l5 - The Institution of Marriage

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MARRIAGE

Marriage (also called matrimony orwedlock) is a socially or ritually recognized

union or legal contract between spouses

that establishes rights and obligationsbetween them, between them and their

children, and between them and their in-

laws.


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MARRIAGE IS A COMMITMENT

The definition of marriage variesaccording to different cultures, but it is

principally an institution in which

interpersonal relationships, usually

intimate and sexual, are

acknowledged.


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In some cultures, marriage isrecommended or considered to be

compulsory before pursuing any

sexual activity. When defined broadly,marriage is considered a cultural

universal.


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THE INGREDIENTS OF AHAPPY MARRIAGE


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COVENANT


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A covenantisintended by God to be

a lifelong fruitful

relationship betweena man and a woman.


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Marriage is a vow to God, toeach other, our families and our

community to remain steadfast

in unconditional love,

reconciliation and sexual purity,

while purposefully growing inour covenant marriage

relationship.


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COMMITMENT


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Has more to do with makingmarriages work than anything

save common values. Its notjust about saying marriage vows

or having a piece of paper thatsays marriage license.


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Commitment is important

because we act

differently when we know

that our futures are tied

together.


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HONESTY


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When you and your husbandopenly reveal the facts of your

past, your present activities, and

your plans for the future, you are

able to make intelligent

decisions that take each other'sfeelings into account.


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COMMUNICATION


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Communicationis about a lotmore than talking. Many

essential messages aretransmitted through attitude,

facial expressions, and body

language as well as through

words that are left unsaid.


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Communicationis alsophysical. Your spouse

can convey a messageof affection by gently

touching your hand.


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GROWTH


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Growing up involvesbalancing two

fundamental life forces:the drive for

separatenessand thedrive for togetherness.


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Separateness propelsus to be on our own,

to chart our owncourse in life, and to

create our own

identity


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Togethernesspushes us to be

part of a group, to connect withothers, and experience things only

relationships can provide.

When these two life forces areexpressed in balanced, healthy

ways, meaningful relationships are

created where both membersdevelop into better people.


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SPIRITUAL SENSITIVITY


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spiritual intimacy doesn't just

"happen" We made specific

decisions and commitmentsthat made us accessible to

what God wanted to do in ourmarriage.


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REASONS FOR MARRIAGE

Marriage is more relevant today thanever before in history. Marriage used to

be a given. Now it is a choice. All the old

arguments for marriage have fallen

away, and we are left with only one true

reason to get married. We can finally get

married for the right reason.


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#1 A big commitment

Theres no bigger proof of love than askingyour lover for their hand in marriage. Dont

look at marriage as a lock without a key.

Look at it as the highest commitment youcan give to the one you love to prove your

love for them.


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#2 Sharing your life withsomeone

As humans, weve evolved to be social

creatures that need attention. Living life as a

single forever may sound appealing, but at

some point, all of us feel the need to bewatched by someone else, and have someone

else to share our happy and sad moments.


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#3 The stages of life

Life is a game of stages. And when

youre mentally prepared to enter the

next stage, your mind convinces youof the benefits of moving to the next

stage.


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#4 A great support system

Marriage is the best support system that

life offers. When youre going through a

difficult time, just knowing that you have a

spouse who can share and ease your

burden can help you get a better outlook

towards life.


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#5 Maturity

With marriage comes maturity in life.A marriage requires trust, faith and

commitment which makes a boy grow

into a man, and makes him feel more

responsible for himself and the

relationship.


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#6 Growing old withsomeone

As you get older, youd enjoy thepleasure of spending time with a

special someone that you lovemore than anyone else in the

whole world.


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But if you can gives these reasons toget married a serious thought with an

open mind, youll understand just how

meaningful and satisfying a happy

marriage can really be and how easily it

can change your life and a special

someones life for the better forever.


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REASONS FOR HAVINGMARRIAGE


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#1 Youve enjoyed your single life.Do

you remember how your teen years and

your single years were? Youve partied

and had your share of fun, almost until

those one night stands and meaninglessflings make no sense to you anymore. At

this point, your minds telling you that

youve changed, and you want someone toshare your life with, and not just your bed

for a night.


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#2 Tradition.Marriage is a tradition thats

stood the test of time. And just like how

we tend to believe things that have been

tried and tested, marriage is one of those

traditions that has worked for almost all

couples, as long as theyve truly love

each other.


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WRONG CONCEPTS OFHAVING CHILDREN

It will make him/her stay. Having a child to make a partner

stay back in a relationshipis one of the biggest mistakes you

can make. Once a child is on the way, years of social

conditioning make it socially and morally unacceptable for

partners to walk out. They feel compelled to remain in the

relationship, no matter how unhappy it has become. Thesaddest part of all this is that eventually the stress of bringing

up a baby proves too much for the partners and the relationship

breaks up anywayonly now an innocent being must get the

worst of it.
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Because everyone else is having one.As a young adult, it is

only natural to be influenced by friends who have had babies and

now are enjoying seeing them grow up. But if it works for someone

else, it does not automatically mean that it will work for you too.

Moreover you are getting to see the fruits of long months of hard

work and sleepless nightsnot when your friend may have sat in

pajamas the whole day to nurse a sick child or have had the familyheirloom broken by an inquisitive toddler.

Because my husband/wife wants one. A spouses desire to

have a child should ideally be a starting point for a discussion

between the couple on the right time to raise a family. And not an

occasion to be pushed into something that one of them doesntreally want. Even though a spouse may come around to his/her

partners wishes, especially if a baby is already on the way, it is

best to agree to become parents when both partners are equally

ready.


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Babies look so cute. Yes they do when fed, kept warm and

they have somebody to play with. If you have ever woken upfor the fifth time at night at the wailing of three-month old,

have had to change a wet diaper or soothe colic pains and still

found it cute, then you might have something in your

arguments for having a baby.

I want someone to love me. Children are individuals too,

albeit little ones, and thus have a right to offer or withdraw

their love according to what they feel. Just like you. And when

they grow into teenagers, you will lose count of the times

when they scream at you from behind banging doors that theysimply hate you for being so uncool. So if you are looking for

unconditional love, it might make more sense to get a dog or a

goldfish.


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ACTIVITY 1

Ask each one of the class to writedown their own marriage goals. Andask one of your classmates to sharewhat are the good qualities he/she

sees in his/her parents that makestheir family happy.


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ACTIVITY 2

Does a ban on same-sex marriageviolate one's right to pursue happiness?

Explain. Does the marriage of a same-

sex couple truly threaten heterosexualmarriages and families? Explain.

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