How many of you regretted of being born into your family? How many of you are grateful that you were born into your family? How many of you are not sure-

How many of you regretted How many of you regretted of being born into your of being born into your

family?family?How many of you are How many of you are

grateful that you were born grateful that you were born into your family?into your family?

How many of you are not How many of you are not sure- whether to regret or sure- whether to regret or thankful of being born in thankful of being born in

your family?your family?

Session ITHE BIG PICTURESession ITHE BIG PICTURE

1. What God Wants Us To Know About Our Children

2. What God Wants Us to Know About The Responsibility of Parenting

3. Characteristics of Effective Parents4. The Goal of Biblical Parenting

• We may not be able to influence our but we can influence our

• The world’s school system does not offer any course on

• We learn parenting from our and from others. Sad to say, the model of our parents’ style may not always be

• We may not be able to influence our but we can influence our

• The world’s school system does not offer any course on

• We learn parenting from our and from others. Sad to say, the model of our parents’ style may not always be

THE BIG PICTURETHE BIG PICTURE

ANCESTORSANCESTORSDESCENDANTS.DESCENDANTS.

PARENTING.PARENTING.

PARENTSPARENTS

BIBLICAL.BIBLICAL.

INTRODUCTION

I.I. What God Wants Us To Know About What God Wants Us To Know About Our ChildrenOur Children

I.I. What God Wants Us To Know About What God Wants Us To Know About Our ChildrenOur Children


1.1. Our children areOur children are

Psalm 127:3 – Behold, children are a Psalm 127:3 – Behold, children are a gift of the Lord; the fruit of the womb is a gift of the Lord; the fruit of the womb is a reward.reward.

VALUABLE.VALUABLE.

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Our ChildrenOur ChildrenI.I. What God Wants Us To Know About What God Wants Us To Know About

Our ChildrenOur Children

2.2. Our children haveOur children have

Matthew 6:31-32 – Matthew 6:31-32 – 3131“Do not be anxious then, “Do not be anxious then, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘With what shall we clothe drink?’ or ‘With what shall we clothe ourselves?’ ourselves?’ 3232For all these things the Gentiles For all these things the Gentiles eagerly seek; for your heavenly Father knows eagerly seek; for your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things.that you need all these things.

NEEDS.NEEDS.




2.2. Our children haveOur children have•• needs.needs.•• needs.needs.•• needs.needs.

NEEDS.NEEDS.PHYSICALPHYSICALEMOTIONALEMOTIONALSPIRITUALSPIRITUAL

A good father/mother knows A good father/mother knows the needs of his children.the needs of his children.




3.3. Our children need to be Our children need to be “almost” “almost”

Proverbs 1:8 – “Hear my son your father’s Proverbs 1:8 – “Hear my son your father’s instruction, and do not forsake your instruction, and do not forsake your mother’s teaching.”mother’s teaching.”

TAUGHT TAUGHT EVERYTHING.EVERYTHING.




4.4. Our children are Our children are designed by God.designed by God.

Psalm 139:13-14 – Psalm 139:13-14 – 1313For Thou didst form For Thou didst form my inward parts; Thou didst weave me in my inward parts; Thou didst weave me in my mother’s womb. my mother’s womb. 1414I will give thanks to I will give thanks to Thee, for I am fearfully and wonderfully Thee, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; wonderful are Thy works, and my made; wonderful are Thy works, and my soul knows it very well.soul knows it very well.

UNIQUELYUNIQUELY




5.5. Our children have a Our children have a problem. problem.

Jeremiah 17:9 – “The heart is more Jeremiah 17:9 – “The heart is more deceitful than all else and is desperately deceitful than all else and is desperately sick; who can understand it?” sick; who can understand it?”

Proverbs 22:15 – “Foolishness is bound up Proverbs 22:15 – “Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child…”in the heart of a child…”

““HEARTHEART””




6.6. Our children need to have a personal Our children need to have a personal with God. with God.

7.7. Our children are not Our children are not ““RELATIONSHIP”RELATIONSHIP”

““ROBOTS.”ROBOTS.”

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ParentingParentingII.II. What God Wants Us To Know About What God Wants Us To Know About

ParentingParenting

1.1. Parents are responsible to Parents are responsible to their their children. children.

TRAINTRAIN

Proverbs 22:6 – Train up a child in the way Proverbs 22:6 – Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it. depart from it.

Ephesians 6:4 “…Fathers, do not provoke Ephesians 6:4 “…Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger; but bring them up in your children to anger; but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.”the discipline and instruction of the Lord.”



ParentingParenting

1.1. Parents are responsible to Parents are responsible to their their children.. children.. • Parenting is a Parenting is a task task

assigned by God. assigned by God.

• Parents may try to delegate the task Parents may try to delegate the task but they cannot abdicate the but they cannot abdicate the responsibility.responsibility.

TRAINTRAIN

SACREDSACRED



ParentingParenting

2.2. Parents are not toParents are not totheir children.their children.

Colossians 3:21 – “Fathers, do not exasperate Colossians 3:21 – “Fathers, do not exasperate your children, that they may not lose heart.”your children, that they may not lose heart.”

Ephesians 6:4 “…Fathers, do not provoke your Ephesians 6:4 “…Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger; but bring them up in the children to anger; but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.”discipline and instruction of the Lord.”

EXASPERATEEXASPERATE


• UnrealisticUnrealistic• rulesrules• Failure to Failure to them them• • VerbalVerbal• Failure to keepFailure to keep• •

expectationsexpectationsUnreasonableUnreasonable

traintrainImpatience, temperImpatience, temper

abuseabusecommitmentscommitments

HypocrisyHypocrisyInconsistencyInconsistency

Parents exasperate and provoke their children by:Parents exasperate and provoke their children by:



ParentingParenting

3.3. Good Parenting is notGood Parenting is not• Passing on an Passing on an is is

different from passing on adifferent from passing on a

AUTOMATIC.AUTOMATIC.OCCUPATIONOCCUPATION

GODLY HERITAGE.GODLY HERITAGE.



ParentingParenting

PRIESTS.PRIESTS.Eli’s family was a family ofEli’s family was a family of1 Samuel 1:3 – …And the two sons of Eli, 1 Samuel 1:3 – …And the two sons of Eli, Hophni and Phinehas were priests to the Hophni and Phinehas were priests to the Lord there. Lord there.

KNOWKNOW

The example of Eli and his sons.The example of Eli and his sons.

Eli’s sons did not Eli’s sons did not of the of the Lord.Lord.1 Samuel 2:12 – Now the sons of Eli were 1 Samuel 2:12 – Now the sons of Eli were worthless men; they did not know the Lordworthless men; they did not know the Lord

Eli was a father who was Eli was a father who was present present but uninvolved with his sons.but uninvolved with his sons.



ParentingParenting

PHYSICALLYPHYSICALLY

1 Samuel 2:22-24 – 1 Samuel 2:22-24 – 2222 Now Eli was very old; & Now Eli was very old; & he heard all that his sons were doing to all he heard all that his sons were doing to all Israel, and how they lay with the women who Israel, and how they lay with the women who served at the doorway of the tent of meeting. served at the doorway of the tent of meeting. 2323 And he said to them, “Why do you do such And he said to them, “Why do you do such things, the evil things that I hear from all these things, the evil things that I hear from all these people? people? 2424“No, my sons; for the report is not “No, my sons; for the report is not good which I hear the Lord’s people…good which I hear the Lord’s people…



ParentingParenting

3.3. Good Parenting is notGood Parenting is not• Passing on an Passing on an occupation is different from occupation is different from

passing on a godly heritage.passing on a godly heritage.

• We pass on our We pass on our not our not our

AUTOMATICAUTOMATIC

EXAMPLEEXAMPLESERMONSSERMONS..



ParentingParenting

It is not It is not

It takes It takes so we have to be patient. so we have to be patient.

There is no There is no to parenting. to parenting.

PROCESS.PROCESS.

INSTANTANEOUS.INSTANTANEOUS.

SHORTCUTSHORTCUT

TIMETIME

4. Parenting is a4. Parenting is aGalatians 4:19 – “My children, with whom I am Galatians 4:19 – “My children, with whom I am again in labor until Christ is formed in you…”again in labor until Christ is formed in you…”



ParentingParenting

5.5. Parenting takes Parenting takes

Proverbs 13:24 – “…He who loves him, Proverbs 13:24 – “…He who loves him, disciplines him diligently.”disciplines him diligently.”

•• We need toWe need to

DILIGENCE.DILIGENCE.

PERSEVERE.PERSEVERE.



ParentingParenting

James 1:5 – “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him James 1:5 – “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God who gives to all men generously…”ask of God who gives to all men generously…”

Each child is Each child is We need to become a We need to become a of our of our children.children.We need to We need to We need to beWe need to be

WISDOM.WISDOM.

DIFFERENT.DIFFERENT.STUDENTSTUDENT

PLAN.PLAN.INTENTIONAL.INTENTIONAL.

6.6. Parenting takes God’sParenting takes God’s



ParentingParenting

7.7. Parenting has Parenting has consequences. consequences.LASTINGLASTING• The sins of the parents are usually The sins of the parents are usually

passed on to the children. passed on to the children. • The godly traits of the parents are The godly traits of the parents are

often passed on to the children.often passed on to the children.

Exodus 20:5 “Visiting the iniquity of the Exodus 20:5 “Visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children on the third and fathers on the children on the third and fourth generation of those who hate me, but fourth generation of those who hate me, but showing lovingkindness to thousands of showing lovingkindness to thousands of those who love me and keep my those who love me and keep my commandments.”commandments.”



ParentingParenting

7.7. Parenting has Parenting has consequences. consequences.LASTINGLASTING

Example: God’s judgment on Eli and his house.Example: God’s judgment on Eli and his house.

1 Samuel 3:12-14 – 1 Samuel 3:12-14 – 1212“In that day I will carry out “In that day I will carry out against Eli all that I have spoken concerning his against Eli all that I have spoken concerning his house, from beginning to end. house, from beginning to end. 1313For I have told For I have told him that I am about to judge his house forever for him that I am about to judge his house forever for the iniquity which he knew, because his sons the iniquity which he knew, because his sons brought a curse on themselves and he did not brought a curse on themselves and he did not rebuke them. rebuke them. 1414And therefore I have sworn to the And therefore I have sworn to the house of Eli that the iniquity of Eli’s house shall house of Eli that the iniquity of Eli’s house shall not be atoned for by sacrifice or offering forever.” not be atoned for by sacrifice or offering forever.”



ParentingParenting

Juke FamilyJuke Family Jonathan Edwards FamilyJonathan Edwards Family



ParentingParenting

• • 1,200 1,200 descendants descendants tracedtraced

• 400 - physically 400 - physically self-wreckedself-wrecked

• • 310 – prof. 310 – prof. pauperspaupers

• • 130 - convicted 130 - convicted criminalscriminals

• • 60 - habitual 60 - habitual thievesthieves

• • 7- -murderers7- -murderers• • 20 - learned a 20 - learned a

trade, half of trade, half of whom owed it to whom owed it to prison disciplineprison discipline

• • 400 descendants 400 descendants tracedtraced

• • 14 - college 14 - college presidentspresidents

• • 100 - professors100 - professors• • 100 - ministers of 100 - ministers of

the Gospel, the Gospel, missionaries, Bible missionaries, Bible teachersteachers

• • 100 - lawyers100 - lawyers• • 60 - doctors60 - doctors• • Many authorsMany authors

Deuteronomy 6:1-2 – Deuteronomy 6:1-2 – 11“Now this is the “Now this is the commandment, the statutes and the judgments commandment, the statutes and the judgments which the Lord your God has commanded me which the Lord your God has commanded me to teach you, that you might do them in the land to teach you, that you might do them in the land where you are going over to possess it, where you are going over to possess it, 22so that so that you and your son and your grandson might fear you and your son and your grandson might fear the Lord your God, to keep all His statutes and the Lord your God, to keep all His statutes and His commandments, which I command you, all His commandments, which I command you, all the days of your life, and that your days may be the days of your life, and that your days may be prolonged.”prolonged.”

THE BIG PICTURETHE BIG PICTUREIII.III. What God Wants Us To Know About The What God Wants Us To Know About The

Characteristics of Effective ParentsCharacteristics of Effective ParentsIII.III. What God Wants Us To Know About The What God Wants Us To Know About The

Characteristics of Effective ParentsCharacteristics of Effective Parents


1.1. They __________ God.They __________ God.2.2. They __________ God.They __________ God.3.3. They __________ God’s Word.They __________ God’s Word.4.4. They __________ God’s Word.They __________ God’s Word.5.5. They __________ God’s Word.They __________ God’s Word.6.6. They __________ on God.They __________ on God.

KNOWKNOWLOVELOVEKNOWKNOW

LIVE OUTLIVE OUTTEACHTEACH

DEPENDDEPEND

III.III. What God Wants Us To Know About The What God Wants Us To Know About The Characteristics of Effective ParentsCharacteristics of Effective Parents

III.III. What God Wants Us To Know About The What God Wants Us To Know About The Characteristics of Effective ParentsCharacteristics of Effective Parents

““Problematic children are often Problematic children are often the product of problematic the product of problematic

parents.”parents.”

““Problematic children are often Problematic children are often the product of problematic the product of problematic

parents.”parents.”

Psalm 78:5-7 – Psalm 78:5-7 – 55For He established a testimony For He established a testimony in Jacob, and appointed a law in Israel, which in Jacob, and appointed a law in Israel, which He commanded our fathers, that they should He commanded our fathers, that they should teach them to their children, teach them to their children, 66that the generation that the generation to come might know, even the children yet to be to come might know, even the children yet to be born, that they may arise and tell them to their born, that they may arise and tell them to their children, children, 77that they should put their confidence in that they should put their confidence in God, and not forget the works of God, but keep God, and not forget the works of God, but keep His commandments.His commandments.

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1. To pass on a godly 1. To pass on a godly to the next to the nextHERITAGEHERITAGEGENERATION.GENERATION.

Deuteronomy 6:1-2 – Deuteronomy 6:1-2 – 11”Now this is the ”Now this is the commandment, the statutes and the judgments commandment, the statutes and the judgments which the Lord your God has commanded me to which the Lord your God has commanded me to teach you, that you might do them in the land teach you, that you might do them in the land where you are going over to possess it, where you are going over to possess it, 22so that so that you and your son and your grandson might fear you and your son and your grandson might fear the Lord your God, to keep all His statutes and the Lord your God, to keep all His statutes and His commandments, which I command you, all His commandments, which I command you, all the days of your life…”the days of your life…”


1. To pass on a godly 1. To pass on a godly to the next to the nextHERITAGEHERITAGEGENERATION.GENERATION.


1. To pass on a godly 1. To pass on a godly to the next to the nextHERITAGEHERITAGEGENERATIONGENERATION


2.2. To develop children to reach their God-To develop children to reach their God-given potential –given potential –

Luke 2:52 – And Jesus kept increasing in Luke 2:52 – And Jesus kept increasing in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and men. and men.

MENTALLY,MENTALLY,EMOTIONALLY,EMOTIONALLY, PHYSICALLY,PHYSICALLY,SPIRITUALLY,SPIRITUALLY, and SOCIALLY.and SOCIALLY.


3.3. To help our children grow intoTo help our children grow into

Galatians 4:19 – “My children, with Galatians 4:19 – “My children, with whom I am again in labor until Christ whom I am again in labor until Christ is formed in you.”is formed in you.”

CHRISTLIKENESS.CHRISTLIKENESS.

““It is easier to build It is easier to build children than to repair children than to repair

adults.”adults.”

““It is easier to build It is easier to build children than to repair children than to repair


REFLECTIONREFLECTIONREFLECTIONREFLECTIONSession ISession ITHE BIG PICTURETHE BIG PICTURESession ISession ITHE BIG PICTURETHE BIG PICTURE1.1. Do we really know by heart what God wants Do we really know by heart what God wants

us to know about our children?us to know about our children?2.2. Are we willing to know and commit with all Are we willing to know and commit with all

our heart to do what God wants us to know our heart to do what God wants us to know about the about the Responsibilities of Parenting?Responsibilities of Parenting?

3.3. Do we reflect the characteristics of effective Do we reflect the characteristics of effective parents?parents?

4.4. Are we intentional in pursuing the goals of Are we intentional in pursuing the goals of biblical parenting?biblical parenting?

DoDo you feel somehow in your you feel somehow in your heart that you failed one way heart that you failed one way or the other your child/ren?or the other your child/ren?

DoDo you feel somehow in your you feel somehow in your heart that you failed one way heart that you failed one way or the other your child/ren?or the other your child/ren?

It’s not yet late … It’s not yet late … GOD is giving you GOD is giving you another chance to another chance to DO IT OVER ONE DO IT OVER ONE MORE TIME.MORE TIME.

It’s not yet late … It’s not yet late … GOD is giving you GOD is giving you another chance to another chance to DO IT OVER ONE DO IT OVER ONE MORE TIME.MORE TIME.First, rekindle First, rekindle

your love to your your love to your spouse- the spouse- the father or mother father or mother of your children.of your children.

First, rekindle First, rekindle your love to your your love to your spouse- the spouse- the father or mother father or mother of your children.of your children.Second, become Second, become a godly parent a godly parent by following by following what the what the Scriptures says.Scriptures says.

Second, become Second, become a godly parent a godly parent by following by following what the what the Scriptures says.Scriptures says.

““RemembeRemember, it is r, it is

easier to easier to build build

children children than to than to repair repair


““RemembeRemember, it is r, it is

easier to easier to build build

children children than to than to repair repair


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