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Why Bully?Why Bully?To gain powerTo gain power

To get attention or become popularTo get attention or become popular

To get material thingsTo get material things

To act out problems at homeTo act out problems at home

To copy or impress another person To copy or impress another person they admire they admire

Types of BullyingTypes of Bullying Physical aggressionPhysical aggression Exclusion Exclusion Verbal aggressionVerbal aggression Intimidation Intimidation Bystander bullyBystander bully

Who is a Bully?Who is a Bully?

A person who:A person who:

doesn’t care if bad things happen to doesn’t care if bad things happen to other people.other people.

doesn’t feel bad when they hurt others.doesn’t feel bad when they hurt others. likes to be in charge and always gets likes to be in charge and always gets

their way.their way. believes others deserves to get bullied. believes others deserves to get bullied. is bullied at home by their parents, is bullied at home by their parents,

brothers or sistersbrothers or sisters. .

WHY Why do you laugh at me? And why do you make fun? I am an ordinary person, Just like everyone. Please tell me today? I would like to know, Why you point and stare, And make your show? You laugh at me, Then call me names. Hurting me dearly, When you think it’s a game. But I can’t help it, It is who I am, I can’t ever be cured, Medicine like that isn’t known to man. Stop for a minute, And recall what you said. All those poisonous words, You programmed into my head. Words can kill, More often than thought. And from those words, Grave actions are sought. When someone is different, Please let them be. For your unfortunate wish, Can cause pain and misery. So I ask you again, Just one last time; Why do you laugh at me? And why do you make fun? I am an ordinary person, Just like everyone, By Scott W. Delfa

Effects of being Bullied

Feels scared, alone and sadFeels scared, alone and sad Doesn’t like schoolDoesn’t like school Doesn’t feel good about themselvesDoesn’t feel good about themselves IsolationIsolation Low/No self esteemLow/No self esteem State of AlertState of Alert Acts of ViolenceActs of Violence

  

Gang AvoidanceGang Avoidance

How kids get into gangsHow kids get into gangs

Initiation by “beat in”Initiation by “beat in” Initiation by “sexed in”Initiation by “sexed in” Committing extreme acts of violenceCommitting extreme acts of violence

What is a Gang?What is a Gang?

A group of persons that have a A group of persons that have a common groundcommon ground

Bound by a sense of loyalty to each Bound by a sense of loyalty to each otherother

Bound by the knowledge of each Bound by the knowledge of each others’ activitiesothers’ activities

Why enter a gang?Why enter a gang?

Looking for loveLooking for love Not getting attention at homeNot getting attention at home Need for being with people that make Need for being with people that make

them feel goodthem feel good Need for protectionNeed for protection

Why kids join gangsWhy kids join gangs Looking for loveLooking for love Not getting attention at homeNot getting attention at home Wanting to be with people that make them feel Wanting to be with people that make them feel

goodgood Needing to be acceptedNeeding to be accepted Previously treated badly by the other studentsPreviously treated badly by the other students Low self-esteemLow self-esteem Family MembersFamily Members History of abuseHistory of abuse -Physical -Physical -Emotional-Emotional

How Gangs OperateHow Gangs Operate

Fear and intimidationFear and intimidation Acts of aggressionActs of aggression Ganging up on students Ganging up on students Gang graffitiGang graffiti

-used to send messages-used to send messages

-used to mark territory-used to mark territory

Getting outGetting out Beat outBeat out

Does a gang member really get out?Does a gang member really get out? If gang member was hard core, “NO” If gang member was hard core, “NO”

-may have to move away.-may have to move away.

-severe outs (death may result)-severe outs (death may result)

Types of Peer PressureTypes of Peer Pressure

FriendlyFriendly TeasingTeasing Indirect/TemptingIndirect/Tempting Heavy (bullying)Heavy (bullying) Positive Peer Pressure Positive Peer Pressure

Ways to Resist Peer Ways to Resist Peer PressurePressure

Say “NO, thanks”Say “NO, thanks” Reason or excuseReason or excuse Repeated refusalRepeated refusal Walking awayWalking away Change the subjectChange the subject Avoid the situationAvoid the situation Cold shoulderCold shoulder Strength in numbersStrength in numbers Say “NO” 2-3 times and walk away, works Say “NO” 2-3 times and walk away, works

best if the first attempt failsbest if the first attempt fails

Feb. 14, 2008Feb. 14, 2008DeKalb, Illinois- Gunman kills seven students and himself, and wounds 15 more DeKalb, Illinois- Gunman kills seven students and himself, and wounds 15 more when he opens fire on a classroom at Northern Illinois University. The gunman, when he opens fire on a classroom at Northern Illinois University. The gunman,

Stephen Kazmierczak, was identified as a former graduate student at the university Stephen Kazmierczak, was identified as a former graduate student at the university in 2007.in 2007.

Feb. 8, 2008Feb. 8, 2008Baton Rouge, Louisiana - A nursing student shot and killed two women and Baton Rouge, Louisiana - A nursing student shot and killed two women and then herself in a classroom at Louisiana Technical College in Baton Rouge.then herself in a classroom at Louisiana Technical College in Baton Rouge.

Oct. 10, 2007Cleveland, Ohio- A 14-year-old student at a Cleveland high school, Asa H. Coon, shot and injured two students and two teachers before he shot and killed himself. The victims' injuries were not life-threatening.

Sept. 21, 2007Sept. 21, 2007Dover, Del. - A Delaware State Univesity Freshman, Loyer D. Brandon, shot and Dover, Del. - A Delaware State Univesity Freshman, Loyer D. Brandon, shot and wounded two other Freshman students on the University campus. Brandon is wounded two other Freshman students on the University campus. Brandon is being charged with attemptedbeing charged with attempted murder, assault, reckless engagement, as well as murder, assault, reckless engagement, as well as a gun charge.a gun charge.

April 16, 2007Blacksburg, Va.- A 23-year-old Virginia Tech student, Cho Seung-Hui, killed two in a dorm, then killed 30 more 2 hours later in a classroom

building. His suicide brought the death toll to 33, making the shooting rampage the most deadly in U.S. history. Fifteen others were wounded..

Jan. 3, 2007Tacoma, Wash. - Douglas Chanthabouly, 18, shot fellow student Samnang Kok, 17, in the hallway of Henry Foss High School.

Oct. 3, 2006Nickel Mines, Pa. - 32-year-old Carl Charles Roberts IV entered the one-room West Nickel Mines Amish School and shot 10 schoolgirls, ranging in age from 6 to 13 years old, and then himself. Five of the girls and Roberts died.

Sept. 29, 2006 Cazenovia, Wis. - A 15-year-old student shot and killed Weston School principal John Klang.

Sept. 26, 2006 Bailey, Colo. - Adult male held six students hostage at Platte Canyon High School and then shot and killed Emily Keyes, 16, and himself.

Sept. 13, 2006Montreal, Canada -Kimveer Gill, 25, opened fire with a semiautomatic weapon at Dawson College. Anastasia De Sousa, 18, died and more than a dozen students and faculty were wounded before Gill killed

himself.

Aug. 24, 2006 Essex, Vt.Christopher Williams, 27, looking for his ex-girlfriend at Essex Elementary School, shot two teachers, killing one and wounding another. Before going to the school, he had killed the ex-girlfriend's mother.

Nov. 8, 2005Jacksboro, Tenn. - One 15-year-old shot and killed an assistant principal at Campbell County High School and seriously wounded two other administrators.

March 21, 2005Red Lake, Minn. - Jeff Weise, 16, killed grandfather and companion, then arrived at school where he killed a teacher, a security guard, 5 students, and finally himself, leaving a total of 10 dead.

Sept. 28, 2004Carmen de Patagones, Argentina - Three students killed and 6 wounded by a 15-year-old Argentinean student in a town 620 miles south of Buenos Aires.

Sept. 24, 2003 Cold Spring, Minn. Two students are killed at Rocori High School by John

Jason McLaughlin, 15.

April 24, 2003 April 24, 2003 Red Lion, Pa.Red Lion, Pa. James Sheets, 14, killed principal Eugene Segro of Red James Sheets, 14, killed principal Eugene Segro of Red Lion Area Junior High School before killing himself.Lion Area Junior High School before killing himself.

April 14, 2003 New Orleans, La. One 15-year-old killed, and three students wounded at John McDonogh High School by gunfire from four teenagers (none were students at the school). The motive was gang-related..

October 28, 2002October 28, 2002Tucson, Ariz.Tucson, Ariz. Robert S. Flores Jr., 41, a student at the nursing school Robert S. Flores Jr., 41, a student at the nursing school at the University of Arizona, shot and killed three female professors at the University of Arizona, shot and killed three female professors and then himself.and then himself.

April 29, 2002Vlasenica, Bosnia-Herzegovina One teacher killed, one wounded by Dragoslav Petkovic, 17, who then killed himself.

April 26, 2002Erfurt, Germany 13 teachers, two students, and one policeman killed,

ten wounded by Robert Steinhaeuser, 19, at the Johann Gutenberg secondary school. Steinhaeuser then killed himself.

Feb. 19, 2002Freising, Germany Two killed in Eching by a man at the factory from which he had been fired; he then traveled to Freising and killed the headmaster of the technical school from which he had been expelled. He also wounded another teacher before killing himself.

Jan. 15, 2002New York, N.Y. A teenager wounded two students at Martin Luther King Jr. High School.

Nov. 12, 2001Caro, Mich. Chris Buschbacher, 17, took two hostages at the Caro Learning Center before killing himself.

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