me.” I thought to myself, I like her. This is going to be a fun interview and food was going to be involved to make it even better. And Jennifer and I sat down for a little chat with some home cooking to inspire and nourish the two young ladies who dared to want.

Dot Magazine: Tell us about your journey to becoming a celebrity hair stylist?Jennifer Singleton: Oh my goodness. Well, I got my license when I’d turned 18. I started in a salon. I always felt stagnant and stuck. It just wasn’t for me. But, I heard that Disneyland had a hair and make up department and I had worked there before. While I was at Disney, I heard about the union IOXI (international alliance of theatrical stage employees) which takes care of people behind the scenes. Once I got a taste of entertainment I knew that’s where I wanted to be.

Dot Magazine: So what kind of work did you start doing? Jennifer Singleton: I shopped my resume to CBS, NBC, KTLA. Then I got a call from channel 4 and I got a call to do the Rose parade. And they called me back to do their 60th anniversary with all of their news casters. Now, that I had that experience, I decided to shop my resume more. I worked 2 years to get into CBS and I started working on The Young and the Restless and The Bold and the Beautiful. Then I got a call from NBC. Once you get your name out there a little bit, people start to hear about you. Once you know someone others can trust you to be professional. Dot Magazine: So, how do you feel when you get these calls/opportunities? Can you believe it or do you feel like, yep, of course they would call?Jennifer Singleton: I feel a little bit of both, I can’t believe they picked me and of course they picked me. It’s the Leo in me to believe. I’m going to step into the water and get eaten by sharks or I’m gonna step into the water and swim. And you’re competing with everyone in the US and Canada in this industry. It’s the gift of gab. I’m not shy. At least for me, if you don’t talk in this business you’re not going to get anywhere. You need to be able to wheel and deal. One minute you’re hot the next minute you’re not.

Dot Magazine: What celebrities have you worked with that we might know?Jennifer Singleton: People that I’ve worked with that are famous…hmmm…clients that I like…I’m Tatiana Ali’s personal hair dresser. She’s really sweet and I’ve been doing her hair since she was on The Young and the Restless. Just finished doing her hair for her show Love that Girl which is on TV One. Shaun Robinson from Access Hollywood is my client and that’s the normal show that I work on. I just got finished with Brandi because she came to Access Hollywood. [She pauses] You know who’s really nice Linda Blair, I really like her. I did Tyler Perry’s hair. He plays Madea so I did his wig for the LA production of Madea’s Big Happy Family. Fantasia Barrino was someone I worked with when she was doing the Color Purple at the Pantageous Theatre.

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BeautyFull Hair Cont.

Dot Magazine: When we’re young we have dreams of getting up everyday and living our passion, do you feel that way?Jennifer Singleton: Yes! I didn’t want to be a hair dresser when I was little. It was a thing to do during the summer. My mom didn’t want me to sit at home. It was a plan b. And my plan b became my plan a. My mom was trying to convince me and I wasn’t trying to hear it. But, I feel like hair has become my passion. So, I feel really proud when I can see something like Shaun Robinson’s hair at the emmys and having it be acknowledged in TV Guide as one of the best hair styles. Dot Magazine: What are some typical misconceptions that black women have about their hair and its care?Jennifer Singleton: That black hair is somehow bad or that straighter is better. It’s not true. I think black hair is the most diverse hair and it’s the best hair. We can put heat against it, it’s strong, you can weave it bump it, twist it, make an afro, any kind of style. I wish there were more women that would embrace natural styles. But I don’t think black women realize the beauty in their hair. For convenience I understand the weaves and the braids. And I wish there was less of a stigma against nappy. I didn’t see the movie Good Hair until recently because it made me so mad. I think as black people, we let our secrets out too much. We don’t keep anything sacred for us. For a long time, people didn’t even realize that white people wear just as much extensions as we do. And most white women I know don’t even know their natural hair color. Black women are very washed down by media on what beauty is. When you don’t fit into the box you feel squished down. But if you’re hair isn’t straight

and silky down to your back and you’re not 5’ 9” and 110 pounds, then you’re not pretty. It’s the same thing with Gabore Sidibe when they lightened her on the cover of Glamour; I was astounded. And that sends a message. When Vanity Fair did their ‘Up and coming list’, there were no Asians, Latinas, or African Americans.

vDot Magazine: In 5 years, what do you see yourself doing?Jennifer Singleton: I see my product line flourishing. It’s called Jenergy Beauty and it’s actually not even for hair. It’s a body care line. It’s a scrub, soap, body spray, natural hand made without any animal by products. You can put it all over your body. You can

put it in your hair even!

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Dot Magazine: Wow, really? Your own body care line. Can I try some? Moments later, Jennifer Singleton performs a demo on me with the cream and I put the left overs from my hand into my hair. It shined like new and I was quite impressed. It was so natural, I could eat it!

Dot Magazine: So what made you want to start your own body care line?Jennifer Singleton: I nearly killed myself using a regular scrub…a popular one even. There wasn’t even lotion that I liked. I would get ashy between my toes and fingers and I was an ash monster. The skin is the largest organ on the body and it absorbs everything. I actually started blending stuff together in my kitchen and a year later…I came out with this thing. I wanted products with ingredients I could pronounce. If you know your ingredients, you trust it and you feel safe using it. You can put it on when you’re wet or when you’re dry…it doesn’t matter. I also still see myself working in film at the highest level. Journeyman is the highest level you can go to in the union and that’s where I’ll go. I like a challenge.

Dot Magazine: So what final word would you like to share with the readers of Dot Magazine?Jennifer Singleton: If there’s any advice I could give to someone young or old, it would be don’t be afraid to do something…do it. The worst answer anyone could tell you is no. And so what. You only get one life. A million people can tell you no and one person will tell you yes. All you need is that one person to tell you yes. Make your own yes. Dare to dream, dare to want.

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Fight Through The Pain

with Kinetix

Dot Magazine: What do you think are peoples’ most common misconceptions about losing weight? People think losing weight is going on a diet and starving or giving up all kinds of food that they love. “I don’t want to change what I eat”. I get that from people a lot. You can lose weight without dieting. But you’ll only see mediocre results. Dieting really raises the bar.

Dot Magazine: Which do you have a harder time training: the person in average shape and trying to tone up or the person that is definitely out of shape but has a goal? I prefer dealing with a person with a goal. Without a goal you lose commitment. I can show them what they need to do in a detailed plan: diet, cardio, changing fat to muscle. The beginning is hard. That’s when the pain is the most. Breaking habits takes time and so does creating new ones. It takes 21 days to start to see that change in habits.

Dot Magazine: What makes Kinetix Fitness so different from other personal training programs? I have more passion and I know how to keep you motivated and feel revitalized. It’s not just a job. This is something I would do even if I wasn’t getting paid. My reward is seeing people I have helped reach their goals.

Dot Magazine: Most people dread dieting, making healthy food choices and exercising…how did this become your passion? Honestly, I’m not sure. I’ve been in the gym since I was 18, so 12 years. It’s mental and physical so you have to be focused. You have to have a mind over body mentality to finish some of the tasks. I wasn’t getting what I wanted of out my last job and found that personal training really fit what I was looking for. It’s MY lifestyle, it just so happens I get paid for it (laughs).

As the New Year approaches, many of us will be making resolutions to trim the fat, eat better, and fight the pain to shape up. Dot Magazine sits down with Remi Ajibola to find out how to

fight through the pain and get results.

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Broke And Fabulous:What A Woman’s

Shoes Say About Her

Broke & Fabulous: What a Woman’s Shoes Say About HerSome individuals can decipher the distinct tap of a stiletto on a concrete surface or the familiar ‘squish’ of a sneaker as a runner zips by. We are accustomed to the clap of a flip-flop against a heel. We use our sense and understanding of fashion to guide the wardrobe decisions we make on a daily basis.

Most individuals don’t stop to think about what their shoes ‘say’ about them. Most times your shoes will be the biggest blabber mouths around you when you thought it was your best friend Sue telling your deepest secrets—no, not so much. So what types of women wear what types of shoes?The Lady of Comfort: You know her. She is not ‘older’ nor does she have a bad back. She’s quick to run to the grocery store in her Reefs even if it is chilly out. She’s marking X’s on the calendar waiting patiently for one leaf to turn orange to break out the Ugg boots for their usual 8 month stint (because it’s still cold from Labor Day weekend to May!). On Saturday night she is dressed to the nines in flats and if there was a Birkenstocks made acceptable for work—you’d find her in them! For now, she wears Crocs. The Lady of The Night: You’ve seen her. She is all about an evening look. Even if it’s just a trip to Target, she’s in four inch snake skin sling backs…in the middle of the day. She enjoys feeling tall whether she is at a night club or at the beach and for this lady there is an amount of ‘sex appeal’ derived from her high heel fetish. Her two favorite things: pedicures and Epsom salt…for the swelling.The Lady of Practicality: She is the last of the round-toe shoe owning Mohicans. She completely missed the memo that women’s fashion decided that while none of our feet are shaped that way, shoes look much more fabulous when they come to a point! She is best friends with the local shoe repair, as even the most wonderful set of heels are only wonderful if they are 2” or shorter. A great fan of the kitten heel, wedges, platforms, and moccasins, she is a ‘sole’ believer that shoes should be worn to fit the occasion and fashion comes second when convenient.The Lady of Trend Setting: You might be her. Or secretly want to be her. She is versatile. She could pair

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a suede stiletto with an evening dress, or beaded Greek sandals for a day at the park. Whatever is in fashion she has it and if Rhianna wore it Friday, she’ll have it Monday! She is the eye catcher on the sidewalk you just have to pull aside and say “I love your shoes”. She will smile and say “Oh thank you!” and if you’re lucky, she’ll share with you the latest tip on where to get a fabulous pair!

What shoe persona fits you? You know what they say: If the shoe fits…wear it! Dot Magazine is here to let you know you that you don’t have to go broke to maintain your shoe-sizzle. We recommend you visit websites like www.zooshoo.com, www.justfabulous.com and www.shoedazzle.com to get fabulous shoes without breaking the bank. And, if you order shoes from any of these sites or you find an even better one, send us an email with a picture of your new shoes to [email protected].


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Why Men Dont

Cat Fight: Why Women Dont Like Each Other

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Written By: Mr. Business

Let a man answer a few of those questions.

Why men don’t like dressing up:

Unlike women, playing dress-up with your friends is not fun.

We wear clothes because we know we’re supposed to. Ever

since we were old enough to take them off, we’ve been told

not too. There’s a big difference between dressing up because

you like to and not being comfortable while dressed up. Most

guys are comfortable with being dressed up but can at least

make themselves look presentable for an interview. And that’s

exactly why we don’t like dressing up. It usually means we

are going to work, trying to get work, or otherwise trying

to impress YOU. And if we didn’t have to do any of things

for money, sex/’companionship’ (which means sex to us), or

happiness then we wouldn’t.

Offer to help instead of treating us to stuff:

Be honest, you like it. As much as you hate having to beg all

week long for the trash to be taken out, the toilet seat left up,

the garage to be cleaned out, or even just keep our shoes out

of the living room floor, you LOVE when we buy you gifts,

wine and dine you, or that other thing we do that always

makes you forget the past weeks grievances. And so do we. It

means we don’t have do everything you say (which we kinda

hate sometimes) and we can still make you swoon no matter

how mad you were when you woke up and found all those

beer cans on the coffee table from last night.

Show their emotions:

“I don’t want you to see me cry….” This is a tough one and I

could blame women. Yup. We don’t like to show our emotions

and you are at least partly to blame. But most of the blame

is on older generations and the lessons they taught us about

being men. Men don’t cry. Our feelings don’t get hurt. Of

course none of that is true and a lot of men are starting to

understand that. Your part in this whole mess is learning how

to hear when we talk and listen when we don’t. Often times,

silence is a big signal that you touched something sensitive

and might want to back it up a little. If you sense that we are

holding back, respect it and be patient enough for us to let

you in.

If you want us to do things, know things, or know more

about us, don’t assume. The best thing to do is ask. And that

probably does not mean asking our friends, exes, or family

members.

Why Men Don’t…..Gossip to other guys or girls?Clean the bathroom?Show their emotions?Do things without us asking?Offer to HELP instead of treating us to stuff?Why don’t men like dressing up?Ask US questions?Why won’t you live with me?

The list can go on forever...

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Cat Fight: Why

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By Greg Angus It’s been said that women are jealous of each other; they cannot get along in groups, that they possess

an almost vicious competitive streak that they are powerless to control. The term ‘frenemy’ has even

been used to describe the relationships among allegedly close female friends. I feel compelled to write

this article in defense of all women.

There are certain biological characteristics in people that are a hold-over from primitive times. The

appendix for example, this was necessary to the digestive system when we ate leaves and bark, but the

invention of almost predigested foods like Big Macs make this unnecessary although at one time it was

essential to survival. The inability of females to get along also comes from a similar primitive necessity.

The first human societies were animal-like tribes of cave dwelling pre-humans. Each of these tribes had

a leader. He was the fastest, the strongest and the best hunter. At some point he challenged the former

leader to a fight to the death and he won. He was the epitome of the Alpha male, he would then rule

the tribe, get the most food and he had his pick of the ladies. Unfortunately for him, these were hairy

women that smelled like rotten animal skins, and there was no relief as beer was not to be invented

for centuries. But regardless, the hairy women fought each other for the attention of the Alpha leader.

Their maternal instinct drove them to mate with the strongest male in the tribe so their children would

then be strong and leaders of the tribe. This ingrained competitiveness amongst the females is still

prevalent in today’s society

The females in the tribe would often fight each other over the leader in the way that dogs fight each

other over a bone. Since we know from the Flintstones that domesticated dogs did not yet exist in the

Stone Age and that primitive people kept saber tooth tigers as domesticated pets, these hairy women

actually fought over the leader of the tribe in the way that saber tooth tigers fought over bones, hence

the term Cat Fight. Eventually one dog/ or saber tooth cat, will get the bone from the others and go

off to enjoy it. This natural competitiveness is still a strong and primitive hold-over in the less hairy

women of today. Women in groups still feel the urge to fight over the bone.

What we perceive as catty behavior and jealousness is nothing more than healthy competitiveness

derived from a maternal instinct and desire to make a strong tribe.


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Not that this makes a difference but I used a 7lb Kosher Chicken from Trader Joes to start...

INSTRUCTIONS:Pre heat oven to 450Remove the giblets and wash the chicken, then let it drain in a colander for 15 minutes.Use Kosher Salt and give it a salt scrub, not too much salt but just enough (like giving the meat a massage). Do this for about 5 minutes, then let it sit while you cut up what it will be stuffed with.

In a bowl mix:Chopped up 1 quarter white onion 2.5 cloves garlic mincedMinced fresh ginger (I used about 1 teaspoon)1 teaspoon fresh rosemaryCompletely mix up this combination and put it aside...then

Next Steps:Squeeze 1/2 cup of fresh lemon juiceTake 2 whole lemons (clean them thoroughly in cold water) and rub them around on the counter to make them juicier. Take a fork and poke each lemon 3 times (make sure you don’t lose the juice inside before you put it in the chicken). Squeeze 1/3 cup of fresh orange juice and put it aside.Now, take the chicken and put it in the pot you’re going to cook it in. Then stuff the cavity with the onion, garlic, ginger, rosemary mix (if you like, which I did, you can cut up another much smaller version of this same mix and put it on top of the chicken and in the juice as it cooks). Next pour the 1/2 cup of lemon juice all over the chicken included in the cavity with the onion mix. Stuff the two poked lemons inside the cavity. Then salt and pepper to taste. Make sure the chicken is breast side down to start.Turn the heat on the oven down to 350, and put chicken in for about 45 minutes (again this is for a 7 pounder, if its smaller it will be much less). Take it out and flip the bird around breast side up. It may look a bit dry, pour a little bit of the orange juice mix on it.Put it in the oven another 45 minutes. Now if you like it spicier, I added some red Persian seasoning at this point all over the skin only with the rest of the orange juice mix to keep it moist. From here (only cause I want to make sure it’s cooked to perfection) I keep checking every 10-20 minutes and taking a spoon and using the juices at the bottom of the pan and pouring them all over the chicken until it was done. For my 7 pounder it took about 3 hours to be complete.

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