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Understand the difference between assertiveness, aggressiveness, and passiveness
Discover how assertiveness can be beneficial to tutors and tutees.
Learn how to be more assertive!
Passive Allowing someone
else’s rights to overshadow one’s own
Easily coerced into thinking like someone else
Difficult to express opinions and ideas
Put the tutees needs before one’s self
Aggressive No regard for the
rights of others May give threats
(verbal or physical) Viewing oneself as
superior Refusing to listen
to the thoughts and opinions of others
A tutor who exhibits passive behavior May feel hurt, anxious, or even angry May not get the most out of a session,
because he or she yields too much to what the tutee wants to talk about
Could become frusterated with the idea of tutoring and dread it
May cause inability to communicate needed information effectively
A tutor who exhibits aggressive behavior May cause a conflict between the tutee
and themselves May say things that they do not mean May make the tutee uncomfortable to
the point he or she gains little to nothing out of the session
May not take the tutee’s learning style into account or other unique needs
Being able to express oneself without violating the rights of others In other words you are putting yourself
in the leadership position without abusing your role or neglecting your responsibilities
Allows you to manage the time you have
Avoid Internalizing feelings An inefficient session
Encourages effective communication
To be able to refuse requests from students when necessary
To avoid being overwhelmed by the demands of others
Avoid letting the pressures of tutoring build up
Consider your needs/responsibilities before the needs of your tutees
Imagine how a past conflict could have been handled in a more assertive way
Practice talking in an assertive way Respect the wants, needs, and feelings of
others in sessions and in everyday life no matter how different from your own
Take a problem solving approach to conflict, viewing the other person as a teammate rather than opposition (compromise)
Be honest without trying to make the other person feel guilty or responsible
Begin statements with “I” rather than “you”
Listen actively Brainstorm to solve the problem
together Learn from bad experiences to handle
things differently the next time
Eye contactUpright postureRelax the shoulders and faceBreath normallyTry to maintain a steady tone of
voice during conversation
Assertiveness is important not only during tutoring, but also during everyday life
If you are only assertive when tutoring it is difficult to make assertiveness part your routine
An international student wants you to guide them on his or her paper topic. It is an opinion paper that regards personal experience. What would a passive tutor do? An
aggressive tutor? An assertive tutor?
A tutee that wants you to do his or her work, and is asking in a desperate manner. What would a passive tutor do? An
aggressive tutor? An assertive tutor?
A tutee with ADHD keeps drifting his or her attention from the session no matter how interesting you try to make the subject. What would a passive tutor do? An
aggressive tutor? An assertive tutor?
A tutee frequently shows up a few minutes late and you have sessions back to back so while at first you welcomed the break it has become difficult because the tutee wants the full hour. What would a passive tutor do? An
aggressive tutor? An assertive tutor?