How To Help Your Child Succeed in School

“Success is peace of mind which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you did your best to become the best you are capable of becoming.”

John Wooden

DEMONSTRATE A POSITIVE ATTITUDE ABOUT SCHOOL

Communicate that education is important.

The better educated one is the more choices they get to make.

SPEND TIME FINDING OUT ABOUT PROGRESS

One night each week visit the portal with your children and find out about their academic progress and grades.

What we give our time to sends the message that it is important.

SET A PRIORITY FOR STUDY

Prioritize study time. a. Everyone works. b. TV off/ Phones off/ Time to work c. Try to do some of your own “homework” paying bills reading, writing, etc.

Teach Your Children that School is Their Job

You work and have a job. Your children need to know that

school is their job.

TEACH RESPONSIBILITY AND WORK ETHIC

We always do our best and take responsibility for our actions.

The one characteristic in all successful people is GRIT…Perseverance.

TEACH ABOUT TIME MANAGEMENT

Teach a daily routine that includes time to eat, sleep, play, work, study, and read…we need balance.

“If you don’t have time to do it right, when will you have time to do it over.” John Wooden

COMMUNICATE WITH THE SCHOOL

Find out HOW the teachers will communicate.

Keep your means of communication up to date…

Cell phone number/ E-mail/ Address

HELP BUILD A LOVE OF READING

Reading is the basis of all learning.

TEACH OUR THREE PILLARS

RESPONSIBLE simply means to do those things which we have been asked to do.

HONORABLE To have the strength of character to do the right thing at all times.

RESPECTFUL –to demonstrate kindness, cooperation, and a courteous regard for the feelings, property and opinions of others.

Building Trust With Your Children

Dependability-does what they say they will do

Responsibility-does what they need to do

Accountability-when the person takes ownership of their actions

SEVEN RULES FOR PARENTS

What you do matters You can’t be too loving Stay involved-don’t control Adapt your parenting Set limits Foster independence Explain your decisions-Within

reason By Laurence Steinberg Monday, May 10, 2004/Time Magazine

What Makes a Well-Adjusted Child

Their families ate dinner together. They have responsibilities around the home. They had no phone, TV or computer in their

room. They did community service as a family

What Our Children Need From US

Time: Just being there, being around, being present-just spending unstructured time with them.

Connecting (Relationship)-Take an active interest in their activities but avoid controlling their activities.

Setting limits-(Discipline) Just say no, hold them accountable, encourage them to work through difficult things.

Principles of Teaching

Example (Follow Me) Demonstration (Watch how to do it) Repetition (Learn it well) Guided Practice ( I do you do.)

Learning from mistakes (Don’t give up) Encouragement (I Believe in You)

Perseverance/Hard work (Success comes by hard work)

Messages we Send

When we protect our children from consequences of their actions or challenges it sends two damaging messages:

This is not your fault. This sends the message that the child is not responsible for their behavior.

This is too difficult for you. The child is a victim. The message is, “you are not strong enough to handle this.”