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    NEXT LEVEL

    CHRISTIAN

    CENTERhelping people succeed

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    MAKING YOURMARRIAGE

    WORK

    DR. TAYO ONALEYE

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    SCRIPTURES

    GENESIS 2.18-25

    HEBREWS 13.4

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    A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE IS LIKE A

    MAGNIFICENT BUILDING......BUILT BY

    SOMEONE-Heb 3.4

    ITS LIKE SUCCESS IN FINANCES.....YOU HAVE TO

    LEARN IT......AND WORK ON IT

    YOU ALSO HAVE TO UNLEARN THE ERRORS YOU

    HAVE PICKED UP BY ASSOCIATION WITHOUT LEARNING, YOU WILL REPEAT THE

    ERRORS OF YOUR ANCESTORS

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    PRINCIPLES

    1. GET THE FOUNDATION RIGHT

    ....if the foundation be destroyed, Matt 7.24-

    27

    Ask God for help in choosing

    Dont marry an unbeliever...2Cor 6.14-18

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    2. Put God at the center of your marriage

    HE was the One who said it was not good for the

    man to be alone, the One who founded the

    institution.....

    Hold Gods Word in high esteem

    Make Jesus the Alpha and Omega

    Make the Holy Spirit your companion

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    3. Get the structure right

    The husband is the head Eph. 5.22-24

    No human institution will succeed without clearly

    defined leadership

    Husband headship is not superiority but primarily

    administrative.....someone has to be held responsible

    In the home the wife is primarily supportive.....take the lead

    with your husbands permission and support NOTE: The only place where a man is the head of a woman is

    the home....the only man that is a womans head is her husband

    (1Cor11.3)

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    4. MATURITY

    .......LEAVE your father and mother........Gen 2.24

    You cannot cleave until you leave

    Become a better version of yourself.....Work on

    yourself..... Keep growing in every area spiritually,socially, financially, career, physically (yourhealth)......FAILURE TO GROW MAKES YOU A LIABILITY

    Continuous self improvement

    Continuous life-long learning to improve you and yourmarriage......your marriage will always mirror/reflectyou.....problem in a marriage is an accurate reflectionof at least one of the partners

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    Work on your character.

    You can be attracted to someones GIFT, but you

    end up living with their FRUITS

    The fruits of the spirit are more desirable inmarriage than the gifts of the spirit....the gifts are

    for public manifestation, the fruits, for private

    consumption

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    5. COMMITMMENT

    .......CLEAVE unto his wife .....

    .....make up your mind that your own marriage will

    work.

    Five commitments you must make

    Commitment to God

    Commitment to continuous personal improvement

    Commitment to your own spouse

    Commitment to your children

    Commitment to your home

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    6. LIMIT THE INFLUENCE OR

    INTRUSIONS OF THIRD PARTIES.....

    The man shall leave his father and mother before heshall cleave to his wife

    The pros and cons of extended family systems

    Many marriages have been ruined by 3rd parties

    The man has to rise up to protect his home

    Quickly call any erring relation to order or send thempacking......there was a dimension of blessingAbraham did not experience until Lot was separatedfrom him....there could be peace and prosperityeluding you because of third parties in your home

    Strike a balance

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    7. EXPECT AND ACCOMMODATE DIFFERENCES

    HE MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE...HE MADETHEM DIFFERENT....HE DID IT

    YOUR SPOUSE IS DIFFERENT

    DIFFERENT TEMPERAMENT, BACKGROUND,EDUCATIONAL LEVEL

    DIFFFERENT NEEDS

    YOU MAY HAVE DIFFERENCES THAT WILL NEVER

    BE RESOLVED....THATS JUST THE WAY THEYARE!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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    8. FOCUS ON GIVING

    ......it is more blessed to give than to receive....for God soloved that He gave Selfishness (self-centeredness) is one of the biggest causes of

    marital failures

    Help your spouse become the best they could be

    Challenge your spouse to a higher version of themselves

    Release your spouse to FLY

    Nurture your spouse

    Make continuous deposit in their emotional bank account

    Find out your spouses love language...what makes them feelloved

    COMPROMISE, SACRIFICE....Eph 5.25...love your wife as Christloved the church..that He lay down His life for her

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    9. BUILD TOGETHER

    Leverage is one of the purposes of marriage...two are betterthan one...two shall chase 10 thousand...if two of you shallagree as touching anything

    Develop common vision, common goals, family projects

    Do things together.... Doing things together bondspeople......vacation, relaxation, personal projects, hobbies,retreats, coming to church

    Celebrate together....birthdays......anniversaries, scheduleregular/routine/special timeouts, play together

    FIGHT TOGETHER- Youre not fighting each other but yourcommon adversary or challenges

    There is power in unity...if two of you shall agree concerningANYTHING

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    10. USE WORDS CONSTRUCTIVELY

    Death and life are in the power of the tongue......God created andsustains this world by His words...John 1, Heb 11.3....since yourecreated in the image of God you create and sustain your own marriageby your words........Words are spirits

    Every marriage will eventually be an outcome of the words thatpermeate that relationship.......you can predict the outcome of a

    marriage just by listening to the words flowing between the couple Three Cs to avoid:

    COMPLAINING

    CRITICISING

    CONDEMNING

    Appreciate your spouse.....say THANK YOU

    Prophesy good things over your marriage

    Cover your marriage spiritually with your tongue....pray over yourspouse and family

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    11. RESOLVE ISSUES THROUGH

    EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION

    ....Matthew 18 Talk about things youre not satisfied with...dont just get angry

    and withdraw

    Listen when your spouse has a complain Forgive

    Accept it when youre wrong and say IM SORRY

    Resolve RECURRING issues......many marriages collapse because

    of inability to get past a recurring decimal

    MAJOR AREAS OF RECURRING DECIMALS (DISCUSS)

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    TOP 5 MAJOR AREAS OF RECURRING

    ISSUES

    1. MONEY

    2. SEX

    3. IN-LAWS

    4. COMMUNICATION

    5. CHILDREN

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    12. SEEK EXTERNAL HELP WHEN

    NECESSARY

    .....in the multitude of counsellors there is safety

    HELP!

    -persistently unresolved issues

    -domestic violence

    -infidelity

    -unexplainable sudden changes

    -unhealthy 3rd party intrusions

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    THANK YOU

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